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04-05-2006, 01:09 PM | #46 |
YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: scotland
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| Courtney I think you are a very brave and strong person,whatever your decision is you have my support. You have a very hard decision to make and only you know what's right for you and your family. Take care Julie
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04-05-2006, 02:03 PM | #47 |
My little Beach Bums Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Southern CA
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| Courtney, Absolutely devastating news and I am so extremely sorry. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers, I am just so sad for you. As you know, we are here for you always……
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04-05-2006, 02:21 PM | #48 | |
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Oh Courtney, I'm so glad your Mom is there with you. I can't tell you how many times I find myself looking up to talk to my Mom. I so wish she was still with us. But I know she is always watching over us. We are not just a Computer Screen, we are The YT Family, and all of our hearts are with you. I hope you can feel us!!!!!! We are, and always will be here with you.
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04-05-2006, 02:39 PM | #49 |
Donating YT 12K Club Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Council Bluffs Iowa
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| God bless you and may He give you the strength to do what you have to do. aving rfaised twins myself, I can tell you it would have been a horrible decision for me to make. But I believe that your husband and your other children need you to be around as long as you can. And what if you go ahead and have them and then die from the cancer, that just puts more on your husbands shoulders. Even if you don't die, the treatment is going to take so much out of you, would you have the strength to deal with two more babies. I'm so sorry that you have to make any decision at all. I'll pray for God to give you strength. |
04-05-2006, 02:54 PM | #50 |
Donating YT 2000 Club Member | i think you are awesome. you survived cancer once. you have the heart and mindset and love to survive it again. thank you for sharing with all of us. it really puts things into their proper prospective of what is important. Good luck to you in the future days and please let us know if there is anything any of us can do to help you. Again, you are awesome. |
04-05-2006, 03:10 PM | #51 |
Tilly & Sami Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Syracuse, Utah
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| Im so sorry to hear of this devastating decision you were given to choose. I lost my husband to cancer and I do know what you will be going through! you managed to hold strong the first time, and I am assuming this is the secondary cancer that Doctors normally will not tell cancer patients, you know in your heart what you will do, and we are not here to judge only to support you. please know that I will pray for you and your family and that your treatments will prevail you back to the wonderful woman you are.. Blessings to you and your family |
04-05-2006, 05:44 PM | #52 |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Ft. Campbell, KY
Posts: 154
| God will help you! Oh! I am crying right now! It is such a hard desion to make, but I will prey that God helps you find the answer! I know if I were in the same dilima I would want to wait, but my huuby on the other hand would not want to risk losing me! So I would probably give up the babies only, b/c your hubby as great as he probably is, probably could not do it all himself! I know it is hard, so again I say I will prey for you dear! And remember whatever desion you make don't let anyone every make you feel bad for it, either way! It is your and your husbands desion! God will help you!
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04-05-2006, 05:58 PM | #53 |
Gizmo and Gidget's Pet Donating Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Arkansas
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| Courtney, Tears are streaming down my face right now after reading your posts. I am so so sorry that you and your family have to go through such heartache. As some have stated in postes before this one, we will support you through this horrible heartbreaking time. Cancer is a terrible thing. But we know that you are strong, and WAY stronger than this disease. You can beat this again. And we will all have your back. As for your babies. I don't think anyone knows for sure what they would do until we were in your shoes. We all have our beliefs, and our opinions. I am VERY much against taking the life of another. But the babies inside you right now, are not the only ones you have to consider right now. I feel so terrible for the twins, and for the others that you already have here. As for what I would probably do. I think I would have to continue the pregnancy. It is in Gods hands. Not our hands. He will give you those babies the way he wants to give them to you. I say this as a mother of a disabled child myself. I know how much it takes to care for a child with a disability. But he has brought so much JOY and LOVE to my life. Which I am sure that you know this already. I hope that God can give you the strength to know in your heart that everything will be ok. I truely believe in my heart that you can beat this. I think that it is possible to have these babies and beat this cancer. Maybe there is some website with other mothers that went through similar situations. If so I hope that you can get intouch with some of them. Please know that if you need us here at yt, we are always waiting with a shoulder to cry on, or even just to lend an ear. We love you very much, and want you to know that we will be here.
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04-05-2006, 05:58 PM | #54 |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: MO
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| First of all....I am so sorry that you are going through this. No one knows what they would do for sure unless they have walked in your shoes. Someone posted earlier that God doesn't give us more than you can handle and that this pregnancy was meant to be since your husband had a vasectomy....I totally agree, but I also believe everything happens for a reason....even though we may not understand why at the time. Maybe God allowed you to get pregnant so that you would catch it earlier since you would be visiting your Doctor on a monthly bases....otherwise, you would have possibly waited until your 6 month or yearly checkup and maybe you wouldn't even have these options. I know this is definitely something that you and your husband will research every possible options before making any decision. But if it were me....I would choose my children that are already here and the commitment you have to them. You are not being selfish to choose your life and your children you already have. Who would take care of your oldest daughter that is disabled if you were not around? I know your husband would...but it's not the same. I think your first priorities are the children that are already here and yourself. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. I know whatever decision you make will be the best for you and your family. Everyone has their own opinion...but this is your life and your family and only you and your husbands can make this decision. Either way you have a wonderful support group here and no one here would or should judge you!!! (((LOTS AND LOTS OF HUGS!!!))) Tina |
04-05-2006, 06:05 PM | #55 |
YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Central NY state
Posts: 1,741
| I am so sorry to hear this. I can't image what you're thinking and feeling at this point. I think you need to think of your family. Can your husband work to support your family and care for your children? How will he handle the responsibilities of caring for 7 children on his own? I don't believe in abortion as an alternate form of birth control. However, in this instance, I whole-heartedly support the decision to save your life. Think of your children growing up without a mother and your husband losing his wife. Your family will understand and support the decision. |
04-05-2006, 06:06 PM | #56 |
Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: San Ramon, CA
Posts: 710
| Courtney, I just want to let you know that I think you are a very brave and courageous person. I have thought about you all day and I knew that you would make the right decision for you and your family. Everyone on YT can have their opinions, but you and your husband can and should decide what is best for you. It is obvious to me that you can and will fight breast cancer again. I have two aunts with breast cancer(one in remission and the other currently getting treatment.) I know that you have a tough road ahead, but don't give up. If you ever need anything don't hesitate to pm me. You will be in my thoughts and prayers. |
04-05-2006, 06:16 PM | #57 |
Yorkies Rock My World! Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: North Carolina
Posts: 4,721
| Courtney, I will be thinking about you! I hope the best for you, dear!
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04-05-2006, 06:39 PM | #58 | |
YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Indiana
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04-05-2006, 06:43 PM | #59 |
Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Central Texas
Posts: 2,624
| I'm so very sorry to hear this - it just breaks my heart to hear about it. You asked what I would do and I would definitely choose to terminate the pregnancy and do everything that I could do to be here for my children and husband. Life is so unfair sometimes. You've already fought this fight! You shoudln't have to do it again, but alas, you do. You are so very brave and so strong. I truly admire you and wish that I would have half your strength to face such adversity. <<<< HUGS! >>>>
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04-05-2006, 06:44 PM | #60 | |
Donating YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: South Carolina
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You are such a strong woman...you have beaten this before and you will beat it again because your husband and 5 children need you I will continue to pray for you and your family. Hugs to you | |
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