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04-05-2006, 08:29 AM | #1 |
And Morgan Too! Donating Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Puyallup, WA
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| A very tough decision......... I am writing about a very personal thing that has just happened in my life. As many of you know I am pregnant with twins, due in September, and I also have 5 children ranging in ages from 10 - 18 months. Some of you also know that I am a breast cancer survivor and was diagnosed when I was only 19. Last week I went for my check up and the doctor suggested I go in for a mammogram which showed two very large masses in my right breast. Last Thursday (the day we brought Morgan home) I had a needle biopsy of both masses and this morning got the news that I am in a stage 3 of breast cancer again. I am sobbing as I write this to you and am actually telling you all first as my husband is gone all this week in training for work with no cell phone service. I spoke to my doctor at length this morning as to what my options are and really, there are only two and neither are acceptable to me. There is no doubt that I will have to go through extensive chemo and radiation and that the chances of the babies making it through that are very slim but it has happened. So my options are to either take the chance, and possibly end up with two very unhealthy or disabled children or terminating my pregnancy. I don't know if I can go through having another disabled child. My oldest daughter, Mikayla, is disabled with a very rare disorder and she takes more time than I have in one day. I don't know what I would do if I had two more children that needed me as much as she does. Is that selfish? I know I am blessed with 5 children already and that the twins were a complete surprise (my husband had a vasotomy some time ago) but me, my husband and kids and my entire family are just so excited. I then think about what if I don't make it this go round with cancer. That would leave my husband with the kids, alone, and grieving. I have this dilemma, do I do what is best for me and my family by going through the treatment now, risking the lives of my babies, terminate my pregnancy now to avoid the risk of disabled children or wait it out until the babies are born in September, and then have the chemo, but risk that by then the cancer will have spread even more. I am writing this more to find out, if you were in my shoes what would you do? I know many of you will not want to respond because this is a very sensitive subject but I am leaning on you, my online family, to provide me with whatever information or suggestions you may have. Please keep us in your prayers as we make this very difficult situation.
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04-05-2006, 08:39 AM | #2 |
Lazy Daisy's Mama Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: North of Raleigh, NC
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| Oh my gosh, i have tears in my eyes for you!! I am so sorry to hear all this. (((((((((((((((HUGE HUGS))))))))))))))) to you! I know you are looking for advice but i honestly can't say what I would do..we can only imagine the heartache that you feel. Please keep us posted on how you are doing and we are behind whatever decision you choose.
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04-05-2006, 08:39 AM | #3 |
My2Pearls Chelsey & Chanel YT Donator Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: N
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| I'm so very sorry to hear this! I wish i could be of any help to you. I don't know what i would do if i was in your position. You need to do what's best for you and your family. Right now i think you need to put your own health upfront. I honestly don't know girl... Just remember that we are only a "screen" away, you can turn to us anytime, we are here for you OK!? Wishing you all the best & keeping you in our prayers and thoughts!! God Bless you!
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04-05-2006, 08:41 AM | #4 |
I Love My Monkeys! Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Falling Waters, WV
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| Oh My! I am so sorry you are in this place, I am speechless and can only cry for you! I honestly do not know what I would do but I can give you advice from a personal friend who went through something very similar. She was only 28 and pregnant when she found out she had cancer. She has a child already and chose her life over her unborn childs. It wasn't an easy decision (as it never is) but she does not regret it to this day. She wanted more than anything to be around for her other children and her husband. She still thinks what might have been but then looks at her children today and wouldn't make a different decision if she had to do it all over. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts during this difficult time. I wish you nothing but love and peace with whatever decision you make. |
04-05-2006, 08:42 AM | #5 |
Mommy's Baby Doo Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: DesMoines ,Ia
Posts: 5,318
| my heart breaks reading this but Im not sure how I could make that decision on my own first i would wait and talk this over with your husband. your Family will be in my prayers at this difficult time .
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04-05-2006, 08:45 AM | #6 |
I Love Thor Donating Member | Gosh I am so sorry to hear this news. I know this isn't what you want to hear but I have no clue what I would do if I was in your shoes. No clue at all. I am just speechless. I will be keeping you in my thoughts. You are strong enough to get thorugh this and we are all here for you. |
04-05-2006, 08:46 AM | #7 |
Stewie Rox the Sox Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Chicago
Posts: 6,306
| Wow. What a sad time you must be going through. Make the decision that's right for you and know that you're not being selfish for wanting to keep your life. I will keep you in my thoughts. :'(
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04-05-2006, 08:48 AM | #8 |
Donating YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: South Carolina
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| Oh Sweetie...I am so sorry to hear this. First and foremost you and your husband are the only ones that can make this decision. I don't know how strong your faith is, but do you have someone on a church staff that you can talk to? A Christian Counselor maybe? God is the almight healer and sometimes we don't want to hear it, but he never gives us more than we can handle. I don't know if you saw my post in the thread about children, but I also had a "suprise" child after I had my tubes tied and I know beyond a shadow of a doubt it is because it was God's plan. By you getting pregnant after your husbands V makes me think these children are His plan too. But that still doesn't answer your question I know. I often wish God would just give us a very small window to peep through to see what is in store for us, but since He didn't we just have to step out on faith. I am not familiar with Washington state but are you anywhere near Centralia, WA. I have a cousin there that has 13 (yes I said 13) children and I think it might could help you to talk to them. Please pm me if you would like for me to put you in touch with them. Louise |
04-05-2006, 08:48 AM | #9 |
No Longer a Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: North Carolina
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| I'm so very sorry and this is a heartbreaking thing to read...Well you asked what we would do if we were in the situation...I believe I would do whatever was nesessery to keep myself healthy because of the other 5 children who are here and needed me. I don't know how to say it or even try to sugar coat it. You should do whatever your heart tells you to do. But you asked what we would do and please know you will be in my prayers. |
04-05-2006, 08:54 AM | #11 |
YT Addict Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Louisiana
Posts: 484
| Oh honey, I am so sorry. All I can say is that what ever decision you and your husband make we will be here to support ya'll in that decision! I will be praying for you and your family.... ((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))
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04-05-2006, 08:54 AM | #12 |
YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: OP, Fl
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| I am so sorry, I too don't know what I would do if I was in your shoes, I wish I did. I will be saying prayers for you and your family to have the strength and support you need to go through with whatever decision you make. You are not being selfish, the fact that you are worried that your oldest will not get as much of the care that she needs just shows you are careing mother who is worried for your children's health and well being. Michelle
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04-05-2006, 08:56 AM | #13 |
Gina, (Lexi's Mommy) Donating Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: LONG ISLAND,NY
Posts: 10,455
| i will pray for you and i know that any decision that you make will be the right one.. you take care of yourself and we are here for you sweetie ok ?.... anytime...
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04-05-2006, 08:57 AM | #14 |
Little Boogers Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: virginia beach, va
Posts: 4,460
| i will make this quick...choose your life--your family needs you
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04-05-2006, 08:58 AM | #15 |
Follower of Yorkietology Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Cali-fo-nee-ya
Posts: 1,325
| i am so sorry to hear about this. you are definitely in my prayers. this is such a difficult decision and i would be a total sobbing mess if i were you. you are so strong for being able to even breaking down the difficult decisions that lay before you. i'm not sure what i would do if i were in your shoes, but definitely wait until your husband gets home and discuss it with him. but i have a feeling, chances are, your husband and your family would rather have you here, with them, than to risk your life and the quality of your life in hopes that the twins may be born without birth defects and you may survive chemo if you waited until september to start treatment. big hugs to you!!!! we'll all be here for you whatever decision you make! |
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