I have to find Parker a home, hubby cant take it anymore

[DENISE517]

Originally Posted by rnnw62

I personally don't understand why when many people have one
puppy that's so young and not yet fully adjusted that they go
out and get another one? Isn't that almost setting the first pup
up for at least a period of bad behavior and it being more unforgiving?
I certainly mean no offense towards you personally, but it's a question
I often wonder about I guess. First, if your Parker was just born in
December then his behavior at this age isn't all that abnormal. My
Toby is a month older than yours and the light switch is just starting
to flip on. Having him neutered did help a great deal. Is Parker neutered?
My animals to me are life long commitments so it always makes me more
than sad to hear of situations such as yours. I wish you and Parker all
the best in the world. As for your husband...well, I believe in compromise
in marriage also seeing I have been married for 27 years but part of the
definition behind compromise is working through problems not just pushing
the delete button because it's an easy solution.

First of all I dont mean to be defensive, but I will. I thought Parker was doing great before we got maddie. He would ring the bell to go potty...we take him out every 1/2 hr and he even pees on his pee pad..... sometime he would have accidents....I had no idea how bad things were until I got the black light....i wish i would have never ask to help now... I'm getting bashed for now reason, you have no idea how well i take care of my pets and how much love and attention they get. they are spoiled beyond belief and when you talk about compromise.... that too means I have to make some compromises tooo. Which I dont do very often. My hubby does spoil me and is a really good guy, you have no idea the stuff we have went through for Parker......

[Kizzys Mom]

Originally Posted by DENISE517

I dont believe in dogs staying outside like that. They dont get the attention they need and these little guys are too small for that. They need the a/c

I totally agree that they need to be inside when its hot and I said that. It was only an idea ive heard that works. Just trying to tell yu what I WOULD do before I got rid of mine if I had to. But actually if I had one that did that all the time like you seem to say he is, I would actually be just as ready to rehome him as my hubby. I couldnt handle that everyday for too long if I wasnt seeing at least some results. And I love Kizzy but not enough to let her pee on me. So for what its worth which I see nothing, it was just a thing i've heard about working. so goodluck with him whatever you decide to do.

[DENISE517]

Originally Posted by GeorgiesMomma

Good point Georgie has peed when he gets excited too. I just don't think your husband is being realistic and somehow you need to convince him of that. Good luck and I think that you should stick to what makes you happy and both learn to find a happy medium to what makes you both happy. I think if you give it time and consistency a housetrained Parker could make you both happy

I think if some of you could have seen my carpets you would be horrified as we both were. They are only 2 months old. He just said he cant let a dog ruin our home like this... NO matter how much we love and adore him. We have a 2 yr old daughter who plays on these floor everyday and it is gross. We have cleaned and cleaned like crazy!!!!! SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO REALIZE DOGS CAN BE BAD....ITS NOT ALWAY THE HUMAN

[sashajade]

i know how bad things can be tye and zac were a nightmare they would pee everywhere chew eveything not do as they were told and could yap for england they took about 8 years to get house trained but they are both a little bit slow so would take longer, sasha there mum took about 8 months to house train but scampi was house trained in about 2 days, my point is i trained them all the same but all were different so its probley not you its just the pup is taking a bit longer to train. like i said if you keep him in a pen then in nappies when hes out of it he cant do any more damage to your carpet, then get a trainer to help you with the dog, if after hes about a year old and you have done all that and hes still a problem for your husband then rehome him so at least that way you have given the pup a chance and you wont of upset your husband ether.

[mommiesboy]

I am sure you paid quite a bit of money for your little guy so what is a few dollars more to find a solution? There has to be one,I wish someone knew how to get hold of the Dog Whisperer,I bet he would know what the problem is.How about a lined belly band with an absorbent pocket?Maybe some deodorant powder would help the smell.
I am having some problems with my 11 month old male because of training the 9 week old little girl.He knows better but I think he thinks he gets more attention if he misses his pee pad.He does,but the wrong kind.When he hits the mark we have a pee or poop party and he beats me to the pantry to get his"treat".
I am sorry but I can't possibly understand why your husband won't try to help you work this out,after all he does know how much you love your puppy .I would think he also knows that making you part with Parker is not making him look like a loving ,caring hubby.Maybe he needs some more patience and to relax a bit.Not coming down on your husband but I do think he should consider your feelings and love for this puppy.
How old is Parker and how long have you had him?Have you talked about his problem to any professionals or the breeder you bought him from ? Has your breeder ever had a problem like this reported to her/him before ?I know there is help for your baby ,it is just finding it!!
I am in Indiana too,west central ,just North of Terre Haute.Since you are in Indiana ask your vet about getting Parker to Purdue University for help.They have a great vet program and might even have an idea of what the problem could be.My husband had his English Bulldog there before I married him and he said they were wonderful.Check out all avenues!!
Come on everyone,let's get our heads together and find some help for Parker and piece of mind for his mommy!!!This little guy is still a baby,he needs another chance!!! Plus he needs to stay with her!!!
Besides all of the above,what would you do with Parker?? He can't be handed around to a bunch of different people how neurotic would that make him and you??? Poor little guy.

[Kizzys Mom]

well Denise, i've come to the conclusion after reading all these post that it sounds like you've already done everything suggested or either he wont let you and you seemed to be just as disgusted to see your carpets like that as he was.
So if there is no suggestion here that you havent tried or some you wont try but, some you will BUT hubby wont let you try those, maybe the dog would be better off in a new home especially if it means putting a strain on your marriage. I honestly understand how it is when hubby just dont want to cooperate. But you did seem to ask for help and I think everyone tried but in the end its seems to be a problem only you and your husband can work out. so goodluck.

[mommiesboy]

Originally Posted by Tiger's Mom

Denise, someone had a thread about a great solution where it will take away all these pee/poop with a good soaking. . . how about doing that!

Would you know what thread that was I could sure use it!!!

[cath54]

Sometimes we need to stand back and look at the problem again.First you said he was seen by your vet.Did he do a urine test for diabetes,I have seen a few dogs in our town who has this problem.If you have not done this talk to your vet.
As for the problem this is causing you. It seems you both need to talk with your vet,on a 1 to 1.Maybe he can give you some information on the problem and what way to go with this.I sure hope you and your family can work this out,as all of you love Parker and he is a family member,I hope and pray all of you can sit down and work this out,putting down a time line is not the fair way to go,if everyone did this with there animals or there kids this world would
go down the drain.....................my prayers are with all of you..cathy

[mommiesboy]

Originally Posted by DENISE517

I thought maybe I should give Maddie back, Maybe it is making him worse, but then I hate to do that cause she is doing sooooo great!!!! and then if Parker doesnt work out I will have no babies!!!! I cant lose them both

Can we see a picture of Parker??

[DENISE517]

Here are some pics... he is adorable

[Susanbee51]

My question for you would be, since you have two babies, the oldest being 6 months old, and not potty trained, why would you purchase new carpeting? Especially knowing that Parker had this problem. Why not wait for new carpeting until he was potty trained. You might remind your husband that it took awhile to potty train him when he was an infant and toddler. It didn't happen overnight and I am sure some of his smells were not pleasant. Your Parker is an infant and will take some time.

You have received some great suggestions here on this thread. Hopefully you will try them. Since you took him to an emergency vet and they said everything was fine, I would take him to his regular vet. He might be able offer some suggestions that the emergency one did not.

Our furkids have a keen sense of our moods. They know when we are sick and try and comfort us, they know when we are upset and come give us a kiss. Maybe your Parker can sense the animosity your husband feels towards him and being a puppy, going potty is the only way he can express it.

[autism mommy]

In the end you have to do whats right for you and your family Even if it means getting rid of him. i do hate to hear that. I could see my husband saying the same thing to me if it got too bad. I dont know your entire situation so I cant be judgemental but I can say this. several months ago I had another cat and Id had her about a year.We moved to our new house and found he to be spraying all over the walls even thouigh she was fixed. A brand new house One night I cleaned 17 different spots on the walls.. Not to mention the carpets. I took her to the vet she was fine. She hadseveral months to get usre to the new bigger nicer place but seemed to be getting worse. My husband said she had to go so I got rid of her.. At the time I did what I had to do but honestly I wouldnt do it again becouse I dont know if shes ok or where she is ect. i feel horriable for what I did and wish I could change it but I cant. But still sometimes you have to do things you dont like.

[PRECIOUSMOMMY]

tell him to deal with it

[feminvstr]

Originally Posted by DENISE517

SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO REALIZE DOGS CAN BE BAD....ITS NOT ALWAY THE HUMAN

A puppy's very existence is please you, consistency and boundaries are what they need to be properly trained. Parker was the first one there now he has competion, that too is confusing him. If he was so well trained using the bell rarely having an accident, I would believe that it's not only him peeing he is the only one getting caught. Bad habits by a younger puppy in training is bound to bring back bad habits by the other. They both need to be trained equally and routines need to be exactly the same. Once youve taken them outside, limit the areas they can explore in your home by using baby gates, pee pads, panties and belly band, crate them at night, where they learn how to hold it for long periods of time. Puppies when they are scared or excited will pee, they don't mean too...work with them, they'll get the hang of it...My question is why is he so set on getting rid of the older one and not the other...IMHO a puppy is only bad if they're not properly trained by a human!

[DENISE517]

Originally Posted by Susanbee51

My question for you would be, since you have two babies, the oldest being 6 months old, and not potty trained, why would you purchase new carpeting? Especially knowing that Parker had this problem. Why not wait for new carpeting until he was potty trained. You might remind your husband that it took awhile to potty train him when he was an infant and toddler. It didn't happen overnight and I am sure some of his smells were not pleasant. Your Parker is an infant and will take some time.

You have received some great suggestions here on this thread. Hopefully you will try them. Since you took him to an emergency vet and they said everything was fine, I would take him to his regular vet. He might be able offer some suggestions that the emergency one did not.

Our furkids have a keen sense of our moods. They know when we are sick and try and comfort us, they know when we are upset and come give us a kiss. Maybe your Parker can sense the animosity your husband feels towards him and being a puppy, going potty is the only way he can express it.

I GIVE UP!!! As I said earlier we thought everything was ok until we got the black light....My hubby loves Parker, Parker was his little buddy.....He didnt act mean to Parker after finding all the pee places, He treated him no different...... We are not bad irresponsible people!!!!!! We love your pets. I have called my vet, he check with anderson vet and said they ran all the test that he would run and nothing was wrong.. He raised yorkies and said I'm sorry, you have been doing everything you can and sometime male yorkie are very hard and some times impossible. That is coming straight from the vet... I didnt mean to make this a BASH me thread... I'M REALLY SORRY I POSTED AND NEVER WILL AGAIN.