i know how bad things can be tye and zac were a nightmare they would pee everywhere chew eveything not do as they were told and could yap for england they took about 8 years to get house trained but they are both a little bit slow so would take longer, sasha there mum took about 8 months to house train but scampi was house trained in about 2 days, my point is i trained them all the same but all were different so its probley not you its just the pup is taking a bit longer to train. like i said if you keep him in a pen then in nappies when hes out of it he cant do any more damage to your carpet, then get a trainer to help you with the dog, if after hes about a year old and you have done all that and hes still a problem for your husband then rehome him so at least that way you have given the pup a chance and you wont of upset your husband ether.