I have to find Parker a home, hubby cant take it anymore

[Rae Rae]

Originally Posted by Francie

I'm wondering if it was YOU that wanted to get rid of your husband's adored Pet ....would he be so willing to "dump the dog"......

I would tell your husband that you are going to continue to try and work out the training with this dog that YOU love, and you are hiring a professional trainer for advice, and if that means you have to compromise on other "entertainment"...so be it. After all....you work pretty hard at your job...managing the household...raising the children...naturally, that entitles you some of the decisionmaking in that household.

JMHO, but I would NEVER allow another person to take anything so dear away from me...because it was INCONVENIENT....

Good luck...


Francie

I agree...aren't marriages supposed to be equal?

[rnnw62]

I personally don't understand why when many people have one
puppy that's so young and not yet fully adjusted that they go
out and get another one? Isn't that almost setting the first pup
up for at least a period of bad behavior and it being more unforgiving?
I certainly mean no offense towards you personally, but it's a question
I often wonder about I guess. First, if your Parker was just born in
December then his behavior at this age isn't all that abnormal. My
Toby is a month older than yours and the light switch is just starting
to flip on. Having him neutered did help a great deal. Is Parker neutered?
My animals to me are life long commitments so it always makes me more
than sad to hear of situations such as yours. I wish you and Parker all
the best in the world. As for your husband...well, I believe in compromise
in marriage also seeing I have been married for 27 years but part of the
definition behind compromise is working through problems not just pushing
the delete button because it's an easy solution.

[JCarlson2004]

Originally Posted by Francie

I'm wondering if it was YOU that wanted to get rid of your husband's adored Pet ....would he be so willing to "dump the dog"......

I would tell your husband that you are going to continue to try and work out the training with this dog that YOU love, and you are hiring a professional trainer for advice, and if that means you have to compromise on other "entertainment"...so be it. After all....you work pretty hard at your job...managing the household...raising the children...naturally, that entitles you some of the decisionmaking in that household.

JMHO, but I would NEVER allow another person to take anything so dear away from me...because it was INCONVENIENT....

I couldn't agree more. Excellent post.

[YORKIE7]

Oh no what a tough position you are in, but no way would a man ever control my life, by telling me what i can and cant have. As marriage is about compromise couldn't you ask to have 3 months more time with a trainer, and then if that doesn't work, find him a new home? Im wondering if maybe the reason parker peed on your husband is because he was excited? Mitzi has peed on me a few times when she has gotten really excited. Its also about dominance so i think parker would deffinatley benefit from a trainer. If you do decide to do as your husband wishes,you will end up resenting him. Good luck with persuading your husband

[GeorgiesMomma]

Originally Posted by YORKIE7

Oh no what a tough position you are in, but no way would a man ever control my life, by telling me what i can and cant have. As marriage is about compromise couldn't you ask to have 3 months more time with a trainer, and then if that doesn't work, find him a new home? Im wondering if maybe the reason parker peed on your husband is because he was excited? Mitzi has peed on me a few times when she has gotten really excited. Its also about dominance so i think parker would deffinatley benefit from a trainer. If you do decide to do as your husband wishes,you will end up resenting him. Good luck with persuading your husband

Good point Georgie has peed when he gets excited too. I just don't think your husband is being realistic and somehow you need to convince him of that. Good luck and I think that you should stick to what makes you happy and both learn to find a happy medium to what makes you both happy. I think if you give it time and consistency a housetrained Parker could make you both happy

[Mitzis Mom]

Originally Posted by DENISE517

Money is not an issue... Hubby is a tight wod, but thinks a trainer is stupid. He works with alot of guys who have had them and says its a waste of time. They just take your money.

Do I keep Parker against my hubbys will. or do I compromise too??? I know marriage is about compromise..... but hell I dont want to... I do have a great relationship and this had been a hard decision for him. I know we all want to bash him ( including myself)... But I think its hard when they dont feel the same way

I think (and I have a lot of 'marriage experience') your husband should come first. It's very, very hard to give up a little furbaby and as long as there are things to try, try! Did you try the ex-pen? This way you could keep him in one place instead of building a seperate room which would make them feel locked out.

[lolabella]

I agree that you should give private training a chance. I have been researching different training methods, and the trainer alone cannot solve your problem. What the trainer can do, however, is to teach you to solve your own problem. You have to be willing to work with your dog every day, or else the trainer would be a waste of money the way your husband says. They are not magicians, but they can definitely help you as long as you are willing to do the work.

[txshopper73]

Very sad! Best of luck in whatever you decide to do.

[dray]

Well I read all of the posts on this matter and I think I may have a solution. Your dog is very young and will probably out grow this condition, but I think the problem is your husband. He needs a bit of training. When he comes home have him meet the dog outside so all of excitement peeing happens there. Have him almost ignore the puppy so the puppy learns to calm down and then he will get some attention. Make sure when he talks to him it is not in a excited voice, and not to mean either. Not that your husband is mean but just make sure his voice is calm and quiet. To say hello on your lap with a full bladder and being a puppy is just asking for trouble. If you need a place for your boy, I will be glad to help you. One other thing use a Poise pad in your wrap and it will hold all day. Good luck. I have a Standard Poodle that does this when my boyfriend comes over, He only does this to him as he loves him so much. I did train my boyfriend to meet Chaucer outside as I get tired of cleaning up happy pee. It is working!!!

[sashajade]

first of all its not a full grown dog its still a puppy and one thing puppies do is pee so imo your husband is being stupid to think a pup of what 6 months will be completly house trained, tell your husband you want to give the pup one last chance and get a trainer no matter what he says, buy a bit of lino put it under the pen and at all other times put a nappy on him so he cant pee anywhere, yorkies can be hard to train and can take up to a year so after that time if the yorkie is still a problem for your husband then talk about rehoming him(the yorkie not your husband) lol im so glad my partner loves them as much as i do cos i would never part with mine for no one.

[DENISE517]

Originally Posted by RLC12345678

I COMPLETELY agree! My older male yorkie, Hobbs, has not used the bathroom in the house for MONTHS! But, ever since we brought Hootie home last Sunday, he has been going to the bathroom in the house like he is a puppy again. I think that he, like Parker, may just want some attention, even if it is negative attention they receive by going potty in the house. Since Hobbs started going potty inside again, we have really been having to show him LOTS of attention. When he goes potty outside, we REALLY praise him. Try doing that with Parker. Try showing him lots of love and attention and let him know that even though you have a new baby, that you still love him! Maybe let your hubby take over responsibilities for the new one for awhile and let you concentrate on Parker. I think that he just needs some reassuring...

GOOD LUCK with whatever comes of it all. If it makes you feel better, whenever my husband gets frustrated with the dogs, he says that we should give them away. I just ignore him and he gets over it really quickly. Sometimes men just say things they don't mean. Maybe he is just saying that to get you to really work on getting Parker trained. Through the next couple of weeks, focus your attention on getting Parker trained. When the 9th rolls around, act like nothing has happened. If your hubby brings up the fact that you have to "give him away" on that day, tell him that you thought he was kidding!

Parker get so much attention that it isnt even funny. I've showed Maddie less attention trying to get parker use to things. He was doing alot of this before we even got her. I do have a 2 yr old daughter so I cant show him more attention than her.

[DENISE517]

Originally Posted by Kizzys Mom

I've always heard if a dog stays outside when they are little all the time, they will not pee in the house. Dont know if its true or not, but I do know most dogs that are use to being outside dont usually pee in the house. But if you have the money, maybe you could fence off a small area outside and leave him in it during the day. Bring him in every morning for a bit and pet him and brush him and play with him a little while then put him back in the fence till night time. Then put him in the crate till he needs to go out. Then before going to bed, put him inside the fence to pee then bring him in and sleep with him and put him back outside the next day. As long as he gets your attn everyday and dont see the other puppies in the house, he might learn to pee outside. I mean I know its hot right now, but you could leave him in the fence early morning and late evening and crate him during the day except take him out to pee in his fenced in area and play a few minutes then bring him back to his crate till late in the evening when it cools down. That way he wont be peeing anywhere but outside. If you can do this the rest of the summer it wont be long till it gets cooler outside and yu can leave him in the fence all day except make sure you go out and play with him and walk him a few times a day. Then by winter maybe he will be use to going outside and will not pee in the house anymore. I would try that as a last resort. if that dont work, then do what you have to do to. A dog isnt worth a divorce when you have kids. Kids need 2 parents all the time. I can understand it hurts to have hubby want him to go, it would kill me if something happened to Kizzy. Maybe you could try the fence thing and see if it helps if money isnt a problem. At least you might suggest it to hubby before the 9th to give you a little longer just to see if he will work with you on it. I do know I would do that before I would let Kizzy go.

I dont believe in dogs staying outside like that. They dont get the attention they need and these little guys are too small for that. They need the a/c

[DENISE517]

Originally Posted by Tiger's Mom

Denise, someone had a thread about a great solution where it will take away all these pee/poop with a good soaking. . . how about doing that!

I used urine gone. it works too. i had to buy 100.00 worth to get all the spots. after that you do the black light test again and they didnt show up so then we shampooed the carpets.

[DENISE517]

Originally Posted by sshaw

I also think it might have something to do with the other pets. Maybe he is just marking his territory? Maybe you should have him fixed first to see if this helps.

He was fixed at 4 months old. I had it done because they say males mark

[DENISE517]

Originally Posted by Rae Rae

I agree...aren't marriages supposed to be equal?

are marriage is pretty equal.. trust me he compromises on alot of stuff!! He's really not a bad guy like everyone is making him out to be.