I have to find Parker a home, hubby cant take it anymore

[RLC12345678]

Denise, I wish you would reconsider about leaving YT.

I honestly believe that no one intentionally posted anything on this thread meaning it to be cruel or condesending. Sometimes when things are written, you cannot understand the tone or emotions behind the words. Oftentimes, our emotions make us think people are being cruel when they really aren't. I truly believe that everyone on YT feels very badly for the situation that you are in. As loving YT members, we were simply trying to think of alternative solutions to rehoming your little man since you expressed how much you were hurting that you had to give him away. I think that from your first post we did not understand that the decision was already made to give him away. That is why we were offering suggestions on potty training and suggestions on how to resolve the issue without you having to part with your beloved doggie. None of those suggestions were meant to be taken that you were a bad mommy. We ALL know that you are an EXCELLENT yorkie mommy!

I can assure you that no one wants to make this situation harder than it already is for you. Simply from the fact that SOOOO many people posted offering suggestions should tell you that we all really do care about you and want you to be happy. Again, PLEASE reconsider leaving YT. I truly believe that EVERYONE on this forum is here for help and support of others that need it. Sometimes when we (including myself) don't like the advice we receive, we misconstrue the intentions behind it.

Please keep us updated on how the rehoming goes.

[Rem&Silkmom]

I can symapthize with your issue...if you ever need to talk pm me. I have been there.
Chris

[DENISE517]

FIRST OF ALL I WANT TO SAY..... MEAN PEOPLE SUCK!!! And I will not let some bad people on here make me leave yt when sooooooo many other good people are on here. You guys are right... I wont let them ruin it for me... Thanks to all who have pm me.. you are truely great people.. and if you can read...... I said it was my decision now too... not in the beginning.. after much consideration and family talks (so get it right)!!!! OK NOW... PLEASE NO MORE POST! GO P...... SOMEONE ELSE OFF. ITS NOT GOING TO WORK WITH ME ANY MORE!!!

[JCarlson2004]

Originally Posted by vainchick5

Honestly this is ridiculous. NO ONE has been cruel to her. Everyone has stated the facts :you can't expect a 7 month old puppy to be 100% potty trained. SHEEEE came on here complaining about her husband and how we can help get her to change his mind, then that went to "WELL IT'S ACTUALLY MY CHOICE TOO" So the story has changed a couple of times. Yet I see no rude or cruelness just people laying out their opinions and the facts as they see it. No one has banished her, that is her choice. Lots of people have rehomed their dogs, she was looking for an answer to avoid rehoming and that is what people provided her with. I'm really tired of people coming on here, blaming the poor dog, then expecting sympathy from everyone. Sorry I have sympathy for the dog.

I agree with Nobella. No one looks down on Denise or her hubby for their decision. But in my opinion, a dog is a LIFETIME commitment. I would never rehome one of my babies because of potty issues -- but that is just my opinion and I mean no disrespect to Denise. I hope Parker finds a wonderful home and his potty issues can be worked on. He sounds like a wonderful little boy.

PS - I had a hard time training my Yorkie, Katie, who passed away. Took me a year.

[Tashasmom]

SHE DIDN'T BASH HER HUSBAND..how many of us have said oh he's just being stupid..or men can be so blah blah blah..
She isn't harming Parker..she is simply finding a home for him that fits him..And yes you have bashed..you are quite good at it actually..I've seen you do it quite a few times..
Parker doesn't need anyone to take his side..he isn't in any danger..
And she was too bashed...I can see if she came on here and she her hubbie mistreated parker..or anything pertaining to parker being abused or parker abusing others..that wasn't the case..so there was no need for cruel comments..You are one of those that are quite good at running people off here..I hope when your all alone on here you have lots to say..cause you won't have anyone to listen

[JCarlson2004]

Originally Posted by Tashasmom

SHE DIDN'T BASH HER HUSBAND..how many of us have said oh he's just being stupid..or men can be so blah blah blah..
She isn't harming Parker..she is simply finding a home for him that fits him..And yes you have bashed..you are quite good at it actually..I've seen you do it quite a few times..
Parker doesn't need anyone to take his side..he isn't in any danger..
And she was too bashed...I can see if she came on here and she her hubbie mistreated parker..or anything pertaining to parker being abused or parker abusing others..that wasn't the case..so there was no need for cruel comments..You are one of those that are quite good at running people off here..I hope when your all alone on here you have lots to say..cause you won't have anyone to listen

Do you mean me??

I hope not because I didn't bash Denise. There is nothing wrong is rehoming a dog if you have no other choice. I've seen it done successfully. But I would not rehome ... that is just my personal preference and decision and it doesn't reflect on anyone. No one can tell her (or anyone else for that matter) what to do because you have to live in the situation to really know what is going on. At least Parker will be going to a loving family. Most people would just drop him off at the pound and be done with him. But thank goodness Parker is in Denise's hands and will definitely go to a great home. But I meant no disrespect in my posts. It's a difficult and painful decision to rehome a beloved pet.

[Tashasmom]

Originally Posted by JCarlson2004

Do you mean me??

oh gosh no..i'm sorry ..that did sound like it was to you lol..no i think your very nice..i meant really those that are always goin round bashin people..it's wrong and hurtful..

[JCarlson2004]

Originally Posted by Tashasmom

oh gosh no..i'm sorry ..that did sound like it was to you lol..no i think your very nice..i meant really those that are always goin round bashin people..it's wrong and hurtful..

That's ok LOL

[sandyshug]

Maybe if you take the pee pad out of the crate and put towels/blankie in it he will see his crate as a bed and not a bathroom. If he uses pee pads out of the crate then he knows they are for bathrooming. If he doesn't pee in your bed, maybe seeing his crate as his bed will deter him from peeing in the crate and only using the pee pads out of it or going outside to bathroom. you may need to thoroughly clean the crate of even try buying a new one to teach him the difference. Good Luck!

My Kammie sleeps in her crate and stays in there when we can't keep our eyes on her all times. She very rarely has accidents in her crate as she knows it is her bed. She also sleeps in our bed in the morning. She does still have accidents from time to time in the house but I have found it is normally our fault.

Ultimately it is your decision to make. I hope you exhaust all possibilities before giving him up. I do believe some dogs are extremely hard to train and have emotional issues beyond the owners ability to cope. Your marriage is your #1 priority and nothing should get in the way of your families happiness. Yes, our furbabies are our family too but giving them up to a home that can better deal with their problems and is the utmost display of our love for them. It may be very hard to do but your eternal human family has to come first. Maybe you and your hubby will work this out for all of you.

[Connie]

I have not had the time to post much at all lately, but have communicated with Denise via email and PM's. My heart goes out to her for having to make decisions of this sort. I've known Denise for a long time and know that she loves her little Parker...she has gone to great lengths to make it work with him and deciding to rehome him has to be one of the hardest decisions she's ever made. I can understand her decision and will continue to be a support person in the weeks ahead. My heart goes out to her!

Big hugs to you, Denise...when you need me, just write...I'm not always at the computer, but will always answer you eventually!

Maddie sends kisses!

[Breeze]

Denise, I see you have a female as well, could she be going into heat? If she is, that maybe why your male is marking. Or is he neutered? It may help with the peeing problem to have it done if he is not.

All the best!

[Bizzymammabee]

Originally Posted by Tashasmom

SHE DIDN'T BASH HER HUSBAND..how many of us have said oh he's just being stupid..or men can be so blah blah blah..
She isn't harming Parker..she is simply finding a home for him that fits him..And yes you have bashed..you are quite good at it actually..I've seen you do it quite a few times..
Parker doesn't need anyone to take his side..he isn't in any danger..
And she was too bashed...I can see if she came on here and she her hubbie mistreated parker..or anything pertaining to parker being abused or parker abusing others..that wasn't the case..so there was no need for cruel comments..You are one of those that are quite good at running people off here..I hope when your all alone on here you have lots to say..cause you won't have anyone to listen

Tashasmom...you are right there are some people on her that are very opinionated and judgmental...they know who they are. Sometimes I read some of their posts and it really does turn my stomach and I want scream where do you get off. Everyone is entitled to their opionion and honestly Denise has to do what is best overall for her home, marriage, children and sanity. The upside is she is being very responsible and loving by finding him a home that will be a better fit for him.

Denise I applaud you and stand behind you in your decision. At the end of the day we have look at the bigger picture and do what is best for yourself.

Good luck in the changes that have to be made

[Tashasmom]

I"m just thankful Parker is alive and well..he was well cared for and will continue to be well cared for..
I would give anything to have tasha alive and well..rather in my home or someone elses..

[janh7]

Hey Denise, I just got on the computer and didn't know about the difficulty with Parker. I know that you love him very much and how much this must hurt you. I have a dog right now (not a yorkie) that ate my couch, a plank out of my 100 yr old wood floor and a whole quiche off the oven top! My husband has had it! I am at a loss also. These things happen. Don't beat yourself up over it. You have done the best you could do in the situation...and that is good enough.
Hailee's mom...jan

[ytsirk27]

Originally Posted by janh7

Hey Denise, I just got on the computer and didn't know about the difficulty with Parker. I know that you love him very much and how much this must hurt you. I have a dog right now (not a yorkie) that ate my couch, a plank out of my 100 yr old wood floor and a whole quiche off the oven top! My husband has had it! I am at a loss also. These things happen. Don't beat yourself up over it. You have done the best you could do in the situation...and that is good enough.
Hailee's mom...jan

HEY! Here is a thought. Both of you can kick your husbands out and become roomates and have all these furbabies to play with...HAHA