I have to find Parker a home, hubby cant take it anymore - Page 10 - YorkieTalk.com Forums

Bizzymammabee · 06-28-2006, 02:20 PM

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Originally Posted by janh7

Hey Denise, I just got on the computer and didn't know about the difficulty with Parker. I know that you love him very much and how much this must hurt you. I have a dog right now (not a yorkie) that ate my couch, a plank out of my 100 yr old wood floor and a whole quiche off the oven top! My husband has had it! I am at a loss also. These things happen. Don't beat yourself up over it. You have done the best you could do in the situation...and that is good enough.
Hailee's mom...jan

Jan my condolences....I had a dog that ate the floor (two layers), a new mattress, shoes and the sofa way back when. It's so not fun. Good luck.

AprilLove · 06-28-2006, 02:57 PM

Denise,
I have to chime in here. I have read most of the posts, but not all. I just wanted to let you know that you are not the only one that has had to give up a pet. It is obvious that it is painful for you. I am glad that you are looking into references etc for the home you will place him in. YOU ARE NOT A BAD PERSON!
I had to give up my little girl Bichon named Clarabelle Majic 10 years ago this month. I had 3 dogs at the time, she was 3 years old and well trained but my work schedule changed and I went to 12 hr shift work and not a regular schedule. She suffered separation anxiety severely. I dealt with it for a year and tried many different solutions, and it was a very tough decision for me but I knew she needed a home with someone home most of the time. I interviewed over 10 potential new owners in their homes and found a wonderful work from home family that she was perfect for. I cried and cried the day I let her go, and struggled with the decision but I know she was better taken care of and got the attention she deserved that I could not give her. I would think since Parker is still so young it will be better to do it now than later. And since the new home will know the isssues you have had with him and be willing to deal with it, you should feel good that you are putting him into a good home.
I think it is harder on us then the furbaby. He will have an adjustment, but with love and attention, he will adapt. My girl just couldn't adapt to my work schedule like the other 2 did, and the guilt I felt over that outweighed the guilt in letting her go. I still have a large portrait of her over my desk in my office and think of her often, but I know it was in her best interest.
Just wanted to share and say I hope it all works out well for you and little Parker and remember, if you are giving him to a GOOD home that is what matters most.
I was able to visit Clarabelle a few times and she was so different and happy it made my heart warm. I am the type who says when I get an animal I commit to caring for him/her for life, as I have a Bichon who was recently diagnosed with diabetes and requires insulin daily and special needs as well. I now in my careeer can adapt my work schedule to meet my furbabys needs, But sometimes, you just have to do what you know in your heart is the best thing. So do what you know is best and don't let some peoples opinion hurt you or make you think you are bad. They are just voicing opinions. As we all have them

Take care
PS Parker is a beautiful little guy.

MaryKay
Mom to AprilLove, Bailey and Bitsy-Roo

GeorgiesMomma · 06-28-2006, 03:13 PM

I am not by any means trying to continue this discussion, but I have looked back at all the posts (especially mine), and if I said anything wrong or judgemental I would take full responsibilty. However I don't feel that I did. I understand this is a sensitive issue, but no one that I read bashed you or your husband you said he is stupid not any other YT member. I agree people here can be judgemental, but I also think that this is a website with a ton of different people from different places. I take advice good and bad because I know everyone is giving their honest opinion. Anyways I sat her allday and questioned whether I let it go or respond and as you can see I chose the latter. I wish you all the best. Take care

mommiesboy · 06-28-2006, 03:54 PM

I hope I didn't bash you when I wrote my opinions,if I did or it sounds like I did,please forgive me.I have never had to deal with this kind of problem or known what you are going through mentally.I went back and have read all your posts and can see how much this is hurting you . I do understand that Parker needs a home with a full time Mom dedicated to him and his problem,someone that will love him as much as you do.He is such a beautiful little guy and I am an old woman that forgot what it is like to have a child and husband to care for too.Good luck to you in finding the perfect home for Parker.Again,if my words were painful or harsh ,forgive me,please.Like others I sometimes speak before I know the whole story.I will be very careful in the future.

Jaspermom · 06-28-2006, 04:58 PM

I have read every single one of the posts in this entire thread. WHEW! It's interesting that so many people have been moved by this issue in one way or another to the point of comment. It has been a very intriguing read.

How sad that your family had to make this difficult decision, Denise. I know you must be heartbroken. You did ask for help, and many people who wrote here did offer help. Of course there are always some who get upset with the whole idea of re-homing, and they have reacted strongly on your thread.

I see these folks for the most part, though, as not intentionally "bashing" you or your family, but expressing their opinion in their own way. Understandably, none of what they had to say could ever have been welcomed by you after going through the pain of the decision making process. The strongest opinions are rarely sweet and kind, but we should understand that everyone has their own unique ways of expression.

I also find it interesting that you and others asked multiple times for this thread to be closed, yet Admin obviously felt that it should remain open. I think that gives some credence to the nature of the discussion. Other people may have to go through this same type of situation, and your thread may help them. Kudos to you for starting this thread.

You have made the best decision for you, your family, and Parker. It was obviously not an easy one, and you may have regrets about it in the future. But at this point it is the only decision possible. Do not dwell on the perceived unkind words of strangers. Move on and do the best you can with Maddie. I am hoping that you will be able to get her potty trained so that you will never have to go through this again.

Best of luck to you, Denise. My heart hurts for you.

gypsyqueen · 06-28-2006, 08:16 PM

People take a chill pill
It must be hard being so perfect that you think you have earned the right to be looking down your nose at someone else. Im sure you self rightous people never do anything wrong and you think its not offensive to degrade her husband or her well my hat is off to you perfect people. Dont mind me Im just
a person that thinks she is doing the best thing for her dog.
PS my mother always told me if you have nothing nice to say, say nothing at all. Nasty people get a life:

Surfie and Tiki · 06-28-2006, 08:29 PM

Glad,

Very eloquent as always……

lily's mom · 06-28-2006, 08:45 PM

I am glad that there has been a happy conclusion. So, are you going to tell us who the lucky YT member is that is going to be Parkers new mommy? I think it is great that someone knows that he has a problem to work on and is taking him in unconditionaly!!!!! I am dying to know, hope you tell us soon.

gypsyqueen · 06-28-2006, 08:46 PM

Theres enough crude people in this world we dont need to add to it .
Akua o'e hoomaika'i (god bless you)

Bird · 06-28-2006, 10:00 PM

good luck. and i hope the new owner is great.

RLC12345678 · 06-29-2006, 03:46 AM

Like I said earlier, I don't think anyone came on here to bash Denise.

I think the lines just got blurry bc people thought she was looking for advice on ways that she could possibly keep Parker, which wasn't the case.

Denise, I, for one, most certainly was not coming on here to bash you or talk down to you. I by no stretch of the imagination am perfect, nor am I a perfect yorkie owner. I was honestly just trying to help in any way that I could. I just want you to be happy

P.S. -- My family had to give our dog, a Jack Russell Terrier, away when I was younger. She was just TOO bad! So, I understand. It is definately a tough decision. But, everything happens for a reason. If we didn't give our Jack Russell away, we would have never gotten our first yorkie.

06-28-2006, 03:13 PM	#138
GeorgiesMomma I love TBCG! Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: MD Posts: 7,227	I am not by any means trying to continue this discussion, but I have looked back at all the posts (especially mine), and if I said anything wrong or judgemental I would take full responsibilty. However I don't feel that I did. I understand this is a sensitive issue, but no one that I read bashed you or your husband you said he is stupid not any other YT member. I agree people here can be judgemental, but I also think that this is a website with a ton of different people from different places. I take advice good and bad because I know everyone is giving their honest opinion. Anyways I sat her allday and questioned whether I let it go or respond and as you can see I chose the latter. I wish you all the best. Take care __________________ Morgan Mommy toGeorgie boy & Isaiah RIP sweet Coco 10/12/99-8/1/12 Read About Georgie's Experience with Atlantoaxial Instability (AAI) Here!

06-28-2006, 03:54 PM	#139
mommiesboy Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Indiana Posts: 251	I hope I didn't bash you when I wrote my opinions,if I did or it sounds like I did,please forgive me.I have never had to deal with this kind of problem or known what you are going through mentally.I went back and have read all your posts and can see how much this is hurting you . I do understand that Parker needs a home with a full time Mom dedicated to him and his problem,someone that will love him as much as you do.He is such a beautiful little guy and I am an old woman that forgot what it is like to have a child and husband to care for too.Good luck to you in finding the perfect home for Parker.Again,if my words were painful or harsh ,forgive me,please.Like others I sometimes speak before I know the whole story.I will be very careful in the future. __________________ Believe In the Magic !!

06-28-2006, 04:58 PM	#140
Jaspermom Yorkies Rock My World! Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: North Carolina Posts: 4,721	Sorry for your heartache I have read every single one of the posts in this entire thread. WHEW! It's interesting that so many people have been moved by this issue in one way or another to the point of comment. It has been a very intriguing read. How sad that your family had to make this difficult decision, Denise. I know you must be heartbroken. You did ask for help, and many people who wrote here did offer help. Of course there are always some who get upset with the whole idea of re-homing, and they have reacted strongly on your thread. I see these folks for the most part, though, as not intentionally "bashing" you or your family, but expressing their opinion in their own way. Understandably, none of what they had to say could ever have been welcomed by you after going through the pain of the decision making process. The strongest opinions are rarely sweet and kind, but we should understand that everyone has their own unique ways of expression. I also find it interesting that you and others asked multiple times for this thread to be closed, yet Admin obviously felt that it should remain open. I think that gives some credence to the nature of the discussion. Other people may have to go through this same type of situation, and your thread may help them. Kudos to you for starting this thread. You have made the best decision for you, your family, and Parker. It was obviously not an easy one, and you may have regrets about it in the future. But at this point it is the only decision possible. Do not dwell on the perceived unkind words of strangers. Move on and do the best you can with Maddie. I am hoping that you will be able to get her potty trained so that you will never have to go through this again. Best of luck to you, Denise. My heart hurts for you. __________________ Glad Mom to Jasper, Wosie & Dreama, RIP sweet babies.

06-28-2006, 08:29 PM	#142
Surfie and Tiki My little Beach Bums Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Southern CA Posts: 1,218	Glad, Very eloquent as always…… __________________ Janell, Surfie, Tiki, and Kona

06-28-2006, 08:45 PM	#143
lily's mom Lily Loves Maximus Donating Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Missouri Posts: 2,633	I am glad that there has been a happy conclusion. So, are you going to tell us who the lucky YT member is that is going to be Parkers new mommy? I think it is great that someone knows that he has a problem to work on and is taking him in unconditionaly!!!!! I am dying to know, hope you tell us soon. __________________ Lily and Dawn

06-28-2006, 02:57 PM	#137
AprilLove My Three Hearts Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Wrapped around their paws :-) Posts: 7,190	Denise, I have to chime in here. I have read most of the posts, but not all. I just wanted to let you know that you are not the only one that has had to give up a pet. It is obvious that it is painful for you. I am glad that you are looking into references etc for the home you will place him in. YOU ARE NOT A BAD PERSON! I had to give up my little girl Bichon named Clarabelle Majic 10 years ago this month. I had 3 dogs at the time, she was 3 years old and well trained but my work schedule changed and I went to 12 hr shift work and not a regular schedule. She suffered separation anxiety severely. I dealt with it for a year and tried many different solutions, and it was a very tough decision for me but I knew she needed a home with someone home most of the time. I interviewed over 10 potential new owners in their homes and found a wonderful work from home family that she was perfect for. I cried and cried the day I let her go, and struggled with the decision but I know she was better taken care of and got the attention she deserved that I could not give her. I would think since Parker is still so young it will be better to do it now than later. And since the new home will know the isssues you have had with him and be willing to deal with it, you should feel good that you are putting him into a good home. I think it is harder on us then the furbaby. He will have an adjustment, but with love and attention, he will adapt. My girl just couldn't adapt to my work schedule like the other 2 did, and the guilt I felt over that outweighed the guilt in letting her go. I still have a large portrait of her over my desk in my office and think of her often, but I know it was in her best interest. Just wanted to share and say I hope it all works out well for you and little Parker and remember, if you are giving him to a GOOD home that is what matters most. I was able to visit Clarabelle a few times and she was so different and happy it made my heart warm. I am the type who says when I get an animal I commit to caring for him/her for life, as I have a Bichon who was recently diagnosed with diabetes and requires insulin daily and special needs as well. I now in my careeer can adapt my work schedule to meet my furbabys needs, But sometimes, you just have to do what you know in your heart is the best thing. So do what you know is best and don't let some peoples opinion hurt you or make you think you are bad. They are just voicing opinions. As we all have them Take care PS Parker is a beautiful little guy. MaryKay Mom to AprilLove, Bailey and Bitsy-Roo

06-28-2006, 08:16 PM	#141
gypsyqueen Donating Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Las Vegas. Posts: 955	People take a chill pill It must be hard being so perfect that you think you have earned the right to be looking down your nose at someone else. Im sure you self rightous people never do anything wrong and you think its not offensive to degrade her husband or her well my hat is off to you perfect people. Dont mind me Im just a person that thinks she is doing the best thing for her dog. PS my mother always told me if you have nothing nice to say, say nothing at all. Nasty people get a life:

06-28-2006, 08:46 PM	#144
gypsyqueen Donating Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Las Vegas. Posts: 955	Thanks Theres enough crude people in this world we dont need to add to it . Akua o'e hoomaika'i (god bless you)

06-28-2006, 10:00 PM	#145
Bird Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: May 2006 Location: Kelowna, BC Posts: 87	good luck. and i hope the new owner is great.

06-29-2006, 03:46 AM	#146
RLC12345678 I heart Hootie & Hobbs Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: USA Posts: 7,149	Like I said earlier, I don't think anyone came on here to bash Denise. I think the lines just got blurry bc people thought she was looking for advice on ways that she could possibly keep Parker, which wasn't the case. Denise, I, for one, most certainly was not coming on here to bash you or talk down to you. I by no stretch of the imagination am perfect, nor am I a perfect yorkie owner. I was honestly just trying to help in any way that I could. I just want you to be happy P.S. -- My family had to give our dog, a Jack Russell Terrier, away when I was younger. She was just TOO bad! So, I understand. It is definately a tough decision. But, everything happens for a reason. If we didn't give our Jack Russell away, we would have never gotten our first yorkie.