Originally Posted by lisaly (Post 4480089)

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle. —Ian Maclaren

I love this poster and quote. There is a book for middle school aged kids called Wonder that has sold over a million copies. It is now a school-wide read for our district's middle school. Although my students are ninth graders, I read it to see how I could spread the book's important message to them. The book has great appeal to kids, but adults have really loved it, including me. It is about a boy with severe craniofacial abnormalities who enters school for the very first time in fifth grade. There is a big campaign (Choose Kind) spreading the book's anti-bullying message. If you have children it's wonderful to read this book with them. This quote was used in the follow up book to Wonder that had a chapter written from the bully's point of view.


Wonder

The Julian Chapter: A Wonder Story: R. J. Palacio, Michael Chamberlain: 9781491524084: Amazon.com: Books

Amazon.com: The Julian Chapter: A Wonder Story (Kindle Single) eBook: R. J. Palacio: Kindle Store


These are some of Wonder's quotes about kindness:

“When given the choice between being right or being kind, choose kind. - Dr Wayne W. Dyer”
― R.J. Palacio, Wonder

“Kinder than is necessary. Because it's not enough to be kind. One should be kinder than needed.”
― R.J. Palacio, Wonder
From a quote by Barrie, the author of Peter Pan

Part of the passage that used the quote:
“But in another book by J. M. Barrie called The Little White Bird … he writes …” He started flipping through a small book on the podium until he found the page he was looking for, and then he put on his reading glasses. “ ‘Shall we make a new rule of life … always to try to be a little kinder than is necessary?’ ” Here Mr. Tushman looked up at the audience. “Kinder than is necessary,” he repeated. “What a marvelous line, isn’t it? Kinder than is necessary. Because it’s not enough to be kind. One should be kinder than needed.”
― R.J. Palacio, Wonder


“We carry with us, as human beings, not just the capacity to be kind, but the very choice of kindness.”
― R.J. Palacio, Wonder

“There’s no rule book that tells you how to act in every given situation in life, you know? So what I always say is that it’s always better to err on the side of kindness. That’s the secret. If you don’t know what to do, just be kind. You can’t go wrong.”
― R.J. Palacio, The Julian Chapter: A Wonder Story

Originally Posted by lisaly (Post 4480089)

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle. —Ian Maclaren

I love this poster and quote. There is a book for middle school aged kids called Wonder that has sold over a million copies. It is now a school-wide read for our district's middle school. Although my students are ninth graders, I read it to see how I could spread the book's important message to them. The book has great appeal to kids, but adults have really loved it, including me. It is about a boy with severe craniofacial abnormalities who enters school for the very first time in fifth grade. There is a big campaign (Choose Kind) spreading the book's anti-bullying message. If you have children it's wonderful to read this book with them. This quote was used in the follow up book to Wonder that had a chapter written from the bully's point of view.


Wonder

The Julian Chapter: A Wonder Story: R. J. Palacio, Michael Chamberlain: 9781491524084: Amazon.com: Books

Amazon.com: The Julian Chapter: A Wonder Story (Kindle Single) eBook: R. J. Palacio: Kindle Store


These are some of Wonder's quotes about kindness:

“When given the choice between being right or being kind, choose kind. - Dr Wayne W. Dyer”
― R.J. Palacio, Wonder

“Kinder than is necessary. Because it's not enough to be kind. One should be kinder than needed.”
― R.J. Palacio, Wonder
From a quote by Barrie, the author of Peter Pan

Part of the passage that used the quote:
“But in another book by J. M. Barrie called The Little White Bird … he writes …” He started flipping through a small book on the podium until he found the page he was looking for, and then he put on his reading glasses. “ ‘Shall we make a new rule of life … always to try to be a little kinder than is necessary?’ ” Here Mr. Tushman looked up at the audience. “Kinder than is necessary,” he repeated. “What a marvelous line, isn’t it? Kinder than is necessary. Because it’s not enough to be kind. One should be kinder than needed.”
― R.J. Palacio, Wonder


“We carry with us, as human beings, not just the capacity to be kind, but the very choice of kindness.”
― R.J. Palacio, Wonder

“There’s no rule book that tells you how to act in every given situation in life, you know? So what I always say is that it’s always better to err on the side of kindness. That’s the secret. If you don’t know what to do, just be kind. You can’t go wrong.”
― R.J. Palacio, The Julian Chapter: A Wonder Story

Originally Posted by MauiGirl (Post 4480129)

Lisa, thank you for this post full of very meaningful quotes. I love them all, and the whole concept of "Chose Kind" and Be Kind is something that one would think should be the first response in any situation.

We can never underestimate the power of positive thoughts, words and actions, and it should not take much effort to go in that direction.

Originally Posted by GracieJane (Post 4481658)

Thank you for taking the time to write this post. I have read every word of this thread and Wonder AND The Julian Chapter and could not have put this together anywhere near this fluently. Some of the same quotes are posted in my classroom, and there is great wisdom in each one.

It just helps to speak the truth in love. Still working on that. . .

Originally Posted by MarkFromSea (Post 4481805)

I've asked several times that this posting be removed.
You chose to delete what I wrote, so delete this as well. I described who attacked me in particular when I first joined when I asked about dental care for my old dog who we had just been given to us. As well as my observation of her attacking others that had just joined. I also pointed out that that person is playing all nice and wonderful in this thread as if she is as innocent as a newly born baby. I find that hypocritical.

There appears to be a great deal of favoritism as to who's postings are left when deletions occur....

Have a good day.

Originally Posted by Wylie's Mom (Post 4465267)

Hi all -

Firstly, I just want to say what a wonderful community YT is, and that I hope this thread can help us all think about improving our presence here during interactions…even if it just means tweaking our posting styles a bit.

I’ll get right to the point: we’ve been receiving a huge amount of communications from members who are concerned/venting about some of the harshness and aggression they’re seeing/perceiving in the community. This harshness pertains to both new and old members - on both the receiving and giving end of things. We’re hearing there is a pervasive feeling that members are being driven away via disrespectful, snarky, disdainful, extremely aggressive, and downright mean posting styles. This needs to stop.

We cannot be a community or call ourselves a community if we don’t come together sometimes, as a collective, and agree to do better. Well, it’s time to come together and agree to do better...to be more aware of giving (yes, GIVING) respect, to be more kind, to be more compassionate and supportive.

No one is asking anyone to be a Pollyanna or to not be themselves. We’re merely asking that, in your interactions, you strive harder and TRULY commit to what is mentioned in the previous paragraph. It’s not that hard -- and if it IS hard for you, then perhaps this isn’t the right board for you and perhaps it’s time to move on from YT to find an environment that does fit.

We are not asking much. If you do think we’re asking too much, then 1) this is not the community for you 2) you’re being self-centered and 3) you need to develop your insight into human beings, other than yourself. WE ARE NOT ASKING MUCH.

It is okay to speak your mind here at YT. However, it is not okay to simply justify any means you deem fit to meet your end goal. We believe in being STRONG advocates for dogs/animals - but not, however, at the expense of the human being behind that dependent and innocent dog. Please do not assume or think that it’s okay to behave any way you please merely because it’s in the interest of an animal. We all need to be decent here and post w/ a modicum of respect…EVEN when and especially when dealing with someone who is doing everything we are personally opposed to. Your opposition to another human being’s behavior does *not* mean you are right, nor is it a fact that they are universally and categorically wrong….it merely means you have opposition. Please learn to deal with it because it’s not going away.

If we see excessively negative and/or badgering posting styles, we will be warning people or suspending people and/or permanently banning members’ accounts.

This is an open discussion in terms of feedback, thoughts, concerns….so please feel free to share. This post is not aimed at anyone, so please do not make assumptions. It was driven by the sheer amount of concerned members who expressed themselves via PMs and on the forum itself. Thank you for reading! :)

Originally Posted by lynzy420 (Post 4487655)

When I first came here I was attacked and chased off too...at least that was my immediate thought....but then I wondered WHY? Why were these people all chastising me and I investigated and asked questions...I got over myself and my own hurt feelings to find the answer for my pups sake. There came a point when I realized that if I came to a Yorkie Site filled with tons of people that perhaps...just perhaps....I was the one who WAS wrong, hmmmmm could I admit that, could I possibly get around it???? Could I get past my defensiveness for the better of my dog and READ what they were saying instead of taking in personally....well I went with the majority and did what they suggested I did because "hey, they must know something"...the people here saved my pup and me...I am forever grateful that I took their constructive criticism to heart and fought past my own personal feelings, I realized they were here for a reason...I still do...a couple thousand posts later, a bunch of new friends....and resources to turn to when I need help with my pups...the knowledge and experience I've gained because of YT....well its quite immeasurable...its now truly a part of who I am, so to all the whiners like me...take a good look at yourself, take the time to read the words and remember these folks have been here a good long time, they are a resource far greater than you know...if you just allow them/us....PTL for YT!!!

Originally Posted by Piddle Place (Post 4488761)

Hey everyone, I thank you again for the the advice and friendship I find on YT. It does feel like family, and I am grateful

Come on now, group hug..

Originally Posted by bjh (Post 4488771)

:ghug:

Originally Posted by McheleM (Post 4490475)

Does this mean no more mattress tag ripping????

(There's no other place I can go and get away with that)

Originally Posted by 107barney (Post 4503432)

I think that people make choices...
You don't have to let an animal suffer if you can't afford vet care.
You should choose your priorities in life wisely.
Some people really can benefit from the suggestions offered here but those who give the advice will more often than not be left shaking their heads or feeling frustrated when the owner has some bs excuse.

Originally Posted by kimp5 (Post 4503419)

I hope this works. I took a break because I was tired of posting to people that were asking for help via private message to tell them not everyone feels like some do on this board. Some people got so beat up and it wasn't called for. I used to love being on here but soon grew wary of all all the bashing and contempt some had for people who may have made legitimate mistakes or because of economic reasons couldn't get their pet to a $$$$ specialist. It doesnt mean they didn't love their pet as much as anyone else.
Here's hoping for tolerance and compassion...:)

Originally Posted by Piddle Place (Post 4503429)

Thank you,

I agree. I love seeing the beautiful Yorkies here. When breeders post new puppy photos, I am the first to click on the photos and smile. If it were not for breeders, I probably would not be in business, as breeders are one of our best customers for indoor dog toilets

On the other hand, profits from our company supports many shelters, and I volunteer at a shelter. I see many of these dogs adopted to loving homes, and I know they will have a great life. But you are correct, many of the people that come to our shelter would not have the financial means to comply with the advice given here.

Because these people may not be financially able to follow expensive advice, they still come to Yorkie talk looking for solutions. Your suggestions can be a wonderful "jumping off point" for someone to find better food for their pet, know when to take their dog to the vet, know other people have had similar problems, and share how they dealt with these issues.

I have found wonderful advice here, and I thank you all very much. When Jazz was sick, you shared recipes that were less expensive then buying dog food, and improve her health, I had never thought of buying a dog harness for my car. You never know who is coming to YT desperate for help for a sick dog, looking to you to tell us how you worked through behavior issues, keep sharing in a non-critical environment and we all benefit.:animal36:thumbup: