Originally Posted by BabyGirl Rosie (Post 4467615)

There are some wonderful members here on YT. I am so blessed to know many of you. So I want to share something on a positive note.

http://www.yorkietalk.com/forums/gen...bers-read.html

This really is a great place to be a member of. There are caring, compassionate people who I am so glad I now know.

Originally Posted by LR Texas (Post 4468272)

Im relativley new to this sight.I have to say Ive been hesitant to interact because of the agressive attitude on some of the blogs.nice to hear someone out there is more interested in a more agreable friendly attitude.most people i would think are joining to learn and share info witch is great im one of those.:)

Originally Posted by LR Texas (Post 4468272)

Im relativley new to this sight.I have to say Ive been hesitant to interact because of the agressive attitude on some of the blogs.nice to hear someone out there is more interested in a more agreable friendly attitude.most people i would think are joining to learn and share info witch is great im one of those.:)

Originally Posted by lisaly (Post 4468282)

YT is really a wonderful, compassionate community with members who really care and want to help. Even through my little girl, Ashley, passed away four years ago, and I didn't have a dog for almost two years, I still came here a great deal because I grew to care about this community and the pups so much. I've had Yorkies in my life for close to forty years ( except for those two years before Katie captured our hearts), and I am still learning. I hope you stick around and join us.

Originally Posted by Cat2861 (Post 4468424)

I am new this year to YT and I try to read a lot of threads that I am interested in. Last night I was on a thread where I could not believe what I was reading. This person was looking for help regarding a bad situation and there were some members that were basically attacking that person and I believe that person has not returned to YT. I understand that people do not agree with what other people may do with their animals or life however, we do not have control over what they do or not do. Therefore, belittling them is not going to help them or make the issue any better. If you can't help them or say something nice then you are better off not saying anything at all. I must admit that the story was disturbing to me about that person's dog however, they needed to take care of another issue and members were chastising them still about the death of their dog and the unfortunate situation they got themselves in to. I must admit I cried for that dog and had I been in my younger years I probably would have written something not so nice. However, as we age and experience life we learn what not to do/or do. All....we are not perfect and we are only human. You have to remember that what may be common sense to you is not so much common sense to others. It can be frustrating at times but just hope that there won't be a next time with that person making the same mistakes. I also thought last night...darn if I have an issue I would think twice about posting for help because of other people's mean comments/posts. Ok...I'm done and I will get off my soapbox now. Have a great day all! ;)

Originally Posted by Cat2861 (Post 4468424)

I am new this year to YT and I try to read a lot of threads that I am interested in. Last night I was on a thread where I could not believe what I was reading. This person was looking for help regarding a bad situation and there were some members that were basically attacking that person and I believe that person has not returned to YT. I understand that people do not agree with what other people may do with their animals or life however, we do not have control over what they do or not do. Therefore, belittling them is not going to help them or make the issue any better. If you can't help them or say something nice then you are better off not saying anything at all. I must admit that the story was disturbing to me about that person's dog however, they needed to take care of another issue and members were chastising them still about the death of their dog and the unfortunate situation they got themselves in to. I must admit I cried for that dog and had I been in my younger years I probably would have written something not so nice. However, as we age and experience life we learn what not to do/or do. All....we are not perfect and we are only human. You have to remember that what may be common sense to you is not so much common sense to others. It can be frustrating at times but just hope that there won't be a next time with that person making the same mistakes. I also thought last night...darn if I have an issue I would think twice about posting for help because of other people's mean comments/posts. Ok...I'm done and I will get off my soapbox now. Have a great day all! ;)

Originally Posted by Yorkiemom1 (Post 4468565)

I must have missed that post.....I thought everyone was walking around on egg shells, trying especially hard to keep from offending anyone....did you report the post that was so offensive? Ann (the person that started THIS post) has said for us to report such nasty posts.....I hope you reported that example of harrassing and attacking a poster....

Originally Posted by TxVicki (Post 4468585)

Originally Posted by matese (Post 4468586)

Perhaps not. 2 days after this thread started a member was so nasty, the nastiest I have ever seen on this site since I joined, I was in total shock at the response given to a new comer also that someone would go against what this thread was all about. AND the new comer has NOT returned.

Originally Posted by ladyjane (Post 4468605)

Report, report, report.

We cannot assume that people don't return just because a person was "mean" to them. Many people come here just to start nonsense....not all, and it is not a reason for people to be rude. Just saying that it is not always the reason people don't return. I have seen plenty of people come here and be welcomed with open arms....they get what they came for and they don't return. I don't assume they left for any particular reason. They simply left.

But, as for people saying that so and so left because someone was rude, I have to say yet again, REPORT

Originally Posted by Cat2861 (Post 4468634)

This thread was addressed about a week after the posts I had read. Whether it was done because it was reported...I don't know. The reason why I said that the person has not returned was because nobody answered their needed question (at least not on the forum...they may have pm them) and the fact that there are no updates or any other posts from that person. I'm just assuming and you know what happens when you assume :)

Originally Posted by BabyGirl Rosie (Post 4467615)

There are some wonderful members here on YT. I am so blessed to know many of you. So I want to share something on a positive note.

http://www.yorkietalk.com/forums/gen...bers-read.html

This really is a great place to be a member of. There are caring, compassionate people who I am so glad I now know.

Originally Posted by ladyjane (Post 4468827)

:thumbup::thumbup::thumbup: Nice to see positive.

I for one am getting sick of the constant complaints. How about everyone start out being part of a solution instead of part of the problem? It takes two to tango.

Originally Posted by ladyjane (Post 4469582)

Saw this today and thought it might be applicable and perhaps might add to the quality of our community:

https://gma.yahoo.com/video/man-goes...124559162.html

Originally Posted by ladyjane (Post 4468827)

:thumbup::thumbup::thumbup: I for one am getting sick of the constant complaints. How about everyone start out being part of a solution instead of part of the problem? It takes two to tango.

Originally Posted by Wylie's Mom (Post 4465267)

Hi all -

Firstly, I just want to say what a wonderful community YT is, and that I hope this thread can help us all think about improving our presence here during interactions…even if it just means tweaking our posting styles a bit.

I’ll get right to the point: we’ve been receiving a huge amount of communications from members who are concerned/venting about some of the harshness and aggression they’re seeing/perceiving in the community. This harshness pertains to both new and old members - on both the receiving and giving end of things. We’re hearing there is a pervasive feeling that members are being driven away via disrespectful, snarky, disdainful, extremely aggressive, and downright mean posting styles. This needs to stop.

We cannot be a community or call ourselves a community if we don’t come together sometimes, as a collective, and agree to do better. Well, it’s time to come together and agree to do better...to be more aware of giving (yes, GIVING) respect, to be more kind, to be more compassionate and supportive.

No one is asking anyone to be a Pollyanna or to not be themselves. We’re merely asking that, in your interactions, you strive harder and TRULY commit to what is mentioned in the previous paragraph. It’s not that hard -- and if it IS hard for you, then perhaps this isn’t the right board for you and perhaps it’s time to move on from YT to find an environment that does fit.

We are not asking much. If you do think we’re asking too much, then 1) this is not the community for you 2) you’re being self-centered and 3) you need to develop your insight into human beings, other than yourself. WE ARE NOT ASKING MUCH.

It is okay to speak your mind here at YT. However, it is not okay to simply justify any means you deem fit to meet your end goal. We believe in being STRONG advocates for dogs/animals - but not, however, at the expense of the human being behind that dependent and innocent dog. Please do not assume or think that it’s okay to behave any way you please merely because it’s in the interest of an animal. We all need to be decent here and post w/ a modicum of respect…EVEN when and especially when dealing with someone who is doing everything we are personally opposed to. Your opposition to another human being’s behavior does *not* mean you are right, nor is it a fact that they are universally and categorically wrong….it merely means you have opposition. Please learn to deal with it because it’s not going away.

If we see excessively negative and/or badgering posting styles, we will be warning people or suspending people and/or permanently banning members’ accounts.

This is an open discussion in terms of feedback, thoughts, concerns….so please feel free to share. This post is not aimed at anyone, so please do not make assumptions. It was driven by the sheer amount of concerned members who expressed themselves via PMs and on the forum itself. Thank you for reading! :)

Originally Posted by chattiesmom (Post 4469592)

I agree 100%. If we all read and follow the YT guidelines and heed our most esteemed Moderator, Ann's reminder to "Everyone Please Read: Going Forward, We Must Post With More Respect Toward Others" we would all be part of the solution rather than the problem. And adding my two bits....

What really bugs me is when a thread is taken off subject and becomes a private battleground for members with opposing ideas/views. And the battle goes on and on and on.... Continually repeating the same ole same ole in the SAME thread will not win the battle, it only serves to anger and cause discord among members.

Originally Posted by Wylie's Mom (Post 4469589)

I love it, how interesting! I can complain about SO many things...traffic, customer service, being treated poorly by someone, what have you...and I think it'd be really healthy to just not complain for 21 days. I may have to try this, I wonder if I could even do it, lol!

Originally Posted by Cat2861 (Post 4469595)

Hmmmmm.....This thread was started because of negative, demeaning and aggressive posting styles and it is so evident when you read through the threads. I understand that their are strong minded people because if you ask my husband he will tell you I am the biggest strong minded person he has met. Most of the times it's a good thing but at other times it's not. Lol. People do stupid stuff everyday whether it's to themselves, another person or animal or in life general and demeaning them or being aggressive towards them is not going to change them. Don't get me wrong...I am the biggest advocate for animals and there are tons of posts that I have cried when I read them. To the point where I can't read them anymore. I believe the only thing we could hope is when they come to YT looking for help we can guide them and encourage them to read the threads and maybe, just maybe they will learn from their mistakes. Since I have gotten older, throughout the years I have had to learn to bite my tongue when others have said or done something stupid. I realized that not everybody has common sense, smarts, education, ethics, etc. I go at it in a different approach now. The other point I like to make is that expressing our opinions in writing whether it's on a forum, letter or e-mail is tricky enough because it can be emotionally charged. Sometimes we need to just step back, re-read and adjust our phrases, tone or words. That's just proper writing etiquette. You know how in an e-mail people get offended that others write in caps because they feel that you are yelling at them which may or may not be the case. Just remember that your tone cannot be heard in writing like it could be in person.

Just MHO....Have a great day!