Originally Posted by maxdog (Post 4750814)

just kidding!

:D

Originally Posted by AbbysMom08 (Post 4754622)

Congrats on your little Cedric!
Would love to see pictures of him.

Originally Posted by AbbysMom08 (Post 4754624)

Wish I could be of some help but it's been quite some time since I posted a picture so I'm afraid I wouldn't be much help. Hoping you can figure it out so we can see your little guy :)

Originally Posted by FureverLexi (Post 4754621)

Hi YorkieTalkers...
I think this needs to be said, and then dropped. For good. Because I see there has been recent activity in this thread, this seems to be the best place to post. In January, I had made, I don't know, maybe my third post on YT, and I felt as if I'd been "attacked". I asked one simple question concerning the health concerns of a Yorkie singleton, and it seemed to turn into a debate about the reputability of my breeder. To question this was not appropriate in my opinion, because that's not the question I asked. At the time, I did not feel the need to defend myself or my breeder, and I still don't. She is a fine breeder (well I should say was, because she has retired from breeding), and despite the skepticism of her being a show dog breeder, she is. A picture of her show dog is right here on YT.

But that's not my point here. I joined YT to get valuable information regarding Yorkie puppies, because I am new to Yorkie puppyhood, not new to dogs or puppies. I did leave, and I've been gone awhile because of the responses. While I do understand this was probably out of the norm, it did hurt me because really, there were few comments after that.

So. I want to air my grievance because there seem to have been similar issues in the past. However, I will NOT respond to any comments regarding my post.. I won't perpetuate any drama this may be perceived as causing. I do want to validate though, that this kind of behavior has existed on this forum and I do feel it should be addressed.

That being said... I have my most beautiful Cedric. He is now 13.5 weeks and he is gorgeous. Being a singleton, his breeder gave him so many unique opportunities to thrive in a less than stellar environment (mom), including a 16 week old therapy dog, and he did. He is a perfect little angel. I love him so!

Originally Posted by FureverLexi (Post 4754621)

...{ -PARTIAL QUOTE- }...

I asked one simple question concerning the health concerns of a Yorkie singleton, and it seemed to turn into a debate about the reputability of my breeder. To question this was not appropriate in my opinion, because that's not the question I asked. At the time, I did not feel the need to defend myself or my breeder, and I still don't.

So. I want to air my grievance because there seem to have been similar issues in the past. However, I will NOT respond to any comments regarding my post.. I won't perpetuate any drama this may be perceived as causing. I do want to validate though, that this kind of behavior has existed on this forum and I do feel it should be addressed.

Originally Posted by Wylie's Mom (Post 4754757)

Hello Furever Lexi and welcome back to YT - very glad you've returned :)!

The fact you've returned is evidence to me that - 1) you care about your precious Cedric :love: and 2) you want to learn more about yorkies through being part of a community of other yorkie-owners and 3) though your previous YT experience was upsetting, your mind is open enough to, well, stay open.

And before I proceed further, I'd just ask that you keep that #3 at top of mind please, and surround that with the idea of only good intentions - bc that's truly all I have here.

First, you are more than welcome at any time to air your grievances or feelings or opinions here at YT - but that is true of any member. That's what truly makes YT a real *community* - we have to tolerate all these opinions and differences - some of which can make us crazy at times (lol :rolleyes:).

But as to that sentence above that I bolded in red - I actually have to address that and clarify it for you, bc if I don't you would have very unrealistic expectations of your time here at YT. So, to that point -- just bc you "didn't ask" or mention anything about discussing your breeder - it does not mean in any way that members here cannot express an opinion about the breeder. If members see red flags about a breeder or about a situation or want to research that breeder -- they are more than welcome to do that here -- bc this is YorkieTalk after all, and we welcome all opinions as long as they follow our rules.

If you do not want to defend your breeder or respond to anything about your breeder - that's totally your decision. Just like it's completely another member's decision if they decide to post about any breeder out there, including your breeder -- and including a fact like whether your breeder releases their puppies at 9wks or such (not considered ethical with yorkies, btw).

It's not disrespectful for a member to state an opinion that is different from your own. It's not disrespectful -or- inappropriate for a member to express an opinion on your thread regarding something that perhaps you did not directly bring up yourself. This is, after all, a community *discussion* board about yorkies - so all members, including yourself, are more than welcome to discuss opinions.

Hope that helps clarify things a bit :). Again, welcome back to you and Cedric! Please, truly stay and look around with an open mind. YT is so rich with info about yorkies - it's where I've learned about 98% of what I know about yorkies and dogs - don't know what I would've done without it. And trust me, I too have had dust-ups with folks, hurt feelings, high emotions -- all that normal stuff ;) -- we've all been there. And we've all had to find our ways to move forward...for our love of yorkies :).

Originally Posted by ladyjane (Post 4754788)

Very nicely worded....all of it.

As to the bolded line...Heavens yes. I remember signing off swearing I would never come back....now wild horses wouldn't run me off. I love this forum.

Originally Posted by Wylie's Mom (Post 4754903)

Hah, right...?! Me too :p! Our emotions can run high here, I mean these are our kids right?! But this is such an amazing forum that is so rich in information - and one can make the most wonderful friendships here :)!

Originally Posted by ladyjane (Post 4754904)

Oh yes!!...I have met so many awesome people on YT :love:

Originally Posted by Jkpal (Post 4754941)

Originally Posted by Wylie's Mom (Post 4465267)

Hi all -

Firstly, I just want to say what a wonderful community YT is, and that I hope this thread can help us all think about improving our presence here during interactions…even if it just means tweaking our posting styles a bit.

I’ll get right to the point: we’ve been receiving a huge amount of communications from members who are concerned/venting about some of the harshness and aggression they’re seeing/perceiving in the community. This harshness pertains to both new and old members - on both the receiving and giving end of things. We’re hearing there is a pervasive feeling that members are being driven away via disrespectful, snarky, disdainful, extremely aggressive, and downright mean posting styles. This needs to stop.

We cannot be a community or call ourselves a community if we don’t come together sometimes, as a collective, and agree to do better. Well, it’s time to come together and agree to do better...to be more aware of giving (yes, GIVING) respect, to be more kind, to be more compassionate and supportive.

No one is asking anyone to be a Pollyanna or to not be themselves. We’re merely asking that, in your interactions, you strive harder and TRULY commit to what is mentioned in the previous paragraph. It’s not that hard -- and if it IS hard for you, then perhaps this isn’t the right board for you and perhaps it’s time to move on from YT to find an environment that does fit.

We are not asking much. If you do think we’re asking too much, then 1) this is not the community for you 2) you’re being self-centered and 3) you need to develop your insight into human beings, other than yourself. WE ARE NOT ASKING MUCH.

It is okay to speak your mind here at YT. However, it is not okay to simply justify any means you deem fit to meet your end goal. We believe in being STRONG advocates for dogs/animals - but not, however, at the expense of the human being behind that dependent and innocent dog. Please do not assume or think that it’s okay to behave any way you please merely because it’s in the interest of an animal. We all need to be decent here and post w/ a modicum of respect…EVEN when and especially when dealing with someone who is doing everything we are personally opposed to. Your opposition to another human being’s behavior does *not* mean you are right, nor is it a fact that they are universally and categorically wrong….it merely means you have opposition. Please learn to deal with it because it’s not going away.

If we see excessively negative and/or badgering posting styles, we will be warning people or suspending people and/or permanently banning members’ accounts.

This is an open discussion in terms of feedback, thoughts, concerns….so please feel free to share. This post is not aimed at anyone, so please do not make assumptions. It was driven by the sheer amount of concerned members who expressed themselves via PMs and on the forum itself. Thank you for reading! :)

Originally Posted by EnzaTG (Post 4794642)

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Originally Posted by Jkpal (Post 4794756)

Matese, once again you show how insightful, fair, intelligent, compassionate, and bright you are...I think you are quite wonderful and consider you one of my dearest "yet-to-meet" friends; I am blessed to do so and glad to have you in my life--however that may be!!