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07-11-2010, 01:42 AM | #1 |
Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Usa
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| Omg please can you help me!!!! Hiya everyone, I have not been on here in such a long time i have been so busy, but i hope you still wouldnt mind helping me. My bf moved in last september Bailey my yorkie ajusted fine and loved Andreas. Andreas straight away showed Bailey he was boss and Bailey accepted it with no problems. We stopped bailey from jumping on the couch which was ok and Bailey soon learnt that he was not allowed to jump up on the furniture unless andreas was out the room and he would jump on me straight away (i would tell him to get down). Bailey was ok with that as in the winter months he had the heater to lie infront of so wasnt to bad. We got a cat in december and Bailey and the cat are like two peas in a pod haha. Totally love each other which is great hehe!! Then the problems started about 2months ago!! I dont know if i paid him to much attention around that time or it was the fact its gettin hotter so the heater is no longer there for him to lie infront of, but Bailey is driving me crazy!! It started with him standing looking at me and whining when he was in the livingroom. He didnt want to go out and he had food and water in his bowel, He just wanted my attention Now Bailey has always loved to be on me asleep and loves any kind of attention from ANYONE. He aint a shy doggie at all lol. I didnt let him up on me but it just got worse and worse over the weeks to the point i was in tears one night and i caved in and let him sleep on me where he stopped whinning and went right to sleep. Now he has always been clingy and wanted my attention and follows me everywhere i go but he has never really cried for my attention before... maybe because he always had my attention before Andreas moved in, but Andreas has been living with us for nearly a year now so why has he just started playing up now?? Well once i had caved in that was it he has been terrible!! I cant do anything, He cries stanning in front of me while i am sat on the couch all the time... just stands there crying to be up on me. I tried a water spray everytime he cried and stood there, but it didnt work he would just cry run away and then come back again and stand and do the same thing.... it ended up he looked like he had been swimming one night lol. I live in a Flat so me and my BF eat our meals in the livingroom as i have no room for a kitchen table. Bailey used to just sit on the floor while we ate and fall asleep but of late he just stands looking at us both crying??? Why? If i lock him out the room he goes ape!! He has food and he likes his food? Also every night i go to sleep and the moment the tv in the livingroom was turned off he went right into his bed to sleep. The last 2weeks he has been crying when me and Andreas go into the bedroom?? I dont understand why he has suddenly started doing this? Also in the morning at about 7am he starts crying again and trys to get into my bedroom by pushing the door open. I have had to start putting a box behind the door so he cant get in. Now it sounds like a dont give my dog any affection but i really do, He goes on lovely long walks and i have even started taking him on another walk of a night time as i thought if he was tired he wont wanna cry but it didnt work. I have been talking to my friend about it and she said to totally ignore him when he cries? He is just wanting my attention. So as of yesterday i have been totally ignoreing him. I have put him in the kitchen and shut the dog gate so he can still see us in the livingroom but cant get to us... as crying behaviour is not acceptable in the ''pack'' and if he is silent without crying then he can come into the livingroom with us, but the moment he starts crying back in the kitchen he will go. Well he is going mad in the kitchen jumping up at the dog gate and crying non stop. I just walked into the kicthen and he has done a poo and a wee all over the kicten, but i just ignored him, cleaned it up and went back into the livingroom ignoreing him. So he just went mad again jumping up at the gate and crying. He has just calmed down now and got into his bed. There is no crying i am going to leave it alittle longer and if he is silent then he can come into the livingroom with us. Can someone please tell me if i am doing the right thing? He has been driving me crazy or the last 2months and i really dont know how to stop it. I have totally caved in and let him have his way but that just made him worse and has made him cry of a night to be with me etc etc. I dunno what to do. I really need some advice on how to stop this. Help me please xxx
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07-11-2010, 04:11 AM | #2 |
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| I really can't help you b/c all of our five Yorkies lay on us, sleep on us, in our bed, on our couch and I never thought of that as wrong. They are lap dogs, right? Only one question... where is your cat during all of Bailey's crying? I hope somebody can help you! |
07-11-2010, 04:37 AM | #3 | |
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he's feeling very insecure and maybe I would hold him when he wants - show him gently that he IS important and maybe one day soon he'll feel less stress ? My oldest can be very bossy- but never in a crying way - just hissy fit little noises sometimes when she wants my attention (like if I'm on the phone) or for me to play and throw toys etc - and it works too Edited to add - when I say hissy fit - I am not kidding - she even stomps her foot and makes little pissed off sounds - it's pretty funny actually - she's my talker
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07-11-2010, 04:52 AM | #4 |
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| I hope you don't get offended by what I'm going to say.... but I'm thinking that you paid Bailey alot of attention before the boyfriend moved in and now he is sad because things have changed. But the question is why should they? My pups would not be relegated to the floor because of a relationship. They were here first.... And by the way...Bailey is adorable! I don't know if I could not hold and kiss that sweet face constantly!
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07-11-2010, 05:01 AM | #5 |
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| I am thinking that things changed when the boyfriend came. new rules and I am not any help for my dogs sleep with me, sit with me where ever I am,, they are my life. My hubby can look after himself and can talk.. my babies cannot.. So I am thinking your babie is just not happy with all the new rules and is thinking, hey he has his nerve changing the life I had.. what is this.. and he is trying to tell you..If he doesn't like my dog then he would be out the door.. sorry.. but it is how I feel.. |
07-11-2010, 05:21 AM | #6 |
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| Make sure Bailey is getting enough exercise and stimulation to drain his energy. Keep in mind that your disposition and attitude will directly affect Bailey's. In other words, if you are anxious and frustrated and annoyed, your dog will be too. During waking hours, I wouldn't use the spray bottle for crying or for other undesirable behavior that he uses to try to get your attention. I don't think he understood why you were spraying him. Instead, find something for him to do. |
07-11-2010, 05:32 AM | #7 | |
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I have little boy who whines for attention which me and my bf conditioned him with too much(yes, too much! My BF raised him on his hand!!! BF carried him everwhere and held him at all time) attention. My guess is that bailey is used to be with you and be wherever he wanted to be including couch, and here comes alpha male(your BF) taking charge and taking bailey's space. Don't get me wrong, but I think your BF need to be close to bailey and try to connect with him. I can imagine bailey thinking "what the hell? who is this guy? why is he not letting me be with my best friend? Hope bailey feels better soon~
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07-11-2010, 05:35 AM | #8 | |
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It's hard once you've allowed them do things in the past, such as get on the furniture, and then some new person moves in and the rules all change. That's what it sounded like to me anyways and probably how Bailey looks at it? I don't have this problem simply because I allow Jackson access to wherever I am. I think he would go nuts too if locked away or not able to sleep with me... I don't see a problem with it but maybe that's just me. Bailey was brought up thinking these things were okay, and now they're suddenly not, so he's probably confused.
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07-11-2010, 05:38 AM | #9 |
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| Wish I could help! Thomas was always so independent...slept on the floor..never wanted to sit with us..etc..until my older dog passed away. Now he is all over us and I Love It! When we eat in the Living Room..he sits on the back of the chair and lays his head on your shoulder! Watches you eat..waiting for his treat!
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07-11-2010, 05:43 AM | #10 |
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| Thomas J ; I love your little words of wisdom = Properly trained, a man can be dog's best friend. TOTALLY TRUE!!!
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07-11-2010, 05:44 AM | #11 |
Donating Senior Yorkie Talker | Please don't think I'm trying to be rude...But i really think you need to rethink all these "new" rules baily has. Yorkies are companion dogs...as i'm sure you know...They are like little babies.. They want to be with you all the time...Is that a bad thing? No, i don't feel like it is... Before your boyfriend came to live with you Bailey was able to be with you more.. But now he can't be on the couch, bed etc... He's going to try to get your attention any way he can and by you spraying him with a water bottle for crying is not going to help...He's crying because something is bother him... His world has been turned upside down by your boyfriend.. He does NOT understand why things haved changed.
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07-11-2010, 05:53 AM | #12 | |
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I'm currently reading Victoria Stilwell's "It's Me or the Dog: How to Have the Perfect Pet" and I highly recommend it to the OP. It's an easy and fun read. | |
07-11-2010, 05:57 AM | #13 |
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| I totally agree with the above posts......Bailey is crying for attention. He does not understand why all of a sudden he can't sit with you or be in the same room as you. He thinks he is being punished and is no longer a member of the pack. I think spraying him with water will only add to him feeling insecure. By peeing and pooing on the floor, he is trying to get any kind of attention from you....granted this is negative attention, but it is working to some degree. Is the kitty allowed on furniture? Is the kitty gated to the same room as Bailey? This could also be an issue for him as well. I would suggest that you allow Bailey the same privileges as he had previous to your boyfriend moving in and see if this behavior doesn't turn around. Good Luck.
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07-11-2010, 06:01 AM | #14 |
Senior Yorkie Talker | Where is the heater he used to lay in front of? It sounds to me like he is missing or wanting something. As crazy as this sounds, it could be the heater. It may have provided him some sort of constant stability. I am unsure what kind of heater it is, but from your post it sounds like a portable heater that was removed for the hotter weather. If so, I would bring the heater back out and see how he responds. You don't have to turn it on. It may be that he wants it back for security. I hope this helps. YorkieProud IF YOU ARE HAVING A BAD DAY, JUST LOOK IN THE FACE OF YOUR YORKIE AND EVERYTHING WILL BE OKAY!! |
07-11-2010, 06:07 AM | #15 | |
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ps....I also wanted to comment I would not use a water sprayer on him for just trying to get your love - he has changes in his life.... and as a dog - he has no idea why all of a sudden this is happening. It's not going to help at all and will just make him more unhappy and it sounds like he's very unhappy right now and really craving your attention and love as he knew it before. Water is a last resort for certain things such as barking and while I don't do it - I know others have done it with sucess but this isn't that kind of situation- he needs to know he is still part of the family and is showing you in many ways that he is really feeling left out. Dogs are very very smart. Too smart !
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