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red98vett · 07-11-2010, 06:14 AM

ps - hmm - there is no way I had a five minute edit time - it was more like one minute lol

I just wanted to say in my above post it wasn't to be mean - it was just to help you. You really need to go a different route with him so he feels safe again.

chachi · 07-11-2010, 06:26 AM

I just think Bailey needs more of your attention. If your going to make rulesz that he cant be on the bed and furniture your gonna have to make up for that somewhere else. Walks arent enough. get on the floor and play with him. Teach him obedience and tricks. Give him lots of individual attention and TLC

Lolasmom1211 · 07-11-2010, 07:10 AM

Oh my gosh, I try like crazy to get my two to snuggle and sit with me! When they do, I try not to do anything to distract them because I love it so much -that is why I got them! I think wanting to sit with you and snuggle with you is just the nature of this particular breed and trying to change that would be almost impossible. Your baby probably feels even more need to do so because maybe he hasn't been able to as much as he used to or possibly because he sees the boyfriend as a threat. He needs to be reassured and held and loved, not sprayed with water and placed alone in another room. I know you love him and you are trying to do the right thing, but maybe you need to try another approach and give him more attention so he feels reassured. Good luck!

Reese1 · 07-11-2010, 07:27 AM

I'm no help either!
I'm in the same boat as others who have replied!
We have three Yorkies & they are allowed on the furniture & want to be with us all the time!
They are lap dogs!
I think that is a Yorkie personality, they are not the most independent dogs, lol!

I don't want to sound mean either, but I would never change the rules for someone else. I mean, if there were behavior issues that bothered you and wanted to change, that is one thing.
Our dogs want to be with us 24/7!

kalina82 · 07-11-2010, 08:16 AM

i can understand people not wanting their dogs up on the furniture but i don't see why you wouldn't want to cuddle with him on your lap when your boyfriend isn't there. don't you miss snuggling with him? I'd teach him that he's only allowed on the couch when you say its ok. Give him a nice comfy bed in the living room to be his place and make sure he has interactive toys to occupy himself with. a bored dog is a naughty dog.

jltwigg10 · 07-11-2010, 11:20 AM

I understand that you are frustrated. I have seen that my little ones do not really like change much. Mine are crate trained to sleep in a crate at night. It is the only time my 3 cats feel like they can relax and roam the house to play.

I love for mine to sit on my lap or lay next to me when we watch TV or a movie.

I hope that things get better for you soon.

BTW, I was glad to read that others have multiple babies.

lrichardsonrnc · 07-11-2010, 11:48 AM

Oh my goodness, Villette said it as kindly as possible. Yorkies are BABIES! They are to be treated as such. They respond to tender loving care. He's crying for attention. To be loved. Put the dang boyfriend in the kitchen behind a gate and spray HIM with a water bottle.

luvfla · 07-11-2010, 12:06 PM

Bailey is cuter than any man could possibly be...ditch the boyfriend and cuddle with that little punkin' of yours!

MollysMum54 · 07-11-2010, 12:24 PM

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Originally Posted by lrichardsonrnc

Put the dang boyfriend in the kitchen behind a gate and spray HIM with a water bottle.

my thoughts exactly! Its 'love me, love my dog' in this house.

aljopamic · 07-11-2010, 12:30 PM

If I am reading correctly, it was OK with you if Bailey came on the furniture etc. before the BF. As a Mom of both yorkies and children, if my daughter came to me with this problem, I would be asking her why she is letting the BF change the rules. Your Bailey will always give you unconditional love until the day he goes to the Rainbow Bridge.....can you say the same for the BF.

I hope this didn't come across as being harsh but it would be the advice I would give my own daughter. I feel very badly for Bailey....his whole world changed.

DvlshAngel985 · 07-11-2010, 12:39 PM

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Originally Posted by luvfla

Bailey is cuter than any man could possibly be...ditch the boyfriend and cuddle with that little punkin' of yours!

HAHAHA! You're funny.

To OP: I am sorry and have to agree with the other posters. Kaji is my world now and he comes first. Recently, my 4 year relationship fell apart. I think the biggest thing that I am going to miss was his acceptance of my little guy. I got Kaji the last year of my relationship. Let me make this clear, I got him, not we. I loved the way my ex accepted my little guy. If we were eating, Kaji was on my lap, or sitting at our feet. If we were watching tv, he was on ex-bf's lap or right in the middle so Kaji could get belly rubs from both of us. Ex-bf would even help me with walks if I was busy making dinner. Kaji was always welcome at ex-bf's house; even date nights were planned around Kaji.

Ex-bf knew how important Kaji is to me and he would never make me compromise who I was or make me choose between my two loves.

I think all the changes are very confusing to your baby. I would suggest you have a sit down with boyfriend and find out why he imposed so many changes in your lives. If anything, you'll get to know him better.

Beamers Mom · 07-11-2010, 12:51 PM

Instead of giving Bailey new rules, you need to sit down with BF and spell out the rules to him.

BF's are a dime a dozen, there are plenty more fish in the sea etc, Yorkie's are lifelong, loyal companions and deserve to rule the roost.

Bailey loves you unconditionally, can you say the same for BF??

lrichardsonrnc · 07-11-2010, 02:00 PM

I'd be tellin that boyfriend "If you don't like my peaches, then don't shake my tree"!

Beamers Mom · 07-11-2010, 02:13 PM

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Originally Posted by lrichardsonrnc

i'd be tellin that boyfriend "if you don't like my peaches, then don't shake my tree"!

roflmao:d:d:d

christiers · 07-11-2010, 02:34 PM

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Originally Posted by mypreciouspups

I am thinking that things changed when the boyfriend came. new rules and I am not any help for my dogs sleep with me, sit with me where ever I am,, they are my life. My hubby can look after himself and can talk.. my babies cannot..
So I am thinking your babie is just not happy with all the new rules and is thinking, hey he has his nerve changing the life I had.. what is this.. and he is trying to tell you..If he doesn't like my dog then he would be out the door.. sorry.. but it is how I feel..

I agree with this sentiment. When my now DH and I first decided to move in together...into HIS house mind you, he expressed to me that "the dogs" wouldn't be allowed on the FURniture. I didn't have dogs, I have kids....what was he talking about??

I basically told him, that they were not restricted before and I wouldn't be restricting them now...if this was a problem I wish him a happy live because our attitudes would never meet in the middle on this. There was an agrement, no talking for a few days but in the end he decided they could be on the FURniture. Now at times I swear he keeps me around because he loves the furkids so much!

07-11-2010, 06:14 AM	#16
red98vett Yorkie Kisses are the Best! Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Houston TX Posts: 33,590 Blog Entries: 1	ps - hmm - there is no way I had a five minute edit time - it was more like one minute lol I just wanted to say in my above post it wasn't to be mean - it was just to help you. You really need to go a different route with him so he feels safe again. __________________ Villette, Chanel & Cheri www.DesignsByVillette.net Custom Address Labels and Note Cards using YOUR Photos! Just Click HERE!

07-11-2010, 06:26 AM	#17
chachi I Love My Yorkies Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Indianapolis, Indiana Posts: 37,147	I just think Bailey needs more of your attention. If your going to make rulesz that he cant be on the bed and furniture your gonna have to make up for that somewhere else. Walks arent enough. get on the floor and play with him. Teach him obedience and tricks. Give him lots of individual attention and TLC __________________ Chachi's & Jewels Mom Jewels http://www.dogster.com/?132431 Chachi http://www.dogster.com/?132427

07-11-2010, 07:27 AM	#19
Reese1 Donating YT 5000 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Ohio Posts: 5,304	I'm no help either! I'm in the same boat as others who have replied! We have three Yorkies & they are allowed on the furniture & want to be with us all the time! They are lap dogs! I think that is a Yorkie personality, they are not the most independent dogs, lol! I don't want to sound mean either, but I would never change the rules for someone else. I mean, if there were behavior issues that bothered you and wanted to change, that is one thing. Our dogs want to be with us 24/7! __________________ Crosley Wrigley Camden

07-11-2010, 08:16 AM	#20
kalina82 Phantom Queen Morrigan Donating Member Join Date: May 2006 Location: with my yorkie baby Posts: 10,141 Blog Entries: 1	i can understand people not wanting their dogs up on the furniture but i don't see why you wouldn't want to cuddle with him on your lap when your boyfriend isn't there. don't you miss snuggling with him? I'd teach him that he's only allowed on the couch when you say its ok. Give him a nice comfy bed in the living room to be his place and make sure he has interactive toys to occupy himself with. a bored dog is a naughty dog. __________________ Kellie and Morgan

07-11-2010, 11:20 AM	#21
jltwigg10 Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Clover, SC Posts: 1,329	I understand that you are frustrated. I have seen that my little ones do not really like change much. Mine are crate trained to sleep in a crate at night. It is the only time my 3 cats feel like they can relax and roam the house to play. I love for mine to sit on my lap or lay next to me when we watch TV or a movie. I hope that things get better for you soon. BTW, I was glad to read that others have multiple babies. __________________ Life is a roller coaster. Don't forget to throw your hands in the air and yell.

07-11-2010, 07:10 AM	#18
Lolasmom1211 Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Texas Posts: 664	Oh my gosh, I try like crazy to get my two to snuggle and sit with me! When they do, I try not to do anything to distract them because I love it so much -that is why I got them! I think wanting to sit with you and snuggle with you is just the nature of this particular breed and trying to change that would be almost impossible. Your baby probably feels even more need to do so because maybe he hasn't been able to as much as he used to or possibly because he sees the boyfriend as a threat. He needs to be reassured and held and loved, not sprayed with water and placed alone in another room. I know you love him and you are trying to do the right thing, but maybe you need to try another approach and give him more attention so he feels reassured. Good luck!

07-11-2010, 11:48 AM	#22
lrichardsonrnc Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: May 2009 Location: austin, texas USA Posts: 303 Blog Entries: 1	Oh my goodness, Villette said it as kindly as possible. Yorkies are BABIES! They are to be treated as such. They respond to tender loving care. He's crying for attention. To be loved. Put the dang boyfriend in the kitchen behind a gate and spray HIM with a water bottle.

07-11-2010, 12:06 PM	#23
luvfla YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Satellite Beach, FL Posts: 3,691	Bailey is cuter than any man could possibly be...ditch the boyfriend and cuddle with that little punkin' of yours! __________________ Elizabeth - mommy to...Keegan & Sweet Sophie RIP Duncan (the cat who wanted to be a dog) & Clarence

07-11-2010, 12:30 PM	#25
aljopamic Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Clarksville,TN Posts: 126	If I am reading correctly, it was OK with you if Bailey came on the furniture etc. before the BF. As a Mom of both yorkies and children, if my daughter came to me with this problem, I would be asking her why she is letting the BF change the rules. Your Bailey will always give you unconditional love until the day he goes to the Rainbow Bridge.....can you say the same for the BF. I hope this didn't come across as being harsh but it would be the advice I would give my own daughter. I feel very badly for Bailey....his whole world changed.

07-11-2010, 12:51 PM	#27
Beamers Mom Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Palm Bay, Fl, USA Posts: 5,957	Instead of giving Bailey new rules, you need to sit down with BF and spell out the rules to him. BF's are a dime a dozen, there are plenty more fish in the sea etc, Yorkie's are lifelong, loyal companions and deserve to rule the roost. Bailey loves you unconditionally, can you say the same for BF?? __________________ Help control the pet population. Have your pet spayed or neutered. - Bob Barker

07-11-2010, 02:00 PM	#28
lrichardsonrnc Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: May 2009 Location: austin, texas USA Posts: 303 Blog Entries: 1	I'd be tellin that boyfriend "If you don't like my peaches, then don't shake my tree"!