Omg please can you help me!!!!

[BaileyGates]

I am sorry if you all misread my first post.

QuickSilver seemed to understand what i was saying tho. Just upset at the remarks about my bf and about me not paying bailey enough attention because i really do.

For the last month i have tried everything to stop him from wanting all this extra attention. Took him for more walks, went on dog training classes to tire him out and played with him for hours of a night. When i sit and play with him it makes him 10 times worse for my attention. I have tried water spray when he cries for attention and i have tried to ignore him. I have tried giving him bones to chew on and even a ball thats drops teats out of its self. Nothing seems to be working and he is just crying non stop of my attention, not my BFs attention just mine. Andreas says he just sleeps when he is there but the moment he hears my car pull up outside he starts to cry, and he just crys non stop unless i have him on my knee stroking him. I cant even eat my tea without him standing looking at me crying

All this just started to happen 2months ago and has got worse! Nothing has changed only the fact the heater has been turned off so he cant lie infront of it and go to sleep no more. He aint cold its been very hot here and i have had the fan on the last few weeks. I dont know what the matter with him is. He is fine when its just him and my BF and he is fone when i have him on my knee stroking him, its ONLY when i stop strocking him (even if he is still on my knee) he starts to cry!

I tired to ignore him and out him out the room when he cries, which i know aint the best thing to do but i am really at a loss i REALLY dont know how to stop him from wanting my attention 24/7 THATS why i came on here asking for peoples help and advice!

I have been in tears over this i really dont know how to stop him from crying ALL the time.

[yorkiepuppie]

is it a big heater? if it's a small heater, can you try turning it back on for him and see if he is wanting that. (i know it's hot right now, but i mean maybe you can turn it on to see if that's what he is crying for)

i wonder if he is trying to tell you something. a lot of times when milu barks, i would check several things to see if that's why she is barking. sometimes i can't find anything that she might be barking about, i just ignore her and tell her to stop barking. but usually i will find out later what she wanted. so milu really doesn't bark for no reason.

did bailey use to bark so much for no reason? was he a barker? did he bark for attention. if this is unlike him, you really should try to find out why he is doing it. it might be health issue, he might be uncomfortable because of something. or it might be some sort of insecurity. you have new animals now? another cat and another dog right? maybe bailey doesn't feel like sharing you with the bf and the cat and the other dog. you know? milu always interferes me when i pay too much attention to my bunnies.

if milu suddenly have a drastic change in behavior and personality, i would definitely want to make sure her health is ok.

[Juliealfies mum]

Hi Tasha

I too have a little minx called Lottie who when she does not get her own way tends to cry and moan a little until she gets what she wants!! I try to ignore her when she does it and then the minute she stops, even if it is only for a few secs I click and give her a treat. Or I hide some treats around the room or in the garden and let her hunt around for them this seems to break the cycleof her little moan she iis having and then she usually settles down.
i noticed that you are in Newcastle , I have just driven up past there this weekend as I was down in Hartlepool visitng friends!!

[nana911]

She ain't called QUICKsilver for nuthin'....LOL

I'd take Bailey to the vet for a checkup and rule out any physical problems.

Maybe a heating pad, in place of the heater? Maybe one of those cheap chair back massagers that you could lay on the floor with a light blanket on it. You could turn it on low and it could 'rub' Bailey?

[lrichardsonrnc]

Hey! Include me in the carpool of people who misunderstood your original post. And believe me I ALWAYS COME TO THE DEFENCE OF THE YORKIE. Obviously, too quickly. Please don't take it personal. I never jump on anyone. In fact, I felt bad for you too. I didn't want your BF to be mean to you or your Yorkie. I'm sorry. Now that I realize that this is a resent event....I really think this little baby needs a check-up to see if anything is wrong physically. Let's make a deal...if you won't think all Texans are rude. I won't think all BF's need to be kicked to the curb.

[nana911]

Originally Posted by lrichardsonrnc

I won't think all BF's need to be kicked to the curb.

and then this......I mean c'mon.. just kidding!!!


* a little *

[QuickSilver]

Glad we all understand what you mean now.

To me, it sounds like you may have inadvertently created a really bad whining habit. He has learned that whining gets him what he wants. From his perspective, whining is not bad behavior, it's an effective communication technique he has been lucky enough to discover.

As a rule, once a habit like this has been well established, you will have to be really strong about not enforcing it. You should be prepared to let him whine for an hour at a time. *Ignore* him if he gives out a little peep. I wouldn't squirt him, just don't give him attention. If he whines on your lap, immediately put him on the floor and ignore him until he stops whining for, say, 30 seconds. Then you can say "good boy" and pick him back up.

It's just like with kids. If you give in every so often after he has been driving you CRAZY for twenty minutes, the next time he'll whine for forty, because hey, it just might work.

I agree you should probably take him in for a checkup just to rule out anything physical. If you can afford it, you can always bring a trainer to assess it too.

[miabellaamoure]

Originally Posted by nana911

She ain't called QUICKsilver for nuthin'....LOL

I'd take Bailey to the vet for a checkup and rule out any physical problems.

Maybe a heating pad, in place of the heater? Maybe one of those cheap chair back massagers that you could lay on the floor with a light blanket on it. You could turn it on low and it could 'rub' Bailey?

This was my initial thought when I read your thread...this should be on your list of things to do simply to rule out any underlying problem that isn't obvious.

The whining & crying could be symptomatic of a problem Bailey only feels comfortable crying to you about.

Keep us posted...

[QuickSilver]

You have to hand it to little Bailey for training you so well. Training is always a two way street. He has used negative reinforcement on you very effectively.

Here's my story of reverse training. Thor really likes to be on my lap. I like it when I'm reading or watching tv, but not when I'm working. Occasionally, I sit on the floor while I work. If Thor wants some attention, he will jump on the couch and paw at my shoulder, which is honestly the most ANNOYING THING EVER. It annoys me way more than whining, so much so that I immediately put him on my lap to stop him. Which of course is the worst possible thing to do to discourage the pawing. I have to laugh at how smart Thor is all the times when I don't want him to be.

[yorkiepuppie]

Originally Posted by QuickSilver

You have to hand it to little Bailey for training you so well. Training is always a two way street. He has used negative reinforcement on you very effectively.

Here's my story of reverse training. Thor really likes to be on my lap. I like it when I'm reading or watching tv, but not when I'm working. Occasionally, I sit on the floor while I work. If Thor wants some attention, he will jump on the couch and paw at my shoulder, which is honestly the most ANNOYING THING EVER. It annoys me way more than whining, so much so that I immediately put him on my lap to stop him. Which of course is the worst possible thing to do to discourage the pawing. I have to laugh at how smart Thor is all the times when I don't want him to be.

lol! i love it when milu paws at my shoulder! she doesn't scratch me though, she just taps me on my shoulder, and i think it's hilarious.

[QuickSilver]

Originally Posted by yorkiepuppie

lol! i love it when milu paws at my shoulder! she doesn't scratch me though, she just taps me on my shoulder, and i think it's hilarious.

With Thor, it's more like he's trying to dig a hole. It is hilarious, in an unbelievably annoying way.

[yorkiepuppie]

Originally Posted by QuickSilver

With Thor, it's more like he's trying to dig a hole. It is hilarious, in an unbelievably annoying way.

haha, i agree with you. i dont like it either if it's like that. just taping shoulder gently i dont mind so much.

[Mitzis Mom]

Hmmm... have you ever tried to use the 'tshhh' or the 'two-finger-bite' Cesar Milan uses? Reading all the posts I wonder if you don't (involuntarily) reward the unwanted behaviour and have him given the dominant role in your pack. I know a lot of members here don't like Cesar but I have to admit I've learned a lot by watching his shows and could get rid of quite a few annoying antics...

[lillymae]

Originally Posted by princessizzy

Please don't think I'm trying to be rude...But i really think you need to rethink all these "new" rules baily has.

Yorkies are companion dogs...as i'm sure you know...They are like little babies.. They want to be with you all the time...Is that a bad thing? No, i don't feel like it is... Before your boyfriend came to live with you Bailey was able to be with you more.. But now he can't be on the couch, bed etc...

He's going to try to get your attention any way he can and by you spraying him with a water bottle for crying is not going to help...He's crying because something is bother him...

His world has been turned upside down by your boyfriend.. He does NOT understand why things haved changed.

Totally Agree
I would never let Anyone come in and start making new rules for Me or my pets. I say maybe you need to rethink the BF if he can't take you for who you are and your pets are a BIG part of who you are then maybe he's not the one for you.

[BaileyGates]

Lilymae before you reply again maybe read ALL of the posts!

Thank you everyone for your more positive replys haha! I think i got a little upset last night when everyone started saying it was my bf because he honestly loves bailey just as much as me.. sometimes more i think lol. We give bailey alot of attention and yes he has learnt that crying gets him more attention. If i didnt care about my yorkie and love him very much do you really think i would be on here looking for help and advice.

He is not ill or anything like that, he went to the vets last week for a check up and i told the vet what he is doing and he also said he is just wanting attention and i need to break the habit.

I am going to carry on ignoring him when he cries. I normally give in and let him sleep on me while i stroke him but its just making him worse to the point i cant even eat my tea lol. What a clever little furbutt he is. The past 2 months he has drove me crazy but last night when i started to ignore him alittle he didnt cry as much ....and at one point he lay on the floor and went to sleep..... HE HAS NEVER DONE THAT IN SUCH A LONG TIME!!!! He will normally only go to sleep in his bed or on me So maybe this ignoring his whining is working.