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12-23-2009, 02:32 PM | #1 |
Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Missouri
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| I am soooo lost on what to do..please help!! I need some strong advice on this because I am grieving over this so badly! I wrote an earlier post a day or 2 ago (I am lost on days) about how I had to part with one of my yorkies due to her health, all the vet visits, about 700.00 left in cash and no job. The only income I have is 228.00 (yeah!) a week in unemployment to try and pay all of my bills with. I have 2 other dogs. A shih tzu that's going on 10 and another yorkie that's going on 15. None of them are in good health and it's been a tough hill to climb. I felt as tho it was the best thing that I could do at the time. Right now, she's been gone since Saturday. So, 4 days and 5 nights. I am hurting over my decision so badly that I can't even think straight. I miss her and the pain it has left me in seems more than I can bear! She is in my mind every second of every day. I've attempted, but not followed thru with just going to get her since Saturday night. I kept telling myself that she was with someone that had the means to take care of her whereas I can't right now. I know I wont be in this shape forever....(till Spring, at the latest) and the thought of going back to work knowing she was one of the reasons I worked, and she's not with me to spoil will crush my SOUL worse than it is right now!!! On the flip side, I do have the other 2 that need healthcare, (the shih tzu needs shots) and so does the other yorkie and she also needs to get her cough checked. These costs don't add up to a lot, I know, and I can afford that much right now. But if there is a health crisis with one of them, I'm screwed. If any of you were in my shoes, God forbid! And you made this decision and realized AFTER the fact that you wanted them back because you couldn't bear to be without them, would you go and get them? I am so distraught on what I should and shouldn't do here. I feel as though I have had my own child ripped from me!!!!!!!! I did this initially because of an on going health problem she kept having. She's going on 13 yo and has had numerous problems with UTI's and bladder infections. She also has a fatty cyst hanging off of her neck that I could never afford to have removed and another cyst on her shoulder that from what I understand needs to come off. I had both of the cysts looked at from my vet and he said neither were a cause for alarm unless one of them changed. For cosmetic purposes they need to be removed. The lady that took her, took her to the vet yesterday and Savannah has another bladder infection. She said she spent 167.00 on her tests and the office visit. She is also suppose to take her to get her teeth cleaned and have the cysts removed mid January. Yeah, I can't do that for her right away whereas she can. I have no answers for what happens down the road or what financial shape I will be in. All I do know is that I miss her. Any suggestions? I trust you all to give me the best advice! |
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12-23-2009, 02:51 PM | #2 |
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| I can't imagine what your going through and I know it must be hard for you and I am very sorry. I know it must be tough but you did do the right thing to let someone take care of her needs. I am not saying that taking her back would be a bad thing either but at least you know she is in a good financial situation. Maybe make play dates with her and your other dogs. You can always still be part of her life it will just be harder but it is all worth it in the end. I wish you the best of luck and I am sorry if my post did not help you. goodluck with love from Bailey and Lysiane
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12-23-2009, 03:14 PM | #3 |
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| You did the right thing. So many dogs around here are just being let out the door because there's no money left to even feed them. If she has someone with the means to take on her vet bills then you did the right thing for her. Don't grieve, be happy for her. |
12-23-2009, 03:21 PM | #4 | |
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12-23-2009, 03:58 PM | #5 |
Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Missouri
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| I have NEVER and could never do that to an animal. I have done without for the sake of my pets. As I should have. I wanted them and they can't take care of themselves! To think that I would put one out the door because I could no longer feed it is beyond my comprehension. The cost of food has never been a question. They've always had more than enough of that. This is solely about healthcare and the fact it's hard for me now. I just don't want this decision to haunt me for the rest of my life. I wont always be in this shape. I may find a job next week. I'm trying to think of that as well. Then when I can take care of her, she wont be with me. |
12-23-2009, 04:02 PM | #6 |
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| You must do the unselfish thing and think of your dogs first. Take care of the ones you have and feel good that you did what you needed to do. It must be terribley difficult, but be happy that you found someone that could afford to take care of her. not many people would want to take on a dog with health issues. |
12-23-2009, 04:03 PM | #7 |
Donating YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: North Carolina
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| Didn't you mention in the other post that your vet suspected Savannah had diabetes? Was she tested by her new vet? Speaking from firsthand experience, diabetes can be a very expensive disease. Insulin, syringes, and bloodwork in the beginning are expensive enough, but it's the side effects of the disease that make it so expensive. Just like human diabetics, diabetic dogs get constant UTI's and respiratory infections because of their weakened immune systems. Eye problems are also common. Lady will be in her eighth year with diabetes next month and it costs me about $5,000 a year for insulin, syringes, eye medications and antibiotics. I test her blood sugar myself at home and strips are expensive. That doesn't count unexpected vet visits for infections. Lady had an eye infection this summer that cost $1,000. She sees an ophthalmologist twice a year. Senior dogs develop health issues. One can be costly enough, but three can be very difficult to care for properly. It sounds like Savannah has found a wonderful new home where she will get the care she needs. Now you can concentrate on getting the other two the care they need. |
12-23-2009, 04:22 PM | #8 | |
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12-23-2009, 04:29 PM | #9 |
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| I know how much pain you must be in. I am grieving a loss in a way. My yorkie went missing over 5 weeks ago. We can never truly understand until we are in each other's shoes. What I can tell you is maybe in a few months you will find a job and be able to make a payment plan with this lady to get your dog back and pay her back what she has spent. One thing I must tell you is that doing the right thing can be the toughest thing you've ever done. You did the RIGHT thing trust me. Do NOT feel guilty , Do NOT feel that you abondoned your furbaby. I do not know at this moment how my yorkie is being treated, I dont know if he is eating enough, if he is symptomatic of his MVD, if he is being neglected in anyway, if he is losing weight and is frightened. I dont know 100% if he is still alive. But I pray and have hope. I dont know anything. Please try and take comfort that you know where your yorkie is, she is getting the medical attention she needs and is being loved. I know you miss her. But you do know where she is and that this person has taken her in to help her. Pray to God and give thanks for this. Even if you feel like you cant think straight, cant sleep, cant eat, cant stop thinking of her have peace in knowing she is ok. I dont mean to sound harsh in anyway. My heart is broken and maybe it might help telling you about my situation. I have cried all the time over this and got to the point that I needed to take a sedative to sleep everynight. Today I just got in my car and drove 5 mph with my windows rolled down with a sound amplifier headphone set...hoping that I would hear my yorkie bark somewhere. The weather is nice here and most homes have their windows opened so I figured to take a drive and look again.... This is a never ending thing for me because I dont know anything. I'll have you in my prayers and I hope you see that you did the absolute very best thing for your baby.. (((hugs))) Gen |
12-23-2009, 04:33 PM | #10 |
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| Wow my heart breaks for you to think about the pain you must be in to have to part with your dog after all these years. But what you did was give her a gift of wellness and care and for that you should be thankful. As another poster pointed out, some people are forced to leave their animals behind due to financial hardship and some end up with a fate that is much worse. If you had continued to keep her, you might have been in a position of neglecting her medical needs and then would undoubtedly feel much worse than you do right now. You have to do what is right for the dog, and although your situation sounds like it might improve down the road, you unfortunately don't know WHEN that might be. You asked for "strong advice" so here is mine. Heal your heart and rest your mind - but let the dog have a chance at health and wellness and leave her with the lady who can meet her needs. You have to take care of the other two and focus on getting yourself back on track. Best wishes.
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12-23-2009, 04:47 PM | #11 | |
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As hard as it is for you to accept, her new owner is able to give her the veterinary care you are not. Be glad Savannah has found such a loving new home and concentrate on getting care for your other two. Your Yorkie with the cough really needs to see a vet. In a senior, a cough can indicate heart problems so it may not be the "simple" fix you think it is. | |
12-23-2009, 05:22 PM | #12 | |
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You are all correct and have have made valid points. I also understand and appreciate what you all are saying. My animals are everything to me. And I love them all more than my own life. I am in a process of grieving which as everyone knows, goes in stages. This is without a doubt the hardest thing I have EVER had to do and I am 46 yo. As anyone can agree, this particular situation I am in and what I did because of it would make anyone feel like a failure. How could it not??? I keep thinking that when I took her over there that morning, she knew she had done nothing wrong and yet I left her there. How is she suppose to feel now? Not to mention, I didn't get the chance to say goodbye to her. The lady scuttled her off into another room as I left. I really had no idea at the time that she was going to keep her. For 2 days it was up in the air. She wanted to see if they formed any kind of bond, and I've asked her everytime I've talked to her if Savannah is even bonding with her and she just says that she will go over to her and just look at her. Then I found out last night that her sister went to Wisconsin and picked up another yorkie for her. An 8 yo female. So as I think that Vanna is of the temperament to adjust better when it's just her, she brought another one in. She loved the ones that were here because they all grew up together. She was never fond of other dogs coming around. So all of these things have bothered me. That, in addition to the fact that I, as Savannah's rightful owner wanted to see for myself how she and this lady were with each other, as anyone would, and she told me it was best not to come around for a while. So, yeah, a lot of unanswered questions that I need an answer to. Maybe I am just trying to look for more reasons as to why I feel the need to get her, I'm not sure. I am so unsettled by all of this and I dont know if it's because it's a sign telling me I need to get her. Or if it's my heart reacting to the situation. It's hard to tell when you're dealing with this. | |
12-23-2009, 05:26 PM | #13 |
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| My heart aches for you, but rejoices for your Savannah, who is now receiving all the medical attention she deserves. I can't imagine the numerous emotions you are going thru. I don't think anyone has the "right" words or the comforting words that would make your situation any easier, I wish I did. I did have a thought, have you considered talking with lady about your situation and how you're feeling. Would it be possible to make an agreement that she will temporarily provide basic and medical care as needed, for a specified time, and during that time you agree to repay a portion of the expensives. If at the end of that specified time, you're still unable to provide the basic and medical care Savannah needs, you then surrender her permanently, which will still be heart breaking, but I think it "buys" you some time to possibly find another job, as well as knowing that Savannah is still receiving proper care. Just a thought. . . |
12-23-2009, 05:34 PM | #14 |
Donating YT 30K Club Member | I can imagine the pain you are going through and I don't think anyone can tell you what is right or wrong. I would go with your heart and if you have any relatives or friends that can help you until you get on your feet, if not it is really a tough call as to what the future medical bills will be. I will keep you in my prayers for strength to make the right decision.
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12-23-2009, 06:01 PM | #15 | |
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And I really think by reading all your responses that you want to go and get her back. At 13 she is not a young dog and you are her family. How did you meet this lady that has your baby now? Have you spoken to the vet that she took her to? I'm so sorry that you're going through this. Please, know that we're here for you no matter what decission you make.
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