I am soooo lost on what to do..please help!!

[Lori63]

Originally Posted by Cookie2

I know how much pain you must be in. I am grieving a loss in a way. My yorkie went missing over 5 weeks ago. We can never truly understand until we are in each other's shoes. What I can tell you is maybe in a few months you will find a job and be able to make a payment plan with this lady to get your dog back and pay her back what she has spent. One thing I must tell you is that doing the right thing can be the toughest thing you've ever done.
You did the RIGHT thing trust me. Do NOT feel guilty , Do NOT feel that you abondoned your furbaby. I do not know at this moment how my yorkie is being treated, I dont know if he is eating enough, if he is symptomatic of his MVD, if he is being neglected in anyway, if he is losing weight and is frightened. I dont know 100% if he is still alive. But I pray and have hope.
I dont know anything. Please try and take comfort that you know where your yorkie is, she is getting the medical attention she needs and is being loved. I know you miss her. But you do know where she is and that this person has taken her in to help her. Pray to God and give thanks for this.
Even if you feel like you cant think straight, cant sleep, cant eat, cant stop thinking of her have peace in knowing she is ok.
I dont mean to sound harsh in anyway. My heart is broken and maybe it might help telling you about my situation. I have cried all the time over this and got to the point that I needed to take a sedative to sleep everynight.
Today I just got in my car and drove 5 mph with my windows rolled down with a sound amplifier headphone set...hoping that I would hear my yorkie bark somewhere. The weather is nice here and most homes have their windows opened so I figured to take a drive and look again....
This is a never ending thing for me because I dont know anything.

I'll have you in my prayers and I hope you see that you did the absolute very best thing for your baby..

(((hugs)))
Gen

Gen, thank you and I have read your posts and wondered how you were able to deal with such a thing. I would have already driven myself mad over that.
My heart goes out to you, that has to be such an unsettling feeling. You are right, at least I know where Savannah is and that's more comfort that you're feeling. A person always feels that their problems and feelings are sooo horrible until they hear someone else's. I can't imagine, nor would I want to imagine how you must feel. It broke my heart when I read your story and it still saddens me. I cannot compare the hurt to yours. I would be devastated as I'm sure you are.
Thank you for taking the time to help me, given the circumstances that you are under. That means more to me than you'll ever know. I know that everyone that's trying to help me here are right, including you. I took all the things you all have said in consideration when I made my decision to find her a new home. I just need to keep those reasons fresh in my mind and stop being selfish. I was commended the other night on here for my selflessness and turn around wanting to unwind the whole thing because I was being selfish! I know I am not what she needs right now and right now is what counts. I've put off so much health care for all of my little ones because of my lack of money, only taking care of what needed to be addressed then. In doing that, they are all in so much of a need that it became overwhelming to me. It's harder when you know you failed them. But I don't have to fail her anymore. As hurtful as that was to type. In reality and my given situation, I really don't need any of my babies for the same reason, but I can't bear to lose anymore. My best to you Gen and I hope and pray for a miracle for you. You need her as much as she needs you and I hope that happens for you both. God Bless!

[LilMissy]

What a tough decision to make! I think that you're a strong person for putting her needs before yours. I couldn't give one of mine up for anything, but maybe that's selfish of me. Only you can decide what is best for you and your furbabies. Good Luck!

[HERBS]

I say go get your baby! There is no way I could go one day without one of my 4 babies! You can find a way to make it until spring. Just my 2 cents...

[Lori63]

Originally Posted by HERBS

I say go get your baby! There is no way I could go one day without one of my 4 babies! You can find a way to make it until spring. Just my 2 cents...

I LOVE YOU!!!! A woman after my own heart!!!!

Any idea, hypothetically, in case that is where my heart takes me, that she would have a right to her? To not, by law, be able to keep her if I pay her what she's out in the medical?

[Lori63]

Originally Posted by Gennies

This is exactly what I was thinking.

And I really think by reading all your responses that you want to go and get her back. At 13 she is not a young dog and you are her family.

How did you meet this lady that has your baby now? Have you spoken to the vet that she took her to? I'm so sorry that you're going through this. Please, know that we're here for you no matter what decission you make.

This lady rescues mainly yorkies. She never buys one, she takes the ones that are no longer wanted or the ones that need homes. I had spoken with a lady at the local animal shelter for info on homes that would accept a yorkie at her age. She told me Savannah's picture would go out on their website and any prospective people interested in her would give me a call. This lady's background was checked, as well as her home as a suitable candidate for adopter's. I do know the vet she took her to. Savannah has been to her before in the past. She is the best vet in that area. I DO want to get her back. I really, really do. I'm just trying my very best to determine what is best for all. I'm NOT going to get past what I've done, and I know that. I don't have the heart that will let me forgive or forget what I've done. If a member of my family had her, it would be fine with me. But knowing she's with someone that i really don't know any better than the lady I met at the store today....'that' bothers me. And it also bothers me that once she had her, the 'few day trial' 'to see how things go' let her to tell me on Sunday what SHE thought was best for my dog, basically telling me I no longer had a choice since she made HER decision to keep her. When I wanted to go and see things for myself, I was denied and told to come and see her in a month. Those things bother me. Especially since she was still MY dog at that point. Don't I, as her owner, have the right to determine for myself who I think would make a good owner for my dog? I feel like I've been bullied and maybe that's why I feel as tho I have no closure or peace.

[HERBS]

Originally Posted by Lori63

I LOVE YOU!!!! A woman after my own heart!!!!

Any idea, hypothetically, in case that is where my heart takes me, that she would have a right to her? To not, by law, be able to keep her if I pay her what she's out in the medical?

I would assume she has a right to the dog since you agreed for the lady to take her BUT if you have her phone number, I would call her first thing in the AM and tell her how you are feeling and BEG her to give the dog back. I am sure if she agrees, she would want the money back upon pick up.

I want to tell you a story... When I become pregnant with my 3rd child, my husband left me and moved 10 hours away. I was a single mother and financially I could not afford a 3rd child all alone. I found out after he left. When I told my mother about the pregnancy while crying my eyes out. She said "Lori, we will find a way of making it!" I feel the same way about my furbabies as well... No matter what, "We will find a way of making it"! Good luck and let me know what happens... God bless you and your babies

[Ladymom]

Try to get past your emotions and ask yourself "what if".

What if you come up with the $167 and go get Savannah back? Will you be able to get her teeth cleaned and her cysts removed next month? What if she gets another bladder infection? What will you do about your Yorkie with the cough? Can you take him to the vet if you take Savannah back?

I am certain that Savannah's new owner told you not to come visit right away because that was best for Savannah. She needs time to adjust and seeing you would make it that much more difficult for her. It sounds like this woman is trying to very hard to do what is best for Savannah. I think you were lucky to find her. It's not that easy to find someone willing to adopt a senior.

I'd suggest you write down all the reasons you gave her up and reread them when you get upset and question your decision.

[Cookie2]

I think that she might work with you to make arrangements until you get back on your feet. If she does this for so many yorkies , she is doing this for the love of these animals and I'm sure the last thing she wants to do is rip her away from you. But saving her life is the priority here.
You are not being selfish because you miss her so much. This is just what your heart feels. Just like a mother would feel for her kids...these are also our kids. Concentrate on her getting better and let this be motivation for you.
There are so many people going through this and I've heard this stuff happening a lot , people moving out of their homes to an apartment that doesnt allow pets I know there are a few orginizations that help owners not lose their pets and do fostering until these people get back on their feet.
I saw that in the news recently. I should have written it down! I'm sure its on Google somewhere.

Try to get some rest.Give your furbabies a kiss. Easier said than done I know...


Gen

[ging4444]

If I sent you the $167 could you go get her? My heart just breaks for both of you. I hope I can help.
Ginger

[LilMissy]

Originally Posted by ging4444

If I sent you the $167 could you go get her? My heart just breaks for both of you. I hope I can help.
Ginger

This is so touching! Sometimes the people on this forum absolutely amaze me. What a beautiful gesture to make during the holidays.

I hope that the OP gets her furbaby back. Please keep us updated.

[Bianca]

Originally Posted by ging4444

If I sent you the $167 could you go get her? My heart just breaks for both of you. I hope I can help.
Ginger

WOW!! Your a special person with a huge giving heart

I would also though think about down the road when she will need much more medication or vet visits, what will you do ? Sometimes the hardest choices in life are the right ones I know your heart is breaking, but if you can't afford to get medical care down the road , would it break more?

Hope you do what is best.
Sending love and prayers ..

[Gennies]

Originally Posted by Lori63

I LOVE YOU!!!! A woman after my own heart!!!!

Any idea, hypothetically, in case that is where my heart takes me, that she would have a right to her? To not, by law, be able to keep her if I pay her what she's out in the medical?

See you do want her back. Did you sign anything with this lady giving her rights to your dog?

Originally Posted by Lori63

This lady rescues mainly yorkies. She never buys one, she takes the ones that are no longer wanted or the ones that need homes. I had spoken with a lady at the local animal shelter for info on homes that would accept a yorkie at her age. She told me Savannah's picture would go out on their website and any prospective people interested in her would give me a call. This lady's background was checked, as well as her home as a suitable candidate for adopter's. I do know the vet she took her to. Savannah has been to her before in the past. She is the best vet in that area. I DO want to get her back. I really, really do. I'm just trying my very best to determine what is best for all. I'm NOT going to get past what I've done, and I know that. I don't have the heart that will let me forgive or forget what I've done. If a member of my family had her, it would be fine with me. But knowing she's with someone that i really don't know any better than the lady I met at the store today....'that' bothers me. And it also bothers me that once she had her, the 'few day trial' 'to see how things go' let her to tell me on Sunday what SHE thought was best for my dog, basically telling me I no longer had a choice since she made HER decision to keep her. When I wanted to go and see things for myself, I was denied and told to come and see her in a month. Those things bother me. Especially since she was still MY dog at that point. Don't I, as her owner, have the right to determine for myself who I think would make a good owner for my dog? I feel like I've been bullied and maybe that's why I feel as tho I have no closure or peace.

So this lady isn't the new owner, but a foster type of home. I'm sorry, but I do agree with others that she's just looking out for the dog and trying to get the dog to adjust. Sweetie, try putting yourself in your dog's shoes (so to speak). First, you go from your family that you've lived with your whole life and you're to live with some stranger, then your momma comes to visit only you don't know what it means to visit, you think your going home, but then momma leaves and your still with this stranger. Dogs don't understand what's going on. SO I understand the foster not wanting visits right now. If you do go I hope you bring your baby home for her sake, if she isn't coming home with you then I say don't visit. Sorry, I know you may not want to hear that but you need to think of your little one. It's your decision to make no one else's. I recommend that you decide soon, as it's not fair to your dog or the foster who's caring for her. I hope and pray for the best to you all. ((((Hugs))))

[Fancy_Pants]

You have received some really good advice. My heart breaks for you. You made a very tough choice for the best interest of your baby. I guess if it were me though I would go get her, things have a way of working out - some how some way. I am thinking with my heart though. Maybe the vet would set up a payment plan with you so that all 3 can be taken care of. I really hope with whatever you decide that everything works out. Please keep us updated.

[Ringo1]

It sounds like your little Yorkie could be fine either way. She probably will adjust and form a bond with her new family. I saw on Dog Whisperer (no flames please) that it is mostly a myth that a dog will grieve for a long period over it's owner. That dogs in the wild have to occasionally leave and form new packs. They leave one pack and join another and they adjust to their new pack. I believe that's why the lady that has her is giving her some time to bond. AND she is taking care of her physical needs, which is also important.

On the other hand, if your finances are about to improve, then I believe your little girl would be equally fine with you.

Sometimes the hardest thing to do is the right thing.

When my son was born, I was working full time and a single mother. I had an elderly maltese that basically got left behind for a few years. I didn't have his teeth cleaned, etc. Though it didn't enter my mind at the time, I wonder, would he have been better off with someone new that had the TIME and the MONEY that I did not have during those years? Much as I hate to admit it - maybe he would have. Selfishly, I would not let him go but. . . I wonder. His last years with me were not great for either of us despite the bond we had previously formed.

Whatever decsion you make will be the right one. Either way, I believe that your little girl will be in good hands.

You are second guessing yourself now - which I understand. Think it over for a couple of more days and see how you feel.

I hope you find peace with whatever you decide.

[mscat]

Lori,
I can understand how hard it is to keep up with three elderly dogs with declining health needs each month , and not financially able to.
I have 2 , 0ne is a shih tzu and the other is a yorkie. I am a single parent, on a fixed income.
My 2 girls both need to be spayed. Their are now been behaviorial issues of aggression between them . The yorkie needs to be updated on her shots too.
I just got out of the hospital too. Stayed in the hospital over a month , recovering at home now , and not 100% well physically either .
My 2 dogs , what happened ? the yorkie has turned into Cujo since I have been gone. Attacking the younger shih tzu , and scaring me to death. My health brings me in no condition to break up a dog fight all the time.
my yorkie was given a bath while I was ill .Now she is matted. I can't clip her until I have full use of my arms . I am so upset .
My beautifil 2 dogs had changed , and I feel helpless. I feel I have to protect the younger more vulnerable dog from serious injury . She is 8 months old, the yorkie not even 2 yrs old .
We have completely kept the a part from each other. I have vowed to do everything in my power to get this turned around .
I feel a deep commitment towards my 2 girls, and a helpless feeling too , because I am not 100% able to deal with their issues.
You love all 3 of your animals , it is aparent . I would allow the yorkie rescue lady to help you, and make financial arrangements to pay her back .
I believe our dogs do become very attatched to their owners, expeically when they have been lovingly cared for all their lives. All 3 of those precious dogs are yours , always and forever will be.
Their is a attatchment and bond they have with you , as well as u do have with them. Dogs are accutely aware and sensitive to their owners and these are your 3 lovely dogs no matter what decisions you need to make for them.
Their health comes first . money is an issue for me as well, however , we do what it takes for them . Just take care of your needs first .
Work something out with the yorkie rescue lady . And bring back home your dogs, they need to be with you, and you need to be with them.