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05-18-2015, 08:15 AM | #76 | |
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All we can do is try. We can't please everyone all the time, but we do try very hard to have the right intentions. Hopefully things will settle in.
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05-18-2015, 08:23 AM | #77 | |
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I agree with Phil, that people need to stop reading so much into things.
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05-18-2015, 08:23 AM | #78 | |
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I do hear this from both sides of things. One angle is that there is a group of people who are afraid to post bc they'll be jumped on by this or that group. Another angle is the group of people who fear posting at times bc they're afraid of being jumped on by what has been called the "polite police" in the past. If anyone does fear posting, always feel free to share your thoughts with me - no matter which angle you're coming from. The more we hear your thoughts, the more we have to weigh / consider. I'm always open if someone just wants to vent too . If we could just find that acceptable middle spot, we'd be okay. No reason we can't find it though.
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05-18-2015, 08:24 AM | #79 | |
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05-18-2015, 08:44 AM | #80 | |
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In the future, I honestly intend to stay away from any controversial topics...it seems attempts at education are often misinterpreted as "brutal"....attempts at trying to keep the thread from going into tramped down weeds yet again with humor, is considered "snarky"...."tones" are continously judged, prejudged, and misjudged....intentions and attempts to inform, clarify, educate, offer personal opinion is considered inappropriate or mean spirited or hateful...... This situation reminds me...... I had a sister in law one time that had a personality disorder....she had medication she was supposed to be taking but she thought she was just fine, it was the rest of the world that was crazy....whenever anyone was around her, we tripped all over ourselves, walking on eggshells, trying to remember and avoid what all SHE thought were cruel, inappropriate, brutal, humiliating, off colored, ludicrous, or incongruous remarks, comments, or conversation.....we would all sit, afraid to open our mouths, afraid of inadvertantly insulting her or hurting her feelings. When anyone would screw up their courage and make a simple comment or attempt to start a shallow conversation, there was always a palpable, nervous pause, while we all sat, waiting to see how SHE was going to react. Tooooooo much drama for what you got in return.....spending an afternoon around her left you exhausted and mentally and emotionally drained....the "risks" began to far out weigh the "benefit" of being in her presence. | |
05-18-2015, 08:54 AM | #81 |
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05-18-2015, 09:03 AM | #82 |
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| I just have to say this...what Phil is saying: 'I can't make ANY comment without SOMEONE feeling insulted' & 'I think that people also need to try not to seek insults where none are intended.' Isn't that also what the other party is feeling? How ironic... Just take a step back & see yourself in their shoes (in this case, the OP's shoes). Who joined this fantastic group that shares the love & bond of their beloved pets the same way as you...who run into a post/link that she thought was pretty great & want to share it. It gets bombarded by naysayers & jokes thrown out that she's not sure why it's being thrown out. How would you feel? (You don't have to answer that.) EVERY thread that gets posted about the Dentist, or DR. Becker (gasp!), or Dr. Dodds (what?!) does not have to end up like this...where Ann has to step in & moderate the divided groups. Can we just get along?
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05-18-2015, 09:11 AM | #83 | |
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So, based upon that, maybe we can try to agree that at the end of the day, we're really *more* on the same page here than not...??? It could really be *so* simple, in my opinion. Be respectful in disagreeing, don't disparage sources, leave emotions at the door.
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05-18-2015, 09:27 AM | #84 | |
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And... we have to stop insulting the sources for the sake of insulting them. I admit that I was guilty of that in a certain post about margaritas that was off topic and deleted. It was an attempt at humor, but it WAS a little insulting to the Dog Food Advisor. It was not directed at the OP at all, and if the OP thought it wasn't funny or thought it was directed at them, I apologize. But yes, we're really more on the same page here than not. We just want what's best for our dogs. | |
05-18-2015, 09:42 AM | #85 | |
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Yup...it's always okay to be critical of sources, as long as it's done respectfully. ------------------- At the end of the day, I think it always helps to put ourselves in others' shoes. I mean, if there was a thread about Remillard and a bunch of folks went in there poking fun at her or what she does or stands for or calling nutrition a "pseudo-science", a lot people would be quite offended by that disparagement....bc rather than it being critical/thoughtful, the remarks would be disparaging. However, if they had criticisms or opinions about her and just wanted to express those constructively...totally should be welcome.
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05-18-2015, 10:03 AM | #86 |
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05-18-2015, 10:23 AM | #87 | |
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__________________ Taylor My babies Joey, Penny ,Ollie & Dixie Callie Mae, you will forever be in my heart! | |
05-18-2015, 10:47 AM | #88 | |
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I personally love your posts. I look forward to reading them.
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05-18-2015, 11:08 AM | #89 | |
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| I really hope, we as a community, can put all this behind us & be more mindful of others, even if we are sitting behind a computer...there are real people out there that we are interacting with. Everyone is an individual, so are our dogs...I believe there is not 1 way, but many different ways...we need to find a way to express that w/out making the other individual feel alienated. Maybe, if it's been mentioned in a thread, no need to repeat it over & over? Little things like that. Quote:
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05-18-2015, 11:54 AM | #90 | |
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Bottom line, it is not my intent to insult anyone. In the end people make their decisions on what is best for their pups. I get that...and unless I see someone seriously neglecting one, I won't criticize that person. I may try to sway them because of my beliefs...but in the end I don't expect them to listen to what I say. I only offer.
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