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Originally Posted by pstinard  You're a real trooper trying to strike a good balance. I appreciate your efforts and your intentions. I think that people also need to try not to seek insults where none are intended. |
In the future, I honestly intend to stay away from any controversial topics...it seems attempts at education are often misinterpreted as "brutal"....attempts at trying to keep the thread from going into tramped down weeds yet again with humor, is considered "snarky"...."tones" are continously judged, prejudged, and misjudged....intentions and attempts to inform, clarify, educate, offer personal opinion is considered inappropriate or mean spirited or hateful......
This situation reminds me...... I had a sister in law one time that had a personality disorder....she had medication she was supposed to be taking but she thought she was just fine, it was the rest of the world that was crazy....whenever anyone was around her, we tripped all over ourselves, walking on eggshells, trying to remember and avoid what all SHE thought were cruel, inappropriate, brutal, humiliating, off colored, ludicrous, or incongruous remarks, comments, or conversation.....we would all sit, afraid to open our mouths, afraid of inadvertantly insulting her or hurting her feelings. When anyone would screw up their courage and make a simple comment or attempt to start a shallow conversation, there was always a palpable, nervous pause, while we all sat, waiting to see how SHE was going to react. Tooooooo much drama for what you got in return.....spending an afternoon around her left you exhausted and mentally and emotionally drained....the "risks" began to far out weigh the "benefit" of being in her presence.