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jmdt · 09-23-2011, 04:12 PM

Ok my 12 yr old, soon to be 13 yr old (next Wed 28th) son calls me from school and asks me if he can go home with a friend and hang out. I asked if the kids mother was home and if the kid asked her. He said yes and I told him to call me when he gets there. So he calls me when he gets there and I tell him I will pick him up at 5:00. I call him at 4:45 and tell him to wait by the door of the house so I don't pass the house. He tells me that him and the other boys are outside. IT'S POURING!!! I say but its raining and he says yeah we've been out here. Mind you he has his school clothes on and his brand new school sneakers. I pick him up .... he is soaked... The mother is in the garage and just waves to me and I wave back.
My son doesn't have too many friends and I didn't want to make a "thing" out of it but I am pi$$ed. Silly me to assume that they were inside playing video games because this is his favorite passtime.
I could not imagine having my kids friends over to play and sending them home soaking wet because they were playing basketball in the street in the rain!!!
I fuming! Now I have to, I guess, put his brand new Nikes in the dryer. And I have to hope he doesn't get sick. WTF???

Britster · 09-23-2011, 04:17 PM

I understand why you'd be mad for sure. But eh, kids will kids sometimes. I used to love playing in the rain as a kid. It never failed either that I would go play next door in the dirt before PM kindergarten started lol. We were in a new development so houses were still being built and we'd go climb the dirt hills. Mom would be sooo mad at me. Luckily I had so many friends on my street that we never had to physically go anywhere else so if we got messy or whatnot, could just run home, change, and run back out.

Deuce · 09-23-2011, 04:20 PM

Yep playing in the rain was one if my favorite things to growing up. It's not until now that I feel so bad for my mom, she had 5 of us.

jmdt · 09-23-2011, 04:22 PM

Yeah but this wasn't just "crazy kids". The mom obviously knew they were out there in the rain. It was right at the bottom of her driveway and the other kids were still out there when I picked my son up.

RachelandSadie · 09-23-2011, 04:22 PM

i know you are upset and i feel for you, but boys are boys and they do get dirty and play hard sometimes. i would be glad he's getting excersize rather than inside sitting but that's just me. clothes can be washed and shout out the stains. maybe start sending him with some "play clothes" if he's going to be around these new friends more often.

jmdt · 09-23-2011, 04:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Deuce

Yep playing in the rain was one if my favorite things to growing up. It's not until now that I feel so bad for my mom, she had 5 of us.

I have 4 kids (2boys and 2girls)..I am not an "uptight" mom.. But come on!!! When the kids come over to my house I give them a snack and juice and they play outside IF IT'S NOT RAINING!!! otherwise they stay in and do something inside. My oldest son is 22 and I have never, ever picked him up from a friends house and they were out in the rain!!
What kid doesn't want to play in the rain? but who is the adult? Let your kids play in the rain if you want but don't let my kid do it. My kids played in the rain also but I was the one who said it was ok. I mean they have on school clothes I just dont get it. Especially this was the first time he was over there. It's not like she knows me and would assume it would be ok. I think that decision was irresponsible of her. She could of at least had him call me and ask.

Jinger · 09-23-2011, 04:52 PM

Was it really cold?
My son and his friends played out in the rain every chance they got if they were together. Some of my favorite memories are of all of them soaked through and having a blast. And it's not as if she sent 4 or 5 year olds out in the rain. I don't know what kind of school clothes your son wears, but unless they were dry-clean-only I bet they'll be fine once you wash and dry them. I hope so.
I could definitely be wrong, but unless it was REALLY cold, I don't think you can get sick from being outside in the rain, or from cooler temps, if that sets your mind at ease any.
To me it sounds like the kind of fun memories are made of.

jmdt · 09-23-2011, 05:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Jinger

Was it really cold?
My son and his friends played out in the rain every chance they got if they were together. Some of my favorite memories are of all of them soaked through and having a blast. And it's not as if she sent 4 or 5 year olds out in the rain. I don't know what kind of school clothes your son wears, but unless they were dry-clean-only I bet they'll be fine once you wash and dry them. I hope so.
I could definitely be wrong, but unless it was REALLY cold, I don't think you can get sick from being outside in the rain, or from cooler temps, if that sets your mind at ease any.
To me it sounds like the kind of fun memories are made of.

When he got into my car he was shivering and his finger tips were prunes!!! I bet he had a ball out there. but it is not the point. I never ever thought that any sane mother with connected brain cells would let children who she has never met come over to play for the first time and let them outside in the rain. Maybe she doesn't use the word NO very often. This is just not normal behavior. It's freaking raining!!

I wouldn't let the dogs play out there and get soaked!!! Why should my kid be out there getting soaked.?? I didn't know he was in the rain all that time, we are talking 2 and a half hours. I pick him up with my brand new 2 week old car and he is soaking wet. I just don't get it!!

These are also not his buddies who he plays with all the time and they go to each others house and play all the time.

Deuce · 09-23-2011, 05:24 PM

Parents that don't know how to say no are.really common these days, as a non parent looking in from the outside, kids are getting too much freedom too early. That and too many parents rely on kids to raise themselves. Sorry for the situation, but it isn't cold that makes you sick its germs but in his case he's exposed to both being in school and being a boy. Maybe a talk with the other boys mom, just to let her know what you expect from an adult watching over children.

KazzyK810 · 09-23-2011, 06:14 PM

So, it's the fact that he had school clothes and new shoes on? Does he wear a uniform to school, so it's obvious these are specifically school clothes? Or are these more dressy clothes for a private school? If not, maybe the mom didn't realize that your son has "school clothes" and "play clothes" as some people do and so didn't think it was a big deal.

My son (now 19) was always super active and was never into video games, so he was always playing outside as a kid. He played basketball or hockey in the driveway in the rain many a time and had kids stop by & do the same. I can't tell you have many times I sent kids home in a set of my son's sweats, while they carried a back of their own freshly laundered clothes home cos they'd played in the rain or especially the snow in winter, or skated on our outdoor rink and got drenched by friendly hockeystops. Maybe the mom assumed that if you'd ok'd him going over there to play, that it was ok to play in whatever he was wearing. Now, if it was lightening outside during this rain and she didn't haul their butts inside...then I'd be pissed!!!

speleogirl37 · 09-23-2011, 07:02 PM

Well I guess I am an insane mother whose brain cells are not connected

because I see nothing wrong here. Kids love to play in the rain, as long as it is safe to do so...no lightning, not cold! He is 13, I'd think he is old enough to know when to come n out of the rain if he wanted! I can't imagine the mother would turn him away if he wanted to go inside, if she did then that would be different, and I wouldn't let him go again!

megansmomma · 09-23-2011, 07:21 PM

I don't understand why you are upset with the mother. Your son is 12 going on 13 yrs old and he should be held accountable for his actions. Does he not know that you would be upset if he were to play in the rain with his new shoes and school clothes? I'm sorry but at this age my kids didn't have "play" clothes. If they wanted to roll around in the mud with their friends they would have just called and asked me to run them over appropriate clothes or borrowed from the friend. If it were my almost teenager I would be holding him responsible for his irresponsible actions. Isn't your son in Junior High at 12/13? That is plenty old enough to be held accountable it's not like he's in 1st Grade. As for a PLAY DATE, I haven't used that terminological since Kindergarten. This is JR HIGH you are talking about.

My suggestion would be to make it clear to your son what happened today was irresponsible on his part and if he wants nice thinks that he should take better care of them. Doesn't he have a cellphone that he could have called you with if need be?

capt_noonie · 09-23-2011, 07:38 PM

I remember many fond memories of playing in the rain, and my grandparents would get mad at us too. I think they were more mad they had to do more laundry.

Are you more mad at the mom or the fact your brand new car got wet and your son's new sneakers were ruined? They're just things. I'm sure you son will remember this as a fun experience, and maybe will be closer with these friends now.

Playdate term is a little outdated too. When I read the title I thought a yorkie playdate in the rain. Now if that were the case I'd be pissed. But then again, if Uni went on a playdate, I'd be there

tjdmom · 09-23-2011, 07:55 PM

I think if it were me, this would be one of the things that I just let roll off my back. I know it's annoying to you but in the big scheme of things is it really such a big deal? No one got hurt, no one did anything dangerous. They just got wet and muddy and maybe ruined some clothes. I'm sorry you are upset and I know it's not something you would have allowed but sometimes it's ok to be flexible and just let some things go.....

McheleM · 09-23-2011, 08:03 PM

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Originally Posted by speleogirl37

Well I guess I am an insane mother whose brain cells are not connected

because I see nothing wrong here. Kids love to play in the rain, as long as it is safe to do so...no lightning, not cold! He is 13, I'd think he is old enough to know when to come n out of the rain if he wanted! I can't imagine the mother would turn him away if he wanted to go inside, if she did then that would be different, and I wouldn't let him go again!

Add me to the insane non connected brain cells club.

I'd be glad my kid was playing in the rain as opposed to smoking crack or breaking into liquor stores.... Heck, I'd probably be the insane mom out there playing in the rain with them. They're only kids once-let him be a kid.

09-23-2011, 04:12 PM	#1
jmdt YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Long Island, NY USA Posts: 3,498	Playdate in the rain!! Ok my 12 yr old, soon to be 13 yr old (next Wed 28th) son calls me from school and asks me if he can go home with a friend and hang out. I asked if the kids mother was home and if the kid asked her. He said yes and I told him to call me when he gets there. So he calls me when he gets there and I tell him I will pick him up at 5:00. I call him at 4:45 and tell him to wait by the door of the house so I don't pass the house. He tells me that him and the other boys are outside. IT'S POURING!!! I say but its raining and he says yeah we've been out here. Mind you he has his school clothes on and his brand new school sneakers. I pick him up .... he is soaked... The mother is in the garage and just waves to me and I wave back. My son doesn't have too many friends and I didn't want to make a "thing" out of it but I am pi$$ed. Silly me to assume that they were inside playing video games because this is his favorite passtime. I could not imagine having my kids friends over to play and sending them home soaking wet because they were playing basketball in the street in the rain!!! I fuming! Now I have to, I guess, put his brand new Nikes in the dryer. And I have to hope he doesn't get sick. WTF??? __________________ Coco, Pebbles, Trixie, and Wally LOVE MY BABIES!!

09-23-2011, 04:17 PM	#2
Britster Action Jackson ♥ Donating Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Maryland Posts: 17,814	I understand why you'd be mad for sure. But eh, kids will kids sometimes. I used to love playing in the rain as a kid. It never failed either that I would go play next door in the dirt before PM kindergarten started lol. We were in a new development so houses were still being built and we'd go climb the dirt hills. Mom would be sooo mad at me. Luckily I had so many friends on my street that we never had to physically go anywhere else so if we got messy or whatnot, could just run home, change, and run back out. __________________ ~ Brit & Lights! Camera! Jackson! CGC ETD TKP ~ Follow Jackson on Instagram: https://instagram.com/jacksontheterrier

09-23-2011, 04:22 PM	#4
jmdt YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Long Island, NY USA Posts: 3,498	Yeah but this wasn't just "crazy kids". The mom obviously knew they were out there in the rain. It was right at the bottom of her driveway and the other kids were still out there when I picked my son up. __________________ Coco, Pebbles, Trixie, and Wally LOVE MY BABIES!!

09-23-2011, 04:52 PM	#7
Jinger Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Dallas Posts: 2,213	Was it really cold? My son and his friends played out in the rain every chance they got if they were together. Some of my favorite memories are of all of them soaked through and having a blast. And it's not as if she sent 4 or 5 year olds out in the rain. I don't know what kind of school clothes your son wears, but unless they were dry-clean-only I bet they'll be fine once you wash and dry them. I hope so. I could definitely be wrong, but unless it was REALLY cold, I don't think you can get sick from being outside in the rain, or from cooler temps, if that sets your mind at ease any. To me it sounds like the kind of fun memories are made of. __________________ Jen and Zoe

09-23-2011, 06:14 PM	#10
KazzyK810 Donating YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: Michigan USA & Sheffield UK Posts: 4,119	So, it's the fact that he had school clothes and new shoes on? Does he wear a uniform to school, so it's obvious these are specifically school clothes? Or are these more dressy clothes for a private school? If not, maybe the mom didn't realize that your son has "school clothes" and "play clothes" as some people do and so didn't think it was a big deal. My son (now 19) was always super active and was never into video games, so he was always playing outside as a kid. He played basketball or hockey in the driveway in the rain many a time and had kids stop by & do the same. I can't tell you have many times I sent kids home in a set of my son's sweats, while they carried a back of their own freshly laundered clothes home cos they'd played in the rain or especially the snow in winter, or skated on our outdoor rink and got drenched by friendly hockeystops. Maybe the mom assumed that if you'd ok'd him going over there to play, that it was ok to play in whatever he was wearing. Now, if it was lightening outside during this rain and she didn't haul their butts inside...then I'd be pissed!!! __________________ Karan & ZoE (Chelsea )

09-23-2011, 04:20 PM	#3
Deuce No Longer a Member Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Virginia Posts: 1,717 Blog Entries: 1	Yep playing in the rain was one if my favorite things to growing up. It's not until now that I feel so bad for my mom, she had 5 of us.

09-23-2011, 04:22 PM	#5
RachelandSadie No Longer a Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Kansas City, MO Posts: 5,748	i know you are upset and i feel for you, but boys are boys and they do get dirty and play hard sometimes. i would be glad he's getting excersize rather than inside sitting but that's just me. clothes can be washed and shout out the stains. maybe start sending him with some "play clothes" if he's going to be around these new friends more often.

09-23-2011, 05:24 PM	#9
Deuce No Longer a Member Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Virginia Posts: 1,717 Blog Entries: 1	Parents that don't know how to say no are.really common these days, as a non parent looking in from the outside, kids are getting too much freedom too early. That and too many parents rely on kids to raise themselves. Sorry for the situation, but it isn't cold that makes you sick its germs but in his case he's exposed to both being in school and being a boy. Maybe a talk with the other boys mom, just to let her know what you expect from an adult watching over children.

09-23-2011, 07:02 PM	#11
speleogirl37 ♥ Luv My Lil' M&M ♥ Donating Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: USA Posts: 1,572	Well I guess I am an insane mother whose brain cells are not connected because I see nothing wrong here. Kids love to play in the rain, as long as it is safe to do so...no lightning, not cold! He is 13, I'd think he is old enough to know when to come n out of the rain if he wanted! I can't imagine the mother would turn him away if he wanted to go inside, if she did then that would be different, and I wouldn't let him go again! __________________ Angie Madison Chance Our Future Baby Tatum

09-23-2011, 07:21 PM	#12
megansmomma Donating YT 10K Club Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: S. W. Suburbs of Chicago, IL Posts: 12,235	I don't understand why you are upset with the mother. Your son is 12 going on 13 yrs old and he should be held accountable for his actions. Does he not know that you would be upset if he were to play in the rain with his new shoes and school clothes? I'm sorry but at this age my kids didn't have "play" clothes. If they wanted to roll around in the mud with their friends they would have just called and asked me to run them over appropriate clothes or borrowed from the friend. If it were my almost teenager I would be holding him responsible for his irresponsible actions. Isn't your son in Junior High at 12/13? That is plenty old enough to be held accountable it's not like he's in 1st Grade. As for a PLAY DATE, I haven't used that terminological since Kindergarten. This is JR HIGH you are talking about. My suggestion would be to make it clear to your son what happened today was irresponsible on his part and if he wants nice thinks that he should take better care of them. Doesn't he have a cellphone that he could have called you with if need be? __________________ “Never argue with a fool, onlookers may not be able to tell the difference.” Mark Twain Last edited by megansmomma; 09-23-2011 at 07:25 PM.

09-23-2011, 07:38 PM	#13
capt_noonie www.yorkierescue.com Donating Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Las Vegas & Orange County Posts: 17,408	I remember many fond memories of playing in the rain, and my grandparents would get mad at us too. I think they were more mad they had to do more laundry. Are you more mad at the mom or the fact your brand new car got wet and your son's new sneakers were ruined? They're just things. I'm sure you son will remember this as a fun experience, and maybe will be closer with these friends now. Playdate term is a little outdated too. When I read the title I thought a yorkie playdate in the rain. Now if that were the case I'd be pissed. But then again, if Uni went on a playdate, I'd be there __________________ The T.U.B. Pack! Toto, Uni, & Bindi RIP Lord Scrappington Montgomery McLimpybottom aka El Lenguo the Handicapped Ninja 10-12-12 Last edited by capt_noonie; 09-23-2011 at 07:40 PM.

09-23-2011, 07:55 PM	#14
tjdmom Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: upstate ny Posts: 5,847	I think if it were me, this would be one of the things that I just let roll off my back. I know it's annoying to you but in the big scheme of things is it really such a big deal? No one got hurt, no one did anything dangerous. They just got wet and muddy and maybe ruined some clothes. I'm sorry you are upset and I know it's not something you would have allowed but sometimes it's ok to be flexible and just let some things go.....