Playdate in the rain!!

[KazzyK810]

Are you saying, this was your son's very first time over at this kid's house and you've never met the mother before? And then when you go to pick your son up, you pick him up outside the home & off you go? You didn't get out of your car and go up to the house and meet the other parent???

You may be judging her behaviour...but she's probably judging yours too!

[sugarmamma]

Originally Posted by KazzyK810

Are you saying, this was your son's very first time over at this kid's house and you've never met the mother before? And then when you go to pick your son up, you pick him up outside the home & off you go? You didn't get out of your car and go up to the house and meet the other parent???

You may be judging her behaviour...but she's probably judging yours too!

[southernbelle04]

I can totally understand why you felt the way you did. I am not a Mom yet, but am an aunt to a active 6 year old nephew. We will not let him play out in heavy rain. He is really prone to ear infections and if he is out there even 10 minutes in the rain, you can bet your boots he'll be feeling puny the next day. But I personally would not want my own kids out there in their good clothes. I mean, kids clothes now days are kinda pricey. And if I have to pay for them, I want to encourage them to try and take care of them. I think if it's sprinkling or light rain (no thunder/lightning) and they were in play clothes with a adult out there, I would'nt mind too much. But I still wouldn't let them stay out too long.

[jmdt]

My son is 13. I would have gone to the door if... HE WAS INSIDE!!! When he saw me he went in to get his stuff. I turned my car around and thats when she waved and went inside. Was I supposed to get out of my car run up the driveway and then knock on the door she just went into??? My older son is 22 am I supposed to go introduce myself to all of his friends parents before I allow him to go over there???

[KazzyK810]

Originally Posted by jmdt

My son is 13. I would have gone to the door if... HE WAS INSIDE!!! When he saw me he went in to get his stuff. I turned my car around and thats when she waved and went inside. Was I supposed to get out of my car run up the driveway and then knock on the door she just went into??? My older son is 22 am I supposed to go introduce myself to all of his friends parents before I allow him to go over there???

Yes!

I don't believe you can compare a 13 year old young teen and a 22 year old adult.

My point was, in that situation, I'd think if a parent didn't care enough to meet the people whose house their kid is at and see the kind of people he's hanging with, I sure wouldn't think they'd care about playing in the rain.

[jmdt]

Originally Posted by Britster

I understand why you'd be mad for sure. But eh, kids will kids sometimes. I used to love playing in the rain as a kid. It never failed either that I would go play next door in the dirt before PM kindergarten started lol. We were in a new development so houses were still being built and we'd go climb the dirt hills. Mom would be sooo mad at me. Luckily I had so many friends on my street that we never had to physically go anywhere else so if we got messy or whatnot, could just run home, change, and run back out.

When my 22yr old was younger, I'd say about 12 or so, he went to hang out with a friend also in a new developement. They were climbing on the dirt hills and my son fell and cut his cheek just under his eye. The other mother didn't call me and just cleaned him up. When I went to pick him up the gash was so wide I took him straight to the ER and he had about 15 stitches inside and some outside. He had to have plastic surgery!! I never was mad at the other mother and he went there after this and the other kid was here many times too. He was playing, they are going to get dirty,or maybe even sometimes hurt, stuff happens I get it..

[jmdt]

Originally Posted by KazzyK810

Yes!

I don't believe you can compare a 13 year old young teen and a 22 year old adult.

My point was, in that situation, I'd think if a parent didn't care enough to meet the people whose house their kid is at and see the kind of people he's hanging with, I sure wouldn't think they'd care about playing in the rain.

Well your wrong!

[jmdt]

Anyway I am over it and it really is not a big deal I thought it was wrong to let the kids play outside and send them home wet.

Going to the cemetary now, today is the 16 anniversary of my mothers death and the 14th anniversary of my twin baby girls death. (I was 5-1/2 months pregnant).

I will let him go there anytime and the other kid can come here, but you can bet if it's raining they will be inside!!

[megansmomma]

Originally Posted by southernbelle04

I can totally understand why you felt the way you did. I am not a Mom yet, but am an aunt to a active 6 year old nephew. We will not let him play out in heavy rain. He is really prone to ear infections and if he is out there even 10 minutes in the rain, you can bet your boots he'll be feeling puny the next day. But ersonally would not want my own kids out there in their good clothes. I mean, kids clothes now days are kinda pricey. And if I have to pay for them, I want to encourage them to try and take care of them. I think if it's sprinkling or light rain (no thunder/lightning) and they were in play clothes with a adult out there, I would'nt mind too much. But I still wouldn't let them stay out too long.

If the OPer's son was 6 yrs old then I could see this being a little more of an issue but he is 13 yrs old. There is a huge difference in the accountability you give to a Jr High School age child vs a Kindergartner. Teenagers are faced with many decisions that they need to make responsible decisions for and the only way they will be able to do so is to make them responsible for all their decisions. As they mature they are faced with many decisions and need to know how to respond appropriately.

IMO if the OPer was so upset the venting needed to be done them it she should have expressed herself directly to her son. Otherwise, in the future he will not know that his playing in the rain in certain clothing was unacceptable.

High School is just around the corner and that is an entirely different senario that presents so many more challenges. My oldest son and his friends started a tradition while playing football in HS to have a Thanksgiving day football game. To this day they still get together to roll around in the freezing mud every Thanksgiving morning. Now that they are all in their 20's they still like to get dirty. If they could magically go back to their childhood I think they would to want to just to be able to roll in the dirt and play in the rain~

[KazzyK810]

Originally Posted by jmdt

Anyway I am over it and it really is not a big deal I thought it was wrong to let the kids play outside and send them home wet.

Going to the cemetary now, today is the 16 anniversary of my mothers death and the 14th anniversary of my twin baby girls death. (I was 5-1/2 months pregnant).

I will let him go there anytime and the other kid can come here, but you can bet if it's raining they will be inside!!

Wow! Sorry to hear about this...must have been devastating. Kinda puts all this piddly s**t into perspective, doesn't it?

Wishing you a great day filled with wonderful memories of your mum

[jmdt]

Originally Posted by megansmomma

If the OPer's son was 6 yrs old then I could see this being a little more of an issue but he is 13 yrs old. There is a huge difference in the accountability you give to a Jr High School age child vs a Kindergartner. Teenagers are faced with many decisions that they need to make responsible decisions for and the only way they will be able to do so is to make them responsible for all their decisions. As they mature they are faced with many decisions and need to know how to respond appropriately.

IMO if the OPer was so upset the venting needed to be done them it she should have expressed herself directly to her son. Otherwise, in the future he will not know that his playing in the rain in certain clothing was unacceptable.

High School is just around the corner and that is an entirely different senario that presents so many more challenges. My oldest son and his friends started a tradition while playing football in HS to have a Thanksgiving day football game. To this day they still get together to roll around in the freezing mud every Thanksgiving morning. Now that they are all in their 20's they still like to get dirty. If they could magically go back to their childhood I think they would to want to just to be able to roll in the dirt and play in the rain~

My son is a quiet shy kind of kid. Not like my other 3 at all. I would have rather met the mother before, but he called from school and wanted to go home with him to hang out. I wasn't going to say no. I bit my lip and know I raised a smart kid so I said yes.I told him to call me when he got there so I knew he was safe and to get the address so I could pick him up. . It was fine for him to play in the rain I don't have a problem with him being in the rain. I just thought it was not a very good parenting decision on her part. I am a full blown soccer mom. My son who just graduated college and my daughter a junior in college play on their college teams.They have been playing since they are 4yrs old, I have been to many, many, many games in the rain with them. That is not the issue., These kids went home from school on the bus with this kid to hang out. I know my son wasnt knocking over a liquor store or smoking crack. I just thought the mom would keep them inside thats all. I did not want to make an issue of it to my son because like I said he is trying to make friends here... and I know he had a good time. It's just the mother...who should have known better. Dont tell me high school is just around the corner... between my 3 older ones I have done high school for 11 years, 4 with my older son, 4 with my older daughter, and 3 with my younger daughter who is a senior in high school. I know the "challenges they face"
Next time I will screen my venting before posting!

[jmdt]

Originally Posted by KazzyK810

Wow! Sorry to hear about this...must have been devastating. Kinda puts all this piddly s**t into perspective, doesn't it?

Wishing you a great day filled with wonderful memories of your mum

Thank you and yes it is devistating to say the least. I didn't even know they were twins until I had a sonogram and they saw them. 1 wasn't growing right and I ended up losing both of them.
It's hard especially since my sister in law had identical twin girls the year later. Going to every event for them is very painful for me but I would never show it.
My youngest, this 13yr old, came after that and I know he was meant to be in my life. Not knowing, we named him Thomas, and after he was born I looked in the baby name book to see what the name means, well..... it means "twin".
Your right all this small stuff means nothing I was just mearly saying I wouldn't do it is all. I was irritated, I mean its not like there aren't things to do inside. Whatever it's fine, it's over and I hope my son continues to grow and make friends.

[chachi]

Its okay to vent and thats all you were trying to do I know. What Ive found with kids parents or just people in general is what I think is appropriate can be different than what they think is appropriate. There is usually no right or wrong just different ways of looking at things. I hope you feel you can still come here and vent because I know just getting it off your chest can make you feel better and I believe thats all you were trying to do

[McheleM]

Originally Posted by jmdt

I have had my older son "wrap my car around a tree" Thats not a fun call to get. Your talking apples and oranges. I was just mearly venting here thats all. I never expected to be picking up my kid soaking wet is all.
When you go through teenage years with your kids then you can tell me to relax. I'm living it now and I am very "relaxed"
Thank goodness my "brain cells" are connected because I hate to think what would happen to my children if they weren't. I've gotten 1 through college and 1 almost there, 1 almost through high school. believe me I pick my battles very carefully. I just thought this was irresponsible to send him home soaking wet. That's all

You know nothing about me...Ive raised my kids. 3 of them in fact. Playing in the rain isn't the end of the world.

You asked what we thought and we told you. You don't like what we had to say, oh well. Get over it. There are worse things in the world than wet clothes, wet shoes or a wet car.

[capt_noonie]

I really don't know why the OP came here to "vent". Obviously she wanted support, yet in her past posts she doesn't need any parenting help. She says she's over it, it wasn't a big deal, but it was a big enough deal to post here. IDK.