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05-30-2007, 09:40 PM | #16 |
No Longer a Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Ontario, Canada
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| My favorite quote is "No man is worth your tears...and the one that IS wont make you cry" If you are fighting over small stuff..imagine when the big stuff gets to hard..imagine the fighting then. I know its hard to imagine at this point but things WILL get better!! You cant make someone love you like you love them and in the end you will just keep hurting...its better to hurt and get it over with and move on to happier things!! You have our support and a sweet yorkie!! Dawn |
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05-31-2007, 04:48 AM | #17 | |
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05-31-2007, 06:55 AM | #18 |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Phillipsburg NJ
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| Awe I hate reading or hearing things like this..I feel for you! My boyfriend and I were together for 2 years when he told me he thinks it is too early for him to be in a committed relationship; I laughed then cried then laughed some more. 2 YEARS? And you tell me then??? We broke it off...and backed away from each other...no contact other than a phone call like once a week for like 10 minutes to say hello. But it helped. Within 4 weeks; he came back telling me he couldn't be without our relationship; and I was what made him happy. We had the same problem..fighting, small stuff, blah blah blah. It is common to get to know each others personalities around 2 plus years as well. So sometimes it takes a little work to fiddle with personalities. I think you should step back. Let him miss you. HIDE YOUR PHONE. The hardest thing is seeing their number come up on the caller ID. And then in like 3 weeks if you feel like you want him back...see if he feels the same. if not...THERE ARE MORE MEN OUT THERE. I promise...lol I know how much it hurts. The best remedy is time...ice cream and friends. Keep yourself really busy. Good luck hun!
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05-31-2007, 07:27 AM | #19 | |
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05-31-2007, 07:36 AM | #20 |
Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Brooklyn, NY
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| It really hurts when you go through this, but you are making a good decision. Prayer and hugs to you,
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05-31-2007, 07:49 AM | #21 |
Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: S. Ca
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| I agree, if he loves you, for sure he will miss you. We all go thru this in our relationship, bickering, needing time apart etc. If he needs space, let him have it. Go on a girls night out with your friends who will support you. You'll be alright. |
05-31-2007, 07:53 AM | #22 |
My Little Princess Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: SUNNY,FLORIDA
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| i know what you are going thru. i just left the guy i was seeing. im sick of the drama. im still hurting but i know it will get better. so i know how much it hurts. but, trust me it will get better.
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05-31-2007, 09:01 AM | #23 |
Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: TX
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| Bless your heart! I think it's murphy's law that every girl must go through this sort of thing when she's 19 ish...I know I did! I'm so sorry you're hurting right now. Just remember that he does not decide your identity!!! You are a beautiful woman with many amazing qaulities ( I know this because God makes us all in his image!) I think the best thing to do is to let him go because it's when people feel trapped that they freak out and become even worse than they were in the beginning. I know clingyness (is that a word?) can be really unatractive to us all. So stand up, be the confident beautiful woman you are and let him miss you!! I also believe that relationships are just hard...I don't know one healthy relationship that didn't poses two people willing to grow and change themselves for the better! Love is not like the love we see in movies for long... it takes work from both people! You take two people and put them in one relationship, both have to change and grow! I will say a special prayer for you today. I know how hard this is. Heather |
05-31-2007, 09:26 AM | #24 |
Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: McKinney
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| Sorry So Long! I too am sorry that you are having to go through this. I know that break ups are really hard and very emotional. I have had my share as well. But I have to tell you that the right person will come along and you have to know him when you see him. And I don't mean that every Mr. Wrong is a big jerk, some really nice guys can be just "wrong". I was engaged once to the "wrong" guy. He was perfectly nice. But 2 months before our wedding he said he thought we were making a big mistake. And after I cried a river and thought about it, I knew he was right. We had been together for 2 years also. At that time 2 years seemed like forever. But after I broke off my engagement I began dating my now husband. I have been married for 10 years now to the most perfect man in the world FOR ME! He may not be right for everyone, but we really have the most amazing relationship I know. That doesn't mean that we don't fight-- we do. But it is what happens during and after the fight. He has NEVER threatened to leave me, he has never suggested that we not be together or that he made some kind of mistake. And I feel that way too. I know in my heart of hearts that he is the one that I was meant to be with. And that is what I wish for you-- to find the right one. My husband and I both joke about all of the "practice relationships" we had to go through to get to where we are. But we all have to wade through them. Like they say, "A girl has to kiss a lot of frogs to find her prince!"
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05-31-2007, 09:35 AM | #25 | |
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05-31-2007, 09:53 AM | #26 |
No Longer a Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Maryland
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| I'm really sorry that you have to go through his! And here comes the wits and wisdom of somebody which is in her 4th marriage (twice divorced, widowed once, now happily ever after... ) and I dare to claim to know a little about relationships and especially why they so often don't work. Well.... there is a key word for the success: COMMUNICATION!!!!! Very often we just assume that our partner knows what we think or feel, but unless he is psychic he really DOESN'T!!!! We don't do either, so ask him directly what he wants and be very specific. Not just "what do you want from life" but "do you like scrambled eggs in the morning?" "do you like to have kids one day?", "where do see yourself next year in May?", "how much money do you make and how are we going to make ends meet?", "what do expect me to do when you come home?", etc... you get the picture. There is another key and that's very hard to do sometimes. My dad used to call it: "Be pretty and shut up!" or how Dr. Phil likes to put it: "do you wanna be right or married?" In the heat of the moment we tend to react emotionally rather than logically and we tend to hurt the others feelings b/c we are hurt too. Well... that's a very dangerous thing to do b/c a word spoken can't be taken back. I would like to give you a big hug and a hint... try to learn a little more about relationships, there are plenty of helpful books out there. You don't have to "invent the wheel" again... For almost everything you need classes and a licence but in the most important part of our lifes we tend to just tapp around like a blind chicken. It's true, "a blind pig finds an acorn once in a while" but you also have to "kiss a lot of frogs" until you find your prince. Pheeewwww... I hope I didn't bore you to death... |
06-01-2007, 06:36 AM | #27 |
RIP Skoshi! Love You Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Wichita falls,tx
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| I LOVE YOU GIRLS!!!! LOL thanks so much! i havent really got to talk to him because when he gets off and i get off at about the same time hes been going to his brothers to play games. and when he gets back im asleep so we havent really said anything. he gave me a kiss when he got out of the car and thats the most we have communicated really. the time will come when we will sit down and talk. He hates to talk tho. he would rather say baby everythings okay than to talk about stuff. And i have been really patient with him like yesterday we had some movies that were due back at midnight and we still had 2 to watch and he promised me the day before that we would finish them on thursday (yesterday) and when he got off work he told me he was going to his brothers i said okay So you just gonna turn the movies in when you get home lol he said oh im sorry i forgot i promise we will rent them again i told him it was cool dont worry about it. so i will just let stuff be and see how it goes. |
06-01-2007, 06:46 AM | #28 |
YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: PENNSYLVANIA
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| You go girl! It seems like you've come to terms with whatever may happen. Your brave and strong and it seems like he's just confused and needs time!
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06-01-2007, 07:41 AM | #29 |
YT Addict Join Date: May 2007 Location: salisbury
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| Sorry your going through this, but you are still young...so is he. Take my advice, if he wants to go let him go. You dont have kids yet, your not married. Let him go and you go to college and get a degree (if you dont already have one) and THEN focus on finding someone who will love you for you and not run somewhere everyday to play games!! I am 23 years old, i got married at 19. We have 2 children together, and hes 8 years older than me. Men our age dont know what they want and they are in no way ready to settle down and cut loose of the little 2 year old that is still controling every part of them. I do not regret getting married so young, my husband is great. But he is older and was ready and so was I. But now I am a mother, a wife, have a full time job, working through nursing school and of course all my little critters....its very hard. Go to school while you still have the chance, live in the dorms, go party on the weekends, do whatever you want to do. You dont need anyone to make you happy. Please dont take any of this the wrong way ok. Just take it from somebody that knows what its like when you get married before you get school out of the way first. |
06-01-2007, 12:30 PM | #30 |
Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: New Hampshire
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| Oh man, been there, done that! hey girl, 2 years ago I was engaged to the man I was with for 10 years!!! We met when I was 19. We broke up when I was 22, and again when I was 24 and yet again when I was 28, engaged and owning a house with the guy. Talk about rollercoaster relationship. Often times I would think about breaking up with him when we were fighting but I never did. I think that is a sign that YOU are not truely happy if you think that way during a fight. Anyways, after 10 years I have to start over.. Im 30 now, single and watching everyone around me settle down and get married, engaged, have a child... and I dont even have a potential partner anymore. You are young... dont waste time with someone who does not love you like they should. If he is saying he doesn't know... that is not good enough! I know it hurs now, but it hurts way way way worse in 10 years when you realized that you wasted a DECADE trying to get someone whom you loved sooo deeply to love you back just as much! You can't make someone love you. Sadly! I wish I let the relationship go after the first breakup! Its just not worth the fight anymore at some point... only you know that point! good luck!! Remember the pain does go away, so if you are afraid of being upset and hurt, right now, its only temporary. Further down the line it could be scarring and permanent. (((HUGS)))
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