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02-20-2012, 08:43 PM | #1 |
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| Colic is the hardest thing I've ever been through... My son is colicky. He started showing signs at about 3-4 weeks and got very very bad at about 6 weeks and hasn't really settled down much since. He's always fussy at about 7-8pm until about 10pm-1am somewhere. It's better since we started a bath and story routine and started swaddling him tight again. It's just the hardest thing I've ever done. So hard to love a little one so much and not be able to fix it. Hard because my parents both think it's curable and fixable and that it's got to be something I'm doing wrong like i should stop breast feeding, or not eating the right things and making him gassy, or that i need to pump and bottle feed, or that he's just sick, or tummy ache, or needs a chiropractor and on and on and one to the point that i'm in tears today over my father telling me i wasn't ready to be a mother and should have waited if i can't handle the stress. the thing is my mom can settle him down and so can my dh. i don't seem to be able to settle him well because he wants to eat when i'm holding him. i give in a lot to soothe him, but it's taking a toll on my nipples TMI sorry and my mind. i also need to learn to stop calling my mom with every crying fit. she's becoming a nervous wreak because she thinks she needs to try and fix it and she's over 100 miles away. she's mad that i don't follow all her advice but the thing is i'm more interested in just venting to her and the advice i follow is from a sister in law who is A) a neonatal nurse B) a mom of two breastfed kids and C) her son had a horrible case of colic. my mom raised her last kid 19 years ago and has never breastfed or dealt with a colic baby. so she has nothing to really offer me. and she can't just deal with the venting anymore so i have lost the one person that always responds promptly to my calls or texts for HELP!!! so i just need to vent again. i'm up for advice on what may help but please don't try to solve it because it's not a solution type of thing. please if you've been through a colicky kid talk to me. and if you tell me to stop breastfeeding you are wasting your time typing to me. i won't stop nursing that's not the problem it's just that he's got colic and there's really no cure. gripe water and gas drops don't work. it's rough and i'm stressed and it's putting a huge strain on our marriage and lives. prayers are great, someone who has been there would be great to talk to, and advice is always welcome even if i don't end up using it. yes for once i'm ASKING for advice on my kid...but you guys aren't cramming it down my throat unasked for like everyone else....thanks... |
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02-20-2012, 08:56 PM | #2 |
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| Sorry to hear little Luke has colic. Both my brother and I were very colicy andwere both put on Neutramogen I believe it how it is spelt. Helped out a lot. I didn't see it in your post, than again I'm reading it on my phone, but has Luke been tested for lactose intolerance?
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02-20-2012, 09:04 PM | #3 |
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| You poor thing. I can relate to your stress as I do daycare in my home & I Do take infants as young as 4 wks. I do know that Dairy , Coffee, & veggies like Brocoli or any veggies that tend to cause gas can cause a tummy ache in your baby. I also recommend a Chiropractor to the moms who have gassy babies & at 1st they are a bit sceptical but once they take their baby to see the Chiro, they have All said they wish they would have done it a long time ago. Being all cramped up in the womb & going through the birth canal can often cause things to be in a position that is pinching a nerve & the Chiro will release that nerve. I will be Praying that you can find a solution as I know it's painful to see the little ones hurting. |
02-20-2012, 11:30 PM | #4 |
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| Ah sweetie, keep in mind he can feel your frustrations. I would never tell any mom to stop breastfeeding, and it sounds like you've gotten advice overload from everyone around you, which just frustrates you more. I agree with having him tested for lactose intolerance and really watching your diet. Other than that, I'm so sorry you're going through this, and I just want to offer you an internet hug and some prayers. I pray God sees you through this, and quickly.
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02-20-2012, 11:55 PM | #5 |
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| I'm not sure I have any good advice...trial and error...to figure out what might be going through the breast milk and making him colicky? I did have a colicky baby. My second born girl, Holly. Someone had given me a box of See's candy in the hospital. I was eating one or two everyday. We thought maybe it was the chocolate affecting the breast milk because when the candy ran out, the colic stopped. Not sure if that was it or not, but it seemed reasonable at the time. It is good that you have someone like a nurse to talk to about it. I know it is hard, but it will get better eventually. Saying that probably doesn't help you, but it is true that one day you will look back on this. Mom being 100 miles away doesn't help. I wouldn't vent to her anymore. Take a deep breath before you talk to mom and dad (I would pray.) Then tell them a few good things and hang up. Find another person to talk to. Can you get out of the house for a few hours? Sounds like you could use a break every few days. If your baby has a need to suck, don't wear out your nipples...use a pacifier. The baby will learn to adjust to that. It also makes it easier to pass the baby to someone else to hold for a while. I'm not sure any of my words will help you, but I do wish you the best and will be praying for your little one to start adjusting and settling down.
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02-21-2012, 06:24 AM | #6 |
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| I'm not much help as my son is 34 now (not breast fed) but did have colic so bad I still remember it! There was not much that soothed him other than rocking, walking and his pacifier. I learned to rest when he did and did my daily routine while holding him. Your sil is a great resource. The great thing is all of a sudden it was gone.
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02-21-2012, 07:46 AM | #7 |
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| I didn't have to deal with colic with my 2 but my mom says that my sister was the worst! She said that her mom spent many nights there just holding the baby because sometimes a different pair of arms will do the trick. When you're stressed the baby will sense it. Sometimes there is just NO reason but you might want to really examine your diet if you're going to continue breastfeeding. A good friend of mine was nursing her's and avoiding chinese food (one of her favorites) all because of the msg in it and then she ate some crackers and the baby went crazy on her. Finally she looked at the box of crackers and sure enough they had msg in the ingredients. You just never really know what will bring it on but you have to think about the fact that if you wouldn't knowingly feed your baby these things then you probably shouldn't consume them yourself. And then sometimes it has nothing to do with the breast milk.... sometimes it has to just run it's course. Have you by any chance tried the Target Little Tummies gas drops? I know when mine were gassy, these worked way better than the expensive mylicon drops. Just a thought in case gas is the baby's issue. Good luck!
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02-21-2012, 07:47 AM | #8 |
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| I'm so sorry you are going through all of this. Having as child is hard work, I know. You poor thing. I was lucky enough not to have any of my 4 colicky, but I remember my nephew was and my sister in law used to put the vacuum cleaner on, or the dishwasher. It seemed the "white" noise helped. I'm not sure if it helped her not to hear him or it really helped him settle down. I wish I could be of more help but I will keep you in my prayers. just remember....this too will pass!!!!
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02-21-2012, 09:02 AM | #9 |
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| I would also wonder about lactose intolerance. I had terrible colic as a child (many moons ago) - turned out I was lactose intolerant (diagnosed when I was going through this as a baby). My intestines got so inflamed I had bloody BMs as a baby. Once I was switched to no lactose, things got better. I feel for you. Colic is terrible both for baby and mom. I have heard more mothers say over the years they sat up w the baby in tears and themselves in tears over it. On the chiropractic thing, I know it is a hot topic, but I would not take a developing infant to one. I would be very uncomfortable w a chiropractor manipulating the bones/joints of an infant. They are such fragile little things at this stage and can be quite wiggly while healthcare personnel attempt to work on them (we prefer to work on them after they've been fed and are a little sleepy, but that is obviously not possible all of the time). I don't know if a women's healthcare clinic/facility in your area would have a class on infant massage. I've heard this can be quite relaxing to both baby and mom, plus it also helps build the bond between the two.
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02-21-2012, 09:26 AM | #10 |
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| I am sorry you are feeling overwhelmed and unsupported. Breastfeeding is so important for your baby. I would suggest connecting with your local LaLeche League group (I did and it was the best). Their primary focus is to educate and support breastfeeding. Dealing with sore nipples can cause premature weaning and you don't have to suffer. There are ways to eliminate and prevent this. You will also find suggestions for your colicky baby that don't involve premature weaning. At the very least, it is a group of moms/babies in your same boat! Praying for health, peace and support for you and your family. |
02-21-2012, 10:27 AM | #11 |
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| Ok, I've no advice beyond what has already been given, but my mom swore by this to help as a quick temporary fix to colic pain. Make a 'nest' out of a few blankets on top of your dryer, turn the dryer on and then lay your son in the nest. There is something about the gentle vibration and noise that helps them. It doesn't address the cause of the colic, but it does help give some relief when colic comes on. God bless, I pray you find a permanent solution soon.
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02-21-2012, 11:52 AM | #12 |
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| FYI, on the Chiro. They do not do jerking & twisting , they use the Activator just like they do with dogs & it is completely safe. |
02-21-2012, 12:33 PM | #13 |
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| My son had colic...it was horrible!! Test for lactose intolerance, as has been suggested. My vet....er..sorry about that....PEDIATRICIAN!...tried everything, all kinds of drops, different formula...I was breast feeding too....nothing worked. He suggested laying him on a heating pad turned on low....my mother went NUTS and said NO! You will burn him!...so I slept for 3 months, with my son on my stomach, for the warmth from my body....that seemed to help, but EXACTLY like my mother told me, to the day, at 3 months of age, it was like someone hit a switch and turned the colic off....he abruptly stopped having it, and he never had anything like that again! And get a pacifier, sweetie! You are going to RUIN your nipples and wont be able to continue breast feeding! So it is going to get better!!! Hang in there!!! |
02-21-2012, 12:34 PM | #14 | |
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There is also a correlation between neck manipulations and stroke, actually studied by the american neurologists (and I think Canadian). Please do not make statements ensuring the complete safety.
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02-21-2012, 03:45 PM | #15 |
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| I'm so sorry you're experiencing the colic thing with your baby boy My son (who is now 23) had it and OMG I was a wreck! I didn't breastfeed, though. The only thing that seemed to help him was to strap him into his little carseat and go for a long drive. Settled him right down, but usually he'd wake back up again when I tried to carry him into the house and remove him from the seat to put him in his crib. The only thing I can tell you is that it doesn't last forever. Hang in there Mommy If it gets really bad to where you are super frustrated and/or crying, put him in his crib and walk away for a few minutes. He can feel what you are feeling and it can make it go on longer if you're holding him and upset, you know? The Mylanta drops didn't help us either. Thinking of you!!!!
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