Totally UPSET! (LONG POST)

[Ozzie'sperson]

Originally Posted by mizzwanned

You are doing what you can do and we're here for you...I'm sure someone here on YT wouldn't have a problem taking the maltese, we can find it a good home.

You definitely are doing what you can do -- much to the betterment of these animals. But it should not be to your detriment either.

Take a deep breath. Assess the situation. (Do the dogs have ringworm? Is the Maltese the heartworm patient? What are their immediate needs -- beyond food and water -- and what needs to be done for those? Will she surrender the Maltese willingly?) Starting to ask and answer these questions will invariably create more questions. Start making a game plan.

God bless you for getting involved and God bless your godmother for helping you by taking them in!

[ARCHIE]

Please go back and get the Maltese. He's probably so very loney without
his campanions and now has to suffer alone I know your under pressure
but think how clean your conscience will be knowing all three are safe.
Take him to the ASPCA and save him.

[JPop & Taz 2]

I think we should all give Kim a break! She obviously is doing all she can to help the babies; the fact she came here for advise and support should attest to that! If your' plates never been full, consider yourself lucky. Kim, I admire you for standing up to your friend and doing what you can.

[yorkiegirl83]

I agree that the Maltese needs help.. please even if you are just going to drop this fur baby off at a rescue or shelter, SOMEONE will LOVE it and help it -- I promise you!

To leave it there all alone, in filth with someone who is abusing it, is just completely wrong. I understand that you're busy, have a life, and can't save the world... but you don't have to "save" the world... a day out of your life to find a rescue will not make or break your studies.. but it WILL save a life.

I'm not trying to be harsh, but I don't think I could live with myself knowing that I left behind an innocent animal that needs me, especially with so much help available!

[JCarlson2004]

Originally Posted by JPop & Taz 2

I think we should all give Kim a break! She obviously is doing all she can to help the babies; the fact she came here for advise and support should attest to that! If your' plates never been full, consider yourself lucky. Kim, I admire you for standing up to your friend and doing what you can.

I agree. I think we need to cut Kim some slack.

Kim, what I would do (since you and no one you know can keep the Maltese) is simply bring it to a rescue or a shelter. SOMEONE will eventually adopt it and at least while it's waiting for a new home, it will receive medical attention, food and a bath. Plus, it will be walked and not cramped in a tiny cage. That is definitely a much better environment than the one it's in now.

I wish you the best of luck and please keep on updated on these 3 little dogs.

[ldw]

Kim,

I think you've done a great thing, you are doing your best and I quite understand your predicament. You've managed to help two of the three which is already a great start and I know you'll help the little maltese as well. One step at a time!

I did not mean to offend you with the remark about studying. I understand those priorities believe me! But you were so obviously upset by what you had seen that I could imagine under the current stress it would be twice as stressful and I personally would have difficulties focusing. But thats just me!

I personally don't judge you. I think you're dealing with a tough situation and you're doing the best you can. I may be reading too much between the lines but I get the feeling you're under phenomenal pressure and you just feel like you're being torn in all directions. I merely wanted you to make sure that you follow your heart (which clearly is a good one) and make sure that the decisions you make are right for you.

Now, seeing as we are all so shocked... and you dear Kim are footing the bill for two of these poor creatures, would any of the members here consider donating a few dollars to help cover some of the medical expenses so that its not all on poor Kim's hubbys shoulders?? Just a thought, I reckon if a few of us were to pitch 5 or 10 bucks we could help out....

[nancy137738]

What your friend is doing is total abuse.. I just took in a 7year old great dane that was in a puppymill and had many,many litters of puppies. The owner beat her with a baseball bat and a garbage can. She was in horriable shape. My friend got the dane out of the situation and the owner went to jail. Needless to say this poor dane is the sweetest dog for all she has been through I am really surprised at that. I will never let this dog go to anyone else. But, you really need to get those dogs out of that situation even though she is a friend.

[mizzwanned]

Originally Posted by nancy137738

What your friend is doing is total abuse.. I just took in a 7year old great dane that was in a puppymill and had many,many litters of puppies. The owner beat her with a baseball bat and a garbage can. She was in horriable shape. My friend got the dane out of the situation and the owner went to jail. Needless to say this poor dane is the sweetest dog for all she has been through I am really surprised at that. I will never let this dog go to anyone else. But, you really need to get those dogs out of that situation even though she is a friend.

aww I'm so glad you saved her.. Bless you! It just breaks my heart that there are SOOOOO many out there still suffering and being abused that we don't know about

[LullaBelle]

My Heart goes out to those dogs!!!!
The fact that you asked for help is wonderfull and proof that you are kind hearted and sweet. It is good of you to worry about your husband and finances that is what a smart woman would do,
With that said...
Call a shelter or a rescue group even the ASPCA anybody you think can help these dogs. That girl isn't as kind hearted as you and may never understand the consiquences of her actions! You have a choice. You have allready acted, good for you, but you need to act again.
Now you are a kind person, I am sure if you had to choose between a friend of a childs safty you would choose the child. Your a mom so you know that kids and dogs both need ppl to care for them. There isn't much of a differnce they both deserve humanin treatement. Your a good person for worring, but procrastinating b/c of your friend is not a good idea for the dogs sake. You and those dogs are in my prayers!!! I hope you become stronger though this trial.

[xBUTTERCUPx]

I know that everyone has agreed that the maltese needs to be taken out of there as well. I have taken a lot of time to clean her filthy house and made the conditions better for the dog and made an appointment for the dog to see the vet and have also written her a check (paid to the order of the vet) and have also purchase food and bed for this dog. She also agreed that she will take better care of her (the maltese) and that I will be checking in on her and if she doesn't stand up to her words that I WILL call the authorities on her. I just think, now that the other 2 are not on her hands any more that she will be able to care for this one.

To some people, what I'm doing may be wrong but I think she deserves another chance. And this is the only chance that I will give her because she put me through a lot and I think I've spent a pretty good amount of money just to help her.

[ldw]

Kim,

I respect your decision and I hope with all my heart she won't disappoint you... You have a very generous heart and sadly people with such giving souls tend to get used a lot. But I will hope for you things work out how you hope.

Still think YT should have a little "whip round" to raise a little money to help this poor wee creatures, so its not all coming out of your pocket.

Anyway, I wish you strength and good luck with the exams!

[MaxwellHouse]

You have done more than most friends would do. I hope she keeps up her end of the deal. It's just that a lot of us trying to give you advice have been around the block several times and aren't as trusting that someone can change their spots. We can't help but worry about the one left behind. But you did a fine job, God bless you.

[celstu1]

Originally Posted by xBUTTERCUPx

I know that everyone has agreed that the maltese needs to be taken out of there as well. I have taken a lot of time to clean her filthy house and made the conditions better for the dog and made an appointment for the dog to see the vet and have also written her a check (paid to the order of the vet) and have also purchase food and bed for this dog. She also agreed that she will take better care of her (the maltese) and that I will be checking in on her and if she doesn't stand up to her words that I WILL call the authorities on her. I just think, now that the other 2 are not on her hands any more that she will be able to care for this one.
To some people, what I'm doing may be wrong but I think she deserves another chance. And this is the only chance that I will give her because she put me through a lot and I think I've spent a pretty good amount of money just to help her.

Kim,
Only you know this person as she is your friend. If you think she is capable of caring for the maltese, then you'll give her the chance. Obviousely 3 dogs was too much for her and the apartment she in. Hopefully with one dog and your help she is now ahead of the game and will be more responsible and set some money aside for her pets medical care and basic needs. I know life is rough for people once in awhile. I know my friends would help me out if I needed dog food and had no money! You are a good friend to do this for her. Maybe she is feeling overwhelmed in her life right now and instead of turning to her babies for comfort, like most of us here do, she turns away from everything to figure it out. Im glad you reminded her how important it is to take care of her pets! Once your semester is over I hope you are able to go back and be her friend still and check on that baby to make sure she is doing right by him. School is HARD! It takes a TON of time and effort and I understand being stressed out with everything in YOUR life right now to not be able to take on 3 extra dogs. You are a good person! I pray that she does not take advantage of your kindness and not help the dog like she should.


Good Luck on your exams!

[YorkieShadow]

Originally Posted by xBUTTERCUPx

Okay..I posted another thread a few days ago stating that I was going to foster my friend's yorkie. I spoke with her about caring for the dog, potty training, and what the future holds for me, her, and the dog. She insists that I come and pick up her dog. Okay so after hours and hours of exhaustive studying (I'm a student), I drove approximately 45 minutes to her place, where she is living with her sister.

When I arrive, she complimented Buttercup A LOT and how nice his hair looks, how silky it is, and how he looks much better in person. Then she started talking about how her other friend who fostered her dogs for 2 weeks abused them and they were infested with fleas so that caused their hair to fall off, etc. When I had enough, I asked her where her dogs were (Yorkie, Maltese, and Papillon). When she told me they were in the restroom, I asked if I could take them out. Her reply was 'I don't think you want to because they stink really bad. I haven't taken a bath for them for 3 weeks'

I thought she was joking. When I walked down the hall towards the restroom, about 10 feet away was when I smelled the stinch. When I entered was a whole different story. SHE KEEPS ALL THREE IN A KENNEL that is about the 16x4. She doesn't let them out the pee, to poop, (saying that it was too much of a hassle) lets just say she doesn't let them out at all. NO WONDER WHY THEY STINK!

I offered to clean and bathe the dogs for her, comb all the mats out and clean out the kennel. What I found out when I bathing each was that they were all malnourished. You can actually see their BONES! I asked if she feeds them and she said only once a day. So I fed them and they ate like they never ate their whole entire lives. The dogs were so happy to be out of that kennel and she wondered why they were so hyper!

I offered to take both the maltese and yorkie (although they were bald and nasty looking) and then she tells me they all have ringworms and one have heartworms. I left without them and can tell that they were sad that I left. I didn't take them with me because I feared that Buttercup would catch whatever they had and worms might not be the only thing they have.

I read this whole thread, and I just want to say Thank you for what you have done. Its so easy for everyone to say what you should do.Because they are not in your shoes. I have took in many rescues and I know how hard it can be some times. Not to mention bringing these animals into your home and not knowing what all they have and hoping that your own pets dont get any thing. and then having to spend your own money on someone elses animals just so they can have a better life and a chance, I do agree that the maltese needs to find a new home too, But what you have already done shows you have a good heart. I still have 10 animals at my home that I took in and that needs homes. Its some times hard to rehome them and once you have took them in you are then stuck with them , So yes its a lot to take on. I hope and pray that all three of them find a forevere home as I do for the ones I have.

[cindy0721]

well this is just horrible.... I am sorry your friend is such a idiot when it comes to taking care of her pets... if you EVER need some help I am in Texas I live farther from you but I will make the arrangements to help this baby out if need be.. you just let me know ok..