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12-27-2010, 04:06 PM | #1 |
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| Yorkie obsession....feelings hurt Ok, this has bothered me since Christmas Eve. My son, his wife & children came from VA for the day. Close to when they were getting ready to leave, my son pulls me aside and says, mom, come to the garage I need to talk with you privately. Ok well, we get out there and he said, mom, we have talked and this is a very serious problem you have with this obsession you have with Zhoie. You are/it's not normal. I know I looked dumbfounded, it really took me back and I probably didn't handle it right. I looked at him and said "son, if you have a serious problem with this....it's your serious problem, not mine. Later, when they were gone and I started thinking about it, I was nearly brought to tears. What is so wrong with me loving my dog unconditionally? It certainly does not make me a nut case, like I felt he was referring too. Geez. Thought please
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12-27-2010, 04:14 PM | #2 |
Donating YT 4000 Club Member | Until one has a yorkie, I don't think they can understand the depth of feelings we have for them. I know I had no clue just how deeply these little ones would worm their way in to my heart. Let it go and look at it as his loss that he doesn't "get it". There are a whole lot of worse things to be obsessed about.
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12-27-2010, 04:17 PM | #3 |
Donating YT 2000 Club Member | There is absolutely nothing wrong with you! My kids say the same thing about me and I don't care. I love my babies and would do anything for them and no one can change that.
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12-27-2010, 04:18 PM | #4 | |
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12-27-2010, 04:19 PM | #5 |
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| then we are all a nut case my son give me and hubby a trip to the beach hubby wants to leave Wed morning son lives next door they both said the dogs would not be a problem well what part did they not understand i'm not going with out them so they had better find me a place to stay that takes my babies
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12-27-2010, 04:21 PM | #6 |
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| Thank you both! I knew others must face the samething and would be able to reassure me....I AM normal (yorkie mama normal) lol.
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12-27-2010, 04:21 PM | #7 | |
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12-27-2010, 04:22 PM | #8 |
YT 2000 Club Donating Member | Well, that topic probably should have been discussed when there was time to actually "discuss" how and why he felt the way he did. On the plus side he did take you aside privately, and maybe intended that you really think a lot about what he said, in hopes that you and he could have a future conversation. I'm assuming that you have a pretty good relationship with your son. So the way is clear for you to inquire of him a little more about just what in his mind constitutes an "unhealthy" obsession, and how he perceives this obession negatively affecting your life, well being and happiness. I do know that many of my acquaintances do not at all understand the time I take with my dogs, and my wholehearted interest in dogs. How-ever my friends who for the most part do the same types of things I do with my dogs, have no problem understanding. In our milieu, it is natural to put social engagements on a temp hold, dependent on how this dog or that cat does after surgery, or if one of the pups is ill, etc. I can certainly see how you were blindsided by this statement. And how in the heat of the moment you uttered certainly what is true most times; that is if his idea of "proper" dog ownership, love and affection differs from yours, doesn't mean your idea is wrong, or even overdone in any way. I'm sorry that this had to happen in this joyous season, and wish a better New Year for you and yours.
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12-27-2010, 04:23 PM | #9 |
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| Thank you...I feel much better....it is my son that doesn't get it....not me.
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12-27-2010, 04:23 PM | #10 | |
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You care about them because they NEED you. They need you to know all this stuff and do all this stuff because they can't. The lengths we go to may seem crazy to those that don't have little pups, but once you have one you know that those are just things that should be done for them. Don't let others who misunderstand make you feel bad. I know I've stopped listening to them and trust me I was given a lot of grief. I am now labeled a "hypocrite" and I get a lot of "see you did turn into a crazy dog lady despite you saying you would never be like that." But my baby is healthy and happy, just the way it should be | |
12-27-2010, 04:25 PM | #11 |
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| I agree with everyone. You are not obsessed. You love your yorkie and people have to understand it and if they don't, please don't let it get to you. My son took me to my very first Yankees game this past October. I had a great time but when we got back in the car to come home, I couldn't get home quick enough to see Sammy. Even while we were at the game, I was wondering if he was OK. You are not the only one who loves your yorkie so very much!! Nothing wrong with it!! |
12-27-2010, 04:35 PM | #12 | |
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His thoughts are and always have been, a dog should be treated like a dog, no more no less.
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12-27-2010, 04:36 PM | #13 |
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| As the old saying goes "They Have To Walk A Mile In Your Shoes". Nobody understands people who love their animals unless they have one to love. They also don't know the love they give back every day. They don't know what they're missing. So don't get upset about it. It's their loss. |
12-27-2010, 04:41 PM | #14 | |
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12-27-2010, 04:43 PM | #15 |
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| I knew my YT friends would listen and take away the nagging feelings I was having. Thank you all....much better now.
__________________ Tena & Zhoie Sweet Little Miracle Last edited by Perrella; 12-27-2010 at 04:45 PM. |
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