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Originally Posted by gemy  Well, that topic probably should have been discussed when there was time to actually "discuss" how and why he felt the way he did.
On the plus side he did take you aside privately, and maybe intended that you really think a lot about what he said, in hopes that you and he could have a future conversation.
I'm assuming that you have a pretty good relationship with your son. So the way is clear for you to inquire of him a little more about just what in his mind constitutes an "unhealthy" obsession, and how he perceives this obession negatively affecting your life, well being and happiness.
I do know that many of my acquaintances do not at all understand the time I take with my dogs, and my wholehearted interest in dogs. How-ever my friends who for the most part do the same types of things I do with my dogs, have no problem understanding. In our milieu, it is natural to put social engagements on a temp hold, dependent on how this dog or that cat does after surgery, or if one of the pups is ill, etc.
I can certainly see how you were blindsided by this statement. And how in the heat of the moment you uttered certainly what is true most times; that is if his idea of "proper" dog ownership, love and affection differs from yours, doesn't mean your idea is wrong, or even overdone in any way.
I'm sorry that this had to happen in this joyous season, and wish a better New Year for you and yours. |
Thank you, I may talk more with my son about his feelings and why a little later on when I'm less emotional about his statements.
His thoughts are and always have been, a dog should be treated like a dog, no more no less.