Yorkie obsession....feelings hurt

[patchesmom10]

I am the same way I could never have children so Patches is my child. I love him with all my heart and soul




Patches & Winnie

[Micah my love]

I believe for some of us that they make up for the empty nest, I was always use to having my kids & their friends in and out of the house, just because they are not here any more i'm not gonna just sit and do nothing.

my babies need me just like i need them we love and take care of each other

[Darlin Beauxs]

I could think of a million worse things to be obsessed over! I agree with the other posters, it is your son's problem, not yours!

I understand how you feel. We do not have children, we have our three little Yorkies, and we love them to pieces. We worry if their mood seems "off", we sit up all night when the weather is bad, (if necessary), because Darcy is terriified of storms.

My hubby just informed me today that he wanted me to call the groomer for Darcy tomorrow. I was trying to let her grow out a little for the cold weather, but he says long hair is "not her look" . Just last night, when it was cold enough to use the electric blanket, I got up and slipped a heating pad between the folds of Darcy's blanket, since all her Jammies are in the wash.(She does not like to sleep with us).

When we leave the house to go out to eat, and to the movies, there have been times we both decided to go to the store "another day", and come on home because we didn't want to leave them that long.

so, I am sure your son would think we were nuts, too! You are not alone here...we all love our babies!

[Ringo1]

Whenever someone looks at me like I'm crazy ~ I say, Yes, that's my little child substitute.

I make no bones about it; yes, I love having something little and furry to love, to hold, and to play with. My son is a teen-ager; he's busy doing his own thing most of the time; and he just laughs whenever I say that. He hee-haws about me being on Yorkietalk and tells everyone that his name comes last on my YT signature.

All my friends think I'm over the top (I'm not) but I just laugh it off. They have no idea.

I would be upset if my son approached me in that manner as well. I think keeping a level head and discussing it with him later is a good idea. He may NEVER completely understand. But he is busy doing his own thing and what's wrong with you doing your yorkie thing?? How is that harmful to anyone? Maybe he's a wee bit jealous?

[Perrella]

Originally Posted by Micah my love

I believe for some of us that they make up for the empty nest, I was always use to having my kids & their friends in and out of the house, just because they are not here any more i'm not gonna just sit and do nothing.

my babies need me just like i need them we love and take care of each other

Yes, I do believe that is exactly she Zhoie does for me. It's a good thing...never lonely with my girlie around.

[Perrella]

Originally Posted by Ringo1

Whenever someone looks at me like I'm crazy ~ I say, Yes, that's my little child substitute.

I make no bones about it; yes, I love having something little and furry to love, to hold, and to play with. My son is a teen-ager; he's busy doing his own thing most of the time; and he just laughs whenever I say that. He hee-haws about me being on Yorkietalk and tells everyone that his name comes last on my YT signature.

All my friends think I'm over the top (I'm not) but I just laugh it off. They have no idea.

I would be upset if my son approached me in that manner as well. I think keeping a level head and discussing it with him later is a good idea. He may NEVER completely understand. But he is busy doing his own thing and what's wrong with you doing your yorkie thing?? How is that harmful to anyone? Maybe he's a wee bit jealous?

You know, maybe he is a wee-bit. I never gave it much thought but he has made remarks before....like, geez mom, you love that dog more than me, etc.

But come on, I never gave that a serious thought, he is 32 yrs. Guess a boy never gets over needing to be #1 to his mommy, LOL.

[yorkieusa]

Originally Posted by Perrella

Yes, that's it exactly....they need us! I have always had dogs my entire life, but before having a little one like this, I never knew the nuturing instinct she would bring out in me. Maybe that is part of it for me too, I don't have children home anymore, so she is it. They are little and the needing us never stops. It's like always having a baby. I love it!! Thank you!

That is so true. I've had them my entire life! He may understand more, when he gets older, too. If not, so be it!

[Vinniedoggy]

Count me as not normal too! People who love dogs are the best IMO :-)

[Pam 19]

I'm really sorry that your son brought this up at all. It's your life, not his. WHY would he be worried about you loving & caring for your little baby when he can obviously see how happy your little one makes you. That's a good thing! I just got Teppi 3 weeks ago & she stole my heart the minute I saw her. But I knew I would love her before then. My Mom & Daughter still don't quite understand the things I do, go out of my way to do, or the enormous love I have for Teppi. My Daughter (age 19) doesn't think Teppi is as fragile as I say she is, but she loves Teppi to death. My Mom, who has a rotten poodle lol, just shakes her head sometimes @ the things I say & do reguarding Teppi. But she also loves her to death. I think they're coming around a little but they still act like I'M crazy or look @ me funny. I don't care what anybody thinks or says about my love for Teppi & neither should you. It's actually nobody else's business how you act or feel about your baby. She makes YOU happy & brings joy into your life that most people can't understand. Most people just think that a dog is a dog is a dog. Nothing special. Aren't they so wrong? They don't know what kind of love they are missing. Especially when the love comes from a cute, lovable little Yorkie who even though being so small would give their life for you if it came to it or would be there with you till the last beat of your heart. How many people would do that? It's sad to think not many, for any of us. So don't worry about what your son or anybody else says or thinks. You & your baby are happy & that's what really counts. If I were you I wouldn't bring the subject up again with your son. If he does, then you need to just sit him down, tell him not to speak untill you're finished, explain in detail your love for your baby & the joy that your baby brings to your life. MAKE him understand with your words & emotions. Then, remind him that he's not there anymore & your baby is always by your side no matter what. Be HAPPY & go kiss your baby. Remember, that baby loves you unconditionally & SMILE!

[Her Name Is Rio]

In our Yorkie world, you are absolutely NORMAL! And I don't care what the non-Yorkie world thinks! I grew up with dogs as pets throughout my entire life - Doberman, Rottweiler, German Shepard, Pug, and many mixed-breeds. I loved them but no where NEAR as deeply as I love my Yorkies Rio and Bullet. Until you have a Yorkie, you just don't know what that feels like. I get teased by my family (in a loving way) that I've become one of the "those" people. I just smile proudly and say, "Yes I have."

[RachelandSadie]

don't let him bother you. i'm a yorkie nutcase too. my entire family thinks i've lost it because i love and treat my two like children. my mom is upset when they get sick on her/my floor or have an accident but to me they are just babies that don't mean to do it and are in a new place that doesn't have the same smells and it's hard to be perfect all the time i love them more than i ever thought possible to love. i plan to tatoo sadie's paw print on my foot someday because i want to walk with her forever. i know they think i'm nuts but she's my baby girl and i have a bond with her i cannot explain and i love Bent. with a different bond i can't explain. those nights when he lets me hold him like a teddy bear to sleep with and the way sadie just knows what i mean when i talk to her. it's unreal the love that grew from us together. but we see them everyday and watch them grow and love them more than others can know. it's a lot like children. no one can love them like their mommies can.

[RachelandSadie]

Originally Posted by Darlin Beauxs

I could think of a million worse things to be obsessed over! I agree with the other posters, it is your son's problem, not yours!

I understand how you feel. We do not have children, we have our three little Yorkies, and we love them to pieces. We worry if their mood seems "off", we sit up all night when the weather is bad, (if necessary), because Darcy is terriified of storms.

Sadie is too, i do sit up all night and hold and rock her and hold her ears for her in thunderous moments. she'll fall asleep in my arms sometimes and it makes me tear up to think of how much i love her.

My hubby just informed me today that he wanted me to call the groomer for Darcy tomorrow. I was trying to let her grow out a little for the cold weather, but he says long hair is "not her look" . Just last night, when it was cold enough to use the electric blanket, I got up and slipped a heating pad between the folds of Darcy's blanket, since all her Jammies are in the wash.(She does not like to sleep with us).

When we leave the house to go out to eat, and to the movies, there have been times we both decided to go to the store "another day", and come on home because we didn't want to leave them that long.
that's such a true statement for me

so, I am sure your son would think we were nuts, too! You are not alone here...we all love our babies!

I hear ya on those details above.

[bellasmom84]

I agree with the others. Some people don't understand how important our dogs are to us. My animals are treated just like family. Maybe your son is jealous of the attention you give the dog?

[RoxyLuv]

My reply would be something like, (with question marks all over my face) "Oh, and when I was obsessed with you like this it was OK and normal? Maybe we have a grown man here who is just jealous of a small dog? I think you are the one with the problem. Get some help." Maybe he'll think about it & feel pretty silly & petty. He's living his life, and you can live yours. He ought to be happy you have some joy in your life.

[nana911]

I think you handled it perfectly and your answer was spot on! It is his problem, you are doing fine. My son is in his 30s as well.

Your son didn't pull you aside and say, ''mom we think you are drinking too much, "mom why do you hate my wife, "mom why are spending all our inheritance down at the casino, shouldn't you be home more?"""

There are alot of things that some sons can complain about their mothers...this...is not one of them.

I wouldn't bring it back up. He said what he thought needed saying, you replied perfectly. Let sleeping dogs nap. You love him, he loves you (or he wouldn't have felt close enough to have broached the subject)... all is right with the world. God bless us everyone!!