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ladyjane · 12-28-2010, 06:47 AM

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Originally Posted by John Stelting

And yes, she's in my will,,,,,,,,,, and no your not........

That would of shut his pie hole.

Ringo1 · 12-28-2010, 06:55 AM

I think my teen-age son likes it that I have another obsession! That kind of balances my previous, laser like, slightly obsessive, FOCUS on HIM!

Especially now that he wants to do his own thing and is no longer content simply hanging out at home with me.

cowgirlc · 12-28-2010, 06:58 AM

Wow just now saw this topic, well I can post with the up-most pride that I too am a nut and obsessed with my furbaby Gizmo. And no the family does not understand, and yes I too here....he's just a dog'''to which I say...whateva

My baby is pampered and treated like a human. He goes every where I can take him and some places he is not allowed as well. Sleeps in bed with hubby and I, eats most of the same things we do. He is seldom home alone, and he has health insurance when even I don't have any. He is not the dog that you see chained outside to the tree, he is a part of my family. Am I a nut....well some would say yes....do I care what people think....absolutly not....he lives with me...they don't...so there!!!!!!

south · 12-28-2010, 07:05 AM

Also a certifiable nut case here! But not just for Yorkies. Also been a nut for Shelties, Labs, and virtually every other four legged friend in my life. Must admit though, certain ones *are* special

Rachael1983 · 12-28-2010, 07:45 AM

My BF is not a dog person but he recognizes that I consider Troy a member of the family and is treated as such. He acknowledges and notices that we do have a special bond.

We were on a road trip and Troy was on my lap while BF was driving. BF looked down and Troy and his eyes met. BF mentioned to me when I woke up that that was the first time he realized dogs are "little people". His words not mine.

I think when your relationship with your dog is unhealthy and it interferes with the relationship with your human counterparts then it needs to be addressed. Maybe this is what concerned your son, but maybe all he needs is the "AHA moment" my BF had.

cowgirlc · 12-28-2010, 08:05 AM

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Originally Posted by Rachael1983

My BF is not a dog person but he recognizes that I consider Troy a member of the family and is treated as such. He acknowledges and notices that we do have a special bond.

We were on a road trip and Troy was on my lap while BF was driving. BF looked down and Troy and his eyes met. BF mentioned to me when I woke up that that was the first time he realized dogs are "little people". His words not mine.

I think when your relationship with your dog is unhealthy and it interferes with the relationship with your human counterparts then it needs to be addressed. Maybe this is what concerned your son, but maybe all he needs is the "AHA moment" my BF had.

Good point here, but I also think that there should never be a question as to does the relationship with your furbaby interfere with your human counterpart, each of those relationships are different and each relationship should be given its due respect at which point neither would interfere with the other.

viviansnickers · 12-28-2010, 08:07 AM

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Originally Posted by Perrella

Ok, this has bothered me since Christmas Eve. My son, his wife & children came from VA for the day. Close to when they were getting ready to leave, my son pulls me aside and says, mom, come to the garage I need to talk with you privately.

Ok well, we get out there and he said, mom, we have talked and this is a very serious problem you have with this obsession you have with Zhoie. You are/it's not normal.

I know I looked dumbfounded, it really took me back and I probably didn't handle it right. I looked at him and said "son, if you have a serious problem with this....it's your serious problem, not mine. Later, when they were gone and I started thinking about it, I was nearly brought to tears. What is so wrong with me loving my dog unconditionally? It certainly does not make me a nut case, like I felt he was referring too. Geez.

Thought please

Oh my...you are not abnormal what so ever!!! My immediate family has fallen for Snickers as much as we have. My dad is retired & my FIL is laid off and Snick gives them so much happiness.

Now, the rest of the family & friends........

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They think I'm a nuttjob!! They think I'm a freak dressing Snick up and not treating him like a "dog"-what does that mean anyway??

BUT--I always tell them that any living thing under my care will get nothing but the best and nothing less than 110% of me, and that's including my PLANTS!!! LOLLLLLL!!!!

BUT when people tell me I need to have human children instead of fussing over Snick so much...THAT TICKS ME OFF!!!!!!!!! Human babies are def in the cards for me and my babe, but right now...LET ME LIVE my life and we don't need your advise!!! Grrrrrr...it really gets me going. We are still young, but who are you to tell me what I need to do!! I am on this planet to be a mom for sure...and Snick (& soon Reesie) & my kindergartners help me fill that void until it's time for us to procreate!!!

Don't feel sad!!!!!!!! Explain to him what that sweet lil Zhoie means to you!!!!

HUGS!!!!
Snick, Viv, & Reesie

Beamers Mom · 12-28-2010, 08:16 AM

Hmmm and another thought

I am sure your son and his wife lavish attention on their children - lots of clothes and toys etc. Have you discussed his problem - how he is obsessed with his children?

I mean, after all, they are only children

concretegurl · 12-28-2010, 08:26 AM

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Originally Posted by Rachael1983

My BF is not a dog person but he recognizes that I consider Troy a member of the family and is treated as such. He acknowledges and notices that we do have a special bond.

We were on a road trip and Troy was on my lap while BF was driving. BF looked down and Troy and his eyes met. BF mentioned to me when I woke up that that was the first time he realized dogs are "little people". His words not mine.

I think when your relationship with your dog is unhealthy and it interferes with the relationship with your human counterparts then it needs to be addressed. Maybe this is what concerned your son, but maybe all he needs is the "AHA moment" my BF had.

Well said!

I have to say I don't think she's in that category from what I can tell...but who knows really right? I could find out later today I'm in "that category"!

YorkieMom82 · 12-28-2010, 08:32 AM

I have to say, my boyfriend does not always agree with my relationship with my dogs, however he does respect it. He would never make me choose or act like I needed an intervention. My mom is as crazy as I am over her Rat Terrier, if not worse.

shoefelmeyer · 12-28-2010, 08:46 AM

Wow..... that was horrible for him to say that you!

I love my little "Princess" so much. She is spoiled rotten! And so are my kitties, bunnies and our pomeranian.

If one of our family members said this me, I would let them know that I think of my kitties, bunnies and pups.... as my fur kids! My children are all adults now, so now that I don't have them to spoil, I have my fur kids to spoil. And I am LOVING every moment of spoiling them rotten!

And for Christmas, I went overboard with all the toys and gifts for my two pups, kitties and bunnies!

Ringo1 · 12-28-2010, 08:47 AM

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Originally Posted by Beamers Mom

Hmmm and another thought

I am sure your son and his wife lavish attention on their children - lots of clothes and toys etc. Have you discussed his problem - how he is obsessed with his children?

I mean, after all, they are only children

And also remind him that you could be an 'interfering mother-in-law' if you so chose. Have him watch a few episodes of Everyone Loves Raymond.

BabyGirl Rosie · 12-28-2010, 09:44 AM

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Originally Posted by ladyjane

I love my pups and my son understands but also makes similar remarks to me. I believe that younger people don't understand that often when an empty nester takes in a pup, yorkie or other breed, that pup becomes the "child". Nothing in my way of thinking that makes it abnormal. It is just not understood because they have not been there yet.

I have a 13 year old that is jealous of Rosie in some ways. He says he does not like her and does not understand why I love her so much. He is 13 years old and does not want momma babying him anymore. I tried to explain the "empty nest syndrome" to him. I do treat Rosie as a child and hope that one day he will understand. But I needed her. I needed Rosie to let me baby her to fill the void that comes when your child starts to grow up. We still inform him that he is the #1 in our lives. I will say that even though he says he don't like her, he was the first one at the vet with me when she got sick. I think he does care!!

Darlin Beauxs · 12-28-2010, 09:55 AM

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Originally Posted by ladyjane

I need to clarify something.....I did not find the last remark of that one post as confusing. It started out with the question about her being an animal hoarder and continued to confound me as I went further.

OK...enough of alll of that! Definitely I am taking it even further off topic.

I love my pups and my son understands but also makes similar remarks to me. I believe that younger people don't understand that often when an empty nester takes in a pup, yorkie or other breed, that pup becomes the "child". Nothing in my way of thinking that makes it abnormal. It is just not understood because they have not been there yet.

I am not trying to take this off topic, either. But something you said about kids not being old enough to understand struck a chord with me.

My Grandmother had a toy poodle "Honey" that lived to be 20. Honey never ate dog food, Grandma either cooked for her (even when she was too sick to eat herself), or fed her KFC. Even as a child, I would silently FUME as my Grandma would reach across the table and take bacon off MY plate and give it to Honey.

Honey also had clothes, but they were more for function than style.

Grandma used to say all the time what good company Honey was for her, and she was "all she had". I used to feel she loved Honey more than me! I know now that isn't true.

I also now understand how deeply she loved her little dog. She was a widow, and only saw her grandchildre on the weekends. Honey was her best friend, entertainment, and child, all rolled in to one.

It took me turning 30 and getting my own little dog to see it.

concretegurl · 12-28-2010, 10:38 AM

Ye I really didn't want to add this because it does seem OT, but I think I will now...in demonstration of how many people here think they are obsessed and are so liberal with the term (really I feel bad for saying this in such a manner to strangers but I hope it can help someone) my grandma also suffered from agoraphobia, anxiety and depression, using her cats as substitutes for human interaction...she even fired the maid after she felt she was upsetting the cats vacuuming up all their fur...for many people animals are an unhealthy obsession and band aid solution, socialization, therapy and needed medication are often missed out on by the masking "I'm just an animal lover"..it became apparent when she couldn't leave one room in a 6 room house cat free for family members with severe allergies to come visit and not have allergy an asthma attacks...

I was demonstrating how in my experience it was severe and perhaps her son had no idea what severe abnormal obsession was.
Hense my notation-are you an animal hoarder? Then my continually confounding questions of how obsessive behaviors have to disturb normal function...in order to be considered an unhealthy abnormal obsession (like answering yes to the all questions I ask). Showing she didn't really fall into the obsessional category...I guess for some people you really have to break it down and over explain things for them to comprehend...

Understanding substitution-not sure the perspectives would be the same for everyone...hmmm it's subjective in determining healthy substitution and dependency or derogate obsession...

Getting a pet for an older person is a great choice though...far beyond lowering blood pressure the benefits are substantial. Wish my Nanny had considered a lil dog (like Yorkie) and would have gone out walking her dog more instead of becoming shut in with her cats... I love that the kennel I got one of my dogs from regularly takes pups for socialization to retirement homes and living assisted facilities to visit people.

Oh and the comment about writing the son out the will and putting the dog in-hilarious! Passively not addressing the concerns of a family member or doing so with passive aggressiveness instead of constructive conflict resolution...not so funny sad really.

Huh I guess all this really is completely on topic after all, just not applicable to the OP-she could tell her son about this scenario though, and then he'd understand abnormal obsession and maybe be more supportive of his mother and perhaps toss the ball for a lil fur-baby a few times...it would be so cool to see the OP post a pic of her grandchildren and her dog all sitting with Santa for Christmas next year (or something like that). I've years of pics of my kids, and my dog with Santa and such...

12-28-2010, 06:55 AM	#62
Ringo1 Ringo (1) and Lucy too! Donating Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: On the Edge of Glory Posts: 3,447	I think my teen-age son likes it that I have another obsession! That kind of balances my previous, laser like, slightly obsessive, FOCUS on HIM! Especially now that he wants to do his own thing and is no longer content simply hanging out at home with me. __________________ Mommy to Lucy, Ringo, and Matthew

12-28-2010, 06:58 AM	#63
cowgirlc YT Addict Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Texas Posts: 258 Blog Entries: 1	Wow just now saw this topic, well I can post with the up-most pride that I too am a nut and obsessed with my furbaby Gizmo. And no the family does not understand, and yes I too here....he's just a dog'''to which I say...whateva My baby is pampered and treated like a human. He goes every where I can take him and some places he is not allowed as well. Sleeps in bed with hubby and I, eats most of the same things we do. He is seldom home alone, and he has health insurance when even I don't have any. He is not the dog that you see chained outside to the tree, he is a part of my family. Am I a nut....well some would say yes....do I care what people think....absolutly not....he lives with me...they don't...so there!!!!!! __________________ Cowgirlc & Gizmo...Inseperable........

12-28-2010, 08:16 AM	#68
Beamers Mom Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Palm Bay, Fl, USA Posts: 5,957	Hmmm and another thought I am sure your son and his wife lavish attention on their children - lots of clothes and toys etc. Have you discussed his problem - how he is obsessed with his children? I mean, after all, they are only children __________________ Help control the pet population. Have your pet spayed or neutered. - Bob Barker

12-28-2010, 08:32 AM	#70
YorkieMom82 Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Bellevue, TN Posts: 91	I have to say, my boyfriend does not always agree with my relationship with my dogs, however he does respect it. He would never make me choose or act like I needed an intervention. My mom is as crazy as I am over her Rat Terrier, if not worse. __________________ Mommy to Tocho and Aiko

12-28-2010, 08:46 AM	#71
shoefelmeyer Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: USA Posts: 839	Wow..... that was horrible for him to say that you! I love my little "Princess" so much. She is spoiled rotten! And so are my kitties, bunnies and our pomeranian. If one of our family members said this me, I would let them know that I think of my kitties, bunnies and pups.... as my fur kids! My children are all adults now, so now that I don't have them to spoil, I have my fur kids to spoil. And I am LOVING every moment of spoiling them rotten! And for Christmas, I went overboard with all the toys and gifts for my two pups, kitties and bunnies! Last edited by shoefelmeyer; 12-28-2010 at 08:48 AM.

12-28-2010, 07:05 AM	#64
south Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: Ft Lauderdale,Fl USA Posts: 79	Also a certifiable nut case here! But not just for Yorkies. Also been a nut for Shelties, Labs, and virtually every other four legged friend in my life. Must admit though, certain ones are special

12-28-2010, 07:45 AM	#65
Rachael1983 Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Burbs of DC Posts: 2,198	My BF is not a dog person but he recognizes that I consider Troy a member of the family and is treated as such. He acknowledges and notices that we do have a special bond. We were on a road trip and Troy was on my lap while BF was driving. BF looked down and Troy and his eyes met. BF mentioned to me when I woke up that that was the first time he realized dogs are "little people". His words not mine. I think when your relationship with your dog is unhealthy and it interferes with the relationship with your human counterparts then it needs to be addressed. Maybe this is what concerned your son, but maybe all he needs is the "AHA moment" my BF had.

12-28-2010, 10:38 AM	#75
concretegurl Between♥Suspensions Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Vaissades Posts: 7,979	Ye I really didn't want to add this because it does seem OT, but I think I will now...in demonstration of how many people here think they are obsessed and are so liberal with the term (really I feel bad for saying this in such a manner to strangers but I hope it can help someone) my grandma also suffered from agoraphobia, anxiety and depression, using her cats as substitutes for human interaction...she even fired the maid after she felt she was upsetting the cats vacuuming up all their fur...for many people animals are an unhealthy obsession and band aid solution, socialization, therapy and needed medication are often missed out on by the masking "I'm just an animal lover"..it became apparent when she couldn't leave one room in a 6 room house cat free for family members with severe allergies to come visit and not have allergy an asthma attacks... I was demonstrating how in my experience it was severe and perhaps her son had no idea what severe abnormal obsession was. Hense my notation-are you an animal hoarder? Then my continually confounding questions of how obsessive behaviors have to disturb normal function...in order to be considered an unhealthy abnormal obsession (like answering yes to the all questions I ask). Showing she didn't really fall into the obsessional category...I guess for some people you really have to break it down and over explain things for them to comprehend... Understanding substitution-not sure the perspectives would be the same for everyone...hmmm it's subjective in determining healthy substitution and dependency or derogate obsession... Getting a pet for an older person is a great choice though...far beyond lowering blood pressure the benefits are substantial. Wish my Nanny had considered a lil dog (like Yorkie) and would have gone out walking her dog more instead of becoming shut in with her cats... I love that the kennel I got one of my dogs from regularly takes pups for socialization to retirement homes and living assisted facilities to visit people. Oh and the comment about writing the son out the will and putting the dog in-hilarious! Passively not addressing the concerns of a family member or doing so with passive aggressiveness instead of constructive conflict resolution...not so funny sad really. Huh I guess all this really is completely on topic after all, just not applicable to the OP-she could tell her son about this scenario though, and then he'd understand abnormal obsession and maybe be more supportive of his mother and perhaps toss the ball for a lil fur-baby a few times...it would be so cool to see the OP post a pic of her grandchildren and her dog all sitting with Santa for Christmas next year (or something like that). I've years of pics of my kids, and my dog with Santa and such...