Yorkie obsession....feelings hurt

[J_is_my_initial]

Just wondering how old the grandkids are? Maybe, and not trying to start something, could the dtr in law have sd something? maybe that you pay more attention to your furbabies than the grandkids. Maybe they both think that. My dtr says I spoil my furbabies more than I spoilt her. She is 24. It is just that we have more money than we did when she was growing up. When she has kids, we will definetly spoil them more than we spoilt her. Gypsy and the crew may just do with a little less at times.
Just a note, I read the op to hubby and my response and he agreed with me about the grandkids part.

[yorkieusa]

Originally Posted by nana911

I think you handled it perfectly and your answer was spot on! It is his problem, you are doing fine. My son is in his 30s as well.

Your son didn't pull you aside and say, ''mom we think you are drinking too much, "mom why do you hate my wife, "mom why are spending all our inheritance down at the casino, shouldn't you be home more?"""

There are alot of things that some sons can complain about their mothers...this...is not one of them.

I wouldn't bring it back up. He said what he thought needed saying, you replied perfectly. Let sleeping dogs nap. You love him, he loves you (or he wouldn't have felt close enough to have broached the subject)... all is right with the world. God bless us everyone!!

Spoken by a very wise woman. I so agree.

[mscat]

My little yorkie and shih tzu are a major part of my life. In fact I can't be long without them . I do have a special needs son who is nerly all grown up, and doing well. however my "girls" fill in a big hole in my heart that nothing can replace.
What would your son rather you be doing? A lot of people are extremely close to their dogs. I find nothing wrong or strange about it. however, i have know a couple nutty cat ladies ..... but that is a different story all together.
Maybe one of these days your son will know what feelings you have for your baby. Until then try not to take him too seriously.

[Sandysbabies]

I got it with my schnauzers and now we have the 2 little yorkies I get it even more. My son didn't even invite me to the garage. He said in front of everyone, Mom I think you take those dogs to the doctor more than you did us when we were growing up. I just told him I didn't know where he come up with such things and went on my way rejoicing. They are my babies now that my sons are grown and gone and if people don't like them they can stay home. I know in my will they won't get one.

[nana911]

Originally Posted by Sandysbabies

I got it with my schnauzers and now we have the 2 little yorkies I get it even more. My son didn't even invite me to the garage. He said in front of everyone, Mom I think you take those dogs to the doctor more than you did us when we were growing up. I just told him I didn't know where he come up with such things and went on my way rejoicing. They are my babies now that my sons are grown and gone and if people don't like them they can stay home. I know in my will they won't get one.

Too funny....

[kjcmsw]

I think sometimes kids can get a little jealous of all the attention we give our Yorkies. My daughters gave up and just joke that I'm "replacing" each of them as they move out the of house. They say I'll need to get a boy Yorkie as soon as their little brother grows up (he's 14) and moves out. Okay.
hmm, only one of my Yorkies is "sassy" - not a bad trade! lol
However, it would be advised to talk further with your son and see if it's jealousy or simply him being unable to relate, let him know that yes, you love you dog but it's still a dog and is second to him.

[kjcmsw]

I think sometimes kids can get a little jealous of all the attention we give our Yorkies. My daughters gave up and just joke that I'm "replacing" each of them as they move out the of house. They say I'll need to get a boy Yorkie as soon as their little brother grows up (he's 14) and moves out. Okay.
hmm, only one of my Yorkies is "sassy" - not a bad trade! lol
However, it would be advised to talk further with your son and see if it's jealousy or simply him being unable to relate, let him know that yes, you love you dog but it's still a dog and is second to him.

[Donnainohio63]

This is so funny that you started this thread because my DH and I have also caught it from our children about how we love the babies more than them and our children are grown. You know what I say to them.
Get over it. I love and spoil my babies and in return they love me back and I get no back talk from them. I do not understand what is wrong with loving your fur babies. I guess they need to own one in order to understand it all. Keep doing what your doing and do not let it bother you.


My babies are spoiled


RIP Sophie Lynn Mommy loves and misses you

[salazark]

Funny. My son and I had a similar conversation but not quite as serious. I told him that these children never talk back, I can put all the bows in their hair I want to, dress them as whatever I want for Halloween and if I want to go to dinner I just put them in a playpen and go. All that and they love me unconditionally! Of course they are the love of my life. How could they not be?!?

[BabyGirl Rosie]

Originally Posted by Beamers Mom

Well, I guess there are a lot of members on here who are not normal then - count me as 1 of them - so if loving your Yorkie unconditionally is not normal then you are in good company with the rest of us on this forum

Amen sister!!

[BabyGirl Rosie]

Originally Posted by salazark

Funny. My son and I had a similar conversation but not quite as serious. I told him that these children never talk back, I can put all the bows in their hair I want to, dress them as whatever I want for Halloween and if I want to go to dinner I just put them in a playpen and go. All that and they love me unconditionally! Of course they are the love of my life. How could they not be?!?

I love it!!

[ladyjane]

Originally Posted by Sandysbabies

I got it with my schnauzers and now we have the 2 little yorkies I get it even more. My son didn't even invite me to the garage. He said in front of everyone, Mom I think you take those dogs to the doctor more than you did us when we were growing up. I just told him I didn't know where he come up with such things and went on my way rejoicing. They are my babies now that my sons are grown and gone and if people don't like them they can stay home. I know in my will they won't get one.

Or the money that goes with them.

[Cha Cha]

I am sorry you got your feelings hurt. I think my family (daughters) feel a little bit the same way about me and my animals.

[FlDebra]

Originally Posted by Rhetts_mama

Until one has a yorkie, I don't think they can understand the depth of feelings we have for them. I know I had no clue just how deeply these little ones would worm their way in to my heart.

Let it go and look at it as his loss that he doesn't "get it". There are a whole lot of worse things to be obsessed about.

I could not have said it any better! I didn't have a clue until I had my first yorkie! I just do not know of any other pet that is quite so loving and lovable! But you never fully realize how much personality they have and how much interaction they are capable of UNTIL you are with them most of the time. A visit here or there does not give you enough of a glimpse into what they really offer in companionship, intelligence, personality, and love. We must look just a little crazy to the un-initiated, the Yorkie-less lives, those who have as yet been left unenlightened. But as Rhetts mama said so well -- they just don't "get it!" They don't realize what they are missing.

If it ever comes up again, tell your son that it is sweet of him to be so concerned but it is him that is missing out and you will hope that he someday understands your obsession. But until then, he should not spend any more time worrying -- you are fine and full of yorkie love! You might also let him know you know of a place where some 69,000 other people are pretty obsessed with the loving little monkeys too!

Pls do not be hurt, it really is not their fault. It is just beyond the comprehension of those without a yorkie to love of their own.

[ladyjane]

Reading this thread again tonight made me think of an article I read earlier today that I had planned to post in the Sick & Injured forum. It really is about vet expenses, but also about how much people love their pups! Very interesting read.

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