My puppy hates me

[MissSophie]

The first few nights we had our baby home, my husband slept with his fingers in the kennel. It seemed to work. I agree with everyone else. Poor baby misses his family, but it won't be long before you are his family.

[Dodge]

Thank you so much for responding, I really appreciate it.
I had more sleep last night. He did sleep next to me again, but was more subdued. He wanted to snuggle right by my stomach! LOL.
He was paper trained at the breeder's, but I'm taking him outside and trying out the pee pads...hasn't worked yet. If I catch him, I pick him up and place him on the pad and repeat, "potty". But if I don't catch him, I just clean up and disinfect.
He didn't eat in the morning, but did lick my hand as I was trying out the pee pad. He also stayed on the bed when it was my turn to go, rather than shoot right up and whine to get off the bed, like yesterday. So either more confidence, or lethargy from not having eaten yesterday.
He ate most of his food at lunch and drank, so that's a good sign...that he doesn't want to be anorexic? LOL.
He still recoils when I pick up, not every interested in any of his toys. The only thing he seems to want to do is stay on my lap. He does like to climb up on my neck, so I make sure to stroke him and and say his name.
He's 15 weeks, was the runt of his littler and his siblings were bigger and too rough on him, so he was put in another litter with girls. I can only take the breeder's word that he was indeed cuddled and taken care of. He's not at all aggressive, has good temperament (did the paw/belly test) and has liked a few strangers' fingers. He even let me pry his mouth open this morning to brush his teeth.
I'm just so tired. Going out soon to play in the yard, tire him out and make him a bit hungry.
Thanks again.

Dodger

[yorkiesmiles]

glad things are better. You might try moving the paper or pee pads outside. This can work for some to get the idea. Also, positive words and little training treats or Cheerios for pottying where he should can help

[teri88]

Sounds like you are doing all of the right things. He's going to adjust very quickly and you will have a friend for life! On the cowering when you go to pick him up, I know some adult yorkies who still do that. You might want to continue just the paper training until he adjusts to his new home. Too many changes may confuse him. Good luck!

[mayers]

From a new Yorkie mom but an old hand at pups. Ditch the pads, bring him out when he has to go. I would also ditch letting him sleep in your bed. He needs to learn that his kennel is safe, home and bed. I have Rambeau in a cat kennel with a fleece from the breeder and another fleece. He loves his little kennel and if he gets stressed he will go there. Imagine a wolf pup and his cave. Seems silly but it has always worked for me, a pup needs his place. When he becomes confident in his surroundings, you, his food and fellow house mates (maybe 2 or 3 yo) he can sleep with you. Remember also that he is very small and has no experience sleeping with you. I would be afraid to roll over on him, but I am very mobile in bed. My little Lupie slept with me every night after she was two. She would snuggle up against my belly and I loved it. None the less, he does not hate you! Dogs don't have that emotion. They have love, love, insecurity and fear. Just give him time you two are going to be great together. Don't panick about him not eating either. Rambeau would only eat the soft food the breeder gave me for a long time. He is not wasting away. Do not try to make him do anything for the first few weeks, this includes brushing teeth, bathing, trimming nails. These are all stressful for you and the pup. Just brush him while it is ok with him, snuggle and love, these are the recipes for success.

[Emmsmom]

I have to disagree. I kept the the pee pads in his playpen for a LONG time. Even after he learned to go outside I still kept them in his playpen at night and when I had to leave just in case. I do think he needs to get use to the kennel. However, I think it is very important that you cuddle with him as much as possible right now.During the day I held Diesel all the time. he was 9 weeks old when we brought him home and was scared stiff. He cuddled with me all the time. At night he slept in the playpen which was in my bedroom right next to my side of the bed. He had a nice warm thick blanket and his food and water and his puppy pad. I don't go to bed till late at night and that was when I put him in his playpen. It took him a good week to start coming out of his shell. He also didn't want to eat either. I ended up going to the store and buying him some babyfood. He loved the Beachnut Chicken and Chicken broth. Congrats on your new baby!!!

[abbey lee]

My puppy was like that too when I first brought her home. DON'T WORRY. He is just scared and has never been away from his momma. Give him time to adjust. Soon, you will be his whole world. Just play with hm often, take him ou ad inroduce him to lots of new sounds, people, places, things, and smells so he is well adjusted. Pet him and make him feel secure with you.

As far as crying in the crate---ugh, that is just part of having a new pup. But here are some things that helped me: first off, getting a crate was a good idea, put him in when it is time for bed an if he starts to cry, gently bang the top of the crate and say "NO, SLEEP." Whatever you do, DO NOT take him out of the crate everytime he crys. That just shows him that crying gets him what he wants and he will do it more. I also put a ticking clock in with Abbey to stmulate a heartbeat and that helped. Afer many sleepless nights I went and got Abbey a crate and she cried in it too and after do the "NO SLEEP!" thing, she slept through the night---no problem!! I hope it works for you.

[LoveMyJake]

awww he doesn't hate you, he just doesn't know you yet. Give him some time. When we brought Jake home, he was a little scared at first. We let him explore his surroundings, and then we got in the floor and played with him. Next thing we knew, he learned how to fetch! I held him alot and talked really softly to him. Even today, a year and a half later, he still loves when I snuggle him and talk to him. That's how he goes to sleep at night.

Try hand feeding him a few pieces of his dry food to see if you can get him interested in it. I did that the first couple days with Jake, as I was afraid he wasn't eating enough. After that, he just ate on his own.

[wemple2]

Just be patient with your new baby...hold him and love him. He'll come around. Getting on the floor, down at his level helps, actually lay on the floor...let him explore you to get to know you, before long he'll be crawling all over you like a little mountain goat.
When you are not able to hold him or be right there with him...crate him, it's for his own good. Winston loved his crate...I was beginning to wonder if he was ever going to want to sleep in bed with us...until one night...he jumped out of his crate and into our bed and that is where he has slept ever since. You wait and see...he'll have you wrapped around his little paw soon...and he'll wiggle his way right into your heart. Congrats on your new baby...enjoy each and every minute with him...they grow up so fast!

[mypreciouspups]

Originally Posted by red98vett

Imagine you as a kid - being taken from the only place you know - having to endure a car/plane ride and ending up in a STRANGE LOCATION with strange people - You may have had sisters and brothers, and you for SURE had a mom - now....they're all gone.....no where to be seen ....that's what he's feeling right now.

Give him time and be patient - they have to have time to adjust and hopefully he will soon

very well said V...


I do not think he hates you.. let him adjust.. and give him lots of love and time.. as for the bed.. you sucker..(joking) LOL

I have done that in the past to find it harder to night train.. but if you want to sleep with your baby.. have a pp pad handy in your room.. you will do just fine..

[Sawyers mommy]

Your baby will soon be so in love with you, you will go crazy with all the attention. My Trainer once told me that when Sawyer would seem to back off when I reached for him, to try and imagine a 10 story building suddenly leaning towards me; I think I would step back too. I still reach for Sawyer and darby with my hand palm up, under his chest instead of over his head. They need a few days; but enjoy them. I loved the feeling of Sawyer letting down his guard, and making me his most important person. Congradulations, you are in for a wild ride. Sherry

[Yorkies2U]

Originally Posted by Dodge

So Dodger came home last night. He's only liked my hand once in the ride home and when I've had to feed him Nutrical since he's barely eaten today. He's constantly underfoot, but recoils when I bend to pick him up (does he think he's going back to his crate?). Yet, once on my lap, he stays there, climbs up to my neck and hangs on to my shirt if I try to put him down.

Sniffed through the night and exhibited what the breeder calls anxiety symptoms: coughing, sniffing, some shaking. Barks incessantly once in his pen or crate.

BUT. Unlike yesterday, he does venture into his exercise pen and when I left for dinner tonight and came back, he clearly had stopped barking at some point.

When does this end?

Pictures soon....only 1/2 hour sleep last night. Little sucker ended up in my bed.

Dodger

He has your number! You doomed! Both my Yokies sleep with me every night. I am lucky I get the bed! Be patient and give it some time. Your little one will adjust with time, and lots of LOVE. Have a good evening.

[Dodge]

Hi all,

Best night I've had so far. We watched a movie last night and as he dozed off, I carried him and put him in his crate on my night table. He woke up, but didn't get out. He spent the night there, door was left open and this morning, he liked my hand a bit as he came out of the crate.
He did eat, as he's probably starving at this point, so no Nutrical breakfast today!
I did lie down on the floor and we had a short play time where he sniffed all around me. He does go into the pen to retreive toys, although he's still not that interested in them. So in my presence, the den isn't as scary as before.....but it will be when I run errands later.
Housetraining.....still no progress as he misses every time and prefers the floors to the paper or patio. Oh, well. Keep trying, right?
So I guess he likes me a bit more today. He's on my lap right now, dozing off.

Thank you for allowing me to share my pain. LOL. Have a great day, all and enjoy the weather.

Dodger

[mypreciouspups]

Originally Posted by Dodge

Hi all,

Best night I've had so far. We watched a movie last night and as he dozed off, I carried him and put him in his crate on my night table. He woke up, but didn't get out. He spent the night there, door was left open and this morning, he liked my hand a bit as he came out of the crate.
He did eat, as he's probably starving at this point, so no Nutrical breakfast today!
I did lie down on the floor and we had a short play time where he sniffed all around me. He does go into the pen to retreive toys, although he's still not that interested in them. So in my presence, the den isn't as scary as before.....but it will be when I run errands later.
Housetraining.....still no progress as he misses every time and prefers the floors to the paper or patio. Oh, well. Keep trying, right?
So I guess he likes me a bit more today. He's on my lap right now, dozing off.

Thank you for allowing me to share my pain. LOL. Have a great day, all and enjoy the weather.

Dodger

glad to hear all is going better for you..he will love you and relax more as each day passes.. soon you will forget how frightened he was.. and the training takes time, patience and consistency for months.. when you think he is trained.. well do not let your guard.. for they can go back so easliy..
good luck.. and keep us update on his progress....anne

[Mom to Hot Rod]

glad to hear things are moving in a positive way. Remember, he feeds off your energy as well. The more relaxed you get, the more he will get. Just be patient, he will adjust at his own pace. Soon he will venture more and more.