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Lola LaRue · 07-20-2007, 09:14 AM

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After the left side was done, I thought this isn't so bad. Then they did the right and I was about to jump though the roof.

medusa512 · 07-20-2007, 09:33 AM

i had those done in england and they used a sort of numbing/freezing spray. didn't hurt at all.

now the one i have that hurt the most was my...

Tina_Luvs_Missy · 07-20-2007, 09:49 AM

15 is way too young. When she hits the legal age, I say it's up to her. But everyone has different parenting styles. I was really anxious to get my tongue pierced cause it just seemed so cool looking at it while you are talking. Seeing it shine and all, but I realized it's just a stupid area to pierce (and all the BS about what the piercing really means! don't want to bother hearing people talk smack), so i ended up piercing my bellybutton, since I am capable of hiding it whenever, and showing it whenever.

in total I have 10 piercings!

(4 on each ear, but I usually use two on each ear, my nose (I take that out whenever I want to, and you can't even see the hole!! my belly button. )I am hoping for a Tattoo next!! possibly a toronto maple leafs flag---or something to do with the Leafs! hahahaha

KathyinCali · 07-20-2007, 09:53 AM

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Originally Posted by BubblPopElectrc

I say you make her take it out. I'm all for self-expression BUT you did ask/tell her not to do it, so she shouldn't have.

I know a few people in the past who had tongue piercings, and I'd say a good half of them chipped a tooth.

I'd also mention her how a lot (not all) jobs shun upon visible piercings. They really could effect her chances getting a job- especially in certain areas. IMO, they are really trashy looking, and I hate going to a restaurant or some place like that and the worker has a tongue ring. Yuck.

I agree. I would make her take it out. My dear daughter went and got her ears pierced (she's 30 now) when she was 14 and I made her take them out.

Ponyup · 07-20-2007, 10:25 AM

Oh I'm not trying to freak you out, but you need to find out where she got it done & go check the place out. You can get sexually transmitted diseases from tattoo/piercing parlors if they don't use a new needle.

I say you should make her take it out. I got tattoos & a belly button ring against my parents wishes, but I was over 18 & in college. 15 is too young for this kinda thing & responsibility in my opinion. Plus there is a stigma that goes along with girls that have their tongue pierced. Some people think they have it done to make them better at felatio (I am sure this is so not true with your daughter), but people think this. Even my mom told me that she thinks this.

I'd come up with reasons why you think at her age this type of piercing is not a good idea & explain them to her. That way she knows why you are making her take it out. At 18 she can get it repierced as long as she researches a safe place to get it done.

Suzy · 07-20-2007, 11:03 AM

I got my BB pierced on my 18th birthday, and though my family didn't like it, I was 18, and it was my choice. I still have it today at 25. I like the way it looks-it's for ME, no one else. And, it's covered up unless I'm at the beach or in my own backyard.

I agree with the poster who said that it's still in a conceled place-it is. I have a few friends that have/had their tongues pierced, and I didn't notice they had them in. After it first heals, it's pretty much unnoticeable unless they do that annoying clicking thing.

If I were you, I wouldn't let on that I knew about it when I got home. I'd wait for HER to show you or tell you. That way, she can explain herself to YOU-which is actually much harder for her than if you just came home and brought it up to her. You're coming home-that's the most important thing. I'm sure she really misses you. She may even freak out and take the bar out before you even get home if she knows it's that important to you.

Once she DOES come to you with this, I think you should have a talk about it: Why she wants it-there's got to be a bigger reason than just that it's "cool". Where she had it done-you need to check this out too, and make sure it was clean. If not, she needs to see a doctor and get a blood test to rule out any illness that she may have contracted. You need to find out HOW she got this done at age 15. If the place where she had it done allowed a 15 year old to get a piercing w/o parental consent, you need to file a complaint. Or, did someone else sign as her guardian? Who? Or, does she have a fake ID at age 15? I'd say you have BIGGER problems if someone else you trust signed for her, or if she's already got a fake ID.

A day out together might spark this kind of conversation, and I urge you to go into that day with an open mind, stay calm, and talk through this with your daughter. You might also ask her what she thinks her punishment should be for doing this knowing that you disapproved. You may find she's harder on herself than you would be. It's then up to the two of you to work things out and decide on whether or not she gets to keep the piercing.

Good luck!

zoeybear · 07-20-2007, 11:43 AM

I dont think I would wait for her to come to me. My daughter is 13. I have always subscribed to the idea that I would not put my daughter in a position to lie to me. If I knew she did something, I would say "I know you didnt do your homework" Never ask her "did you do your homework?" If you already know the answer, dont set up the possibility for a lie. The idea is not to test them. It is supposed to promote honest communication. I think it will be an adjustment having you home and parenting full time again. I would tell her that I know she disobeyed me. That is was not acceptable and now that you are home, there will be consequences in the future. Its just a tiny piercing. She will grow tired of it and grow past the phase!Good luck

BubblPopElectrc · 07-20-2007, 11:52 AM

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Originally Posted by Ponyup

Oh I'm not trying to freak you out, but you need to find out where she got it done & go check the place out. You can get sexually transmitted diseases from tattoo/piercing parlors if they don't use a new needle.

STDs? I think you must have your diseases mixed up.

Of course you could get STDs, but from the tattoo/piercing parlors?

Ozzie'sperson · 07-20-2007, 11:57 AM

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Originally Posted by BubblPopElectrc

STDs? I think you must have your diseases mixed up.

Of course you could get STDs, but from the tattoo/piercing parlors?

Ummm ... ears, belly buttons and tongues aren't the only things getting pierced these days! Think about it ... it's possible.

medusa512 · 07-20-2007, 12:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Suzy

If I were you, I wouldn't let on that I knew about it when I got home. I'd wait for HER to show you or tell you. That way, she can explain herself to YOU-which is actually much harder for her than if you just came home and brought it up to her. You're coming home-that's the most important thing. I'm sure she really misses you. She may even freak out and take the bar out before you even get home if she knows it's that important to you.

Once she DOES come to you with this, I think you should have a talk about it: Why she wants it-there's got to be a bigger reason than just that it's "cool". Where she had it done-you need to check this out too, and make sure it was clean. If not, she needs to see a doctor and get a blood test to rule out any illness that she may have contracted. You need to find out HOW she got this done at age 15. If the place where she had it done allowed a 15 year old to get a piercing w/o parental consent, you need to file a complaint. Or, did someone else sign as her guardian? Who? Or, does she have a fake ID at age 15? I'd say you have BIGGER problems if someone else you trust signed for her, or if she's already got a fake ID.

A day out together might spark this kind of conversation, and I urge you to go into that day with an open mind, stay calm, and talk through this with your daughter. You might also ask her what she thinks her punishment should be for doing this knowing that you disapproved. You may find she's harder on herself than you would be. It's then up to the two of you to work things out and decide on whether or not she gets to keep the piercing.

Good luck!

i really enjoyed reading your answer. you must have a good relationship with your parents!

medusa512 · 07-20-2007, 12:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Ozzie'sperson

Ummm ... ears, belly buttons and tongues aren't the only things getting pierced these days! Think about it ... it's possible.

some std's ARe blood-bourne or orally transmittable. don't forget about the lady who got herpes in her eye during an eyebrow wax b/c the "tech" had a cut on her finger!

also, Mom, if you have a trusted friend who can check the place out that you think she had it done at, that might help give you some relief.

Mia and Wickett · 07-20-2007, 12:16 PM

I did this to my mom when I was 18 and went away to college. I'm 27 now, so I can see both sides.

Her main issue was the image. To her, people with tattoos and piercings were weird and in the military (tattoos) or prison, etc. So she flipped out when she saw my piercing. I'd had it for a few months and took it out at that point. The first week was the worst, but then I returned to normal pretty much. They do sell plastic bar bells and other materials that are easier on the teeth so they don't get chipped. They also sell one that's the same color as your tongue so it's harder for other people to tell it's in there.

As for the generation gap.....it has become really popular to get pierced. Even for me, some of them are scary. The tongue piercing is a lot better than something ON her face that no one could miss. Or I've seen some pretty weird ones on peoples' arms or necks. I know you don't like it, but it could be worse. And.....at least it's not a tattoo.

Ozzie'sperson · 07-20-2007, 12:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Amber_lv

LOL i can only imagine lol. Dang i heard those are one of the most painful peircings!

All I can say is ain't NO NEEDLE touching my two girls (left and right).

OVER MY DEAD BODY!

LuvnmyYorkie · 07-20-2007, 12:21 PM

Ok, I see that most of you are mothers and are completely appalled by piercings. But let me tell you, be happy it is only a piercing!!

When I was about 15 (I'm 21 now), I wanted to get the upper part of my ear pierced. My mom didn't think it was appropriate and I didn't get it done. I was always the good kid, good grades, church, the whole bit. As soon as I turned 18, I got my nose pierced and a tattoo (a quarter size butterfly on my foot). I now have 2 small tattoos, my nose pierced and my Monroe (a stud piercing where Marilyn Monroe had a mole). Despite my piercings and tattoos (and yes, this is meant to be sarcastic) I am studying to be a paralegal, I have a full time job, I have lived on my own (in Southern California, where a 1 bedroom apartment it $1500/ mo) for 2 years now, and I pay for EVERYTHING on my own. I do regeret my tattoos, they are permanent. However, my piercings, which are on my face, can be taken out, and no one will ever know. And no, I do not blame my tattoos on my mom who wouldn't let me get my ear pierced.

I know that in your generations, piercings were a horrible thing, and even though you don't like it or agree, they are very common now. Let them get it done, let them feel like they are rebelling. Otherwise, they will rebel in other ways that can affect them permenantely- like drinking, or drugs, or tattoos. Basically, get over it... its just a hole... they will most likely be over it in a few months anyways!

red98vett · 07-20-2007, 12:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Ozzie'sperson

All I can say is ain't NO NEEDLE touching my two girls (left and right).

OVER MY DEAD BODY!

I'm so glad you clarified that 'left and right' thing

07-20-2007, 09:14 AM	#31
Lola LaRue Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: San Ramon, CA Posts: 710	Amber After the left side was done, I thought this isn't so bad. Then they did the right and I was about to jump though the roof. __________________ Shannon, Lola Larue, Chewbacca Joseph(aka Chewy) Last edited by Lola LaRue; 07-20-2007 at 09:15 AM.

07-20-2007, 09:49 AM	#33
Tina_Luvs_Missy YT Addict Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Canada Posts: 326	15 is way too young. When she hits the legal age, I say it's up to her. But everyone has different parenting styles. I was really anxious to get my tongue pierced cause it just seemed so cool looking at it while you are talking. Seeing it shine and all, but I realized it's just a stupid area to pierce (and all the BS about what the piercing really means! don't want to bother hearing people talk smack), so i ended up piercing my bellybutton, since I am capable of hiding it whenever, and showing it whenever. in total I have 10 piercings! (4 on each ear, but I usually use two on each ear, my nose (I take that out whenever I want to, and you can't even see the hole!! my belly button. )I am hoping for a Tattoo next!! possibly a toronto maple leafs flag---or something to do with the Leafs! hahahaha Last edited by Tina_Luvs_Missy; 07-20-2007 at 09:54 AM.

07-20-2007, 10:25 AM	#35
Ponyup YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Northern Indiana Posts: 1,252	Oh I'm not trying to freak you out, but you need to find out where she got it done & go check the place out. You can get sexually transmitted diseases from tattoo/piercing parlors if they don't use a new needle. I say you should make her take it out. I got tattoos & a belly button ring against my parents wishes, but I was over 18 & in college. 15 is too young for this kinda thing & responsibility in my opinion. Plus there is a stigma that goes along with girls that have their tongue pierced. Some people think they have it done to make them better at felatio (I am sure this is so not true with your daughter), but people think this. Even my mom told me that she thinks this. I'd come up with reasons why you think at her age this type of piercing is not a good idea & explain them to her. That way she knows why you are making her take it out. At 18 she can get it repierced as long as she researches a safe place to get it done. __________________ Ponyup Mom to LOGAN

07-20-2007, 11:03 AM	#36
Suzy 2 Pups=Double Trouble! Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Iowa Posts: 6,581	I got my BB pierced on my 18th birthday, and though my family didn't like it, I was 18, and it was my choice. I still have it today at 25. I like the way it looks-it's for ME, no one else. And, it's covered up unless I'm at the beach or in my own backyard. I agree with the poster who said that it's still in a conceled place-it is. I have a few friends that have/had their tongues pierced, and I didn't notice they had them in. After it first heals, it's pretty much unnoticeable unless they do that annoying clicking thing. If I were you, I wouldn't let on that I knew about it when I got home. I'd wait for HER to show you or tell you. That way, she can explain herself to YOU-which is actually much harder for her than if you just came home and brought it up to her. You're coming home-that's the most important thing. I'm sure she really misses you. She may even freak out and take the bar out before you even get home if she knows it's that important to you. Once she DOES come to you with this, I think you should have a talk about it: Why she wants it-there's got to be a bigger reason than just that it's "cool". Where she had it done-you need to check this out too, and make sure it was clean. If not, she needs to see a doctor and get a blood test to rule out any illness that she may have contracted. You need to find out HOW she got this done at age 15. If the place where she had it done allowed a 15 year old to get a piercing w/o parental consent, you need to file a complaint. Or, did someone else sign as her guardian? Who? Or, does she have a fake ID at age 15? I'd say you have BIGGER problems if someone else you trust signed for her, or if she's already got a fake ID. A day out together might spark this kind of conversation, and I urge you to go into that day with an open mind, stay calm, and talk through this with your daughter. You might also ask her what she thinks her punishment should be for doing this knowing that you disapproved. You may find she's harder on herself than you would be. It's then up to the two of you to work things out and decide on whether or not she gets to keep the piercing. Good luck! __________________ Suzy Emma & Milli What's better than loving a yorkie? Loving two yorkies! Milli 's Remi!

07-20-2007, 11:43 AM	#37
zoeybear Misssing Baby Chloe Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: California Posts: 4,186	I dont think I would wait for her to come to me. My daughter is 13. I have always subscribed to the idea that I would not put my daughter in a position to lie to me. If I knew she did something, I would say "I know you didnt do your homework" Never ask her "did you do your homework?" If you already know the answer, dont set up the possibility for a lie. The idea is not to test them. It is supposed to promote honest communication. I think it will be an adjustment having you home and parenting full time again. I would tell her that I know she disobeyed me. That is was not acceptable and now that you are home, there will be consequences in the future. Its just a tiny piercing. She will grow tired of it and grow past the phase!Good luck __________________ We give dogs time we can spare, space we can spare and love we can spare. And in return, dogs give us their all. It's the best deal man has ever made. -M. Acklam

07-20-2007, 09:33 AM	#32
medusa512 YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Texas Posts: 530	i had those done in england and they used a sort of numbing/freezing spray. didn't hurt at all. now the one i have that hurt the most was my...

07-20-2007, 12:16 PM	#42
Mia and Wickett Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Miami Posts: 88	I did this to my mom when I was 18 and went away to college. I'm 27 now, so I can see both sides. Her main issue was the image. To her, people with tattoos and piercings were weird and in the military (tattoos) or prison, etc. So she flipped out when she saw my piercing. I'd had it for a few months and took it out at that point. The first week was the worst, but then I returned to normal pretty much. They do sell plastic bar bells and other materials that are easier on the teeth so they don't get chipped. They also sell one that's the same color as your tongue so it's harder for other people to tell it's in there. As for the generation gap.....it has become really popular to get pierced. Even for me, some of them are scary. The tongue piercing is a lot better than something ON her face that no one could miss. Or I've seen some pretty weird ones on peoples' arms or necks. I know you don't like it, but it could be worse. And.....at least it's not a tattoo.

07-20-2007, 12:21 PM	#44
LuvnmyYorkie Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Anaheim Posts: 588	A opinion from a kid! Ok, I see that most of you are mothers and are completely appalled by piercings. But let me tell you, be happy it is only a piercing!! When I was about 15 (I'm 21 now), I wanted to get the upper part of my ear pierced. My mom didn't think it was appropriate and I didn't get it done. I was always the good kid, good grades, church, the whole bit. As soon as I turned 18, I got my nose pierced and a tattoo (a quarter size butterfly on my foot). I now have 2 small tattoos, my nose pierced and my Monroe (a stud piercing where Marilyn Monroe had a mole). Despite my piercings and tattoos (and yes, this is meant to be sarcastic) I am studying to be a paralegal, I have a full time job, I have lived on my own (in Southern California, where a 1 bedroom apartment it $1500/ mo) for 2 years now, and I pay for EVERYTHING on my own. I do regeret my tattoos, they are permanent. However, my piercings, which are on my face, can be taken out, and no one will ever know. And no, I do not blame my tattoos on my mom who wouldn't let me get my ear pierced. I know that in your generations, piercings were a horrible thing, and even though you don't like it or agree, they are very common now. Let them get it done, let them feel like they are rebelling. Otherwise, they will rebel in other ways that can affect them permenantely- like drinking, or drugs, or tattoos. Basically, get over it... its just a hole... they will most likely be over it in a few months anyways!