[medusa512]

Originally Posted by Suzy

If I were you, I wouldn't let on that I knew about it when I got home. I'd wait for HER to show you or tell you. That way, she can explain herself to YOU-which is actually much harder for her than if you just came home and brought it up to her. You're coming home-that's the most important thing. I'm sure she really misses you. She may even freak out and take the bar out before you even get home if she knows it's that important to you.

Once she DOES come to you with this, I think you should have a talk about it: Why she wants it-there's got to be a bigger reason than just that it's "cool". Where she had it done-you need to check this out too, and make sure it was clean. If not, she needs to see a doctor and get a blood test to rule out any illness that she may have contracted. You need to find out HOW she got this done at age 15. If the place where she had it done allowed a 15 year old to get a piercing w/o parental consent, you need to file a complaint. Or, did someone else sign as her guardian? Who? Or, does she have a fake ID at age 15? I'd say you have BIGGER problems if someone else you trust signed for her, or if she's already got a fake ID.

A day out together might spark this kind of conversation, and I urge you to go into that day with an open mind, stay calm, and talk through this with your daughter. You might also ask her what she thinks her punishment should be for doing this knowing that you disapproved. You may find she's harder on herself than you would be. It's then up to the two of you to work things out and decide on whether or not she gets to keep the piercing.

Good luck!

i really enjoyed reading your answer. you must have a good relationship with your parents!