Tongue Piercing-Advice Please

[camly]

well ... i have to admit that i am one of those that want a tongue ring .. i'm 22. i wouldnt be flashing it around lfor hte world to see. i have known tons of pple with tongue rings and never knew they had it until i had them open up and say 'aaah' ... I got my belly button pierced when i was 16 using a friend's ID, who was 18, that's a possible way she got it done w/o you being there to sign. and i did this all against my parents permission btw, and i even have a tattoo without them knowing. but its in a place that's discrete so they will never know. but my parents and are close, i didn't do this to rebel against them... it was just something that i wanted.

anyways, i got tired of my belly button and eventually took it out .. and I STILL HAVE A HOLE. so i'm prolly just go get it re-pierced. but i think if you don't want her to have a hole, it'll be super super tiny, have her take it out now and continue on with the treatment. my friend who had a tongue ring, got bored with hers too and took it out. she had it for a few years now, and she has a tiny hole left too. she chipped her tooth too...

BUT the main reason why I haven't gotten it done yet is b/c i don't want to ruin my teeth ... having nice teeth is much more important than a tongue ring.

gluck though ... i do have to say that i think 15 is too young, maybe 16/17 not too bad. my younger sis got her belly button ring done when she was 16 i think ....

[Yorkiekids]

Tongue piercings are suppose to be dangerous. Not to mention the fact that they can really mess up your teeth. I heard it takes a long time to really heal, because of all the germs in your mouth. I'd take her privledges away for disobeying you, but I wouldn't ground her. Sometimes that lands up worse on you then on them. Kids, don't you just love them. A mom that's been there.

[Lola LaRue]

I got my tongue pierced about 13 years ago. It wasn't all the rage at the time. I saw one guy with it and thought, "wow. I want that." I should mentioned that my Dad forbid me from getting tattoos and said he would not pay for my college education if I got any. So, I thought he never said anything about piercing.

Anyway, there was no pain involved in the actual piercing. People don't realize this, but we have very few nerve endings in the middle of our tongue. I came home stuck a popsicle on my tongue until it melted. I had swelling that night and was fine afterward. I used the listerine religiously and brushed my tongue ring 2 times a day. I know everyone has all of the horror stories about chipped teeth and infection, but I had mine for over ten years and that never happened. In that time, I never removed that thing once. I bit down on it about three times during the first two years and decided that I needed a shorter bar. By the way, shorter bars make them less detectable.

Alot of people did not notice I had one. I didn't stick it out of mouth and I spoke normally. I had normal jobs and a lot of my employers did not know about it. I got other piercings during this time and my father was more upset with the eyebrow. "People can see that one."

As for your daughter, she disobeyed you and should not be allowed to keep it after the healing has occured. They close fairly fast. Tell her that she can make that decision when she is an adult. You can come up with whatever punishment you deem necessary.

[txshopper73]

I dated a guy once that had a tongue ring. I guess he didn't use the Listerine enough...but when he took ou the bar, the underside of his tongue had turned green. NASTY!

I mentioned getting my tongue pierced once to my mom. I was in my MID-20S. She swore that I had the devil in me and that I might as well be one of those people on Maury Povich. Didn't get my tongue pierced but it did give me a good laugh.

Good luck with your daughter. She's just trying to find out who she is. I know it must be hard for you especially being in Iraq but you'll be home soon and then you can straighten her out.

[Ellie May]

I would let it heal and make her take it out. She can decide for herself when she isn't living with or getting financial support from you. The punishment is really up to you but outright disobedience is serious to me. My dentist office has a fit over tongue piercings. People can get so many problems from them.

[medusa512]

my mom was totally against piercings. i got my first at 18 after i met my eventually to be husband. she had a fit! (my navel for heaven's sake).
then i got my tongue done next. i thought she wouldn't know, but she did know. my tongue was swollen for about a week and what did my mom make for dinner that night? spaghetti! it was so hard to eat. the stupid noodles kept sliding around the ring and i had to chew ooo so carefully.
next night? roast. the kind that falls apart in your mouth. the little "strings" of beef did the same as the spaghetti.
then she had had her revenge and didn't say much else. (i was working, going to college, and legal, so she didn't give me too much hassle).

i had the tongue ring until maybe i was 28. i used listerine religiously to keep it clean. i had a shorter barbell with smaller balls on the end. (i had a cute playboy bunny one, but the stuff in your mouth collects under the plastic. stainless is best.) also, try to get a SOLID barbell where the balls screw ON not one where the balls screw IN. (same as above reason)

also, she may have gotten her tongue done because it is easier to hide. it's rebellious, but still secretive. she could have gotten a labret or septum!!

maybe you could have her exchange the tongue for the nostril and get a diamond

i'm just wondering where she got it done.

another thing is that the tongue is supposed to be done at an angle and not straight up and down. she can brush under her tongue and i recommend that. i never chipped any teeth (but i didn't have the "clicking" habit that some people think is cool/sexy. --oooo look at me, hear my metal--). she should try not to chew on it!!

also: she might come to you and tell you first before you let her know that you know.

i know it's funny, but since i've been pierced and have tattoos i feel a bit more lenient.

sorry if i wasn't much help. i do have still and have had other piercings done. the eyebrow hole is still visible, but normally only after i've waxed.

[MinMuf1]

Speaking as a person that has had theirs done three times for various reasons , it would seem a belly piercing may be an alternative. But, 15 is, in my opinion, WAY too young for a tongue piercing. Personally as a punishment, I would make her take it out, let it close and not ruin your reunion entirely! And, if she is that set on having a tongue piercing, she can have it redone when she is 18+. GOOD LUCK!

[red98vett]

I see being pierced to ADD to your look - but some take away from a persons looks & are just gross - you get too busy staring at that thing on their tongue or hanging on their Eyebrow and let's not forget the ever Attractive NOSE ring !

I spent a whole lunch once watching a girls eyebrow ring bouncing all over her eyeball LOL - I know it was rude but all I could think of is "doesn't that BUG her ???"

I'm so not old fashioned but I drew my lines on tongue rings ....I DO have tats (where no one can see) and multiple pierced ears - I just can't see doing it in a place that's unhealthy....and tongue rings sound pretty unhealthy to me - not to mention - PAINFUL - ouch !

Opps - edited to add - jvwheeler - I'd def make your point and hopefully this is just a phase with her - and it IS against the law to have that done at her age - wonder who did it ?? If it's the worst thing she's ever done - than you still have a pretty good kid there

[Amber_lv]

I also have my tounge peirced i got it done when i was 18 i am now 26. I don't flaunt it around honestly no one really ever notices i have it in there lol. I am not a freak and not covered in tatoo's and peircings it was something i wanted to do at the time.I am very normal lol. It can take awhile for it to heal and she does need to keep it clean. The thing is ... She already did it and trust me it hurts like hell!!! So why not let her keep it in there? I think she should be punished for doing it behind your back. The do have flesh colored Tounge rings that she can get so it is not noticible. As far as the teeth go................... The metal balls WILL WARE THE ENAMAL OFF HER TEETH!!!!!!! My suggestion once her tounge is ok to change rings have her down size to a smaller barbell and get Plastic balls this will help a lot and if she accidentally bites it the plactic ball will break before her tooth will. If you make her take it out it will close and if later on she wanted it back in she would have to pierce it again. Good luck!

[red98vett]

LOL amber you little freak you - I should clarify - my post was about the 'in your face' type piercings - I know it's been around for thousands of years - but sometimes you just don't want to see someone's tongue ring waving to you or worse...food stuck to them LOL

[Amber_lv]

I just wanted to add having a tounge ring can be comical at times lol. My favorite is when i am at the doctors lol and they have no idea i have one and then i open to say auuuhhhhhh and they step back lol because they are startled hahahahhaha. Also i have had dental work and the dentist hasn't said anything to me and they don't make you take it out during either. I used to have a bright green ball on it and people still didn't notice i had one but it is funny when they get a glimps of it and just about crawl in your mouth and say you have a toung peircing lol.

[Amber_lv]

Originally Posted by red98vett

LOL amber you little freak you - I should clarify - my post was about the 'in your face' type piercings - I know it's been around for thousands of years - but sometimes you just don't want to see someone's tongue ring waving to you or worse...food stuck to them LOL

Oh i totally agree i hate those girls who twirl them between their fingers or sit and click them it drives me nuts i'd like to grab them and rip them out lol. I did mine without my moms permission too because honestly what mom in thier right mind is gonna say ok honey go ahead and put a hole through your tounge lol. She was very angry and mine took a week for the swwelling to go down but she accepted it after a nice grounding. But i agree i hate the tards who have to have it be know they have one in there lol. I would like to add i worked for 3 years at a credit card company on the phone and no one ever could tell.

[Lola LaRue]

Amberlove---You think it's comical with a tongue piercing. You should see their faces with ni**le piercings. Am I allowed to say that?

[Amber_lv]

Originally Posted by Lola LaRue

Amberlove---You think it's comical with a tongue piercing. You should see their faces with ni**le piercings. Am I allowed to say that?

LOL i can only imagine lol. Dang i heard those are one of the most painful peircings!

[stephluvsangel6]

omg where or who took her to get it done? around here you absolutely have to have a parent if under 18 or show id if over 18.

i was so scared to have mine done that i never did it, and i had a friend who did and hers was sooo nasty but she isnt the cleanest girl, you have to keep it clean and mouth wash alot in fact i think after all drinks and food
and it can take a while to heal, 3-4 weeks is for the outer skin to heal cloaset to the earring, the rest is still healing, you can chip your teeth, you will talk a littel funny but you some people dont have any difference in talking, but personallly is she is responsible to take care of it i wouldnt worry as much, thats just health wise, not disobeying wise, health only but if she isnt much into taking care of it it can caryy risks, my husband had his tongue pierced twice and he still has holes, not big but he has them,


i just dont feel wel with the fact that shes 15 and got it done, it seems so young to me, around here you cannot get a piercing or tattoo done even WITH parental consent under 16, so i sure hope she didnt do it herself, thats can be even worse.

i wish you guys the best of luck and personally i dont know how to discipline her because she is your daughter and you guys have your own way of talking and workign things out, if it was my child, depending on age which at 15 i think i would rip it out and make it heal and bam a good slap on the head followed by taking away everything he has till he has learned not to disobey me

i mean if he was closer to being of age or of age i wouldnt hesitate as much to let him keep it but i really dont know, i wish you the best of luck, and just sit down with yourself and think about it, about everything you are telling us

much love and prayers sent your way
stephanie