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09-14-2006, 05:27 PM | #1 |
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| God!!!!!!!!! GOD!!!!!!!!!!! As you all probably know my daughter has been very very friggin sick. WELL all my DC parents but 1 is ok with this whole week. In my contract that SHE SIGNED. It states i get a 1 weeks vacation PAID. I took my vacation this week.I had to! WELL she is saying too bad so sad..i need to pay her other sitter for the week and if I dont she wont come back. well in my contract it also states she has to give me a 2 weeks notice...she said oh well.. My problem with this is 2 things..1..she signed a contract and knew about my 1 weeks vacation and for 2.I was out to walmart today to get savannah out of the house and she was there WITH HER BOYFRIEND...where were the kids????AT THE OTHER FRIGGIN DAYCARE and she expects me to pay for it...I am just so gosh dang mad right now AI could cry..If I give in and pay her daycare for this week I will have to pay 137.00 because she chose to go to a very high priced daycare for this area but if I dont pay for it than ill lose 445.00a month for doing care for her. Its the damn principle, ya know?? I just dont know what to do.. AND THAN to top it all off I have another dc parent that told me Im not paying you until next Friday...she didnt pay me last weel, suposedly needed to cash her check and was going to come by...yeah right and this week savannah got sick. Well she came over yesterday to get some pullups and said "my husbands check is only going to be for 30 hrs so im just going to pay you next week. She and him got paid last week she could have paid me than but didnt. I am just so mad and im sorry this is so long i just had to vent! |
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09-14-2006, 05:35 PM | #2 |
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| Sounds like DC is similar to being a landlord, they always have excuses. As for the one parent, I guess I would suck it up and play by her rules. I realize she signed a contract, but just try to get the money. You can take her to court and get a judgement for all the good that does. I'd also look for another child, and then drop her flat with no notice. |
09-14-2006, 06:08 PM | #3 |
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| I would not pay the other day care for one reason and one reason only!! She was going to have to pay SOMEONE to keep her kids, whether it was you or the other place so let her pay them. If you lose her, you're better off without her and someone better will show up when you least expect it. As for the one that hasn't paid you, a sitter I had when we lived in New Orleans met one parent at the door one Monday who hadn't paid in 2 weeks. She told the mom she either had to pay her account up or take the child home. Well, what was the mom going to do? Had to be at work, no work, no pay so she paid the sitter!!! You are no different than the water company, phone company, or credit card company - you expect your money when it's due. If you don't pay your utilities, they WILL cut you off - so cut her off. I know, it's easy for me to sit here and type this - I'm not in your shoes. But my heart goes out to you and I just want to see you treated fairly, with the respect you deserve! Regardless of what happens, I hope the one thing you do not do is pay that other day care! Keep your chin up!
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09-14-2006, 06:26 PM | #4 |
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| Don't pay it. (trust me, I speak from experience) The type of person she is, you could pay it and she could leave you anyway. If that's what she chooses to do, let her leave. I know it's a lot of income, but there is no guarantee it'll be there even if you do pay her daycare. Besides, maybe some little one with a responsible mommy is searching for the right daycare right now and could use the opening. I used to panic when children left the daycare for whatever reason, but they were always replaced quicker than I would have believed.
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09-14-2006, 06:29 PM | #5 | |
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09-14-2006, 06:31 PM | #6 | |
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09-14-2006, 07:03 PM | #7 |
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| Self Respect! DON"T PAY!!!!! Don't pay it... You deserve more respect then that! Some times you have to stand up for your self and know you are worth it! You have yourself to count on... don't you let your self down to please this woman... she will never respect you if you give in and either bully you around in the future or leave... You know I'm right. I will be praying for you to get more day care kids with kind hearted parents that understand and care about you. step out in faith and God will take care of you! God Bless
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09-14-2006, 07:16 PM | #8 |
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| That is horrible! Dont pay it, and you need to get prepaid legal to handle stuff like this. If this parent is behaving like that I would tell them that they are no longer welcome to your services! They are just trying to bully you. Let them go to the more expensive daycare and in just a few weeks they are goign to be really sorry for treating you like this. Youve made a contract and you have got to stick with it or you will look weak even if that means losing this parent. After all this is the whole point of the contract is so you dont get taken advantage of.
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09-14-2006, 07:38 PM | #9 | |
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Thats truwe. STATE of Kansas pays for her daycare anyways...shes pays a whopping 27.00 co pay for the MONTH..It pisses me off!!!!!!! | |
09-14-2006, 08:07 PM | #10 |
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| I'm so sorry your going through this! I take my daughter to the sitter 12 hours a week so I can go to school & I always make sure I have paid her, most of the time paying in advance. I wouldn't pay her daycare. If she is getting the state to pay for it why would she want to leave you if she is having to pay out of pocket for other places? And even if she does leave you, I'm sure you could put an ad in the paper or at Wal-Mart even about a daycare opening & I'm sure it would be filled very quick! Hope everything works out for you! Don't give in & let her bully you!
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09-14-2006, 09:16 PM | #11 |
Little Bit & Buttons Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: US
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| I don't see how you could pay hers and not pay it for all of your other kids. You can't treat one person different than the others. How many kids do you keep? That could get quite expensive. If the contract doesn't call for you to pay, you really can't do it and stay afloat. I would just try to explain that to her and if she won't listen, she will just have to do whatever she feels necessary. The only problem I see is if you are obligated because you are receiving payment from the state but even if that is so, you would certainly only be obligated to refund whatever the state paid you for her child, not the amount that she paid to the other daycare. Good luck to you. |
09-14-2006, 10:01 PM | #12 |
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| I did in home daycare for many years and I must say I was absolutely shocked at how difficult it was to get paid on time. I knew all of my moms well and I thought that would ensure that I would get paid on time...nope...didn't make a difference that we were all friends. They thought nothing of 'putting off' paying me. I finally had enough and drew up a new contract stating that due to the difficulty I was having collecting monies from the parents, I was to be paid on time and if payment was late, no childcare would be provided. They kicked up a stink. I couldn't believe it. All of the families I dealt with were not rich, but they were quite 'comfortable', let's say. And even though they said they loved and appreciated me and all the extras I did for and with their children, they never took into consideration that I was relying on this money for bills, etc. Out of all of the families I dealt with, only ONE paid me on time each and every week...(she worked for a childcare organization herself). I would NOT pay for this woman's child care. I don't know anything about state money, etc., as I'm in Canada and I don't know how that works, but I know that I wouldn't pay monies to another sitter for any reason. In my contract I made sure that I put something in there regarding 'sick days' in case myself or my children became ill. The parents had to have a back up plan in case of such an incidence. I never really had a problem with this issue, thank heavens. I don't envy you your situation as it's a difficult one. The only way to enforce your contract is to go to court and who wants to go through that hassle? I finally had to give up daycare because of my health (I was diagnosed with M.S.) and you know what....when I gave my final notice all of the parents were so sweet..all gave me cards and a couple gave me gifts but three parents STIFFED ME for childcare and I ended up losing almost $400.00! I tried collecting, but I really didn't push it as I had other things on my mind. I never did get the money. I congratulate you on doing what you do...it's a hard job...the hardest I ever had. It's just too bad you're not appreciated more (financially) by your parents....they need to realize how lucky they are to have a good caregiver. Best of luck! (sorry I was so long winded!!) |
09-15-2006, 04:17 AM | #13 | |
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WEll here. They have the dc cards now. They put a certain amount on the parents card and they phone it in and transfer it to my account upon my request. The state has no rules when it comes to this..they pay when I want and pay for my vacation with it also. I have my state pay on the 1st of every month so shes paid for the whole month of Sept however since I took a weeks vacation I dont have to reimburse her because shes on state. State rule is: treat them like you do the cash paying parents. also once they give you a benefit for the month thats all you get for the month and she knows that. She just deosnt want to have to pay ANYTHING out of her pocket. Must be nice to only have to usually pay 27.00 a month for 3 kdis!! Shes going to pay it or she can leave and ill get her for the two weeks notice she did not give me!!!!!!! | |
09-15-2006, 10:55 AM | #14 |
Puppy Luv Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Canada
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| I gave you a few links to a couple daycare forums a while ago, I hope you found them helpful. I just sometimes get confused at your DC problems. Many DC providers receive payment before care to cut down on the problem of those parents who do not pay in time. No pay, no care. Yes, you may lose those headache parents if you stick to your guns and insist payment first but then you replace them with parents who follow your rules. It would save you all the headaches you have now. When I did DC I would have a paid vacation as well but would give my parents 2 months notice first so they would have time to prepare and save for that week they needed to pay for two providers. Or I would add a couple dollars to their fees each week and let them know it was going toward my vacation week. $5 a week was easier for them that way then paying hundreds all at once. I also made it clear that the parents were responsible to have an emergency back-up provider incase my children were sick and I was unavailable. They did not have to pay me for my child's sick time (why should they?), as too many people live paycheck to paycheck as it is, and it is not fair to hit them last minute with paying for daycare for two providers. It was hard to lose the pay when my children were ill but it was not at fault of the parents. I'm sorry about your little girl and hope she feels better. I know how hard DC can be, thats why I don't do it anymore. You should really try to review a few things to make it easier on you and both fair to you and the parents, it keeps everyone happy. All the best! Last edited by Breeze; 09-15-2006 at 10:59 AM. |
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