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Originally Posted by megansmomma  If the OPer's son was 6 yrs old then I could see this being a little more of an issue but he is 13 yrs old. There is a huge difference in the accountability you give to a Jr High School age child vs a Kindergartner. Teenagers are faced with many decisions that they need to make responsible decisions for and the only way they will be able to do so is to make them responsible for all their decisions. As they mature they are faced with many decisions and need to know how to respond appropriately.
IMO if the OPer was so upset the venting needed to be done them it she should have expressed herself directly to her son. Otherwise, in the future he will not know that his playing in the rain in certain clothing was unacceptable.
High School is just around the corner and that is an entirely different senario that presents so many more challenges. My oldest son and his friends started a tradition while playing football in HS to have a Thanksgiving day football game. To this day they still get together to roll around in the freezing mud every Thanksgiving morning. Now that they are all in their 20's they still like to get dirty.  If they could magically go back to their childhood I think they would to want to just to be able to roll in the dirt and play in the rain~  |
My son is a quiet shy kind of kid. Not like my other 3 at all. I would have rather met the mother before, but he called from school and wanted to go home with him to hang out. I wasn't going to say no. I bit my lip and know I raised a smart kid so I said yes.I told him to call me when he got there so I knew he was safe and to get the address so I could pick him up. . It was fine for him to play in the rain I don't have a problem with him being in the rain. I just thought it was not a very good parenting decision on her part. I am a full blown soccer mom. My son who just graduated college and my daughter a junior in college play on their college teams.They have been playing since they are 4yrs old, I have been to many, many, many games in the rain with them. That is not the issue., These kids went home from school on the bus with this kid to hang out. I know my son wasnt knocking over a liquor store or smoking crack. I just thought the mom would keep them inside thats all. I did not want to make an issue of it to my son because like I said he is trying to make friends here... and I know he had a good time. It's just the mother...who should have known better. Dont tell me high school is just around the corner... between my 3 older ones I have done high school for 11 years, 4 with my older son, 4 with my older daughter, and 3 with my younger daughter who is a senior in high school. I know the "challenges they face"
Next time I will screen my venting before posting!