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inabowbina · 07-09-2009, 09:17 PM

Its true people are getting worse. It seems to me that all the good people, people that would help others out in a time of need feel like y should I anymore because they never get help in return and get walked all over. I know i have that feeling sometimes i try to ignore it and do what i know is right but i been walked over so many times. And never get any help when i need it. It makes you hard because it hurts. Sorry that happened to you though i would have helped you

Sandysbabies · 07-10-2009, 03:25 AM

I believe we are living in a very sad time. People are only concerned about No. 1. Its a shame no one helped you. People could care less about each other anymore and I'm afraid we are going to see it even get worse. I never thought I would live to see the things going on in America we see today. Sorry you got hurt and sorry no one cared to help you.

crystalsmom · 07-10-2009, 03:41 AM

I'm afraid I have to agree it is a sign of our times.

People are all working and do not know their neighbors which is so important, not only for a feeling of safety but to teach your children to care for people around you.

Parents are giving their children way too much materially since their time is so limited working their pants off to pay a mortgage a bank should not have given them in the first place. I have a friend who is a HR manager who tells me the new group graduating coming in to work are telling her when they will work!! This shortage of jobs and the economy may in some ways as hard as it is may change alot of attitudes and get what is really important in our lives in order. JMO

cheryl19 · 07-10-2009, 03:42 AM

Good for your son!!! You are doing a great job with him. And for your neighbors

That is another reason why I keep coming on this site most people hear are very caring.

All we can do is be nice to others and hope it catches on.

shamrocks · 07-10-2009, 04:06 AM

I think that in our society that many people think its none of my business. I think it was on Date Line or some type of show like that where they had actors play out different distress situations from a child being lost to a woman being pushed around. Most of the time people just did not want to get involved. You said that other people saw you hurt but no one came to see if you were ok . We talked about situations like that in Soc class it seems that a lot of times if there is more than one person around in a time of need then the less likely they will feel that they will have to help. They can push it off on the others thinking that someone else will do it. Our society has changed and I don’t know if it is out of fear or indifference but I do know that we all need to show compassion.

roxies_mom · 07-10-2009, 05:40 AM

I'm sorry this happened to you and I'm glad your feeling better. What a sweet little boy you have. I have 3 boys and a girl and they would all esp. my oldest 2 come running to my aid. I started with my boys at very young ages to hold the door for people. Then it just becomes a habit and something you just do for others. The sad thing is that it seems to be adults who should know better that are just standing by doing nothing. Is it the I don't want to get involved thing or what? Another thing I've noticed is that if one person starts to help then more will follow the lead and jump in. Everyone is so self absorbed they can't even take a few minutes to help someone in need. It really is irritating.

yorkiepuppie · 07-10-2009, 08:28 PM

wow. i am so sorry that you got hurt and your neighbors didn't help you. that is terrible!

it's like you are already hurt physically and then for them to stand there and not help probably hurts your feelings A LOT too! i am so glad that you caught yourself and you are ok. you little boy is very sweet.

i am glad that your hubby is going to get another neighbor's contact info. in case you need help. i guess you can't trust the ones who didn't help you today.

i think that part of the reason people don't help others is because they are selfish, and another part of the reason is because they get 'punished' for helping others.

we've all heard stories where people get sued for trying to help other people. and also, just from personal experience, i think people can be really rude. like it generally REALLY sucks to hold the door open for people. usually i try to be nice, and i would hold the door open for other people. but then a lot of times i end up standing there until everyone on the street has entered the building...wth. do they all not have arms or something. no they are just selfish, so i usually start regretting it, but if i drop the door on someone, then they get all mad...i don't know why they feel like they have the right to be angry?

or when you decide to let a pedestrian cross the street, then all of a sudden it's like the whole store just exited the building and now you are stuck sitting there for a year...

yorkiepuppie · 07-10-2009, 08:32 PM

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Originally Posted by QuickSilver

There have actually been numerous studies on this phenomenon; the more people there are around, the less likely it is that anyone will do anything. If just one or two people had been around, they would have almost certainly rushed to help. The responsibility to do something seems to get divided up by the number of people at the scene. There's some psychology that everyone thinks that if the victim needed help, surely someone else around would take care of it.

Anyway, I am SO sorry this happened to you, it sounds very painful! I have never been stung by a bee. I hope in some way this provides a little comfort - it's not that people are bad, they are just stupid in groups.

very interesting. thank god i am anti-social LOL!

shannonroselive · 07-11-2009, 03:07 PM

I dont understand this sort of behavior. Even my kids are shocked when drivers won't even yield to the ambulance. They say, "one of these days, it'll be that guys loved one who needs them and then he'll be sorry." This is so true. And what is so hard about uttering a few words such as, "are you ok?" or "can I help you?" this world has gone mad.

I try to be a good parent and teach my 3 sons values like compassion and kindness. My oldest son is 18 now but when he went to kindergarten winter came and the snow fell hard. When I drove up to the pick up line to get him after school one snowy day, he was standing there in his t-shirt without his new snow coat. I said, "OMG Garrett, where is your coat? It's freezing out here!!!" He said, "I gave it to Steven because he didn't have one. I told him I had another one at home so he could have my new one." Needless to say I bawled all the way home. He is always doing things like that, to this day. All my boys are so thoughtful, they make me very proud to be their mom.

Bianca · 07-11-2009, 04:23 PM

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Originally Posted by shannonroselive

I dont understand this sort of behavior. Even my kids are shocked when drivers won't even yield to the ambulance. They say, "one of these days, it'll be that guys loved one who needs them and then he'll be sorry." This is so true. And what is so hard about uttering a few words such as, "are you ok?" or "can I help you?" this world has gone mad.

I try to be a good parent and teach my 3 sons values like compassion and kindness. My oldest son is 18 now but when he went to kindergarten winter came and the snow fell hard. When I drove up to the pick up line to get him after school one snowy day, he was standing there in his t-shirt without his new snow coat. I said, "OMG Garrett, where is your coat? It's freezing out here!!!" He said, "I gave it to Steven because he didn't have one. I told him I had another one at home so he could have my new one." Needless to say I bawled all the way home. He is always doing things like that, to this day. All my boys are so thoughtful, they make me very proud to be their mom.

Good post, I have 3 sons also and try to teach them the right thing to do. When my son held open the door for a woman in a wheelchair, I was so proud and happy.
I try to do something nice for someone everyday, we all should.
It absolutely blows my mind how nobody helped you

But I highly believe in Karma and one day the people who didn't help will need help, I just hope they are helped.

Chance · 07-11-2009, 09:42 PM

I'm sorry you got hurt. People are rude in this day and age. But at least your son is
being taught better. Most kids are not raised to be helpful..
Sandy and Chance

celstu1 · 07-13-2009, 07:14 AM

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Originally Posted by Mom2TwoYorkies

That is just horrible, plain and simple. I think people nowadays only care for themselves and don't want to get involved if they see anything.

I live in CT and a few years ago an elderly man was hit crossing the street. People saw him lying there and did NOTHING to help him. Cars drove around him . . .it is truly sad and unfortunately this is what the world has become . . .

I saw that on the news... it sickened me!

Yeah people can be very rude and only out for themselves. I could NEVER not help someone who needed help, it's just my nature, but I guess there are those who can't get out of their own way.

julietimothy · 07-13-2009, 07:40 AM

I think it comes down to the way your raised. I have a 13 year old son and if we are a store and I see a older person trying to get out a door with their hands full, I will tell him to please go ask if he can help, and he does. Now I see when we go it to stores he will hold the door open and let others come out before he goes in. I think it is the little things we teach our kids that make the grow up to be a good person that will help others. Take time to tell your son how you felt when no one come to help you and maybe when he grows up he will remember that and be 1 of the few to help others. When bad things happens you can always trun it around into a teaching moment for our kids. I am sorry this happen to you what goes around, comes around.

I was in a Crap Shack eating with family and we was just about to order when My son come up behind me and was choked. He could not get NO AIR at all. He could have died. I was trying everything I knew to do and people was just watching, the manager came out and said nothing. No one called 911 for us and the candy that was stuck was not coming out. I had to hit him as hard as I could in the back and it finnaly when down. Then he was able to cry, when you can't breath you can't cry. I also just set down and put my hand on my legs and just cried. I understand how close I come to losing him, but everyone else just set there. I would say in about another min or 2 he would have passed out. I guess that is when people would have thought to call 911 for us and he would have been brain died before help got there. Do you know the manager never said anything to us. Not even "is he ok"

roxies_mom · 07-14-2009, 07:16 AM

It's sad the society we live in right now. Partly why our economy is like it is too. Every man for themselves is the mentality.

07-10-2009, 03:41 AM	#33
crystalsmom Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Ohio Posts: 7,946	I'm afraid I have to agree it is a sign of our times. People are all working and do not know their neighbors which is so important, not only for a feeling of safety but to teach your children to care for people around you. Parents are giving their children way too much materially since their time is so limited working their pants off to pay a mortgage a bank should not have given them in the first place. I have a friend who is a HR manager who tells me the new group graduating coming in to work are telling her when they will work!! This shortage of jobs and the economy may in some ways as hard as it is may change alot of attitudes and get what is really important in our lives in order. JMO __________________ Last edited by crystalsmom; 07-10-2009 at 03:43 AM.

07-10-2009, 03:42 AM	#34
cheryl19 Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: NY USA Posts: 1,749	Good for your son!!! You are doing a great job with him. And for your neighbors That is another reason why I keep coming on this site most people hear are very caring. All we can do is be nice to others and hope it catches on. __________________ Ivy, Max, Reggie & Cheryl

07-10-2009, 05:40 AM	#36
roxies_mom YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: central illinois Posts: 1,396 Blog Entries: 1	I'm sorry this happened to you and I'm glad your feeling better. What a sweet little boy you have. I have 3 boys and a girl and they would all esp. my oldest 2 come running to my aid. I started with my boys at very young ages to hold the door for people. Then it just becomes a habit and something you just do for others. The sad thing is that it seems to be adults who should know better that are just standing by doing nothing. Is it the I don't want to get involved thing or what? Another thing I've noticed is that if one person starts to help then more will follow the lead and jump in. Everyone is so self absorbed they can't even take a few minutes to help someone in need. It really is irritating. __________________ "My sunshine doesn't come from the skies, it comes from the love in my dogs eyes"

07-10-2009, 08:28 PM	#37
yorkiepuppie Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: San Jose, CA, USA Posts: 2,883	wow. i am so sorry that you got hurt and your neighbors didn't help you. that is terrible! it's like you are already hurt physically and then for them to stand there and not help probably hurts your feelings A LOT too! i am so glad that you caught yourself and you are ok. you little boy is very sweet. i am glad that your hubby is going to get another neighbor's contact info. in case you need help. i guess you can't trust the ones who didn't help you today. i think that part of the reason people don't help others is because they are selfish, and another part of the reason is because they get 'punished' for helping others. we've all heard stories where people get sued for trying to help other people. and also, just from personal experience, i think people can be really rude. like it generally REALLY sucks to hold the door open for people. usually i try to be nice, and i would hold the door open for other people. but then a lot of times i end up standing there until everyone on the street has entered the building...wth. do they all not have arms or something. no they are just selfish, so i usually start regretting it, but if i drop the door on someone, then they get all mad...i don't know why they feel like they have the right to be angry? or when you decide to let a pedestrian cross the street, then all of a sudden it's like the whole store just exited the building and now you are stuck sitting there for a year... __________________ www.yenspiration.com i love milu

07-11-2009, 03:07 PM	#39
shannonroselive Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Where ever the wind blows! Posts: 612	I dont understand this sort of behavior. Even my kids are shocked when drivers won't even yield to the ambulance. They say, "one of these days, it'll be that guys loved one who needs them and then he'll be sorry." This is so true. And what is so hard about uttering a few words such as, "are you ok?" or "can I help you?" this world has gone mad. I try to be a good parent and teach my 3 sons values like compassion and kindness. My oldest son is 18 now but when he went to kindergarten winter came and the snow fell hard. When I drove up to the pick up line to get him after school one snowy day, he was standing there in his t-shirt without his new snow coat. I said, "OMG Garrett, where is your coat? It's freezing out here!!!" He said, "I gave it to Steven because he didn't have one. I told him I had another one at home so he could have my new one." Needless to say I bawled all the way home. He is always doing things like that, to this day. All my boys are so thoughtful, they make me very proud to be their mom. __________________ ~~~ Argue for your limitations and sure enough they're yours! ~~~

07-09-2009, 09:17 PM	#31
inabowbina YT Addict Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: illinois Posts: 253 Blog Entries: 3	Its true people are getting worse. It seems to me that all the good people, people that would help others out in a time of need feel like y should I anymore because they never get help in return and get walked all over. I know i have that feeling sometimes i try to ignore it and do what i know is right but i been walked over so many times. And never get any help when i need it. It makes you hard because it hurts. Sorry that happened to you though i would have helped you

07-10-2009, 03:25 AM	#32
Sandysbabies YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Dallas, Texas Posts: 2,234	I believe we are living in a very sad time. People are only concerned about No. 1. Its a shame no one helped you. People could care less about each other anymore and I'm afraid we are going to see it even get worse. I never thought I would live to see the things going on in America we see today. Sorry you got hurt and sorry no one cared to help you.

07-10-2009, 04:06 AM	#35
shamrocks Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: May 2009 Location: Cleveland, Ohio, USA Posts: 617	I think that in our society that many people think its none of my business. I think it was on Date Line or some type of show like that where they had actors play out different distress situations from a child being lost to a woman being pushed around. Most of the time people just did not want to get involved. You said that other people saw you hurt but no one came to see if you were ok . We talked about situations like that in Soc class it seems that a lot of times if there is more than one person around in a time of need then the less likely they will feel that they will have to help. They can push it off on the others thinking that someone else will do it. Our society has changed and I don’t know if it is out of fear or indifference but I do know that we all need to show compassion.

07-11-2009, 09:42 PM	#41
Chance Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Clarkrange Posts: 130	I'm sorry you got hurt. People are rude in this day and age. But at least your son is being taught better. Most kids are not raised to be helpful.. Sandy and Chance

07-13-2009, 07:40 AM	#43
julietimothy YT Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Frisco City AL Posts: 325 Blog Entries: 1	I think it comes down to the way your raised. I have a 13 year old son and if we are a store and I see a older person trying to get out a door with their hands full, I will tell him to please go ask if he can help, and he does. Now I see when we go it to stores he will hold the door open and let others come out before he goes in. I think it is the little things we teach our kids that make the grow up to be a good person that will help others. Take time to tell your son how you felt when no one come to help you and maybe when he grows up he will remember that and be 1 of the few to help others. When bad things happens you can always trun it around into a teaching moment for our kids. I am sorry this happen to you what goes around, comes around. I was in a Crap Shack eating with family and we was just about to order when My son come up behind me and was choked. He could not get NO AIR at all. He could have died. I was trying everything I knew to do and people was just watching, the manager came out and said nothing. No one called 911 for us and the candy that was stuck was not coming out. I had to hit him as hard as I could in the back and it finnaly when down. Then he was able to cry, when you can't breath you can't cry. I also just set down and put my hand on my legs and just cried. I understand how close I come to losing him, but everyone else just set there. I would say in about another min or 2 he would have passed out. I guess that is when people would have thought to call 911 for us and he would have been brain died before help got there. Do you know the manager never said anything to us. Not even "is he ok"

07-14-2009, 07:16 AM	#44
roxies_mom YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: central illinois Posts: 1,396 Blog Entries: 1	It's sad the society we live in right now. Partly why our economy is like it is too. Every man for themselves is the mentality. __________________ "My sunshine doesn't come from the skies, it comes from the love in my dogs eyes"