I have to find Parker a home, hubby cant take it anymore

[Tashasmom]

If I had just one penny for everytime my hubbie told me I had to get rid of my animals I could buy every yorkie on this site and that is no joke..I hear it every single day..several times some days..Will i get rid of em nope..will he kept tellin me to...yep..lol
I tell him if he'd like he can go find some nice woman that didn't have animals..and they can hate em together for the rest of their days..lol..I dare him to take one step out that door lol..
Poor Denise..I know it's hard...you feel torn between your baby and the love of your life..Our men indulge us when we want our hearts desire then they don't know how to handle it after they've done so..
I know how it is spending money on brand new carpet only to have it ruined..it's gross..and expensive..BUT..we take them on for better or worse..our animals and hubbies lol..So I'd sit down with hubbie..and explain your love for Parker..if he loves you ..which i know he does..u don't spend that many years with someone and not love them..lol...tell him that it just takes time and if he will be patient one day he will have a dog that not onlly you will love but that he will love as well..
and vets are good..they know all the medical business..but there are some things that some vets say that just make my head spin..yorkies aren't like big breed dogs..they do take longer to break..and to top it off..males are easier to train IMO..as for the smell..u can shave all around that area..and wipe him with baby wipes..
I wish you all the luck in this. I know it's not easy..some men are dif about animals and some love them like we do..mine isn't animal crazy but he knows I am..I figure I tolerate the things he likes that i dont and vise versa..it will all work out...good luck..and hugs to you..i know it's not easy..and try not to get defensive..no one is in your shoes ..and everyone is just trying to help by giving their opinions..i dont think they mean any harm to you or are trying to hurt your feelings..and if they are then just ignore them like we teach our children to ignore those that upset us..

[mikey]

i'm assuming that 90% of the people on this board are over the age of 16. so please people, lets be more sensitive with how we voice our opinions. yes, you do have the right to say whatever you think, but please refrain from being too critical.

none of us are in those shoes. we all come from different places and different backgrounds. so let us not be so judgemental. i'm not just talking about this one thread, but i know i've been "bashed" on here too and it's very much pointless.

it is true that not all dogs can be potty trained.

this is specially true for purebreds.

she has to consider the feelings of those who live with her. finding a yorkie a new home is NOT THE END OF THE WORLD.

please, back off and give this girl a break.

[rnnw62]

Originally Posted by DENISE517

First of all I dont mean to be defensive, but I will. I thought Parker was doing great before we got maddie. He would ring the bell to go potty...we take him out every 1/2 hr and he even pees on his pee pad..... sometime he would have accidents....I had no idea how bad things were until I got the black light....i wish i would have never ask to help now... I'm getting bashed for now reason, you have no idea how well i take care of my pets and how much love and attention they get. they are spoiled beyond belief and when you talk about compromise.... that too means I have to make some compromises tooo. Which I dont do very often. My hubby does spoil me and is a really good guy, you have no idea the stuff we have went through for Parker......

ME Bashing you?? Not hardly!! As I stated my pup is
a month older than yours so I feel I can relate to your dilema I just can't
relate to your solution that's all.

[vainchick5]

Originally Posted by DENISE517

My hubby made me take him sunday to an emergency vet to have him checked over because he was so mad... There is no medical answer to this... He has no infections or anything wrong with his bladder Hubby is sooo stupid...Sorry I'm just upset

I don't think we are bashing your husband or you. I think maybe sometimes when you phrase things a certain way yourself (such as caling your husband stupid), you open the door for criticism. Then you turn around and say he's not a bad guy stop bashing him. I'm just saying that how you post reflects how people will react. Just something to think about. By the way, in my opinion if someone loves you, they would never ask you to get rid of something that means so much to you. Maybe you should let your husband know that.

[dray]

You are right Kimberly , a puppy does not know where to potty if he gets the opportunity to potty where ever he wishes. Limit his space until they can be trusted. It is that simple.

[Tashasmom]

I may have read it wrong..but i dont think Denise said she was giving her baby away..i think she said hubby said she had to..she said she didn't want to..and asked us what she should do..she also told us why and asked for help on that as well..Denise is a really nice person..she wouldn't do anything to harm anyone or her babies..I think she felt backed against a wall by hubby and came to us for advice..and now she feels backed up against another wall..
She has choices..but none right now sound appealing to her..so she just needs us to help her hash it all out..if she chooses to not keep parker then she is allowing him the opportunity to be with a family that may better fit him ..there is nothing wrong with that..if she does keep him..then she knows as we all know things have to change..and there is nothing wrong with that..she's not plannin on dumpin him in the nearest pound..
WE need to help her with this..thats all shes asking..

[whispersmom2]

There are times when the situation just does not work, period. When that happens, I advise re-homing as an option when all else has been tried. I know hubbys can be less tolerant but you have to remember they are the humans and have the ability to control the situation and sometimes that makes the decision for you. If he is not gonna deal with the dog and its problems, then the baby deserves to be in a home where he is cared for by all of the members of the household.
I AM NOT CRITICIZING YOU OR ANY MEMBER OF YOUR FAMILY! I have given this advice on many occasions. Sometimes the timing is wrong, the finances, the schooling, the job, the location -all sorts of things can spring up that you had no way of knowing about.
Do not beat yourself up! If need be, interview people and place him in a home that deals with the issues that are causing you to have to re-home him. Then, move on and work out what your and hubby's issues are and the next time you both will be ready and happy for a puppy.
Good Luck in resolving this situation..If you need to chat, please PM me....

[Tashasmom]

Originally Posted by whispersmom2

There are times when the situation just does not work, period. When that happens, I advise re-homing as an option when all else has been tried. I know hubbys can be less tolerant but you have to remember they are the humans and have the ability to control the situation and sometimes that makes the decision for you. If he is not gonna deal with the dog and its problems, then the baby deserves to be in a home where he is cared for by all of the members of the household.
I AM NOT CRITICIZING YOU OR ANY MEMBER OF YOUR FAMILY! I have given this advice on many occasions. Sometimes the timing is wrong, the finances, the schooling, the job, the location -all sorts of things can spring up that you had no way of knowing about.
Do not beat yourself up! If need be, interview people and place him in a home that deals with the issues that are causing you to have to re-home him. Then, move on and work out what your and hubby's issues are and the next time you both will be ready and happy for a puppy.
Good Luck in resolving this situation..If you need to chat, please PM me....

Very nicely said..

[TrueReviews]

I have had 2 doggies with what we like to call "happy bladders". We worked with them for a while and found the best solution to breaking that was to immediately take them outside when they are let out of their crates. It adventually worked and now they will try to hold the bladder until they get outside or run straight for the door...now if we don't open the door right away they might have an accident but they are much better. My suggestion for you is anytime you bring him out don't just wait for him to let you know he needs to pee. Take him out right away so he can adjust to that. I think you will find he will have less of a reaction when excited. You can also try using things like rewards after he goes out to make it something he will try harder to do. It works for my girl Chloe who is a Chihuhahua with a very happy bladder. You can walk by my house and she will bark...if anyone walks near her during this she squirts...not a happy situation. Now after letting her right out she has not done this at all. I am still crossing my fingers and praying this continues.
Well I am sorry I babbled on here I just hope this helps you! ;-)
~Tru

[JiggityJig]

she has to consider the feelings of those who live with her. finding a yorkie a new home is NOT THE END OF THE WORLD.

please, back off and give this girl a break.

Out of the mouths of babes!

I agree, sometimes rehoming an animal is the MOST loving and caring and sacrificial act that you can perform for them. I have two dogs that we received in this way....a chocolate lab, and a yorkie. It was way harder for the former owners to give them up than it was for the animals to make the transition, trust me. And now, their lives are so much better.

Whether we agree with the husband in this situation or not (and we do NOT know all the details involved)---a marriage is more important than a pet. Period.

Good luck to all involved!

[SnowWa]

Denise - Don't "give up." I don't know why people are bashing your husband. He sound like a great and sensible guy to me.

It sounds to me like he has put up with a lot and just doesn't want a pup that is trashing the house. In all honesty - I think this is a perfectly acceptable mature attitude.

Your husband and children do come before any pet you have - hope no one seriously disagrees with this!

I can understand why you love your little pup so much. He is a darling.

I think you are in a very tough situation - but am not sure that you have many options here. Since you can't train your little dog - it looks like he is going to have to go to a new home (this is very sad) - but, it does sound like your husband has gone the extra mile and really hated to tell you that the puppy has to go. I don't fault your husband at all. Some of us love our pups to death, think of them as "our babies," and spoil them rotten (this is probably part of our training problem) -- but, even so, we have no right to expect others to allow pets to live in our houses - doing damage, ruining carpets, furniture, causing odors, etc. No sensible, mature person would want a pet that causes these problems.

The reason we want pets in the first place is so that they can become loveable, enjoyable members of our family --

Sorry about people putting your husband down.....he sounds like a fine guy to me. I don't think any of this problem has been easy for him either.

Carol Jean

[Maddie-Rudy-Mom]

Originally Posted by whispersmom2

There are times when the situation just does not work, period. When that happens, I advise re-homing as an option when all else has been tried. I know hubbys can be less tolerant but you have to remember they are the humans and have the ability to control the situation and sometimes that makes the decision for you. If he is not gonna deal with the dog and its problems, then the baby deserves to be in a home where he is cared for by all of the members of the household.
I AM NOT CRITICIZING YOU OR ANY MEMBER OF YOUR FAMILY! I have given this advice on many occasions. Sometimes the timing is wrong, the finances, the schooling, the job, the location -all sorts of things can spring up that you had no way of knowing about.
Do not beat yourself up! If need be, interview people and place him in a home that deals with the issues that are causing you to have to re-home him. Then, move on and work out what your and hubby's issues are and the next time you both will be ready and happy for a puppy.
Good Luck in resolving this situation..If you need to chat, please PM me....

Very well said

[cheryl000]

I know what it's like feeling bashed by people on here. I had asked for help a while back because my husband was getting frustrated with our puppy. I will admit right here that he doesn't love her, but I can't force him to. I provide enough love and care for her for more than one person. He simply doesn't like her attitude. But people on here called my husband some pretty horrible things just because he doesn't love the dog. Someone even cross posted implying that he could be abusive to her. He would never abuse her, he just doesn't interact with her. I would love for him to pet her but that's his choice.
But people form opinions on others with the very little bit that they know. They don't know that he REALLY is an animal lover. But to him the best pets are the ones who keep to themselves and bother him. He feeds her and lets her out if I ask him to. At least your husband interacts with your dog. My husband had told me in the past to find her a new home when we were having a hard time with training, but I sat down and talked to him about it. Now that he understands that it would make me depressed to part with her he deals with it.
The best thing we did to fix the problem of her going on the floor was put up a babygate. The dogs are ONLY allowed in the kitchen. Now I can even keep the gate open and they know not to go into the rest of the house. Brandy had one accident last week and she hadn't had one in a long time. It's easier to clean up on tile. You should also crate train your dog.
Good luck and don't be afraid to PM me if you need to. I think things will get better in time. I think you had mentioned breeding, please reconsider that if this has put such a strain on your marriage. Welping a litter is really tough.

[Tophersmom]

It's a tough situation, there's no question about it...I'm sorry you're feeling that some are being hard on you. I guess it's a situation that hits close to home for all of us as we're all yorkie moms and we feel your sadness.

I hope you and hubby are able to come to an agreement that both of you can live with. Like Rini said, it's not the end of the world and sometimes these situations don't work out.

Please don't rely on black light to show just puppy stains, tho. Black light will show any type of spill, discoloration, etc. It could very well be that the pup isn't responsible for what's seen under the light.

I wish you all the luck in the world. I wish I could offer better advice, but I'll send you a hug...I'm better at that than giving advice

[DENISE517]

OK here is Parkers schedule... you will see he does not have roam of the house and is taked outside very often... I know I should not have called my hubby stupid, but at the time I was very upset... You can think I'm a terrible pet owner and maybe I am, but we and I say "we" have decided to rehome Parker. I just cant spend 24/7 with him and let my family suffer for it. Maybe he needs a home where no one works and can work with him more or better than I have. I am at my wits end. I have tried everything except the leash on the house thing and that is just not feasible for me. The stains are all urine. We tested that by putting milk and juice and pop on carpet and letting it dry and putting the black light over it. Nothing showed up. As for a trainer. We have none in our area that will come to the house. Have to go to Indy and it is way too expensive. Yes I may be a bad person, but I am keeping Maddie. This little girl has great bladder control. She too is on the same schedule as Parker and she will not pee in her crate. I do watch them outside to see if they are doing what they need to be doing before bringing them inside. Please trust that Parker is a sweetheart and I would never pass him off to another family without feeling like i've done all I can. His decision in no only my hubbys but also my own. You would not believe the day I had with him yesterday and I cant take it any longer. I truely feel like I've done all I can do.. Rather you agree or not... ok here is his schedule:

Parker gets up around 5:30 in the morning. We carry him out of his cage and to outside where he will pee and poo. He comes inside and goes back to sleep with me in my bed for 1 hr. I get up take him back outside he will just pee. I put him in the crate and feed him. After 20=30 minutes, I take him outside and he pee and poos again. Lately he has been pee and poo on the deck. I dont take him out on a leash, I just walk out with him since our yard is fenced in and we spent 2000.00 doing it for him. He comes back inside and plays in the family room with me for 20 min to 1/2 hr. Then I have to finish getting ready for work so he goes back into his crate. He will stay there till 12:00. I come home carry him outside and he will pee and poo. He does pee several times in his crate on the pee pad i spend about 20 minutes with him playing take back outside he pee and then I'm back to work. Hubby comes home takes him outside he pees and then directly back into the crate for supper. after about 20=30 min. he lets him back outside where he poo and pee and comes back in and plays. We watch him all the time and occassionally he will run into the other room and we yell and he comes directly back. *which i think he's been peeing. we talk him out every 1/2 hour after wards. around 9:00 i take his water away. usually around 10o or so I put him back into his crate and 10:30 back outside and he pee and poos in that 1/2 hr he pee in the crate. He comes back in and plays til 11L00 back outside pee and then to bed. in the mean time I think when he runs into the other room or he hind something he pee within a instant. That is what I dont understand. I really do have him on a sch. and I really do watch him, but after the black light test there were pee marks and marking stuff everywhere. He still squats. He has been fixed at 4 months. He will use the pee pads outside the cage and pee sometime within the 1/2 hr. or sometimes he will ring the bells at the back door. Lately he wants to pee on the deck. He pees in his crate, he will also pee on the pads sometimes.

Thank you for all your advice rather I liked it or not I guess I ask for it.. But this is the best thing.. Sometimes it just doesnt work out..... Parker will not be going to just any old home. I believe I've found a good one from someone here on yt. Anyone who wants to take on this responsiblity is a better person then I. I'm checking this persons ref. first. they are at home all day long and do have other yorkies. Sorry if you dont agree with this, but it is best... It wont be easy because i do love this little guy and spoil him to death!!!!