It's a tough situation, there's no question about it...I'm sorry you're feeling that some are being hard on you. I guess it's a situation that hits close to home for all of us as we're all yorkie moms and we feel your sadness.
I hope you and hubby are able to come to an agreement that both of you can live with. Like Rini said, it's not the end of the world and sometimes these situations don't work out.
Please don't rely on black light to show just puppy stains, tho. Black light will show any type of spill, discoloration, etc. It could very well be that the pup isn't responsible for what's seen under the light.
I wish you all the luck in the world. I wish I could offer better advice, but I'll send you a hug...I'm better at that than giving advice
