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07-14-2018, 05:33 AM | #1 |
YT 500 Club Member | Please help soon Hello Yorkie pawrents. Ok so here I go. My husband is retired. We have had little Ruger for 3 years. Such a well behaved super sweet perfect little boy. I’m the one that do all the out of home errands and go to exercise classes. I’m not gone very long. So 4 days ago we were given a stray female Yorkie. She was found at a farm. The couple that surrendered her to us really think she was lost for a couple of weeks. So that means through lots of thunderstorms & 4th of July. She is terribly skinny was infected with fleas & tics, matted so bad the first people took her to groomers had hair shaved to skin, treated her for flea & ticks. So now we are up to the point we took her. My heart has been in my stomach. She shivers, cowers to the floor when picked up. Took her to my Vet 2nd day we had her. Checked out very well. By law the Vet gave rabies shot, liquid antibiotics for skin infection. She instantly took to my husband. She sits on him constantly, follows him everywhere, cries if she can’t find him. She’s very sweet with just me. So NOW when she is on my husband and I get near she is snapping at me. I’m so sad. We tell her “no” in a firm tone but don’t scream at her. I have to make this work I have been wanting another Yorkie ever since we got Ruger. Also, we play toys with Ruger a lot and she doesn’t seem to know what’s going on. She won’t play, just wants to sleep on my husband. She’s eating really well. What to do... Also not spayed and no chip. It makes me so so sad and I want to cry Please advise. I’ve never had 2 dogs together until now. Ruger, for, now is keeping his distance.
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07-14-2018, 08:08 AM | #2 |
Yorkie mom of 4 Donating YT Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: LaPlata, Md
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| First off did whoever found her make sure they looked for the owner? That is extremely important. She may have a bit of anxiety which might need to be medicated for a little while until she gets used to stuff. It might take her awhile to open up to you. Sometimes it can take rescues that have been through a lot months.
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07-14-2018, 09:21 AM | #3 |
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| Aww poor little baby, so sad to hear things like this. She is only with you 4 days, that is not enough time for this baby to have trust in either you or your husband, the fact that she has bonded with your husband is huge since who knows what that poor lil thing went through before she was found by the ppl that gave her to you. Keep in mind you "may" be the 3rd home she has been in in a matter of months. These babies that are found as strays you will never know what their past was like, were they abused by humans, children, other animals. You won't know how long she lived as a stray before being found. She was with these ppl that gave her to you, then given to you, she doesn't know she is in her forever home, she needs time to adjust, to trust and bond. You must have much patience with this little girl, don't be sad because for now she prefers your husband, be happy that she trusts him. Everything needs to be done in baby steps with this little one. For now, when she is with your husband don't go near him where she will growl or snap at you, avoid a situation, you're not giving in to her, you are helping her by showing her you are not a threat to her. You don't know if a human female abused her and she's afraid of women. If it was a woman that handed her over to you, she may fear you as a woman will take her away from a person she has gained trust in. Give her space and time to see you are a loving woman and not one that will cause her any harm. Just let her settle in for several weeks, don't force anything on her. Don't force yourself on her, let her come to you on her terms, her time, her choice. Make sure you are the one that always feeds her, gives her treats, make yourself her only food source. It's ok that you do all for her and she chooses to snuggle with your husband for now, things "may" change once she sees "you" are her only food source. She has to build trust in you and that for now should be your only goal. I would not scold her right now for anything, firm tone from you is a threat to her. She is not going to change overnight, it could take weeks before you see any changes so do not give up on her. Cheerios is a favorite treat for most dogs, carry some in your pocket, offer one or two throughout the day for no reason at all, ya know the old saying " the way to a man's heart is through his stomach" well that works on dogs too lol, more so for dogs then man lol. Don't worry that she doesn't know about playing with Ruger, she can't know what she never had. You continue playing with Ruger, when she sees Ruger is having fun she will join in. For now let her be content in your husbands lap, she's been through a lot and needs to put that all behind her. Do don't be sad, resentful, annoyed, upset that she wants only your husband "for now" these dogs pick up on our emotions and feed off it, what you want is a happy dog that has no fear of their humans. The way to achieve that is to have positive feelings about this lil baby, gaining her trust in you is your mission. Food and soft praise works wonders. Be happy this lil girl has found her way to you, be happy that she has found trust in your husband after all that she has been through. Do not force friendship between Ruger and her, let her go to Ruger on her terms, her time. Forcing anything on her at this time can do more harm then good, everything has to come from "her" when she is ready and feels safe and comfortable. Again, please, do not be sad, hurt, this little girl does not know you to dislike you, she fears you as a human, love, trust has to be earned it is up to you to gain this love and trust as a human that will not harm or hurt her. Food, yummy treats, boiled chicken cutlets offered as treats can work wonders in building trust. Remember the phrase. I would also talk to your vet about spaying, you don't know when her next cycle is, every cycle she has puts her at risk for mammary tumors and Pyometra, your vet "may" want to give her more time with you before spaying, but you need to speak to your vet, you can also have her micro chipped when she gets spayed. Please let us know how her adjustment in her new home with you is going. We love our babies and love yours as well.
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07-14-2018, 12:27 PM | #4 |
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| So wonderful of you to bring this precious, lost baby girl into your family...You are obviously loving, caring, compassionate and generous. For now, just keep loving her and continue to be patient--very patient--as it may take time. I totally agree with everything Matese suggests (always, actually) and avoiding going near your husband while she's bonding is excellent advice. We all come with baggage; your little girl has been through some terrible hardship and needs for you to understand that even though you don't know what 'that' is...Already she is trusting you and your wonderful husband to figure out what she cannot. She needs to believe what I told Piper time and time again after bringing her home..."You are home now and we will be together always. I will keep you safe. You have a voice in our home, a say in your life. I love you and will always love you and there is nothing, nothing you can do that will ever change that..." |
07-14-2018, 02:12 PM | #5 | |
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07-14-2018, 02:57 PM | #6 | |
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Many good comments and suggestions above. In the short time this little one has been in your lives, it is really positive that she has been able to bond with your husband. I pray this is a sign of more good things to come. Thank you for opening your home to this sweetie. --KatysMom | |
07-14-2018, 03:36 PM | #7 | |
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Yes, we really think this little 4 lb. girl had a rough life. Her 1st pp. didn’t chip her or spay. I had my Vet do a Titer test to see where she is on immunizations. I won’t be surprised if it comes back negative. I will do anything for her to love me. The pp. that found her did post on Facebook. They live so far out in no where they couldn’t go door to door. That’s why they think so was lost for so long and her little body has been through starvation, infested with fleas & tics, so, so skinny. I believe if they wouldn’t have found her she would have been dead in a few days. This is breaking my heart. Yes, I am the food, treat, outside potty training Mommy. I have been concentrating on Ruger making sure he’s still “King”. My Vet & I decided to put weight on her before spaying, and teeth cleaning. It’s possible she comes into heat before then, but I pray she won’t. I’m soooo great full to YT for all the loving Yorkie parents. Thank you so much & I will give lots of up dates. I CAN make this work!
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07-14-2018, 04:25 PM | #8 | |
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Your quote is so precious. A tear jurker.
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07-15-2018, 04:15 AM | #9 |
Furbutts = LOVE Donating Member Moderator | First, bless your heart for taking this poor little one in ! The main thing right now is to understand she may have been extremely traumatized from being a stray. We don't know what happened to her out there - she could've been chased, had rocks thrown at her, shouted at, almost ran over by cars...who knows..? But extremely traumatizing for any little stray to heal from. So, some of the healing will just take time and patience and learning. One thing you may want to try right away is buying her a Thundershirt to help make her feel more secure; there is science behind the way that shirt works. I got mine on ebay - great prices!! I wouldn't get on the Thundershirt website, it'll be way more $. If things don't improve, don't hesitate to talk to your Vet about something for anxiety for a while...during her adjustment phase. Give lots of love, treats, soft reassuring voices, little neck/shoulder massages if she'll let you - my dogs melt when I do this for them. Gently massage the ears. It just takes time. It's sad what's been done to some dogs who are strays or in shelters. I adopted my Arthur (neurotic chi, lol) from the shelter where I volunteer bc out of 500+ volunteers, he wouldn't let anyone touch him except for me and one other gal. Arthur never learned (or was allowed..?) how to play or have toys when we adopted him; and now even 3 yrs later, he still only knows how to play with me a little bit by laying on his back and playing little "hand/paw games". But I LOVE him soooo much, my Arthur; and he adores me. And I *know* he feels safe and loved with us, and he will have that forever now. Sooooo strays can be tough/concerning/different -- but so special too, bc you're able to heal them with time. Hang in there - and please keep us posted !
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07-15-2018, 04:28 AM | #10 |
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| I know, just from reading your posts, that you will have the love and patience to make this little one prosper. As everyone has said, she will need time to learn how to acclimate. I have never had a rescue, but our little poodle Beauregarde had been returned to his seller four times (unknown to us) because of patella problems. `We took him to our vet on day two, and he declared him "unfit for sale". He weighed less than two pounds, but when his papers came, we found out that he was 7 months old. We fell in love with him on sight, and decided to negotiate an extended health insurance agreement and keep him with us. He was wild and high energy for quite awhile, but luckily was a very friendly and happy little fellow. He did not, however, seem to recognize that this was his HOME. With time, he settled in, and became deeply bonded. Flash forward 11.5 years...he is a crotchety old man who rules the roost over his two young yorkie brothers. He is a lovable little curmudgeon who craves being cuddled by either of us, but when my husband leans in to kiss or give me a hug, Beau lets out a series of quick barks. When friends come to visit I cannot have them hug hello or goodbye if I am holding him since he will give them a growl under his breath. After all of these years, this is the one "habit" that we have not been able to break.
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07-15-2018, 05:23 AM | #11 | |
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Thank you for your shelter work. Wow! 500 volunteers. My grown daughter (38) volunteers at our local humane society and there’s only about 3 people. So very sad. I help when I can. They have several pit bulls which are pitiful too. Thank you for listening to my life, very few people will. I don’t think a thunder shirt will work at this time because she has such a bad skin infection. Her skin, as of yesterday has started to flake off. She will let me brush her, thank goodness. Air needs to get to her skin. She does sit on my husband with a blanket wrapped around her. I think that is helping her shivers. Another concern that is a sign of her being traumatized is she holds her little tail down between her skinny little butt. My imagination is running wild with what she has been through. I’m NOT giving up. Love ❤️ her & my Ruger tp pieces
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07-15-2018, 05:29 AM | #12 | |
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About the hugs & kisses and the growing after all these years, you know, dogs never forget.
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07-15-2018, 01:31 PM | #13 | |
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07-27-2018, 02:11 PM | #15 |
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| Your story is very similar to mine. Penny was a stray and in terrible condition when given to us. She immediately bonded with my husband. I always used to joke that he was "Daddy" and I was "The Help". She has always accepted me but not to the extent she did him. My husband passed away a year and a half ago. I was all Penny had so now we are very close. Your little Yorkie has simply chosen her person. It doesn't mean she doesn't want you too, it just means your husband is who she feels most comfortable with. Don't give up on her. It sounds like she has been through a lot. Get her spayed and chipped right away. |
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