Wow!!

[Furbaby Friend]

Originally Posted by JeanieK

A feeble attempt at justifying rudness.

As if you have never been purposefully rude on here or stirred the pot. I've seen it, so stop being so preachy.

Not that I'm a saint. I've been rude too. It happens when passions get high, but don't act as if you never have.

[Rhetts_mama]

Originally Posted by concretegurl

[Furbaby Friend]

I think the point we should all take away from this is self reflection. We can reflect on our OWN behavior and try to be better people.

I try to monitor my fingers and have even edited a few posts out because I decided I should not say the things that I wanted to say. I do my best, but yes I have been rude. It happens, nobody is perfect.

I do agree that what seems perfectly natural to one person is mean or rude to another. Everyone has different sensitivity levels, we are all individuals. I know some REALLY thin-skinned people and some extra thick-skinned ones too. Some people are just blunt or forceful or forward and to others it can seem attacking, aggressive, and mean.

I agree that when some people type they say blunt things without the intent to hurt others and others do not take it well and call them rude. Other times, people are actually being rude. Then again all these observations of mine are all skewed to MY perception of rude anyway. So yes, in the end rude is in the eyes of the beholder.

However, we can all agree that some things are just way out of line. I think the mods do a great job of making sure that the community remains civil and happy while still allowing discussion. Like someone already said, if you don't like the way someone responds to things and think they are rude, put them on ignore.

[Lula-Mae Famous]

Originally Posted by concretegurl

hahaha

[Wylie's Mom]

Originally Posted by gemy

It is not amazing that sometimes we misunderstand each other; it is amazing that we understand each other at all!

Just love this Gail ! So true.

[JeanieK]

Originally Posted by chachi

Your not God on here and just because you say its so doesnt mean it is

LOL You are absolutely right, I am not God, on here or anywhere else. Let me rephrase In my opinion, that is a feeble attempt to justify rudeness.

[JeanieK]

Originally Posted by Furbaby Friend

As if you have never been purposefully rude on here or stirred the pot. I've seen it, so stop being so preachy.

Not that I'm a saint. I've been rude too. It happens when passions get high, but don't act as if you never have.

Oh absolutely I have been purposely rude. But I have never tried to explain it away by claiming "what some peole see as rude, others may not" Everyone knows when they are being rude.

Speaking to another adult, that you know nothing about, as if they were idiots, is rude no matter how you try to justify it.

Who are these people to tell another adult that they should not be breeding, is rude. Who are they to tell somone that has bred their dog, that they should take the dog in for an emergency spay, just because they are not an experienced breeder. It is really none of their business.

And which is worse, breeding a healthy dog, or unnecessarily aborting a healthy litter of pups. And what kind of vet would do that unless the mother was in danger? My vet certainly would not.

In my opinion, that is speaking to the person like she is to ignorant to know when her dog might be in danger. And that is rude no mattrer how you pin it.

[Rhetts_mama]

Originally Posted by JeanieK

LOL You are absolutely right, I am not God, on here or anywhere else. Let me rephrase In my opinion, that is a feeble attempt to justify rudeness.

That's so much better, LOL. But I guess it only applies when you disagree with someone's opinion.

[Donnainohio63]

Originally Posted by yorkietalkjilly

I'm sorry, I can't see that post here - I guess I am just skipping over it. Were you told that because of inexperience in dog pregnancy and whelping?

I am not sure why I was told that , Sadie is young, maybe that is why. I just do not think that the first advice given to anyone should be abortion.

[miabellaamoure]

Originally Posted by JeanieK

A feeble attempt at justifying rudness.

Jeannie, Jeannie, Jeannie...and look who's calling the kettle black now...just give it a rest!

[yorkietalkjilly]

Originally Posted by Donnainohio63

I am not sure why I was told that , Sadie is young, maybe that is why. I just do not think that the first advice given to anyone should be abortion.

I would like to see the thread for context; could you post a link?

[Donnainohio63]

Originally Posted by JeanieK

Oh absolutely I have been purposely rude. But I have never tried to explain it away by claiming "what some peole see as rude, others may not" Everyone knows when they are being rude.

Speaking to another adult, that you know nothing about, as if they were idiots, is rude no matter how you try to justify it.

Who are these people to tell another adult that they should not be breeding, is rude. Who are they to tell somone that has bred their dog, that they should take the dog in for an emergency spay, just because they are not an experienced breeder. It is really none of their business.

And which is worse, breeding a healthy dog, or unnecessarily aborting a healthy litter of pups. And what kind of vet would do that unless the mother was in danger? My vet certainly would not.

In my opinion, that is speaking to the person like she is to ignorant to know when her dog might be in danger. And that is rude no mattrer how you pin it.

Very well said

[lmperez]

Originally Posted by dexterandalana

i understand your point and some people can be harsh to newbies. but most are doing it out of love for the breed and animals. far too many people are ignorant of the facts of how unnecissary dog breedings are a direct cause of the over population of shelters and rescue groups.

i urge anyone who is thinking of breeding their dog just because they think their dog is cute, or just to make a couple bucks without being serious to read this article....

My Name is Sam | Life With Dogs

having soooo many unecissary litters in north america is a direct cause of stories like this to happen EVERY DAY.....

I have always felt that animals should be spayed amd neutered and the breeding left up to qualified people. That link, My name is Sam just broke my heart. I am having a hard time typing through the tears. I wish more people would take the time to read and educate themselves and the world on such matters.

[Wylie's Mom]

Originally Posted by JeanieK

Oh absolutely I have been purposely rude. But I have never tried to explain it away by claiming "what some peole see as rude, others may not" Everyone knows when they are being rude.

Speaking to another adult, that you know nothing about, as if they were idiots, is rude no matter how you try to justify it.

Who are these people to tell another adult that they should not be breeding, is rude. Who are they to tell somone that has bred their dog, that they should take the dog in for an emergency spay, just because they are not an experienced breeder. It is really none of their business.

And which is worse, breeding a healthy dog, or unnecessarily aborting a healthy litter of pups. And what kind of vet would do that unless the mother was in danger? My vet certainly would not.

In my opinion, that is speaking to the person like she is to ignorant to know when her dog might be in danger. And that is rude no mattrer how you pin it.

Devil's Advocate here . When you are being intentionally rude, maybe I don't view you as being rude...maybe I see it as blunt, helpful, proactive. I agree that only you (and each of us, of ourselves) can know your own intent.

But that goes both ways...RhettsMama posted some things earlier that you saw as rude. And there is nothing wrong with your interpretation. I happened to see it as not rude. And she said her intent wasn't rude.

I guess my point is...you said you know when your intent is to be rude, so wouldn't others know their own intent too...even if it was different than how you perceived it?

Hope that all made sense...hard to explain what my thoughts were .

[yorkietalkjilly]

I am sorry as I could not get the link from your PM so don't know the context. Perhaps if you were told that it was by someone here who has seen a lot of Yorkie's suffering and maybe even dying due to a litte Yorkie female's age, size, health status or the owner's perceived lack of experience, thus expressing their advice or opinion under the circumstances. As this current thread is about some posts as being, to use my own words, rude or mean, I would not see that statement as either - just the poster's own advice or opinion, which you can either accept or reject.