I think the point we should all take away from this is self reflection. We can reflect on our OWN behavior and try to be better people.
I try to monitor my fingers and have even edited a few posts out because I decided I should not say the things that I wanted to say. I do my best, but yes I have been rude. It happens, nobody is perfect.
I do agree that what seems perfectly natural to one person is mean or rude to another. Everyone has different sensitivity levels, we are all individuals. I know some REALLY thin-skinned people and some extra thick-skinned ones too. Some people are just blunt or forceful or forward and to others it can seem attacking, aggressive, and mean.
I agree that when some people type they say blunt things without the intent to hurt others and others do not take it well and call them rude. Other times, people are actually being rude. Then again all these observations of mine are all skewed to MY perception of rude anyway. So yes, in the end rude is in the eyes of the beholder.
However, we can all agree that some things are just way out of line. I think the mods do a great job of making sure that the community remains civil and happy while still allowing discussion. Like someone already said, if you don't like the way someone responds to things and think they are rude, put them on ignore. |