Everyone: can we TURN UP the COMPASSION here?

[EmmaPeel]

Originally Posted by ladyjane

I was told by a very wise woman years ago that the best way to get past being upset with another person is to wish them well and pray for good things for them.

Perhaps, instead of only wishing well to certain people, you should try it? Just a thought...I know that when I pray for people who make me upset and wish good things for them, I normally let go of my bad thoughts.

Happy Holidays to you.

GREAT advice, and I am past being upset. Not worth it. I am going to enjoy the season and love my friends (and that includes those on here) and family!

I have taken the advice posted on here to add some members to my Ignore List. WONDERFUL advice and things are already much more pleasant.

Thanks to you all and have a FABULOUS DAY!!!

[AllDogBoots]

Originally Posted by Brooklynn

Nice to meet you too! Whewwwww I'm glad you didn't take offense!

LOL. I look at everything in perspective. Bottom line - it's an online Yorkie forum. What am i really going to be offended by??

[bjh]

I love YorkieTalk too. I have made some wonderful life long friends on this forum. YT is more than about yorkies, it is also about sharing our goals, our inspirations, our joy, our sadness, our grief and so much more.
It is also very educational and entertaining at times.

Thanks to Admin and all the moderators for a job well done. I know it is a difficult job.

Bravo to those that share their wisdom and convictions. Bravo to those that stick around to learn.

Merry Christmas to everyone, I pray everyone has a wonder holiday, whatever it may be and a prosperous and blessed New Year.

[Brooklynn]

Merry Christmas All! I wish warm and peaceful thoughts and a Happy and Joyous New Year!

[Mardelin]

Merry Christmas and a Joyous New Year to all

[shamrocks]

Originally Posted by jp4m2

I just wanted to say.....There's always going to people out there that will test our patience and understanding. How we respond to another's views and opinions has a lot to to with each of our own unique make up of sensitivities, life experiences, differing personalities, expectations, fears, and our attitudes.

These qualities will determine our ability and capacity to show others respect, understanding, compassion, humility, patience and strength when confronted with these situations. .....Sometimes we will never have a complete understanding of every situation. When you notice someone is wrong or may not share the same views as you, let it go if it’s not a life & death situation. The uneasiness left lingering in the air over a small matter of opinion is not always worth the discomfort of continued confrontations. Every opinion, reaction, perception, and preference is not important, necessary, or kind to reveal.

I hope everyone has a wonderful holiday and in the coming year we all gain some peace, hope and many blessings!!.....


"Lord, I need Your wisdom in my relationships. Please give me Your wisdom. I'm asking in faith, as best as I know how. Help me not to compromise my integrity in relationships. Help me to keep my life pure in an impure world. Help me not to give up my convictions just for a friendship. Help me not to antagonize people's anger. You know I know what makes them mad and I tend to use it when I want to get even. Help me not to say those things or do those things. Help me to be wise. Help me not to minimize other people's feelings, that I'll respect it whether I agree with it or not and not put it down, whether I understand it or not.

Help me to be wise and not be defensive and not criticize other people's suggestions but to be open to learn and to be reasonable and willing to talk things out, to discuss things. You've said that's a characteristic of being wise and I want to be that way. Help me not to emphasize other people's mistakes but to show mercy, because I sure need mercy. I make
mistakes. Help me not to nag others about their past, things that are behind us. Help me not to disguise my weaknesses, to learn to be open and honest.

God, that scares me but I want to be wise and You've said I can never succeed in life if I try to hide my sins. Give me your wisdom. I thank You that through it we become wise people in relating to others. I know there are a lot of smart, intelligent and educated people in the world that are really dumb in relationships. Yet You say that's where wisdom shows itself. Give us Your wisdom. In Jesus' name. Amen.

[jencar98]

My wish is sincere, with out sarcasm and goes out to all, even those I've disagreed with in the past....hope you all have a blessed Christmas and the very best New Year!

[musiccitymom]

Merry Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to everyone! Hope the new year brings peace and wonderful things to your lives!

And a tiny piece of wisdom that sure has made my life easier:

“Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die.”

[lil fu fu girl]

[QUOTE=jp4m2;3364586]I just wanted to say.....There's always going to people out there that will test our patience and understanding. How we respond to another's views and opinions has a lot to to with each of our own unique make up of sensitivities, life experiences, differing personalities, expectations, fears, and our attitudes.

These qualities will determine our ability and capacity to show others respect, understanding, compassion, humility, patience and strength when confronted with these situations. .....Sometimes we will never have a complete understanding of every situation. When you notice someone is wrong or may not share the same views as you, let it go if it’s not a life & death situation. The uneasiness left lingering in the air over a small matter of opinion is not always worth the discomfort of continued confrontations. Every opinion, reaction, perception, and preference is not important, necessary, or kind to reveal.

I hope everyone has a wonderful holiday and in the coming year we all gain some peace, hope and many blessings!!.....

Beautifully said.......

[Woogie Man]

I just want to say that some of my best friendships here have been forged through an initial disagreement. I try not to set my feelings in stone, especially with the little things. It just isn't worth it and who knows.....you may change your mind about something and find a good friend along the way.

Have a wonderful holiday, everyone....and try to love your fellow man as much as you love your Yorkies .

[Nancy1999]

Originally Posted by WV~Yorkies

I wasn't preaching I just wanted to encourage. Then they keep saying nasty things and I lost it. I am so sorry for that. I started this with a pure heart and was so sad and disappointed when It turned out nasty.

That may have been your intent, but some didn't take it that way. That's nearly always my intent, and as you know, people don't always take it that way. Are they wrong or perhaps I haven't written it good enough, or a little of both? We're not perfect, we all get our feelings hurt; we don't always have the time to write each post just right, but I think if someone looks hard enough at the post they can see the "intent." I think if we want to become encouraging instead of just preachy, we have to be so careful how we phase things, yet some will still think nagging them and calling them names. I think what some of us see as nasty is really "frustration".

[FlDebra]

Originally Posted by manolos mom

sister ann!!!!!:d

I think I have to give her a promotion and call her Mother Ann -- she does have to keep us kids in line from time to time.

[jencar98]

Originally Posted by Woogie Man

I just want to say that some of my best friendships here have been forged through an initial disagreement. I try not to set my feelings in stone, especially with the little things. It just isn't worth it and who knows.....you may change your mind about something and find a good friend along the way.

Have a wonderful holiday, everyone....and try to love your fellow man as much as you love your Yorkies .

Words of wisdom...thank you, Jim. Like you one of my best relationships here didn't begin so friendly...we disagreed, then agreed to disagree, ended up I agreed with her more than I thought Btw....she still owes me a steak, but then, I still owe her a salad

[FlDebra]

Originally Posted by Woogie Man

I just want to say that some of my best friendships here have been forged through an initial disagreement. I try not to set my feelings in stone, especially with the little things. It just isn't worth it and who knows.....you may change your mind about something and find a good friend along the way.

Have a wonderful holiday, everyone....and try to love your fellow man as much as you love your Yorkies .

Great point and wonderful sentiments.

Wishing you a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year too -- along with all my YT friends and future friends!

[EmmaPeel]

Disagreement, yes...absolutely!

Nastiness? NO. Absolutely NOT. Nobody deserves that.

I can agree to disagree in a calm, kind, civil manner. What I have seen posted to those here is NOT that.