Everyone: can we TURN UP the COMPASSION here?

[Nancy1999]

Originally Posted by AllDogBoots

Kidding?

I'm starting to find myself able to take sides at this point, although I do always prefer to stay neutral. But it's simple -all I have to do is go back to any thread I've every created or posted on and see who has helped me the most and who I've learned from the most. I just find it ironic that it's the so called "bullies" who have been so very helpful to me personally, as well as to adding a huge educational benefit to YT.

Hey you taught me something on another thread, and I'm no longer bugged when I hear the term "Holiday tree", in fact, it has enriched my spirit, not taken away from my beliefs, which I think was where my irritation was coming from. So thank you very much!

[Mardelin]

Originally Posted by Nancy1999

That may have been your intent, but some didn't take it that way. That's nearly always my intent, and as you know, people don't always take it that way. Are they wrong or perhaps I haven't written it good enough, or a little of both? We're not perfect, we all get our feelings hurt; we don't always have the time to write each post just right, but I think if someone looks hard enough at the post they can see the "intent." I think if we want to become encouraging instead of just preachy, we have to be so careful how we phase things, yet some will still think nagging them and calling them names. I think what some of us see as nasty is really "frustration".

My pastor said once that is easier to pull someone off a chair, than it is for someone on that chair to pull someone up......

If one is looking for the negative.....they'll find it easier than weeding through and finding the positive.

[AllDogBoots]

Originally Posted by Nancy1999

Hey you taught me something on another thread, and I'm no longer bugged when I hear the term "Holiday tree", in fact, it has enriched my spirit, not taken away from my beliefs, which I think was where my irritation was coming from. So thank you very much!

You are making fun of my Chanukah bush.

[Nancy1999]

Originally Posted by EmmaPeel

Disagreement, yes...absolutely!

Nastiness? NO. Absolutely NOT. Nobody deserves that.

I can agree to disagree in a calm, kind, civil manner. What I have seen posted to those here is NOT that.

Calling others "nasty" is nasty, don't people understand that? It's not calm, it's not kind, and it's not civil.

[Nancy1999]

Originally Posted by AllDogBoots

You are making fun of my Chanukah bush.

I'm not making fun of it at all. I did a search on Chanukah bush after you wrote about it, and I saw things from a different perspective. I must admit that Sarah Silverman - "Give The Jew Girl Toys" video brought tears to my eyes, and I guess that helped open them.

[AllDogBoots]

Originally Posted by Nancy1999

I'm not making fun of it at all. I did a search on Chanukah bush after you wrote about it, and I saw things from a different perspective. I must admit that Sarah Silverman - "Give The Jew Girl Toys" video brought tears to my eyes, and I guess that helped open them.

I'm just playing. I'll have to find that video!

[BaxtersMommy]

Turn up the compassion is the name of this thread, I see it has gone off course. Happy Heart!!!!!

[FlDebra]

Originally Posted by EmmaPeel

Disagreement, yes...absolutely!

Nastiness? NO. Absolutely NOT. Nobody deserves that.

I can agree to disagree in a calm, kind, civil manner. What I have seen posted to those here is NOT that.

Wow -- reading all of your posts in just this one thread. Usually people are a member here for more than 10 days before they get quite so judgemental about the forum and all its members. Maybe such judgemental tones are really not the "kind and civil" manners you are requesting from others? Maybe taking just a snapshot in time from the forum is not giving the membership a fair evaluation? Remember the posts about ignoring things that really bother you? Maybe you will put me on ignore for saying this but I am trying to think of how you could look at this differently and not seem so personally offended and upset. Try to look past the small stuff and see the bigger picture. For every negative there are a hundred positives!! That is often true of the individual as well as the site in total. Concentrate on those positives and you may come to love this place and its members as much as most of us do.

BTW -- I think I had confused new members and you are not looking for a puppy now -- sorry about the confusion. I have often mistaken one member for another or thought a member reminded me of someone else. Sometimes I have even found they are another person! But I am usually late to pick up on those kinds of things. I even call my sons by each other's names -- so confusion is not always limited to the forum.

[Maximo]

Originally Posted by AllDogBoots

You are making fun of my Chanukah bush.

If you google pics of Chanukah bushes, there is one that is really pretty -- a white painted branch thingy with ornaments. How could you not want one? When my father was too lazy to put up a Christmas tree, he would throw lights on the huge ficus tree and call it his Chanukah bush.

[JeanieK]

Originally Posted by Mardelin

My pastor said once that is easier to pull someone off a chair, than it is for someone on that chair to pull someone up......

If one is looking for the negative.....they'll find it easier than weeding through and finding the positive.

It's definitely easier for someone to pull one down to their level than for you to lift them up to yours.

Which is why nastiness begets more nastiness easier than kindness begets more kindness.

This thread is a perfect example. The angry people have sucked others in to thier mood, but the Cheerfull people are struggling just to remain cheerful.

As for me I keep falling off the fence and climbing back up on it.

Tis the season to be jolly.

[JeanieK]

Originally Posted by FlDebra

Wow -- reading all of your posts in just this one thread. Usually people are a member here for more than 10 days before they get quite so judgemental about the forum and all its members. Maybe such judgemental tones are really not the "kind and civil" manners you are requesting from others? Maybe taking just a snapshot in time from the forum is not giving the membership a fair evaluation? Remember the posts about ignoring things that really bother you? Maybe you will put me on ignore for saying this but I am trying to think of how you could look at this differently and not seem so personally offended and upset. Try to look past the small stuff and see the bigger picture. For every negative there are a hundred positives!! That is often true of the individual as well as the site in total. Concentrate on those positives and you may come to love this place and its members as much as most of us do.

BTW -- I think I had confused new members and you are not looking for a puppy now -- sorry about the confusion. I have often mistaken one member for another or thought a member reminded me of someone else. Sometimes I have even found they are another person! But I am usually late to pick up on those kinds of things. I even call my sons by each other's names -- so confusion is not always limited to the forum.

Many of them only last an hour or two before they can't take it.

[yorkieusa]

Originally Posted by Maximo

If you google pics of Chanukah bushes, there is one that is really pretty -- a white painted branch thingy with ornaments. How could you not want one? When my father was too lazy to put up a Christmas tree, he would throw lights on the huge ficus tree and call it his Chanukah bush.

Now that brought a smile to my face.

[AllDogBoots]

Originally Posted by Nancy1999

I'm not making fun of it at all. I did a search on Chanukah bush after you wrote about it, and I saw things from a different perspective. I must admit that Sarah Silverman - "Give The Jew Girl Toys" video brought tears to my eyes, and I guess that helped open them.

Originally Posted by AllDogBoots

I'm just playing. I'll have to find that video!

found it!

[Maximo]

Originally Posted by yorkieusa

Now that brought a smile to my face.

I'm glad you can smile at my irreverent father. I'm stuck with him. He is a good guy and it is his way of embracing all that is good in the world.

[chachi]

Originally Posted by JeanieK

It's definitely easier for someone to pull one down to their level than for you to lift them up to yours.

Which is why nastiness begets more nastiness easier than kindness begets more kindness.

This thread is a perfect example. The angry people have sucked others in to thier mood, but the Cheerfull people are struggling just to remain cheerful.

As for me I keep falling off the fence and climbing back up on it.

Tis the season to be jolly.

From reading your post I think your one of the angry people your complaining about. Why keep it going.