Everyone: can we TURN UP the COMPASSION here?

[107barney]

Originally Posted by chachi

Yes but do you think we needed another reminder from you when we know why your doing that. If you dont think that is lecturing or nagging then I dont know what is. We arent ignorant and we know why we keep getting the same message from you

I was wondering the same thing. I agree that the posting over and over on thread after thread about this is getting old, getting harassing, and is completely disingenous. Some of us see it for what it is and have better things to do than preach to the choir.

I'm going to leave this thread now and go back to sick and injured where I might actually be able to help someone in need who really needs some compassion.

Merry Christmas, since this is the Christmas cheer thread too.

[WV~Yorkies]

Merry Christmas to you all!

I hope you have a blessed holiday.

[WV~Yorkies]

Originally Posted by bchgirl

What's the name of this thread again?

Your right and I am sitting here in tears. I have been pushed all day even some was deleted bashing me for posted to try to have some compassion here at Christmas. I started this for the right reasons. I know it but they keep stiring. Maybe instead of compassion I will do to others as they do to me..

The good feeling I had this morning posting this has been ruined. I just can't believe people can take something nice a twist it.. Sad but they won't bring me down. I am just so upset with this.

I just want to wish everyone a Merry Christmas!

[Nancy1999]

Originally Posted by WV~Yorkies

Your right and I am sitting here in tears. I have been pushed all day even some was deleted bashing me for posted to try to have some compassion here at Christmas. I started this for the right reasons. I know it but they keep stiring. Maybe instead of compassion I will do to others as they do to me..

The good feeling I had this morning posting this has been ruined. I just can't believe people can take something nice a twist it.. Sad but they won't bring me down. I am just so upset with this.

I just want to wish everyone a Merry Christmas!

You're other thread is nice, I think some just took some of the posts on this thread as "preachy" rather than encouraging. I don't know about you, but I learn better from those who set a good example. Perhaps, we should ask God to give us the strength to see our own flaws, as easily as we find flaws in others.

[Ivy1]

Positivley excellent post!

[WV~Yorkies]

Originally Posted by Nancy1999

You're other thread is nice, I think some just took some of the posts on this thread as "preachy" rather than encouraging. I don't know about you, but I learn better from those who set a good example. Perhaps, we should ask God to give us the strength to see our own flaws, as easily as we find flaws in others.

I wasn't preaching I just wanted to encourage. Then they keep saying nasty things and I lost it. I am so sorry for that. I started this with a pure heart and was so sad and disappointed when It turned out nasty.

[smepperson]

Originally Posted by Wylie's Mom

I don’t know the right way to say this, so I’ll just say it plainly…

I'm hoping everyone on this board can stop and consider whether it is possible for them to be more compassionate to their fellow members.

You don’t have to love everyone. You don’t have to like everyone. You don’t have to like anyone, for that matter. But we do ask that you be respectful…that you try to be compassionate.

None of us have walked in anyone else’s shoes but our own, as far as I know. So until one of us has that capability, let’s not pretend we are overly fit to judge.

Words hurt people. Insinuations can hurt just as much as words. Before you post something…think of how you would feel if it was posted to YOU.

We don’t have to gush over each other (although it is welcome ), we don’t have to be fakey-nicey. You don’t have to be a Pollyanna. But please, do remember that every action, kind or otherwise, has consequences – in some way or another.

Thanks for reading this and for making YT such a wonderful place!

[WV~Yorkies]

I just want to say I am now sorry I posted anything. I did it with right reasons but alot didn't see that. I went from feeling good about it to crying tonight. I will just keep to reading. It's easier.. You never know what you can say.

[Rhetts_mama]

It could have something to do with the fact that I was told in response to my (deleted) post that I shouldn't use this thread as my personal rant. Yet then, it became just that with the bombardment of posts pushing compassion and Christmas cheer. Not that I have anything against Christmas cheer, it's just that one or two posts on it would have been enough and then time to move on. Otherwise, it does come across to me (and apparently some others) as preachy (or worse, bullying). It's all in perception and not necessarily intent. The difference between a rant versus getting a point across seems to depend on which side of the discussion you are on.

I can only speak for myself when I saw this thread bumped up again this morning. The first thought that went through my mind was "great, here we go again with the not-so-subtle bashing". Following so closely on the heels of 2 locked and 1 deleted thread, I'm sure how you could understand why I might think that.

What one considers encouragement, another considers preaching. If I tell my kids the same thing over and over and over again (even if I have good intentions and am convinced I am completely right on something) sooner or later they are going to tune me out, and may even lash out just to get me to shut up (did I mention I have teenagers?) Again, it's all in our individual perceptions and biases- just like all those other threads.

Maybe now would be a good time for all of us to step away from this thread for awhile, until cooler heads prevail on everyone's part. I, for one, am going to try to find the Christmas Cheer thread to help keep me awake while I am waiting up to see the eclipse.

[QuickSilver]

Originally Posted by WV~Yorkies

I just want to say I am now sorry I posted anything. I did it with right reasons but alot didn't see that. I went from feeling good about it to crying tonight. I will just keep to reading. It's easier.. You never know what you can say.

I believe you posted with good intentions. As was said, different people will perceive the same message differently. I am sure that many people read your posts on this thread and felt uplifted. Happy Holidays to all (and I mean that in a nice way, not a preachy way. )

[WV~Yorkies]

Originally Posted by QuickSilver

I believe you posted with good intentions. As was said, different people will perceive the same message differently. I am sure that many people read your posts on this thread and felt uplifted. Happy Holidays to all (and I mean that in a nice way, not a preachy way. )

Thanks

[WV~Yorkies]

Originally Posted by Rhetts_mama

It could have something to do with the fact that I was told in response to my (deleted) post that I shouldn't use this thread as my personal rant. Yet then, it became just that with the bombardment of posts pushing compassion and Christmas cheer. Not that I have anything against Christmas cheer, it's just that one or two posts on it would have been enough and then time to move on. Otherwise, it does come across to me (and apparently some others) as preachy (or worse, bullying). It's all in perception and not necessarily intent. The difference between a rant versus getting a point across seems to depend on which side of the discussion you are on.

I can only speak for myself when I saw this thread bumped up again this morning. The first thought that went through my mind was "great, here we go again with the not-so-subtle bashing". Following so closely on the heels of 2 locked and 1 deleted thread, I'm sure how you could understand why I might think that.

What one considers encouragement, another considers preaching. If I tell my kids the same thing over and over and over again (even if I have good intentions and am convinced I am completely right on something) sooner or later they are going to tune me out, and may even lash out just to get me to shut up (did I mention I have teenagers?) Again, it's all in our individual perceptions and biases- just like all those other threads.

Maybe now would be a good time for all of us to step away from this thread for awhile, until cooler heads prevail on everyone's part. I, for one, am going to try to find the Christmas Cheer thread to help keep me awake while I am waiting up to see the eclipse.

Sorry you felt that way. I had no intensions of bashing anyone. This was not directed at anyone. I just thought it was a good read and with Christmas stress levels maybe it would help. I just thought it was a good reminder and I loved some of the post that people had. I guess I guess I will just go back reading. I am really sad and hurt by all this. I don't know how a good thing got so twist.

[EmmaPeel]

I cannot believe this crap. I am almost ready to just throw in the towel and I have been on this board for less than two weeks. Give me a BREAK!

Ann posted a VERY nice request and the discussion has, yet again, turned for the worse.

Why can't everybody be CIVIL and KIND to one another?

I came to this board to LEARN...NOT to deal with DRAMA. I NEVER thought that I would have to deal with it here from a group of supposedly mature and professional dog owners...who apparently treat their babies better than they do their fellow human beings.

If you can't say something nice, keep your typing fingers to yourself and KEEP THE PEACE.

I can now see why many have left this board. Who wants to deal with all of this negativity, backbiting, and sniping on a daily basis?

Also, why should anybody have to apologize for saying Merry Christmas or Happy Holidays?!?!?!?! It IS Christmas! It is ALSO the season for Hannukah, Kwanzaa, etc! EVERYONE should be able to have the freedom to say "Happy 'Whatever'". This IS America, remember. If someone doesn't celebrate Christmas, then let them post about the holidays they DO celebrate.

My two cents, and I do not apologize for how I feel.

I would hope that things will improve between everyone, but this issue has apparently been going on for a long time, so I am not holding my breath. People do not readily change.

[EmmaPeel]

Originally Posted by WV~Yorkies

Your right and I am sitting here in tears. I have been pushed all day even some was deleted bashing me for posted to try to have some compassion here at Christmas. I started this for the right reasons. I know it but they keep stiring. Maybe instead of compassion I will do to others as they do to me..

The good feeling I had this morning posting this has been ruined. I just can't believe people can take something nice a twist it.. Sad but they won't bring me down. I am just so upset with this.

I just want to wish everyone a Merry Christmas!

Sweetie, you take the higher road. THEY are the ones who need to take a look in the mirror and see themselves for who they really are.

I am really getting SICK AND TIRED of the nasty people. And my question is WHY? WHY do they have to be so nasty?

Anyway...MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!!! !

[EmmaPeel]

Originally Posted by QuickSilver

I believe you posted with good intentions. As was said, different people will perceive the same message differently. I am sure that many people read your posts on this thread and felt uplifted. Happy Holidays to all (and I mean that in a nice way, not a preachy way. )

IF...and it is a BIG IF....I stay, it will be just to read, also. Pretty sad when you can't express yourself without fear. Bullying, completely, if you ask me.