Everyone: can we TURN UP the COMPASSION here?

[QuickSilver]

Originally Posted by musiccitymom

Merry Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to everyone! Hope the new year brings peace and wonderful things to your lives!

And a tiny piece of wisdom that sure has made my life easier:

“Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die.”

Wise words.

Originally Posted by Woogie Man

I just want to say that some of my best friendships here have been forged through an initial disagreement. I try not to set my feelings in stone, especially with the little things. It just isn't worth it and who knows.....you may change your mind about something and find a good friend along the way.

Have a wonderful holiday, everyone....and try to love your fellow man as much as you love your Yorkies .

I only wish everyone loved disagreeing as much as I do (sob). But Woogie, WHO is that darling puppy in your avatar??

[Mardelin]

Originally Posted by QuickSilver

Wise words.




I only wish everyone loved disagreeing as much as I do (sob). But Woogie, WHO is that darling puppy in your avatar??

Jim has gone offline..but, I'll answer for him......that's Junior, Jim's show hopeful. Junior is from Jim's last litter, a litter that is very near and dear to his heart.

[Mardelin]

Originally Posted by FlDebra

Wow -- reading all of your posts in just this one thread. Usually people are a member here for more than 10 days before they get quite so judgemental about the forum and all its members. Maybe such judgemental tones are really not the "kind and civil" manners you are requesting from others? Maybe taking just a snapshot in time from the forum is not giving the membership a fair evaluation? Remember the posts about ignoring things that really bother you? Maybe you will put me on ignore for saying this but I am trying to think of how you could look at this differently and not seem so personally offended and upset. Try to look past the small stuff and see the bigger picture. For every negative there are a hundred positives!! That is often true of the individual as well as the site in total. Concentrate on those positives and you may come to love this place and its members as much as most of us do.

BTW -- I think I had confused new members and you are not looking for a puppy now -- sorry about the confusion. I have often mistaken one member for another or thought a member reminded me of someone else. Sometimes I have even found they are another person! But I am usually late to pick up on those kinds of things. I even call my sons by each other's names -- so confusion is not always limited to the forum.

Everytime I read a thread such as this I am reminded of one of your threads. A thread I recommend for everyone to read.

http://www.yorkietalk.com/forums/gen...d-respect.html

[FlDebra]

Originally Posted by JeanieK

Many of them only last an hour or two before they can't take it.

Well that is sad. Out my entire post, the line you put in red is what you focused on? Really?
Have a Merry Christmas JeanieK.

Usually you see Matthew 7:1 quoted about judging not, but I like John 7:24 "Judge not according to the appearance, but judge righteous judgment." or if you use the New Living Translation "Look beneath the surface so you can judge correctly." or the NIV: "Stop judging by mere appearances, and make a right judgment."

But enough of that -- I don't want to be judging anyone right now. I have planned to have a good positive day. I was hoping I could help others maybe look at things from a different perspective. That is not always possible but it need not spoil our outlook or ruin what is promising to be a great day. Gotta run for now -- things to do and fun to have! I'll probably check in later.

Rock on YorkieTalk!

[Nancy1999]

Originally Posted by QuickSilver

I only wish everyone loved disagreeing as much as I do (sob).

That's interesting. I got the idea you like to argue when you really didn't care one way or another. Normally, that wouldn't be such a bad thing, but arguing just for the sake of arguing, when others feel so strongly about many of the problems affecting the breed and the forum seems a little like "spot stirring". Not saying you shouldn't do it, but just saying that others should be aware of your own admission. It's so easy to debate well, when we aren't emotionally invested.

[107barney]

Originally Posted by JeanieK

Many of them only last an hour or two before they can't take it.

So true - a couple of hours on a thread with you and I need to knock myself in the head with a hammer...you might have one I could borrow unless you need it for other purposes. Merry Christmas!

[Brooklynn]

Still wishing everyone a Happy Holiday and I wish the New Year to be full of Joy and Happiness for all

[BaxtersMommy]

Originally Posted by Brooklynn

Still wishing everyone a Happy Holiday and I wish the New Year to be full of Joy and Happiness for all

[QuickSilver]

Originally Posted by Nancy1999

That's interesting. I got the idea you like to argue when you really didn't care one way or another. Normally, that wouldn't be such a bad thing, but arguing just for the sake of arguing, when others feel so strongly about many of the problems affecting the breed and the forum seems a little like "spot stirring". Not saying you shouldn't do it, but just saying that others should be aware of your own admission. It's so easy to debate well, when we aren't emotionally invested.

I wouldn't quite say that. I don't argue just to be the devil's advocate. I comment on topics of interest to me, and I do feel passionately about dog welfare. I wouldn't debate something just for the thrill of the argument. For me though, disagreeing with someone doesn't mean "I hate you", it just means, "I'm not convinced." I come from a scientific background, and for me, disagreeing is part of learning and being open minded.

That being said, I know that sometimes I dispense with the areas I DO agree on, and focus just on the parts I don't, and I think that can give people the impression that I don't respect them.

I also feel strongly that people should always try to be civil to each other, and it's been hard for me to accept that YT isn't always like that. But things don't have to be perfect for them to be wonderful.

[Brooklynn]

HO HO HO Merry Christmas!!! Santa will be here before we know it!! Can't wait to sit by the fire Christmas night and reflect on this joyous time of the year

[ladyjane]

Originally Posted by Brooklynn

HO HO HO Merry Christmas!!! Santa will be here before we know it!! Can't wait to sit by the fire Christmas night and reflect on this joyous time of the year

On YT? hahaha...good luck with that!

[Brooklynn]

Originally Posted by ladyjane

On YT? hahaha...good luck with that!

But I'm doing my best to spread a little Christmas Cheer

[Mardelin]

Originally Posted by Brooklynn

But I'm doing my best to spread a little Christmas Cheer

It's working.....so far.

[AllDogBoots]

Originally Posted by Mardelin

It's working.....so far.

....even for the Jewish girl over here

[Nancy1999]

I have always been upset when people tell others to be "ashamed of themselves." Those are very unkind words. I have always admired Barney, because she's one of the vendors that does have strong convictions, and isn't on YT just to sell stuff. So YT isn't just a business venture for her. BRAVO!