I want to scream

[DerbyLayne]

Originally Posted by JeanieK

Better get to work on that paper. They don't write themselves.

I know I have to put into a Time Sample, Event Sample and an Anecdotal Recording. As much as I love children, this paper is BOOOOOOOOOORING

Not to mention Derby ate my paper last time, and my comp ate this one (hence why I try to do it on paper first!) and seriously I've tired of REDOING IT. I just want to throw it OUT!

[Jaimi]

Take him to look at the puppies. I doubt he'd be able to say no after that!

[joeys mom]

My thoughts are, Did you get the other 2 dogs AFTER you two discussed getting a yorkie when you saved enough for it, because if you did, he may be thinking you got your puppy. If not you should have a discussion about giving you false sence of being able to have something that is important to you. I would not get the puppy until you are both in agreement. If he says go ahead and get one if you want it in the tone of I don't really want you to, I would call his hand on it. Not that there is a Yorkie out there that can be a little devil HEE HEE If you should be the one he could fool, it could be thrown up to you all of the time. Good luck, glad my GREAT husband is as much of a yorkie/animal lover as I am.

[J_is_my_initial]

When I decided I wanted a puppy, I sat down with hubby and discussed how there was a hole in my heart only a little dog could fill now that dtr was out of the house. He gave me a budget and helped me look for the right breed. Then I convinced him Gypsy needed a play mate, and he agreed if I bought it with my own money he would accept another one in the house as his b-day present. Another yr passes. I keep talking about getting another puppy, he keeps saying not a nother one. I told him I would talk to him when i felt it was the right time. I got him in a great mood and told him my money would be spent and really wanted Puff to have a playmate as Gypsy doesn't really like to roughhouse. We now have # 3 a boston terrier. It all in how you present the idea.

[Jennxling]

Originally Posted by Lorrainelola

We have 2 german shepherds and as much as I love them I have always wanted a yorkie. I searched for many months about them and my husband kept saying just get one. but i wanted to make sure it was the right thing to do & I wasn't going to go into it lightly. I eventually got my yorkie 2 weeks ago and am so happy. He plays with the german shepherds and sometimes the 17weeks one forgets herself but a firm 'leave' seems to work. I told my hubby that I would do everything for the yorkie but who is it that plays with him most of the time and can't stop cuddling him, yep my husband.

I would say sit down over a cup of tea (or coffee as you do in the States) and tell him how much it would mean to you to have the dog, that you will do everything for the dog, just as you do for the 2 you already have. 3 small dogs will be a doddle. Alfie hasn't had his 2nd injection yet, having it on monday, so he will be able to go out for a walk a week after that. Now that will be interesting. I think I will have to walk the big dogs (Scooter and Layla) separately from Alfie. He can stay with hubby of hubby can walk the big dogs. I do most things for the dogs, hubby is a policeman so works all different times.

Tell your husband that a yorkie is a dear sweet little dog that after buying and vet fees will cost next to nothing to keep. I wish you luck x

How about insurance? do u have pet insurance for them? i have two and the insurance is already expensive for one, so let me know if you do. I am also considering adopting a maltipoo...yorkies are ADDICTIVE. I got one in sept and another last week and I still like to browse online to see yorkies for sale I just love these little furballs TO DEATH! haha

[yorkielover916]

Originally Posted by DerbyLayne

He asked you to quit and you kept going and going. It's like child asking PLEASEEE PLEEEEASE! over a candy bar in the grocery store aisle, except you are a grown adult who's not getting her way! and this is a please can we spend almost $1500 up front and maybe more after that? PLEASE!

Why can't you give the guy a break?

Let him warm up to the idea instead of pushing and pushing and driving him so crazy that you hope- eventually he'll say yes and sooner than later. You know when you do that, the minute something happens he'll be saying "SEE I TOLD YOU NOT TO GET THE PUPPY"

What if the dog gets really sick? What if he needs extra care? What if he ends up being a special needs dog? Have you thought about how you are going to care for all that, pay for all that, and what about your other dogs...?

It's an expensive long term life commitment and a decision you should make together! but don't listen to me... You sound pretty determined to drive your husband's opinion on the issue to the ground. Not to mention how disrespectful it is to him as your husband.

I'm not saying not to get a dog, but I am saying that you should stop pushing and let him come around when he's ready!

Yes I do keep pushing, and I do it lightheartedly, I have been asking for a yorkie, not just another dog for the past 2 yrs. so he has had plenty of time to warm up to the idea of getting another puppy. I know that its an expensive long term life commitment that is why I want him to be on the same page w/ me about getting this puppy, but for him paying for a dog is the thing, remember we were given our dogs, we didnt pay for them. Now that I will be receiving a settlement I have the money to get the puppy, this is money we wouldn't have had, and if I wasnt getting this money I would still be saving for my pup. He feels like we could spend the money on something else and not a dog. I feel that since this money has come to me and b/c I got hurt I should be able to spend this money how I want. but I am smart enough to realize that this puppy is a commitment and that he should be in agreement w/ me. Until then I am going to keep asking him its not fair that when he wants something weather its a projector for his game room or a new surround sound for the living room that I don't tell him we cant afford it, even though I know we cant, he still gets what he wants. and no those things are not living things but they can be just as expensive.

[yorkielover916]

Originally Posted by joeys mom

My thoughts are, Did you get the other 2 dogs AFTER you two discussed getting a yorkie when you saved enough for it, because if you did, he may be thinking you got your puppy. If not you should have a discussion about giving you false sence of being able to have something that is important to you. I would not get the puppy until you are both in agreement. If he says go ahead and get one if you want it in the tone of I don't really want you to, I would call his hand on it. Not that there is a Yorkie out there that can be a little devil HEE HEE If you should be the one he could fool, it could be thrown up to you all of the time. Good luck, glad my GREAT husband is as much of a yorkie/animal lover as I am.

when my friends step mom gave me our dachshund, I wanted my 2nd dog to be a yorkie and he didn't want one b/c 1. he didn't want to pay for it and 2. he thinks they are not "cute" like I do. I told him today that he didn't need to think that they are cute or so long as I thought it was and he said that he wouldnt love it, I told him that didnt matter either b/c it would be my dog, just like the ones we have now. he didnt say anything after I told him that.

[yorkielover916]

Originally Posted by Jaimi

Take him to look at the puppies. I doubt he'd be able to say no after that!

he wont go w/ me, I have gone to see a few, but since I am still waiting for the settlement to come I can't get one right then and there. he tells me I am wasting my time looking. I think if he does go he would fall in love, he's really a softee but he wont admit it.

[yorkielover916]

Originally Posted by Micah my love

If i had asked i would never have had a dog or a lot of other things that i now have, i stopped asking when i left my parents home and made my own way it felt so good that i never got over it Lol

he likes dogs or he would not have took the 2 that he now has, go get your puppy if he get's po'ed he will get over it by bedtime

I asked him for my laptop b/c my computer quit on me, and I needed one to finish some work w/ photos that I had to do, he wouldn't hear of it. I got the computer anyway, he was upset about it but he uses it everyday... so I do know what you mean... he likes the dogs but he just doesnt treat them like their children like I do. I love my dog and consider them to be apart of my family, just as all of you do w/ your furbabies. I have been speaking to my mom about this and she has told me that she thinks I want the puppy b/c I am substituting that for wanting another baby... I have thought about this and she may be right... about 2 yrs ago I had a miscarriage and that would have been our last baby, and it was, we decided that we wouldnt have anymore children. I couldnt go through another miscarriage (neither could he), I had never had one before... any way. once this happened I wanted to get my yorkie and have been wanting one since, I have tried to tell him this and he won't hear it.

[yorkiemama1986]

Originally Posted by yorkielover916

I asked him for my laptop b/c my computer quit on me, and I needed one to finish some work w/ photos that I had to do, he wouldn't hear of it. I got the computer anyway, he was upset about it but he uses it everyday... so I do know what you mean... he likes the dogs but he just doesnt treat them like their children like I do. I love my dog and consider them to be apart of my family, just as all of you do w/ your furbabies. I have been speaking to my mom about this and she has told me that she thinks I want the puppy b/c I am substituting that for wanting another baby... I have thought about this and she may be right... about 2 yrs ago I had a miscarriage and that would have been our last baby, and it was, we decided that we wouldnt have anymore children. I couldnt go through another miscarriage (neither could he), I had never had one before... any way. once this happened I wanted to get my yorkie and have been wanting one since, I have tried to tell him this and he won't hear it.

Oh i think men are crazy...my hubby is a softy with me sooner or later. He flipped his lid a couple years ago when i bought my first yorkie and he realized how much i spent...but fell in love. Lost him, we have Laynee now and he is a big MUSH around her...and he HATES small dogs...and now he knows i want a Biewer.

[capt_noonie]

I have the opposite problem. My bf wanted to get a yorkie when I said no. "Those high maintenance yapping things? No we can't afford it. No I don't like dogs!" Who is the one on YT all day every day? ME! Now bf wants to get another one! And I say No! We REALLY can't afford it this time. He knows we really can't right now, but he still looks. But where does he look? kijiji! He knows about that site, but still he likes to just look. I think in part he likes to talk ish about the byb and crazy prices. (He found a $3500 micro nano in Fullerton )

I told him IF we get another it will be an older one, adopt or rescue.

Oh yeah, only REAL men love yorkies.

[DerbyLayne]

Originally Posted by yorkielover916

w 2. he thinks they are not "cute" like I do. he said that he wouldnt love it

Originally Posted by yorkielover916

he wont go w/ me. he tells me I am wasting my time looking.

He is definitely resistant to the idea, but do you think that it's because he's afraid something will happen to it? He lost a baby too, and you have other dogs- and it'll be hard when they go to. Maybe adding another dog, and the idea of getting attached to something again, is hard to think about?

Originally Posted by yorkielover916

I have been speaking to my mom about this and she has told me that she thinks I want the puppy b/c I am substituting that for wanting another baby... I have thought about this and she may be right... about 2 yrs ago I had a miscarriage and that would have been our last baby, and it was, we decided that we wouldnt have anymore children. I couldnt go through another miscarriage (neither could he), I had never had one before... any way. once this happened I wanted to get my yorkie and have been wanting one since, I have tried to tell him this and he won't hear it.

I'm really sorry that you went through this. It's hard losing a baby, and even harder when you have a void to fill in that way- and can't. It's like part of you is missing and you will always "what would my child have been like?" As a woman, carrying the baby, you feel that sense of closeness to something grow inside of you, and to lose that- it's really really sad.

You've asked for this dog since you lost your baby, and I can understand the strong desire to have something to hold in your arm and cuddle like you can't with your other dogs.... Do you feel maybe he's still hurting over the loss of the baby too? (see above) Maybe he is ok with his family just how it is right now, and changing the dynamic is just too much for him? I don't know.

You say are you getting money from your settlment, and that's where you are getting the cash to pay for your Yorkie, then what else does he want to spend the money on?

See, knowing the whole story- you said that you never said you couldn't afford the toys he wanted but understand that those are TOYS, NOT DOGS. There is a difference, but in this case I think it hasn't been totally equal if he gets what he wants and you don't. Did you decide together to get those? or are they just "his".

anyway, I'll stop rambling.

[DerbyLayne]

Originally Posted by capt_noonie

I have the opposite problem. My bf wanted to get a yorkie when I said no. "Those high maintenance yapping things? No we can't afford it. No I don't like dogs!" Who is the one on YT all day every day? ME!

Same.

My husband wanted a dog since day 1, and I said No. I said I wanted a cat, and he said No.

We compromised.

We got a small dog, the size of a cat, and I can still manhandle it, and he's got the qualities of a dog. LOL

I was pretty scared at first since I have a fear of dogs (scar on my hand since I was young, almost took my entire hand off!) but the small ones- I can handle.

Now I'm the obsessed one and I am begging for a second! but we really can't afford it, and we really don't have the space... so that's that.

[capt_noonie]

Originally Posted by DerbyLayne

There is a difference, but in this case I think it hasn't been totally equal if he gets what he wants and you don't. Did you decide together to get those? or are they just "his".

I agree. A Coach purse is not equal to a big screen.

[BridgettesMomma]

I would say "but honey there is a crazy lady on YT that has six dogs! I want a third." If I were smart I wouldn't have 6. But I wouldn't trade any of them for anything in the world. I have a good way of convincing my hubby. Just bribe him with something he has been wanting. Even if it puts you in debt LMBO Say if I can get my Yorkie you can have that (fill in the blank) you've wanted for so long. LOL

or always "you promised me if you don't let me get my Yorkie I will never trust anything you say ever again"

With my hubby:

I started out with Bridgette and Bandit

my husband wanted a cocker so in entered the third, Lizzie.

Husband said "ok no more"

My husband had told me for years I could have my first Pug when we moved into our first home. Well just like a child I NEVER forgot. We moved into our first home and I said "Honey you promised" so entered harley the fourth.

He put his foot down NO MORE!

Then Bridgette had a litter and got seriously depressed when her babies left so we kept Teddy the last of the litter. Because We HAD to keep one for her, or she'd never forgive us.

He SERIOUSLY put his foot down absolutely NO MORE!

Then I just fell head over heal in love with my pug and HAD to have another. His mommy and daddy were expecting a litter so I HAD to have a girl.

He said now "I'm not kidding no more, or I'm moving out!"

I'm thinking about adding another little Yorkie girl or maybe a Cavalier spaniel! LOL

There is always something that they will be willing to negotiate for. LOL