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12-13-2009, 09:41 AM | #61 |
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| Tell your husband how happy it would make you. Sit him down over a nice dinner and a bottle of wine and say that you know how much you have been going on about a dog but that it really means something important to you. Let him tell you all the reasons why he doesn't want one and then tell him all the reasons why you do. Yes marriage is a partnership and some on here hve sqid about you getting your own way, but your hubby is getting his own way by not wanting one. What difference is it going to make to his life if you will be doing everything for the dog? I have my fingers crossed for you, only you know how you can get round him. x |
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12-13-2009, 02:36 PM | #62 |
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| Be sure you are speaking into his right ear. I KID YOU NOT! "Requests to the Right Ear are more successful than to the Left" Requests to the Right Ear Are More Successful Than to the Left | Wired Science | Wired.com I have been speaking to the right ear of DH, selling him on the idea of me getting a new "Pink" laptop (that I really don't need) We'll see if it works. LOL |
12-13-2009, 02:42 PM | #63 |
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12-13-2009, 02:50 PM | #64 |
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| If i had asked i would never have had a dog or a lot of other things that i now have, i stopped asking when i left my parents home and made my own way it felt so good that i never got over it Lol he likes dogs or he would not have took the 2 that he now has, go get your puppy if he get's po'ed he will get over it by bedtime
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12-13-2009, 02:56 PM | #65 | |
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He asked you to quit and you kept going and going. It's like child asking PLEASEEE PLEEEEASE! over a candy bar in the grocery store aisle, except you are a grown adult who's not getting her way! and this is a please can we spend almost $1500 up front and maybe more after that? PLEASE! Why can't you give the guy a break? Let him warm up to the idea instead of pushing and pushing and driving him so crazy that you hope- eventually he'll say yes and sooner than later. You know when you do that, the minute something happens he'll be saying "SEE I TOLD YOU NOT TO GET THE PUPPY" What if the dog gets really sick? What if he needs extra care? What if he ends up being a special needs dog? Have you thought about how you are going to care for all that, pay for all that, and what about your other dogs...? It's an expensive long term life commitment and a decision you should make together! but don't listen to me... You sound pretty determined to drive your husband's opinion on the issue to the ground. Not to mention how disrespectful it is to him as your husband. I'm not saying not to get a dog, but I am saying that you should stop pushing and let him come around when he's ready! | |
12-13-2009, 02:58 PM | #66 |
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| I had to constantly bring it up to my hubby to & beg & beg & beg. He would keep saying NO! I put my foot down and said I'm not a little kid - I'm a grown woman & if I want to get a yorkie than I'm going to get one you (hubby) are not paying for it so don't treat me like I'm a child. I was to the point where I was getting furious because he would get my hopes up and say he was thinking about it and then say no when I would find one to go look at. In the end I got my way and I will have had Fancy for a year next month. I hope you get your way! You only live life once p.s. Now he is fine, she even sleeps in the bed with us and goes everywhere.
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12-13-2009, 03:00 PM | #67 | |
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It's easier to beg for one dog, then it is to add on and make Yorkie the 3rd. Especially if he's not use to lap dogs. It's a lifestyle change, and not to mention the extra expense. It's not just "her" paying for it, and we all know that. I highly doubt marriages are solely based on making your own money and not consulting the other with these kind of decisions. Otherwise, it's not a marriage. Last edited by DerbyLayne; 12-13-2009 at 03:02 PM. | |
12-13-2009, 03:04 PM | #68 | |
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Marriage isn't just about getting your own way. Who made you boss? and Who made him boss? No one is the "boss". It's a partnership. Gee, it's like some people have forgotten that it's about US, not ME ME ME. | |
12-13-2009, 03:06 PM | #69 | |
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Let him know that it is you that has to take care of them so why should it matter to him. As the saying goes it is easier to get forgivness than it is to get permission. | |
12-13-2009, 03:10 PM | #70 | |
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12-13-2009, 03:10 PM | #71 | |
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Only she knows how solid her relationship is and if they can afford it. I would not do it behind his back, I would tell him, I really want a yorkie and I am going to get one. | |
12-13-2009, 03:13 PM | #72 |
YT 2000 Club Donating Member | I've read the posts on this topic - I agree with joint decisions on major purchases, and long term commitments. A dog is both!. Adding a third dog to the household isn't just about additional food/vet/grooming etc, expense. It may change how/when/where you travel - the vacations you take etc. We have three dogs now, and it's quite a commitment of time and energy. We have 2 large dogs and one small one. I couldn't do this alone. My hubby helps out with the washing and walking of our dogs. Helps me take them to the shows - he does sometimes feels like a BOB. You know your husband best and should be able to foretell his reaction to a "surprise" addition. Best of luck with your decision
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12-13-2009, 03:18 PM | #73 | |
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If there is a financial reason then I would say no. But if it is just because he thinks 3 dogs are too many, well she thinks it's not. And face it who takes care of the dogs? Usually the woman. | |
12-13-2009, 03:21 PM | #74 | |
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12-13-2009, 03:23 PM | #75 |
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| I've read most, not sure if this has been mentioned. Haven't you guys talked about this yorkie in the past 2 yrs? He new you've been wanting to get one? Have you been saving for it? I'm asking because...why does he wait until your ready to get the puppy to tell you no? I am all for US, and partnership in marriage. But, if he's seemed ok about it for 2 yrs, then waits til it's time to get the puppy to say's no...then I'd be getting it anyway!!
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