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Originally Posted by DerbyLayne  He asked you to quit and you kept going and going. It's like child asking PLEASEEE PLEEEEASE! over a candy bar in the grocery store aisle, except you are a grown adult who's not getting her way! and this is a please can we spend almost $1500 up front and maybe more after that? PLEASE!
Why can't you give the guy a break?
Let him warm up to the idea instead of pushing and pushing and driving him so crazy that you hope- eventually he'll say yes and sooner than later. You know when you do that, the minute something happens he'll be saying "SEE I TOLD YOU NOT TO GET THE PUPPY"
What if the dog gets really sick? What if he needs extra care? What if he ends up being a special needs dog? Have you thought about how you are going to care for all that, pay for all that, and what about your other dogs...?
It's an expensive long term life commitment and a decision you should make together! but don't listen to me... You sound pretty determined to drive your husband's opinion on the issue to the ground. Not to mention how disrespectful it is to him as your husband.
I'm not saying not to get a dog, but I am saying that you should stop pushing and let him come around when he's ready! |
Yes I do keep pushing, and I do it lightheartedly, I have been asking for a yorkie, not just another dog for the past 2 yrs. so he has had plenty of time to warm up to the idea of getting another puppy. I know that its an expensive long term life commitment that is why I want him to be on the same page w/ me about getting this puppy, but for him paying for a dog is the thing, remember we were given our dogs, we didnt pay for them. Now that I will be receiving a settlement I have the money to get the puppy, this is money we wouldn't have had, and if I wasnt getting this money I would still be saving for my pup. He feels like we could spend the money on something else and not a dog. I feel that since this money has come to me and b/c I got hurt I should be able to spend this money how I want. but I am smart enough to realize that this puppy is a commitment and that he should be in agreement w/ me. Until then I am going to keep asking him its not fair that when he wants something weather its a projector for his game room or a new surround sound for the living room that I don't tell him we cant afford it, even though I know we cant, he still gets what he wants. and no those things are not living things but they can be just as expensive.