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Originally Posted by yorkielover916  w 2. he thinks they are not "cute" like I do. he said that he wouldnt love it |
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Originally Posted by yorkielover916 he wont go w/ me. he tells me I am wasting my time looking. |
He is definitely resistant to the idea, but do you think that it's because he's afraid something will happen to it? He lost a baby too, and you have other dogs- and it'll be hard when they go to. Maybe adding another dog, and the idea of getting attached to something again, is hard to think about?
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Originally Posted by yorkielover916 I have been speaking to my mom about this and she has told me that she thinks I want the puppy b/c I am substituting that for wanting another baby... I have thought about this and she may be right... about 2 yrs ago I had a miscarriage and that would have been our last baby, and it was, we decided that we wouldnt have anymore children. I couldnt go through another miscarriage (neither could he), I had never had one before... any way. once this happened I wanted to get my yorkie and have been wanting one since, I have tried to tell him this and he won't hear it.  |
I'm really sorry that you went through this. It's hard losing a baby, and even harder when you have a void to fill in that way- and can't. It's like part of you is missing and you will always "what would my child have been like?" As a woman, carrying the baby, you feel that sense of closeness to something grow inside of you, and to lose that- it's really really sad.
You've asked for this dog since you lost your baby, and I can understand the strong desire to have something to hold in your arm and cuddle like you can't with your other dogs.... Do you feel maybe he's still hurting over the loss of the baby too? (see above) Maybe he is ok with his family just how it is right now, and changing the dynamic is just too much for him? I don't know.
You say are you getting money from your settlment, and that's where you are getting the cash to pay for your Yorkie, then what else does he want to spend the money on?
See, knowing the whole story- you said that you never said you couldn't afford the toys he wanted but understand that those are TOYS, NOT DOGS. There is a difference, but in this case I think it hasn't been totally equal if he gets what he wants and you don't. Did you decide together to get those? or are they just "his".
anyway, I'll stop rambling.