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shiver · 12-10-2009, 12:57 PM

couldn't believe it
ON SATURDAY IT WAS MY SON BIRTHDAY HE'S 4 YEARS OLD I HAD COMPANY OVER CELEBRATING MY SONS B-DAY.AND I COULDN'T BELIEVE WHAT I SAW A 5 YEAR OLD BOY HAD MY FURBABY UPSIDE DOWN HE GRAVED MY FURBABY FROM HIS LEGS.I WAS SO LIVID MY POOR BABY WAS SO SCARE I GRAVED THE LITTLE BOY BY THE EAR AND TOOK HIM TO HIS MOM AND TOLD HER WHAT HAPPEND.SHE DIDN'T TELL HIM ANYTHING I TOLD HER SHE HAVE LEAVE OUT MY HOUSE WITH HER LITTLE DEVIL I WAS SO ANGRY.BUT NOW I LOST A FRIEND SHE WONT PICK UP MY PHONE CALLS LIKE I DID SOMETHING WRONG IF ANYTHING SHE WAS SUPPOSE TO APOLIGIZE TO ME.I GUESS SHE WASN'T REALLY A FRIEND.THANK GOD MY FURBABY IS FINE

livingdustmops · 12-10-2009, 01:17 PM

I don't mean this unkindly but you should never ever leave your dogs/dog out with small children unless you are right there with them watching all the time. If a child did something to hurt your dog and he bit the child you could lose your dog and be sued large sums of $$$. While I think it is sad the other mother blew you off the bottom line is you and your dog will lose and you need to protect him/her from children.

The best method is to sit on the floor with the children and the dogs so you can supervise.

jackson25 · 12-10-2009, 01:25 PM

I am sorry to about what happened to you, but do agree, you should have put your baby in a safe place during the party. Children often see little dogs as toys. They think they can play with them and pick them up. I have a large gate that confines my babies to the family room when I have company.

yorkiejunkie · 12-10-2009, 01:52 PM

I agree with the two previous posters,

but I would have hauled the kid out by the ear too!! lol

Ladymom · 12-10-2009, 02:07 PM

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Originally Posted by livingdustmops

I don't mean this unkindly but you should never ever leave your dogs/dog out with small children unless you are right there with them watching all the time. If a child did something to hurt your dog and he bit the child you could lose your dog and be sued large sums of $$$. While I think it is sad the other mother blew you off the bottom line is you and your dog will lose and you need to protect him/her from children.

The best method is to sit on the floor with the children and the dogs so you can supervise.

I agree. Toy breed dogs and small children are not a good mix. Even if your children are okay with your dog, you cannot trust other small children. You need to confine him when you have children over to keep him safe.

Remember, if he had bitten in fear or self defense, legally it would have been considered his fault and it would have to be reported. Dogs who bite face euthanasia. You could also end up with a lawsuit.

danyellm · 12-10-2009, 02:16 PM

The little boy grabbed your furbaby by the legs ...so you grab the little boy by the ear?
I think you were wrong on how you handled the situation....I would have made sure my dog was ok and promptly secured then explain to the boy how important it is to handle these little dogs with care and mention to his mother what you found him doing.

Cha Cha · 12-10-2009, 02:23 PM

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Originally Posted by danyellm

The little boy grabbed your furbaby by the legs ...so you grab the little boy by the ear?
I think you were wrong on how you handled the situation....I would have made sure my dog was ok and promptly secured then explain to the boy how important it is to handle these little dogs with care and mention to his mother what you found him doing.

I tend to think maybe that little boy's mom felt the same way about her son as you do your pet. Maybe he really didn't know any better. Maybe he has a bigger dog he is able to rumble with, or no dog at all, and doesn't understand what he did wrong. And I also agree with everyone else, young children tend to pick up small animals and squeeze them and that can cause serious injury to the animal if the dog doesn't bite defending itself. I am glad your dog is ok, I really am, but it is too bad it ended like it did.

shiver · 12-10-2009, 04:00 PM

my furbaby was in his crate in my room the boy and his mom been in my house before and he knows better than to grave my dog that way because his mom has a yorkie and we do play date with our yorkies .he took my dog out of his crate to scare the other children that was in my house.and a 5 year old should know better because my son just turn 4 years old and he loves our furbaby.

Cutie_Emmy · 12-10-2009, 04:07 PM

Well, it sounds like you did your job as a good furbaby parent, you had him away. Your friend should have been watching her son better, I think. Its not your job to babysit other people's kids, you were probably busy running the party. However, grabbing him by the ear may have been a little harsh... I am sorry this happened and I hope you and your friend can work this out.

Disney · 12-10-2009, 06:35 PM

I agree with everyone else on keeping an eye on your pup, you wouldn't want to lose him if he bit in self defense! But also..

You should not grab someone else's small child by the ear. That's as cruel as what he did to your dog, and he's just a little boy. I can't understand why you're surprised his mother doesn't want to see you. So my advice in the future would be:

Hide your darling if small children are over

And never grab small children like that.

I really hope things work out with your friend and this story has a happy ending.

dennabelle · 12-10-2009, 06:44 PM

I can say I agree with what you done, because the same happened at my wedding on Dec. 5. We were married in our house had dogs in crate in bedroom. Next thing I know in the middle of our vows the dogs came running out. Now my door was shut so these kids went in there and let them out. Needless to say their parents don't watch them that good. Luckily my mom was there and grabbed them up and held them until we were finished. Come to find out they killed their toy poodle by squeezin him and parents want to get another dog

....Thank goodness grandma was there and saved my furbabies.

She thinks of them as grand-furbabies and loves them to pieces lol..

kristy47 · 12-10-2009, 07:02 PM

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Originally Posted by shiver

my furbaby was in his crate in my room the boy and his mom been in my house before and he knows better than to grave my dog that way because his mom has a yorkie and we do play date with our yorkies .he took my dog out of his crate to scare the other children that was in my house.and a 5 year old should know better because my son just turn 4 years old and he loves our furbaby.

If your furbaby was in his crate then that child had no business getting him out!

As far as how you handled the situation, yes I agree with the other posters that you have to be careful with your furbaby around kids. Law suits of this kind are common. I took Sophie to my husband's uncle's home where they have a Bichon and a young child (4 yrs) and he tried picking up Sophie and was almost rough with her. I politely asked him to put her back down gently and it was ok to pet and to hold but not too rough. He was smart enough to know how to act and did as such.

But to see your side of it, if you were close with the boy's mom as it seems you are, disciplining a friend's child is not uncommon, even if that is grabbing them by the ear or spanking them. When I was little, I was in a group of friends where we were always at each other's homes. There was an understanding that if we misbehaved at our friend's home that their parents were welcome to spank us.

And we got spanked and yes, we deserved it.

This may not have been the case with you and this other lady, but I just thought I'd post another side of the disciplinary issue.

shamrocks · 12-10-2009, 07:42 PM

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Originally Posted by danyellm

The little boy grabbed your furbaby by the legs ...so you grab the little boy by the ear?
I think you were wrong on how you handled the situation....I would have made sure my dog was ok and promptly secured then explain to the boy how important it is to handle these little dogs with care and mention to his mother what you found him doing.

I would have to agree. I think that you were so mad at the moment that you were not thinking clear. You said that this child was 5 so he should have know better well yes and no. 1st he is only 5 and not all 5 year olds are created equal they are all at different maturity rates maybe this child has not grown up around small animals. If I were you I would apologize to your friend and just explain that you were really upset at the time. I have to say that if you would have done that to my kid I would be a little upset with how you handled the situation also.

LilMissy · 12-10-2009, 07:48 PM

I can understand you being upset. I would be livid if someone took my dog out of it's crate (in my bedroom) and then was doing that to it's legs. That is awful. However, what would make me even angrier than that, is somebody putting their hands on one of my children to discipline them. I'm not trying to hurt your feelings but...I do understand why your friend no longer wants to speak to you. She is probably just as angry and upset as you are. I would apologize to her and the child if I were you, and then hope that they apologize back. That is if you want to keep her as a friend.

Disney · 12-10-2009, 07:49 PM

^^ Perfectly worded

12-10-2009, 12:57 PM	#1
shiver Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: bronx new york Posts: 97	I was so livid couldn't believe it ON SATURDAY IT WAS MY SON BIRTHDAY HE'S 4 YEARS OLD I HAD COMPANY OVER CELEBRATING MY SONS B-DAY.AND I COULDN'T BELIEVE WHAT I SAW A 5 YEAR OLD BOY HAD MY FURBABY UPSIDE DOWN HE GRAVED MY FURBABY FROM HIS LEGS.I WAS SO LIVID MY POOR BABY WAS SO SCARE I GRAVED THE LITTLE BOY BY THE EAR AND TOOK HIM TO HIS MOM AND TOLD HER WHAT HAPPEND.SHE DIDN'T TELL HIM ANYTHING I TOLD HER SHE HAVE LEAVE OUT MY HOUSE WITH HER LITTLE DEVIL I WAS SO ANGRY.BUT NOW I LOST A FRIEND SHE WONT PICK UP MY PHONE CALLS LIKE I DID SOMETHING WRONG IF ANYTHING SHE WAS SUPPOSE TO APOLIGIZE TO ME.I GUESS SHE WASN'T REALLY A FRIEND.THANK GOD MY FURBABY IS FINE

12-10-2009, 01:17 PM	#2
livingdustmops Princess Poop A Lot Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Colorado Posts: 6,728	I don't mean this unkindly but you should never ever leave your dogs/dog out with small children unless you are right there with them watching all the time. If a child did something to hurt your dog and he bit the child you could lose your dog and be sued large sums of $$$. While I think it is sad the other mother blew you off the bottom line is you and your dog will lose and you need to protect him/her from children. The best method is to sit on the floor with the children and the dogs so you can supervise. __________________ Cindy & The Rescued Gang Puppies Are Not Products!

12-10-2009, 01:25 PM	#3
jackson25 Donating YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Quincy, IL Posts: 3,668	I am sorry to about what happened to you, but do agree, you should have put your baby in a safe place during the party. Children often see little dogs as toys. They think they can play with them and pick them up. I have a large gate that confines my babies to the family room when I have company. __________________ Mary JacksonGracieTuckerRosey BentleyAbigayle

12-10-2009, 01:52 PM	#4
yorkiejunkie YT Addict Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 468	I agree with the two previous posters, but I would have hauled the kid out by the ear too!! lol __________________ Bentley's Mommy is a Yorkie Junkie...

12-10-2009, 02:16 PM	#6
danyellm Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: ny Posts: 761	The little boy grabbed your furbaby by the legs ...so you grab the little boy by the ear? I think you were wrong on how you handled the situation....I would have made sure my dog was ok and promptly secured then explain to the boy how important it is to handle these little dogs with care and mention to his mother what you found him doing. __________________ Danyell yipyapyorkies.com Getting a Yorkie is our only chance to choose a relative

12-10-2009, 04:00 PM	#8
shiver Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: bronx new york Posts: 97	he knows better!!!!!!!! my furbaby was in his crate in my room the boy and his mom been in my house before and he knows better than to grave my dog that way because his mom has a yorkie and we do play date with our yorkies .he took my dog out of his crate to scare the other children that was in my house.and a 5 year old should know better because my son just turn 4 years old and he loves our furbaby.

12-10-2009, 04:07 PM	#9
Cutie_Emmy YT Addict Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Louisville, KY Posts: 347 Blog Entries: 1	Well, it sounds like you did your job as a good furbaby parent, you had him away. Your friend should have been watching her son better, I think. Its not your job to babysit other people's kids, you were probably busy running the party. However, grabbing him by the ear may have been a little harsh... I am sorry this happened and I hope you and your friend can work this out. __________________ Emmy-Lou, Emmis, Poop, Emmett, he comes to them all! That's my sweet baby boy! R.I.P Mickey Mouse, I will always love and miss you!!!

12-10-2009, 06:35 PM	#10
Disney YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Australia Posts: 846	I agree with everyone else on keeping an eye on your pup, you wouldn't want to lose him if he bit in self defense! But also.. You should not grab someone else's small child by the ear. That's as cruel as what he did to your dog, and he's just a little boy. I can't understand why you're surprised his mother doesn't want to see you. So my advice in the future would be: Hide your darling if small children are over And never grab small children like that. I really hope things work out with your friend and this story has a happy ending. __________________ Don't support byb's, puppymills, or pet stores! Help give our furry friends a voice! Click here to help!

12-10-2009, 06:44 PM	#11
dennabelle Yorkie Yakker Join Date: May 2009 Location: Ellenboro, NC USA Posts: 74	I can say I agree with what you done, because the same happened at my wedding on Dec. 5. We were married in our house had dogs in crate in bedroom. Next thing I know in the middle of our vows the dogs came running out. Now my door was shut so these kids went in there and let them out. Needless to say their parents don't watch them that good. Luckily my mom was there and grabbed them up and held them until we were finished. Come to find out they killed their toy poodle by squeezin him and parents want to get another dog....Thank goodness grandma was there and saved my furbabies.She thinks of them as grand-furbabies and loves them to pieces lol.. __________________ BELLA & MICHAEL ANGELO

12-10-2009, 07:48 PM	#14
LilMissy Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: BC, Canada Posts: 3,421	I can understand you being upset. I would be livid if someone took my dog out of it's crate (in my bedroom) and then was doing that to it's legs. That is awful. However, what would make me even angrier than that, is somebody putting their hands on one of my children to discipline them. I'm not trying to hurt your feelings but...I do understand why your friend no longer wants to speak to you. She is probably just as angry and upset as you are. I would apologize to her and the child if I were you, and then hope that they apologize back. That is if you want to keep her as a friend. __________________ Shaunna with Missy (my princess) & Dora (my tomboy)

12-10-2009, 07:49 PM	#15
Disney YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Australia Posts: 846	^^ Perfectly worded __________________ Don't support byb's, puppymills, or pet stores! Help give our furry friends a voice! Click here to help!