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05-27-2008, 04:03 PM | #16 |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Long Island
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| if you need help finding homes for the pups, please let me know. i am a rescue coordinator with Save a Yorkie Rescue, Inc. in PA. maybe we can help find foster families or adoptive homes. |
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05-27-2008, 04:12 PM | #17 |
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| Well first off she didn't want anyone from the hospital to take care of her, she wanted her grandson to do it. I fully understand that. We were actually lined up with jobs in MD back in Sept and were moving down to MD, but thats when she found out her cancer came back and she begged us to stay. So we did, we stayed because she needed us. No not everyone is cut out to be a caretaker and I can't tell you how many times Mike was fustrated or annoyed by being called so much. We have gone over our minutes twice in the past because she called us so many times. Plus our batteries died in a day. Two puppies weren't part of our plan, but when the other two in the litter died, she told us to keep them both, which we did, and we love them more than anything. She's had cancer for LONG time now. It's coming to an end. She can't get up by herself anymore, and she hardly eats anything. She needs to be on oxygen all the time. Plus despite it all, she is still smoking. Why? Because she knows and we all know she doesn't have long left. She can't remember hardly anything anymore either. It all came fast and hard and now its really hard. Mike loves his grandmother, he won't show it but I KNOW he wants to cry, I know he does, but he won't. He offered to take care of her, and she told him she needed him all day, everyday. Thats what she got. Everything is going to get better for us, I know it will. We have been through so much in the past three years that I myself don't even know how we are still together. |
05-27-2008, 04:16 PM | #18 |
I ♥ Joey & Ralphie! Donating Member | I just have to add one more thing, since you are not married, this will be you Mike's inheritance, not yours, you really need to protect yourself. I know you probably think you will be together forever, but it's always good to have a back-up plan. I mean I just don't get it, why if she dies you and the puppies have to live in a truck?
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05-27-2008, 04:18 PM | #19 | |
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How bout this.... Do you have any other friends you and the pups can stay with? Maybe then you BOTH can get jobs,or at the very least one of you, that way your not just living waiting for someone to pass for inheritance $$... Honestly, that does come across a little wrong, even makes me feel weird!! lol I must say though that you both should be working!! Hope that doesn't come across as judgement! Just trying to be honest with you and helpful at the same time!! Good luck
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05-27-2008, 04:19 PM | #20 | |
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05-27-2008, 04:22 PM | #21 | |
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And as someone who has received inheritances....trust me...it's money you do NOT want. I'll give all mine back....in exchange for the people it cost me.
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05-27-2008, 04:28 PM | #22 |
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| The inheritance is his and I'm not one to think we'll be together forever, but for right now, we are together. Just because the money goes to him doesn't mean he won't share it with me. I've paid all his bills PLUS bought him things from money I recieved from family. We've talked to people and we have two people that have offered to watch the puppies. Both don't live anymore than an hour and a half from where we will be living so we can visit the puppies whenever we like. |
05-27-2008, 04:41 PM | #23 |
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| Oh Honey I commend Both you and your BF for taking care of his sick Grama. It has got to be really hard. I would Try really hard to keep those babies. "Gingergirlsmom" lives really close to you and works in rescue Not that you want to give you pups up. but maybe she can help find some one to foster them for a month or so till you get your place. I will point her to this thread for you ... |
05-27-2008, 04:42 PM | #24 |
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| Oh and just a warning... I'm sure it won't happen to you, but it did to me! And believe me, THIS never even crossed my mind!! When I was about 22, so 10yrs ago, (wow I'm getting' up there!!) I was living w/ a bf, and we thought how cute it would be to get a puppy!! (HUGE commitment).. We bought a Boston Terrier, and two months after we got her we split up!! SURPRISE!!! SO, my friends offered to take Rose, just for a month or so till I save $$ to get my own place again. Well it took about 40 days, and when I was ready for Rose they would not give her back!!! Long story short, it ruined our friendship, and I ended up letting them keep her cause her kids and other dogs were so attached. They had a huge yard and I wanted what was best for her... But I learned a very good lesson for myself, that dogs are a HUGE commitment, and need to be brought into a stable environment... I was heartbroken.... Your story just reminded me of what I went thru, I'm not saying that would happen, but just make sure you trust whoever fosters them! I really trusted my "friends" and look what happened!!!
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05-27-2008, 05:02 PM | #25 | |
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I could say more on the subject - but I will leave it unsaid because it would be a lot harsher than anything else anyone has said already. Obviously the OP doesnt care for real advice - or even advice pertaining to "option C" - which makes me wonder why she would have even posted it. I'm going to stop here. | |
05-27-2008, 05:29 PM | #26 |
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| I agree that Nancy's advice was sound. It's always hard to hear critical advice, but pets are a huge commitment and for the love of the puppies, do what's best for them. |
05-27-2008, 05:40 PM | #27 |
Love at first bark Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Philadelphia
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| I wish I could help...what part of PA are you in?
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05-27-2008, 05:44 PM | #28 | |
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I know it is very difficult caring for a loved one who is terminally ill. I assisted in the care of both my mother and father who died this year with lung cancer and liver cancer, respectively. Although it was difficult, I feel blessed that I was able to care for them and try to make their last months as comfortable as possible. I believe your fiance Mike will feel the same way. Maybe right now you can take it a day at a time and not make a hasty decision. Good luck.
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05-27-2008, 07:22 PM | #29 | |
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That actually happened to a friend of ours. He asked a lady on craigslist to watch his cat (Which was a BIG mistake, he should have asked someone he knew.), but anyways, the lady gave the cat to her friend whose cat just passed away and then she moved to FL and no word on what happened to his cat. That is another reason I'm not just going around posting for people to take care of them, but I actually have a few ideas on how to stay with the puppies and keep them, I just need to do some stuff first. Right now everything is stressful. Were packing and cleaning and throwing a LOT away. Were in arguments with people almost every day. (i'm currently PISSED at his brother for walking in on me changing IN MY OWN BEDROOM and then he tried to yell at us saying were never dressed. He just always wants to come in when were changing.) But if I sound bitchy or rude, I'm sorry, I'm just so stressed right now that almost every little thing sets me off. I'm still waiting to make it through one day without bursting into tears. But I'm trying to avoid and ignore anyone criticizing me or saying mean things, I'm just really not up for any of that. Were in York, PA right now. | |
05-27-2008, 09:04 PM | #30 | |
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