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Old 08-05-2008, 12:06 PM   #1
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Question How Should I Handle This (Neighbor Complaint)

My husband and I love where we live and have enjoyed living next door to an older couple (in their 80's). They are our only neighbors because we do not have a house on the other side of us. They are truly such sweet people and have treated us like family. We even invited them over for our daughter's 5th birthday and she is CONSTANTLY bringing us our things from her garden or cookies that she has baked. They are sweet to my children and they dote all over Livi...like I said, they are kind, good people. Ok, so you are asking, "What's the problem then?". Well, they had decided that they wanted a dog (a Beagle to be specific)...I know I said that they are in their 80's, but they act as if they are in their 50's...truly! They came across a Beagle at the humane society and their daughter bought her and surprised them with her last week. Since then, not once has that dog pottied or pooed in their own yard...yep, you guessed it, our yard has become Julie's (the beagle) litterbox. Sometimes, she uses the part of the yard on the other side of the sidewalk...so technically doesn't belong to us, but still....ugh! They do not even let her do this in their own yard, regardless of what side of the sidewalk it is on so you know they have to understand that we wouldn't like it either. Also, the people that live on the other side of them is like God to Bob and Mryt (my neighbors)...they would NEVER EVER think of letting their dog do this to his yard!! I have no idea how to handle this because I would not feel comfortable telling them directly. My husband said that he is going to start taking Harley over to their yard to potty. I also feel like this is too direct, but yet passive aggressive and I am not comfortable with that.

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Old 08-05-2008, 12:15 PM   #2
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I would start out by telling them how much they mean to you. I'd say we are having a little problem and you don't want it to interfer with your friendship, but ......then explain the situation. Ask them if they have any suggestions on how to solve this, and then offer any suggestions you have. I'm sure is you talk to them in a loving kind of way you will be able to work this out without any hard feelings. Lots of good wishes.
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Oh MY! I honestly don't know how I would handle it. Have you thought about putting up a small picket fence? It would be pretty and not to terribly expensive. You could always say that you have been wanting to put one up for a long time and you are just onw getting around to doing it. I would have a hard time saying anything too. Especially given the fact that you guys are close. I wish I could offer more advice but I would be stumped too. I hope you can find a solution.
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It sounds like you have a wonderful relationship...well enough to explain you'd rather the dog didn't potty in YOUR yard. Maybe they truly think you have no problem with it.
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Old 08-05-2008, 01:05 PM   #5
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Why not put together a little basket of toys and goodies and their "new" baby and include some poo bags in it. Good luck.
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Why not put together a little basket of toys and goodies and their "new" baby and include some poo bags in it. Good luck.
Wow, I think that's a really good idea! It is subtle enough, but I think they'll still get the point.
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if they are in their eighties.. they may think you wouldnt mind helping them..
are they too old to use a pooper scooper?
give them a nice pooper scooper as a gift..
if they are too old.. i would let it go.. and just clean it up yourself
but do it while they can see you.. see if they say anything..
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I'd probably end up picking it up myself too. I love old people to pieces, and I hate confrontation. I would think if you approached the situation gently, assuring them you don't want any hurt feelings but could they please not let her poop in the yard, you'll have a good outcome!! Good Luck!
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I have an 89 year old widower with a Vizsla, and often dog sits his sons German shorthair pointer and a lady's Vizsla mix. I don't think he knew that his sons dog and the ladys dog was at times pooping in my front yard, but I sure did not want this to continue so I had a talk with him about it. His son would play ball in the front with his dog and actually see his dog poop in my yard and not do a thing about it. When I saw this I went directly to him and ask that he not let his dog poop in my yard, and if he can't control his dog then at least clean it up. I'm pretty upfront, but it stopped the pooping.
If your neighbor (regardless of how old and nice they are) actually "lets" their dog poop in your yard, and they "see" it, then you must let them know it is not acceptable. If they get upset just because you won't let their dog poop in your yard, then your not losing a true friend. Just always remember, honesty is the best policy!
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You should definitely take them a container of poop bags.

They really should be cleaning it up no matter who's yard it's in. My dogs will sometimes run over and poop in the neighbor's yard where they have big labs and they only clean up their yard like once a week and I still run over there and pick it up. I dunno, it's just what you're supposed to do.
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Tammy that's a tough one. You might use the kids as an excuse, and tell them that you keep the poop picked up because you don't want your kids stepping in it so you'd like it if they would pick up when their dog goes.

Things like that are never easy especially with people that you like. I hate confrontation, but as you get older you learn to be more open and I'm sure if told in a nice way, they would not be offended.
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Ok, here's the latest. My neighbors were on vacation for the past week (so nice to not see their dog using our yard for a few days anyway.). We were coming out of our garage earlier this morning, getting ready to go on a walk with our chidren and who do we see right there, next to our driveway wth their dog?! He literally had her in our yard and our driveway, trying to get her to go potty. I was so mad that I barely said hello. Of course my kiddos wantd to pet their Beagle so I let them...it also annoys me that they let her jump on my two toddlers and lick their faces. I said to my daughter, "Baby, don't let her lick your face."...in a very nice tone (this is a huge pet peeve of mine...these are my kids and I don't like it!)...my neighbor then says, "She's had all of her shots." Ummm, ok..great, still do not let her jump and lick my babies, especially their faces. Anyway, we head out for our walk and what does he do?? He continues down the side walk and to the side of our yard and then as we get further away, we look back and he is actually in or backyard with hs dog! We only know this because we see him come out from back there. When we get back from our walk, my husband was very upset so he walked directly to where he saw their dog stop for awhile and yep, you guessed it, poop in our yard. This man knew that we saw him do this so I am upset that they think so little of our relationship that would keep doing this!! They know that our two toddlers run around and play in ou yard. My husband was so frustrated that he scooped the poop and put it in their yard and then let our dog go in their yard as well. I do NOT agree with this (letting our dog do this), but I do completely understand his frustration and anger over this. I told my husband that we need to handle this directly and just go to them and tell them to knock it off!

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Oh I would be livid. Your options are either....do nothing...live with poop and your temper boiling ~or~ go tell them. Really if you never tell them...how would they know it bothers you???
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Ok, here's the latest. My neighbors were on vacation for the past week (so nice to not see their dog using our yard for a few days anyway.). We were coming out of our garage earlier this morning, getting ready to go on a walk with our chidren and who do we see right there, next to our driveway wth their dog?! He literally had her in our yard and our driveway, trying to get her to go potty. I was so mad that I barely said hello. Of course my kiddos wantd to pet their Beagle so I let them...it also annoys me that they let her jump on my two toddlers and lick their faces. I said to my daughter, "Baby, don't let her lick your face."...in a very nice tone (this is a huge pet peeve of mine...these are my kids and I don't like it!)...my neighbor then says, "She's had all of her shots." Ummm, ok..great, still do not let her jump and lick my babies, especially their faces. Anyway, we head out for our walk and what does he do?? He continues down the side walk and to the side of our yard and then as we get further away, we look back and he is actually in or backyard with hs dog! We only know this because we see him come out from back there. When we get back from our walk, my husband was very upset so he walked directly to where he saw their dog stop for awhile and yep, you guessed it, poop in our yard. This man knew that we saw him do this so I am upset that they think so little of our relationship that would keep doing this!! They know that our two toddlers run around and play in ou yard. My husband was so frustrated that he scooped the poop and put it in their yard and then let our dog go in their yard as well. I do NOT agree with this (letting our dog do this), but I do completely understand his frustration and anger over this. I told my husband that we need to handle this directly and just go to them and tell them to knock it off!

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Oh I would be livid. Your options are either....do nothing...live with poop and your temper boiling ~or~ go tell them. Really if you never tell them...how would they know it bothers you???
I know you are right, we do need to say something. I don't believe, though, that they honestly do not think that this bothers us. If they felt like it was so big deal, then they would let her go in their own yard. I have seen both of them doing this without the other one so this means that they have had to have talked about letting their dog use our yard. Also, I was cleaning my son windows one morning and I saw him walk his dog to the front of our yard and let her go potty and the whole time he looked guilty and was looking at our windows, to see if anyone saw him doing this.

I guess we are just going to have to be as bold as they are being and just flat tell them to stop!

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